i want to try anal, but ....

[SubKekiLee]

I know how you feel on this matter, I had NEVER had a good experience on this matter..... It drove me crazy... but when I met my Sir it was one of his things he LOVED to do. WE worked on it slowly and the last time we were together I actually had an orgasm from him playing with my ass, I was then instructed to use my toys to work on it until next time which I do so I can experience the feeling with him, I feel like you and want to try it to please him and to see if those orgasms are as intense as the one I had... relax , breathe and your Dom will know just how to do it and make it an enjoyable experience...

 

[daddysgirl83]

OMG thank you all so much for all the advice and tips you have given me! each one has been wonderful and i can't wait to use them i'm definitely excited about this now! i'm hearing more and more people tell me that the fears i have are nothing to be worried about - so that is great! and as for pain ... well i like a little of that anyways so i guess it'll be good! lol
thank you thank you thank you to everyone!
can't wait to see if anybody else has more to add!
i'm so glad i decided to post this message - the feedback is amazing. thanks again!

 

[daddysgirl83]

thanks twysted - i really like the way you worded all that! that makes a lot of sense to me now, great advice!

 

[YourCaptor]

Anal is much like regular sex.

1. You got to have someone you trust will do the right thing
2. At first it will be uncomfortable
3. Once you get adjusted to the concept you will love it

 

[coyotepondering]

My husband and I have both given and received anal sex many times. We have never used an enema. We don't mind a little mess should it happen. We prefer that to enemas.

*shrug*

Still I do fantasize about enemas sometimes as a humiliation thing.

There's no reason it should but that almost had beer coming out of my nose.

From the perspective of a male top anal is great but working with a virgin ass and trying to make it enjoyable is a lot of work. I used butt plugs with success on my slave. For her part she told me the sensation was ok but the best part was a very strong sense of being helpless.

 

[FurryFury]

There's no reason it should but that almost had beer coming out of my nose.

From the perspective of a male top anal is great but working with a virgin ass and trying to make it enjoyable is a lot of work. I used butt plugs with success on my slave. For her part she told me the sensation was ok but the best part was a very strong sense of being helpless.

*hands napkin to you*

I much prefer an actual cock to a plug or dildo.

 

[Marquis]

I've had a lot of relationships with otherwise good women that didn't work out due to their reluctance to give up the ass.

Some truly beautiful girls, inside and out. Quite sad, really.

 

[Etoile]

I've had a lot of relationships with otherwise good women that didn't work out due to their reluctance to give up the ass.

Some truly beautiful girls, inside and out. Quite sad, really.

Sad for whom?

 

[daddysgirl83]

lol wow this is like way more advice than i thought i would ever get on this! this is so cool!
i have another question for anyone who would like to answer ... what's everyones favorite lube to use? there are so many - i don't even know where to begine lol!! any tips???

thanks!

marquis i can't believe you've actually ended relationships over not having anal sex! wow! is it that good??? rofl!! i'm definitely willing to give up my ass, just trying to get my nerves all settled first! although i've always been willing to give up my ass for a nice spanking ;-) but... thats another story! lol

 

[Marquis]

Sad for whom?

For all parties, I'm sure.

l
marquis i can't believe you've actually ended relationships over not having anal sex! wow! is it that good???

Quite good, yes.

 

[Etoile]

what's everyones favorite lube to use? there are so many - i don't even know where to begine lol!! any tips???

My personal preference is for water-based lube though there are people who prefer silicone-based lube. For water-based, your best bet is Astroglide. Here's some more info: http://dearsugar.com/838310

marquis i can't believe you've actually ended relationships over not having anal sex! wow! is it that good??? rofl!!

Every guy is different - there are some guys who don't like having anal sex at all.

 

[AvaAdore]

There's no reason it should but that almost had beer coming out of my nose.

From the perspective of a male top anal is great but working with a virgin ass and trying to make it enjoyable is a lot of work. I used butt plugs with success on my slave. For her part she told me the sensation was ok but the best part was a very strong sense of being helpless.

Okay, the first time I had anal, there was virtually no preparation. A bit of fingering and vaseline from the bathroom (we were teenagers in a hurry!). No pain. I really loved it. However, the person I did it with had a perfectly average sized penis. It fit quite comfortably.

My current boyfriend is bigger. The width is more of a problem than the length. The head is also not the widest part on him. This makes anal rather uncomfortable and requires a lot more preparation

 

[ecstaticsub]

Okay, the first time I had anal, there was virtually no preparation. A bit of fingering and vaseline from the bathroom (we were teenagers in a hurry!). No pain. I really loved it. However, the person I did it with had a perfectly average sized penis. It fit quite comfortably.

My current boyfriend is bigger. The width is more of a problem than the length. The head is also not the widest part on him. This makes anal rather uncomfortable and requires a lot more preparation

Anal is one position where I think size really does matter. For me the length is more of an issue (I wouldn't call it a problem) My Dom has both significant girth and length. I can handle the girth ok, once he is all the way in and pounding me hard it can be a little uncomfortable until my insides get used to it. I still love it, even though I have had to sit in the tub and soak after he has fallen asleep to help settle my insides.

 

[madetotakeit]

The first time I had anal it was completely unintentional. Too much alcohol and very enthusiastic participants can result in mis-strokes. (All these years later I still can't stand the smell of SoCo!) It was however, a good experience and something we did again many times. I find that the more aroused I am the less discomfort I feel. Any nervousness will amplify the discomfort. A partner you trust and feel relaxed with makes a world of difference. Once you try it and find you like it, it's a great additional option.

 

[twysted73]

I've had a lot of relationships with otherwise good women that didn't work out due to their reluctance to give up the ass.

Some truly beautiful girls, inside and out. Quite sad, really.

Ok, is it JUST me or is anyone else seeing what I'm seeing as hilarious here? Read what he writes then let your peripheray wander to Obama over to the left there.

Can you just see him saying this in a candid interview on the campaign trail or am I just alone here?

Being constructive....I'd highly suggest K-Y's new Silk. It's the least sticky and dries out slower. And adding a little water to it brings it right back up to speed in no time.

 

[daddysgirl83]

Anal is one position where I think size really does matter. For me the length is more of an issue (I wouldn't call it a problem) My Dom has both significant girth and length. I can handle the girth ok, once he is all the way in and pounding me hard it can be a little uncomfortable until my insides get used to it. I still love it, even though I have had to sit in the tub and soak after he has fallen asleep to help settle my insides.

soak in a tub to settle your insides? guess im not really understanding this, could you explain for me please? sorry!
well i've definitely decided to go ahead and give this a try thanks to everyone's help, i don't feel quite so nervous anymore lol nobody has posted any horror stories on it yet so i guess that is a good sign lol thanks for all the advice! it was great now hopefully the rest will fall into place nicely!

 

[ecstaticsub]

soak in a tub to settle your insides? guess im not really understanding this, could you explain for me please? sorry!
well i've definitely decided to go ahead and give this a try thanks to everyone's help, i don't feel quite so nervous anymore lol nobody has posted any horror stories on it yet so i guess that is a good sign lol thanks for all the advice! it was great now hopefully the rest will fall into place nicely!

Very aggressive, hard pounding anal sometimes makes my insides (intestines/stomach area) just feel a little spastic. It's not pain or even cramps. If I can just relax in a hot bath for a little while everything seems to calm down and I am ok.

BTW, for me I seem to be able to take all of him easier if I am on my back with my legs to my chest rather than doggie style. but that's just me.

 

[LucytheDevil]

I've had my anal vibrator for about six months now. It's small and slim, and I really like it.

My only concern, as now I love having things in my ass, is if Master has a large dick, is it going to hurt when he slides in for the first time?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Remember that the head of the penis is the widest part so once that's in, you've done the worst bit.

Umm, not always...they come in all shaoes and sizes and my experience has been more than a few widen past the head with that being the smalest part.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

i'm just nervous about it, i'm afraid it'll be embarassing for some reason and i want to avoid that at all cost! could it really get much more embarassing or gross for your man to pull his cock out of your ass and have it all nasty and dirty! lol yuck!!!

You might be pleasantly surprised to find some men find it a turn on either because of the intimacy, or because they get off on humiliating you if they get it is a button for you. Some men just accept it is part of the whole process. While enemas can relieve some or all of this problem, ask first as it may not be his wish you prepare in that way...you might be removing part of the act he is anticipating guiding you through. Sometimes without an enema it does get messy, sometimes not. Another option is doing it in the shower.

You may find an advantage in preparing by self training yourself with fingers and/or butt plugs, but once again I would ask if this is his desire for you to do so and get his instructions on it. Part of the attraction of anal for most men is because it is tighter than regular vaginal intercourse...take that away by widening things before he even gets in there and you might have a very disappointed Daddy on your hands which I am sure you wish to avoid. My first experience was mid teens and totally unprepared with a guy who has to have had the biggest cock I have ever had (and there have been more than a few over the subsequent decades so it isn't lack of opportunity). He took things slow, told me when to relax, when to move, what he wanted. I was tiny in those days (oh to be that body weight again) and though it was painful to begin, it was not tragically unbearable, nor did it remain painful once I relaxed and decided to enjoy.

and i don't want to have sex with him and then be stuck in the bathroom for hours because my stomach hurts, or i feel gassy, or i have diarrhea or something bad like that lol

Even with enemas etc., this can be the outcome. My experience is it cannot be predicted what you will feel like afterward. I have done it times when I have not felt like it was going to be ideal timing etc., and found afterward I felt wonderful...then I have done it times when it was all I wanted in the moment and later been faint, dizzy, nauseated, throwing up, cramped, plain feeling bad...it is unpredictable, but not fatal unless you do it with a horse or something. Oh and unless you do it unsafely with someone who is HIV etc., which I assume you would be sensible enough to avoid. On the subject of enemas also, perhaps if he wants you to prepare in that way he wants to either be there or be the one to administer it...it is not unusual and can be part of the whole process and moment.

i'm just nervous i want it all to go smoothly - and i think the best way for that to happen is to have advice from people who have already done this and know what is going to happen!

Being nervous is understandable but my feelings, and perhaps these are partly guided by my being a slave, is that your Daddy would be the best person to ask as to what to expect, what he wanted etc. We can all relate our personal experiences, but as I have said, each experience can be different, each person different, each person's method and expectations different. Main thing is to relax as much as possible and keep a positive outlook, and ask his help...I am sure he will be delighted you turn to him for support and advice in this given it is important to him.

Catalina:catraor:

 

[mannis]

Try having a gentle enema first hon, to flush out the nasties, then, using PLENTY of lube,(K.Y jelly), massage your tight anus for a while then start inserting first one finger, then two, then three and so on until you feel relaxed enough to go with a modest dildo, after doing this for a few days you should feel confident and relaxed back there to accomodate your "Daddies" bloated cock without to much discomfort. But try not to be too tense about it hon, just take things slow n steady and pleasure is guaranteed both ways. TRUST ME. this Daddy luvs ya.

 

[KR]

First, I'd like to say that I love anal sex. In some ways I enjoy it more than vaginal sex, especially when my partner has a large penis...

Advice:
1-Read stories about anal sex. They'll get you hot for it.
2-Use toys or fingers to open yourself as a part of your masturbation routine.
3-Douch or not -- if you are healthy, there isn't much concern.
4-Condoms are a good idea for several reasons, including--the semen has prostaglandins in it, which can make some people crampy.
5-Cocoa butter is the lubricant I recommend most for anal sex.
6-A Hitachi Magic Wand or other vibrator on your clit to help get past the initial pain.
7-You back onto him, rather than him pushing.
8-Squeeze and release your sphincter as the head is pressing in.
9-Wiggle your ass around once the head is in, it will loosen you up more.
10-Relax. Take time to get used to the penetration after each 'push'.

And don't be afraid to say Stop.

 

[SweetErika]

I'd suggest reading the Anal section of this thread (The Blank Manual in How To) - there's some excellent advice in there, some of which I haven't seen covered here so far.

Hopefully your Dom will do some research and see what else he might try with a nervous beginner, too. Excluding times where it's meant to hurt, anal, if done correctly, shouldn't be painful or cause tearing, bleeding, etc., at all. I think it's important to start off with great experiences (which require education in most cases) so as not to get into the 'it hurt last time---> I'm scared and tense----> it hurts this time' cycle.

Cleanliness, safety and easy clean up have always been big for us, so we use condoms. In my experience, lots of water-based lube or ejaculate CAN cause digestive issues in the following hours or day, so we use silicone lube (you can use less and it doesn't dry out) and keep his semen out of there. If there is a little bit of a mess, condoms make it easy to get rid of it quickly, and they allow for almost instant clean up before vaginal sex or cuddling. I guess we're lazy like that.

We use condoms on our anal toys for the same easy clean up reason; plus, there's never a fear of a lube conflict because silicone lube IS compatible with latex and polyurethane condoms.

If you DO go the enema route, use plain, warm water, and don't make a regular habit of it (e.g. doing it everyday so you'll always be ready for anal). Your digestive tract works without enemas for a reason, and when you start forcing things and messing with the natural balance, you're setting ourself up for digestive problems. We do an enema on occasion, but if our digestive systems are functioning well, we don't find them necessary. And, they have been known to make things more messy if done an hour or so before anal (though timing will vary from person to person).

 

[daddysgirl83]

Thank you so much to everyone who left advice! It is very much appreciated!! The links to sites with more information were so helpful, I had been trying to do some research - but guess I was looking in all the wrong places lol.
Can't wait to be able to add my input to someone's anal question!!

Thanks again for all the help!!!!

 

[MsErica]

Hope it goes well for you and that you'll post again with updates when the mood strikes you.

Erica