I Think I've Been Catfished! Possibly Three Times!

[DisciplineMeDaddy]

I always thought catfish meant a guy being scammed by a woman who turned out not to be what she presented herself as.

I thought men who did it were just called jerks

CATFISH DEFINITION;

A catfish is someone who creates a false online identity.

Catfishing is common on social networking and online dating sites. Sometimes a catfish's sole purpose is to engage in a fantasy. Sometimes, however, the catfish's intent is to defraud a victim, seek revenge or commit identity theft.

Either way, a catfish exploits the fact that people are often willing to ignore warning signs that a friend or acquaintance may not be who they claim to be. In an online relationship, such signs include refusals to meet in person, refusals to video chat, claims of a serious disease or injury, unusually attractive profile images, personal information that doesn't add up, or requests for money.

 

[CountessClara]

I'm sorry this has happened to you. I have been messaged by catfish on lesbian dating sites a few times. They usually appeared normal at the beginning and then out of nowhere wanted to start sexy talk or told some dramatic story or a mix of both (that just never happened with real people).
I guess, whenever they've been successful so far in getting off on a lesbian chat, it was with some other weirdo jerking onto his keyboard. That idea kind of amuses me.
Also, I ususally demand a photo with the person holding a piece of paper with the exact date. If I feel safe, because of connections on tinder e.g., I skip that step, but if anyone contacted me on any board or something like this, I would sure do that. Once I did that, the guy actually sent me an accurate picture of himself holding a sheet stating his female fake identity and the date. I guess he was just crazy... Don't expect those people to feel or think like decent human beings.

 

[Hypoxia]

Have mini-catfish (candiru) ever swum up your urethra and become lodged, painfully?

I hate when that happens.

S'truth.

Of course it's even worse when pervy male Amazonian dolphins try to stick their wee willies into any available human orifice. Be careful where you swim. If the candiru and dolphins don't get you, the piranhas will. I hate when that happens.

 

[greengamegirl]

The show Catfish has funny examples of people getting tricked. Well...it's not funny for them but it's funny to watch.

CATFISH DEFINITION;

A catfish is someone who creates a false online identity.

Catfishing is common on social networking and online dating sites. Sometimes a catfish's sole purpose is to engage in a fantasy. Sometimes, however, the catfish's intent is to defraud a victim, seek revenge or commit identity theft.

Either way, a catfish exploits the fact that people are often willing to ignore warning signs that a friend or acquaintance may not be who they claim to be. In an online relationship, such signs include refusals to meet in person, refusals to video chat, claims of a serious disease or injury, unusually attractive profile images, personal information that doesn't add up, or requests for money.

 

[Que]

I'm sorry this has happened to you. I have been messaged by catfish on lesbian dating sites a few times. They usually appeared normal at the beginning and then out of nowhere wanted to start sexy talk or told some dramatic story or a mix of both (that just never happened with real people).
I guess, whenever they've been successful so far in getting off on a lesbian chat, it was with some other weirdo jerking onto his keyboard. That idea kind of amuses me.
Also, I ususally demand a photo with the person holding a piece of paper with the exact date. If I feel safe, because of connections on tinder e.g., I skip that step, but if anyone contacted me on any board or something like this, I would sure do that. Once I did that, the guy actually sent me an accurate picture of himself holding a sheet stating his female fake identity and the date. I guess he was just crazy... Don't expect those people to feel or think like decent human beings.

That guy was a ballsy lesbian.

 

[Aquagal]

I'M OBVIOUSLY INCREDIBLY STUPID BECAUSE I BELIEVE I'VE BEEN CATFISHED 3 TIMES IN LESS THAN A MONTH!!

To anyone reading this be sure not to fall into this web of lies, continually....

I joined literotica in the last 2 months with the intention of meeting new people and sharing some work but most of the PM's I've received have lured me into something that I'm ridiculously ignorant to.

If it wasn't against the Literotica rules I would sure as shit expose their usernames to warn others! The first person started a conversation which went back and forth then insisted on me getting yahoo messenger and insisting we webcam! It took days of persistently dropping in the webcam business into conversations until I finally said okay let's cam...

They call me and I could hear them but couldn't see them. They confirmed they could see and hear me but upon saying 3 times "no still can't see you and wait a minute why can't I see you" for the answer to be given; "you won't see me because I don't have a webcam" !!! WTF

I won't bore you with the other to but wanted to ask everyone to comment on a sign or red flag to look out for to avoid or end conversation with them??? Any Catfish reading if you perhaps have a moment of empathy or humanity strike you share some signs to look out for but don't feel you have to actually be truthful for a moment, God forbid right!? Reality is scary I know right made worse when you're born without integrity and an all important backbone!!!!

CATFISHED.... WHO ELSE HAS BEEN AND ANY ADVICE WOULD GREAT!????

Thank you TeenieMe aka DMD

There is nothing in the Lit rules that says you can't name their profile names. I say you should out the dickwads!

 

[UrbanBohemian]

I don't think it's actually a catfish if they don't try to get something out of you like money or something. I think you're talking about someone not being who they claim to be. I would say a general rule is don't bother with someone who tries to pressure you into something. You'd think this only happens to women but I've had people beg and beg me for pics of myself. (Even once for pics of my feet. No shit. I blocked them and they made a new account under a different name.) I've had people talk to me for a while and then approach me with a "business opportunity." And a few other things. No one directly asking for money though. But when they do I just say "No thanks" and just continue as though nothing happened. If it was just them being stupid and falling for something themselves it doesn't change anything. If they bring it up again I just cut my losses. Don't be afraid to do that. You can form real connections and friendships on the internet. My best friend is someone I met online and have never seen in person. We've exchanged pictures, talked on the phone, chatted, and all the things people do over long distances but never met. She's in the middle east, in fact. One day we'll probably meet when she's done with University or something but we've not met yet so I get that you can meet people and develop real relationships. I don't think there's anything wrong with interacting through a screen. That's a real person you're talking to and I don't see the difference between talking on the phone, which no one seems to have a problem with, and talking online. But you also have to be aware that people are not always who they seem. Both online and IRL.

I'll tell you a story I rarely talk about but since no one here knows who I am (to my knowledge at least) I'll tell it now. I had a friend who was very beautiful and very smart. Everyone thought she was going places and would be someone who made an impact on the world. She even met President Obama. And she even took a picture for me! We talked almost every morning and I helped her through some hard times. She would tell me I was the only one who got her and that she only had two true friends and I was one. Well, it turned out she hadn't been honest with me about something. Not something horrible but it was enough to make me question how much I could really trust her. I loved my friend and forgave her but she did lie to me and everyone else and didn't confess on her own. She was found out. I won't go into what it is because it doesn't matter anymore but though I did forgive her I needed some time to get past the whole thing. This wasn't something like padding a resume or something. It wasn't like she was pretending to be someone totally different from who she was but it was substantial. Anyway, we'd not seen each other for a bit and she confessed something to me that she'd not told anyone else. I told her I would try to help her but she said she didn't want help. So I told her she was the one who had to make that decision. She probably wanted me to try to talk her into it but I wasn't back to 100% with her yet. Well I didn't hear from her for five days after that and then I got the phone call. It was a mutual friend of ours telling me she was dead. She committed suicide by overdosing on sleeping pills. I was wrecked. Every year I get sad on the anniversary of her death and wonder if there's more I could have done. I don't blame myself or anything because that's not how it works but I do wonder if I'd just been a little less distant what would have been different if anything. Maybe something would have but probably not. I miss her a lot. Before she died she told me she loved me and I told her I loved her too. Her funeral was in Colombia so I couldn't go but I sent my condolences to her family and it turned out they knew who I was. Both she and her brother had talked about me I guess and her parents told me they knew she loved me and valued my friendship.

I've had a lot of friends die on me. I've had more dead friends than I can even count off the top of my head.

So as you can see, real life relationships are just as risky as online ones. You can be deceived, you can lose people, and you can be hurt. Same as online. So if you can find good friends that's fantastic but if not that's okay and you shouldn't be afraid to move on if someone is not who they say they are or whatever it is. Try not to get too attached too soon. Just like offline. If someone is trying to get something out of you in your real life I'd say cut them loose too. Don't let people use you. That's about the best advice I can give. If someone lies to you about something big you have to decide what to do on a case-by-case basis. If they're scamming you then okay, that's a catfish. But if it's just someone lying to you about something that might just be a person you don't want to be friends with and cut your losses.

 

[Hypoxia]

On the interwebz, nobody can tell you're a poodle.

 

[pplwatching]

On the interwebz, nobody can tell you're a poodle.

I'm pink, therefore I'm spam.

 

[Hypoxia]

I'm pink, therefore I'm spam.

Oh, you're Latino? Y'know that SpAm stands for Spanish Americans, right? SpAm is ground-up greasers. I read that somewhere so it must be true. [/me checks notes] Yup, it's right there.

 

[FGB]

DisciplineMeDaddy,

Is this your sister or something?

She did NOT get back to me after I LOLed and said "MY God what a rant!"

Gee, I wonder why? Yeah, I can be a Ass sometimes...
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( Female, 51, Blonde...Looks um, decent for sure...)


About Me: First thing's first!!!!
If you are a man that's playing the (catfish game !)
Stay away from me !!!
(( I DO!!! )) know about the game !! Cause I have been there before ! And I know what to look for!!!!!!!!
If you don't know what it is, ((LOOK IT UP !!!)) It's called CATFISHED!!!
YOU TUBE . COM, will tell you all about it.
That would be in your best interest for your self!!! And I strongly recommend that you do!!!!!

I prefer someone in the Lufkin surrounding area's,
or at least ssomeone that will be willing to come to Lufkin.
Thanks!

With that being said!!!,

Here is a little about me.
I'm looking for that special someone!!!
The reason I'm on this dating site is because I work hard at making my own living with what I have, and I don't get out much to meet anyone.
I'm hoping that the right man will come along and share what life has to offer for people my age.
I'm a country music lover, I like country living but currently live close to town.
but don't mind either way.
have always loved horses but never been good at riding them.Lol !
I like to watch movie's and cuddle with the man I love and share a bowl of popcorn.
Like to swim, travel, have cookouts, go camping, and fishing.
I'm pretty compatible when it comes to things to do, I will try most anything at least once.
I'm a down to earth kind of women .
I do work five days a week, and off on weekends.
I'm looking for someone to enjoy life with and spend time with, and have fun , when possible.
when at home spending time cuddling is my favourite , it is a very good feeling to share affection that way , even if there are no words spoken.
If you have a fun, goofy, and happy way about you that would be great as well .
my daughters are grown and I'm just ready to find someone who enjoys the things that I do, and possibley have a long-term relationship
Maybe spend the rest of my life with.
I Don't want any games , and definally no cheater's. I'm a one man woman and want a one woman man.
This is my first time being on a dating site and really don't want to be on one , but I don't want to meet someone in a bar or club .
I'm just not into that kind of thing.
Going there with someone I'm with is more fun.
I know that I had put on my profile that I don't drink , but if the feeling strikes me I will have a drink or two,
But the feeling does not happene very often, maybe once in about every two years. lol
I don't mind being with someone that does drink as long as it's not everyday and all the time. ( soicaly is fine )!!! And leave me the option whether I want to drink or not.
Also I did put non smoker , ( kinda true ) !
I use an E-cig on my way to quitting.
Sorry if that seems like a fib to you.
I'm not a liar and I'm not about to start.
I am very HONEST and FAITHFUL with my man and expect the same in return!!!!!

I think I can do this!!
I am pretty shy at first but , I do come out of that lol.
Hope you don't mind if I check out your profile pic's and not say anything until you respond because of the shyness.
At least till I get used to this lol.
Thanks for your time.

I'll update as often as possible.

Well today is the 31st of August and I just wanted to add this statement!!!
I am sick and tired of men and women playing games!!!!
Life is way to short for that mess!!!
And I don't want to waste any presious time that I could be spending with that one special man that may come into my life

SO!! if you like to play games!!!!
(( THEN I'M NOT FOR YOU, AND YOU'RE NOT FOR ME))!!!!!!!!!

Sorry but I just had to add that!!!

Something else I want to add is ((honesty))!!!
I want someone that will be very honest with me!!
Also(( faithful))!! Faithfulness and honesty is very important for all relationships!!
Without them it will not last !!

I have been hearing things about some of the women on here that is ridiculous!!
And I'm sorry for that!!
But please don't judge us all for their actions!!

 

[FGB]

What exactly IS Catfishing in this context anyway?

 

[DisciplineMeDaddy]

Ummmmmm. Look in the thread.

FBG - it's all in the thread!!

Regards,

DMD

 

[KimGordon67]

Yeah, I've had this happen to me, but I'm also not sure I'd call it 'catfishing' as he didn't get anything out of the deal (well, apart from some great cybersex, until I found out he was actually old enough to be my father and then some). It's not worth getting all bent of shape about though. I actually felt a bit sad for this guy - he was lonely, and just wanted a bit of company ... but it was the same deal with him saying he didn't have a webcam (as if). I tried to tell myself the age thing didn't matter ... but it did. (Having said that, he was surprisingly good with the cybersex - that was sort of good to know, that age doesn't necessarily slow you down on that front. He just could have been better at protecting his online identity.)

 

[FGB]

Damn it!

You mean I am going to have to actually READ this thread!

The Pain....The pain.

 

[FGB]

OK then.

Yeah.

I think I had this happen here at Lit. in some fashiom anyway.

No.

I am not going to name names or link profiles.

She was about half my age roughly. Came on to me said she preferred older men.
PMed, talked on phone. She was eager to meet me in Houston (she was from a different state)
It was going fine until I mentioned I had Caller ID.

Poof!
No more contact.

I wasn't all that surprised. Anytime a good looking woman more than ten years younger than me goes sexing me up I get suspicious.

And the internet?

HA! PLEASE!

Keystrokes are cheap.

 

[cookiecat]

Why is anyone surprised about anything when it comes to online shenanigans?

Stop thinking with your cunt.

 

[DisciplineMeDaddy]

Why is anyone surprised about anything when it comes to online shenanigans?

Stop thinking with your cunt.

But cunts are useful...

 

[cookiecat]

But cunts are useful...

It's worked for you so well.

 

[LadyPear]

you were lucky to discover it on time anyway

OK then.

Yeah.

I think I had this happen here at Lit. in some fashiom anyway.

just curious.. can one have a Caller Id?