i want to try anal, but ....

Go slow and do it in a bath tub. It kinda feels gross, and you don't feel as messy when you do it in the tub.
 
Thank you so much to everyone who left advice! It is very much appreciated!! The links to sites with more information were so helpful, I had been trying to do some research - but guess I was looking in all the wrong places lol.
Can't wait to be able to add my input to someone's anal question!! :)

Thanks again for all the help!!!!

:)

There is probably more advice on anal sex than anything else on Lit. There is no reason for it to hurt the first time or any time. It is one time when your pleasure or pain is completely in the control of your partner. His skill and experience is what makes the difference. No matter how you prepare, if he is clumsy or goes to fast, it won't be nice for you.

His part is to slowly and gently relax your ass until his cock will fit without stretching the muscle. This is what hurts. Its something like getting kicked in the balls. Any man should understand that. It helps if you have one or two orgasms while he is opening you. An ordinary vibrator, with a gentle tapered tip is best. With his mouth, his fingers or yours on your clit, while he pushes the vibrator gently in and retracts, each time pressing until resistance is felt and letting then muscle slowly expand. When the vibrator slips in easy, he can penetrate you with no pain. Lube is critical. Depending on how long and how vigorous it is, you will need to add lube quite a few times. I always add more lube between my partners orgasms.

I have never seen a need for enemas or any other prep than an ordinary bath or shower. For all the nonsense about it, it just never been a problem.

As for afterwords, a towel tucked between your cheeks is all you need. Its not the time you want to be jumping up and running to the bathroom anyway.
 
There is probably more advice on anal sex than anything else on Lit. There is no reason for it to hurt the first time or any time. It is one time when your pleasure or pain is completely in the control of your partner. His skill and experience is what makes the difference. No matter how you prepare, if he is clumsy or goes to fast, it won't be nice for you.

His part is to slowly and gently relax your ass until his cock will fit without stretching the muscle. This is what hurts. Its something like getting kicked in the balls. Any man should understand that. It helps if you have one or two orgasms while he is opening you. An ordinary vibrator, with a gentle tapered tip is best. With his mouth, his fingers or yours on your clit, while he pushes the vibrator gently in and retracts, each time pressing until resistance is felt and letting then muscle slowly expand. When the vibrator slips in easy, he can penetrate you with no pain. Lube is critical. Depending on how long and how vigorous it is, you will need to add lube quite a few times. I always add more lube between my partners orgasms.

I have never seen a need for enemas or any other prep than an ordinary bath or shower. For all the nonsense about it, it just never been a problem.

As for afterwords, a towel tucked between your cheeks is all you need. Its not the time you want to be jumping up and running to the bathroom anyway.


I agree to a degree, as last night I finally took that step I hadnt prepared other than a hot bath.. and he worked at it until I was I ready and when it happend just mind blowing.... ahhhhhhh all I can say....
 
so i have been thinking a lot about this whole anal sex thing - i must say, most of the time the idea does not appeal to me ... but there are those times that it REALLY does. my Daddy (no, not my real Dad - my Dom!) has told me numerous times through our discussions that this is something that we are going to do because it pleases Him immensly. Only problem is, i've never done anal before - so im terrified of the idea! Any comments or suggestions would be so much appreciated here. i have so many questions about it! ... like, doesn't it hurt, a lot? seems to me that it would be umm *messy* and gross?? what's the best way to start? what's the best type of lube to use for less mess and more comfort? i've been doing some research - but i never know how much of it is actually true, so i wanted to hear it from real people. i would really appreciate any and all feedback here, good and bad. i definitely want to be prepared for this - i want to show Him that i can do this for Him ... so PLEASE HELP ME!!! :)

thanks so much!!! can't wait to hear the feedback!


It's not as big a deal as you think. Just remember to give yourself an enema before so you are nice and clean (sorry to be gross, but the best time to clean would be after going to the bathroom so you are empty) and then take a shower after if you like, so you are super clean. as for lube, there are plenty of kinds that you can find that are safe and sanitary. As for taking it, just start out really slow, ease it in carefully. Perhaps start on a small dildo and then move onto a larger one etc. It will loosen up and then you will be enjoying a new wonderful feeling in no time :)

hope i helped, and hope i said something that wasnt already said...:eek:
 
It's best to try it when you're in the middle of an orgasm. That way you'll be distracted & wont feel it as much.

The 1 time i can honestly say i enjoyed anal & WANTED to try it with someone was when an ex bf of mine (who had girl-sized hands) had just gotten me off with his fist and i was feeling really really good. :eek:
I dont know about anybody else here, but for me the most important thing was for my partner to keep stimulating both areas at the same time, & if it stopped for even a minute i wasn't into it at all.
 
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I love anal but have never had a enema but I don't like him to cum up there unless he has a condom on
 
I haven't had a chance to try anything much more than fingers so far, so I can't really put in as much as people before me.

But even fingers alone are a great start. If you want to ween yourself into it, it's a good way to add pleasure to just about anything... The ass is great about being sensitive to touch like that.

To me, personally, it's always been more for adding pleasure than supplying the brunt of it, so experimenting with it should usually come with being pleased elsewhere, like Untamed's experience.
 
I didnt read the whole thread so forgive me if its been mentioned but, me and the wife have always kept a pack of baby wipes in the bag for quick cleaups should there be more material than expected. get it off and stay in the heat of the moment.
 
Don't forget one of the most important elements here... seduce his mind too!! Tease your man and drive him crazy! Tell him how curious you are AND how badly you want it! DON'T wait for him to bring it up. Bring it up when he is not expecting it. Tease him by telling it to him more than once during the afternoon. Tell him you need it tonight! Men love it when they know you want them badly.
 
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hi

I am submitting to my guy all the time. He likes anal mostly. It is great after a caning session.Try it and see the effect.
 
wow - awesome replies!

just bumpin up the thread a little :)

thanks so much for such great advice!!

funtobewith - i love the idea of teasing him all day with what i want him to do to me that night - great idea! can't wait to try it ;)
 
I second all those that recommended AstroGlide.

Easy prep idea: just play with putting your fingers in one at a time while he is inside your vagina, he will love it and you will get comfortable. When you are relaxed, just slip up a notch. :0)

For the Dom, it is the taking, for the sub, the surrender. A continuation of submission to him. Of course, once he has that, he will want something else!

(The dirty stuff doesn't happen enough to worry about, but makes for some fun late night chat over the washing machine when it does. The soreness in the morning is said to be pretty sexy feeling, not uncomfortable in a bad way, just a fun reminder when you least expect it. Like every time you sit down.)
 
Okay this might sound funny but it really helps, get yourself a turkey baster or the appropriate medical device (name escapes me atm) if he has some length on him you might find that you're getting friction deep inside you because A) generally it's being pushed and prodded there and B) lube doesn't always get real deep in. Using a ton of lube doesn't do much good if little to none of it gets past the sphincter. Also, the hardest part is getting it in, once you have then head in you're home free. One other thing, try not to clench, it keeps friction to the minimum and prolongs how long you two can go at it.

I hear from people worrying about ripping or doing damage internal but that only happens if something is being done seriously wrong or you have something wrong internally. I have a friend who's a bear of a man, I've seen him get his paw into anal virgins with just a good 2 or so hours of play, really amazes me how resilient the body is.

-poppet
 
daddys Girl...
I know i gave you some advice... about how wonderful it is.. I thought this story might help you to relax , be turned on and to see how hot, and very submisive this act is...

so rewind to Dec 2007... Sir and I have been together only almost 2 months when we tells me that he plans to have all three of my holes as his... I tell him I am scared he said if it is done right it feels very good for both parties.. we meet for our 1st overnight scene and he tells me he is going to show me... He starts with a nice massage and the next thing I know he is inserting his finger into my ass and I am pushing back against him, he asks me "pet are you pushing against me are you enjoying this?" I manage to tell him yes Sir.. and he proceeds to take me to my first anal orgasm.. I was blown away he tells me at the end of the scene that he plans to fuck his ass on our next visit.. He then instructs me that I am now only allowed to fuck his ass whenever I am horny I am to be ready for him..
February 2008 We plan to spend 4 nights together and on the 2nd night I tell him I am ready, when i get into position and I am nervous inside my mind is this going to hurt... He slowly pushes into me and i am in immediate heaven ( he has opened a can of worms perse') I find that i am orgasming from this more than I ever have and find that I love it..

Over the next few months we are doing this at least once per visit.. Fast forward to this week..

he decides that he is going tohave his ass this visit.. we have always had the same position... I am on my knees and leaned forward and it feels good this way but this time... He starts we me on my knees moves me to my stomach and starts biting me. OMG I am so in love with this man... when he decides to throw me onto my back and give it to me this way OMG it almost made me cum instantly it was so good I couldnt walk for more than 15 mins after he had done this.. shortly after switching positions he fucks me so good.. he cums very hard inside me... and it feels amazing... when i tell him I cannot walk he says that makes 2 of us... ;)



My only suggestion to you is relax and if you trust him it will be a mind blowing experience to you ... let us know how things go..if you want to get worked up a little more about anal sex just go read DVS thread.. ;)
 
I second all those that recommended AstroGlide.

This is one act where I prefer to be a little tipsy.
Don't psych yourself out. Relax, take it slow and work your speed up. I've never used an enema either and while I enjoy him cumming in me... the aftermath is not so pleasant. Not painful, just gross. Worth it for me.

I got the SURPRISE! anal a couple nights ago... can anyone get down with this? I found it to be horrible on this particular occasion, but have enjoyed it before (though was during rape fantasy).
 
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