I write detailed graphic gay erotica but I don’t want to fuck men. What’s with that?

[Toffer_Guy]

There are plenty of authors who write about vampires that aren’t vampires and have no interest in really drinking human blood. Fiction and reality aren’t the same thing.

I enjoy creating fantasies of mother-son sex, but I have zero interest in my actual mother. More often using pictures of other women as stand-ins. Just enjoy the concept of crossing such a taboo line.

 

[eroticspank]

There are plenty of authors who write about vampires that aren’t vampires and have no interest in really drinking human blood. Fiction and reality aren’t the same thing.

I enjoy creating fantasies of mother-son sex, but I have zero interest in my actual mother. More often using pictures of other women as stand-ins. Just enjoy the concept of crossing such a taboo line.

It is similar to writing a rape scene. It can be a great scene and even erotic but no desire to see it happen in real life.
ES

 

[CWinWI]

Sorry, this may be wordy as I feel some background is needed. The goal is to get peoples input on why writing graphic, detailed gay erotica turns me on so much but I’m not attracted to men. I am a very oversexed person and I would say all of my fantasies and fetishes are quite far from vanilla. I would think one would wodely group them as ‘submissive’, and I write in other categories. That said, here’s some background…

I’m a very happily married 47 year old white guy. I’m quite alpha and extroverted, outwardly the typical ‘man’s man’ and would fit a lot of the New Yorker stereotypes. I work in finance, do well, like sports, comfortable in groups and can get a whole room laughing. One thing I am that may not be obvious to people right away is that I’m an Uber-liberal.

My wife and I are best friends and have mainly the same common interests. Every aspect of our relationship is a 10 except sex, which Id say is a 7-ish. I’m very attracted to her and I get very hard, the sex is just a little vanilla. I love my wife so much and like I said, sex feels good and she knows I watch a lot of porn and gives me that space. My other outlet os writing erotica - she doesn’t know that because the content would be so embarrassing! Although I don’t think she’d mind. I also have to say that I’m so happy in my marriage, I don’t feel sexual attraction towards others very much at all, if that makes sense. I jerk off a lot to porn, love a chat room, erotica, but not only would I not cheat, I’m really only interested in fucking my wife.

So with that background, my question is, what are people’s thoughts on my sexuality and fantasies/fetishes? Face to face, to this day, I never felt a sexual attraction to a man. When I was about 21 though, I discovered transsexuals and was obsessed for about 10 years. I primarily had sex with women and girlfriends, but I had a ton of closet encounters with transsexuals, mainly from the web or the NYC street walking areas (always safe by the way). Right from the start, I loved fondling and sucking their cocks, and I loved grinding our dicks together. Within a year, I got fucked and from that point on, I much preferred to bottom when I was with a special girl. All told, I would say about 12 girls fucked me 20 or so times (the number of transsexuals that bottomed for me is about the same). I sucked numerous cocks, well over 50 girls. I did love getting sucked as much as sucking, but oddly I would say with an only few exceptions, I much preferred to get anal than give. This was also the rise of internet porn and transsexual porn was my go to. So that establishes I love dicks. Very much, bigger the better, but I like them on women.

During this time I remained really attracted to women and their pussies. I love to eat and finger and please. I had girlfriends and more straight sex than transsexual encounters. When I was really horny, and couldn’t find a woman or transsexual, I did hook up with a guy or two. The thought was hot, but when they’d get there, I really wasn’t into it. I definitely didn’t want to kiss and certainly didn’t want anal either way. As I recall, we would grind and cum and maybe they would suck me. I would look for feminine looking guys, particularly Asian (Asian was my preference for cross-dressers to as they struck me as more feminine looking).

If a different fetish came into play, it was a little hotter. I remember in the mid-2000’s, I specifically looked for an Asian man to shave my genitals. He began to suck me in the shower while he groomed me and I remember us grinding to orgasm in bed afterwards. It was a little hot, but again no kissing, I was into the shaving, but not totally into the guy. I also went to a massage parlor to get massaged and shaved by an Asian man. I played with his dick through his pants, but again, I wasn’t excited like when I was with a woman or transsexual, and when I came, in all of the situations with men I just discussed, I was really done. No attraction at all and I wanted to get out of there.

This fetish morphed. I met a woman in-line through an ad where I told her I wanted to be submissive and was open to going really far. She pegged me and we found two guys for threesomes. One guy had a huge dick, and the situation was hot, but I had no desire to suck it when given the opportunity, even though in my head I yearned for forced-bi and for a woman to know (and even hotter) watch me suck a dick. This is the only person that was in my life for more than a hook up (let’s say who met my family) that knew my sub tendencies.

My main obsession today is black man- white female porn. When I fuck my wife, I picture me readying her for a black man with a huge cock and then him fucking her. Cuckolding and small penis humiliation excites me to no end. My published stories mostly revolve around these topics. Another funny thing is I have a big dick. Very thick and nearly seven inches, but when it is soft it can be pretty small and I love taking pictures of it when it is really shriveled. I’m basically into everything submissive except pain. I love big cock (especially black)/ small comparisons. Many of my gay stories involve bbc, closet cases, etc. and the protagonist is always the bottom. I also haven’t published them yet, but work in incest stories as well. Cosplay is another big fetish - hot cosplay chicks. I like curvy women and milky white skin and light hair. I don’t know, maybe I’m rambling, but it all seems like important info to get to the bottom of why I like what I like.

So that’s a good start on the background if people would be so kind to give their thoughts and input. I guess I’m asking for a free shrink. I have my own theories, but I don’t want to taint Frye responses, if I get any. But I think it’s an interesting conversation. Let me end by expressing just how fucking turned on and hard I get when I get my gay story ideas. When I’m writing them, outlining them in my head in bed or the car. I’m so fucking turned on! But I really have no attraction to men in real life. What is up with that! I hope this isn’t too rambling…but very open to constructive feedback and answering questions.

Would love to discuss this with you further

 

[CWinWI]

Would love to discuss this with you further

Much of what you wrote sounds an awful lot like me. I've only had three experiences with men/trannies.
How are you able to write in such detail. Every time I write something in length the computer cuts off about 90% of what I write. What am I doing wrong. I just lost about twenty minutes of writing. I type with one finger.

 

[CWinWI]

Would love to discuss this with you further

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[CWinWI]

It is similar to writing a rape scene. It can be a great scene and even erotic but no desire to see it happen in real life.
ES

When you write stories, do you admit to them being fiction? I've written to numerous men on Lit telling them of experiences I've had. 95% of what I write is complete B.S. although there is something I base it on. It seems men find it more erotic if they feel it's based on truth.
I've written stories that supposedly happened to me. The men replied back that it was so hot their dicks are sore from beating off.
I love responses like that. I must be doing something right. In an evil sort of way.
Is the definition of a writer as a liar with a typewriter.

 

[eroticspank]

When you write stories, do you admit to them being fiction? I've written to numerous men on Lit telling them of experiences I've had. 95% of what I write is complete B.S. although there is something I base it on. It seems men find it more erotic if they feel it's based on truth.
I've written stories that supposedly happened to me. The men replied back that it was so hot their dicks are sore from beating off.
I love responses like that. I must be doing something right. In an evil sort of way.
Is the definition of a writer as a liar with a typewriter.

Some people are very good at telling and writing stories. No matter what they write about the story is great. The thing about fiction is that it is fun making things up. You can use your own personal experiences and then add stuff that didn't happen. Real life sometimes sucks. You didn't have the courage to ask her out, she was not into anal play, your orgasm was not that great, etc. Tell the story and start and end it the way you want it to. You don't need to tell people what parts are true or not, just tell people it is fiction.

To me, the key to writing a good erotic story is inserting realistic emotions and dialogue. I met a person on Literotica who has several published stories involving anal play. The stories are hot and he has never done any anal play in real life. I know both men and women who have written stories from the point of view of the opposite sex. I think that is a big challenge for a man to write a story as a woman. I have done it a few times and got good feedback from my female friends.

I suppose some people find it more erotic if it is based on a true story. If that is the case and you only changed a few things then tell them it is based on a true story. In my opinion, if it is a good story it doesn't matter if it is based on a true story or not. However, in my case, I enjoy all kinds of fiction, including Science fiction.
ES

 

[CWinWI]

Some people are very good at telling and writing stories. No matter what they write about the story is great. The thing about fiction is that it is fun making things up. You can use your own personal experiences and then add stuff that didn't happen. Real life sometimes sucks. You didn't have the courage to ask her out, she was not into anal play, your orgasm was not that great, etc. Tell the story and start and end it the way you want it to. You don't need to tell people what parts are true or not, just tell people it is fiction.

To me, the key to writing a good erotic story is inserting realistic emotions and dialogue. I met a person on Literotica who has several published stories involving anal play. The stories are hot and he has never done any anal play in real life. I know both men and women who have written stories from the point of view of the opposite sex. I think that is a big challenge for a man to write a story as a woman. I have done it a few times and got good feedback from my female friends.

I suppose some people find it more erotic if it is based on a true story. If that is the case and you only changed a few things then tell them it is based on a true story. In my opinion, if it is a good story it doesn't matter if it is based on a true story or not. However, in my case, I enjoy all kinds of fiction, including Science fiction.
ES

When you write, do you like to take on the role of a submissive or more dominant? My stories tend to lean towards being submissive. I find it easier for me to accept humiliation as opposed to giving it.
I couldn't tell you how many dicks I've supposedly sucked or been gang banged by a group of horny abusive men.
Yet I've never as much given another guy a HJ.

 

[eroticspank]

When you write, do you like to take on the role of a submissive or more dominant? My stories tend to lean towards being submissive. I find it easier for me to accept humiliation as opposed to giving it.
I couldn't tell you how many dicks I've supposedly sucked or been gang banged by a group of horny abusive men.
Yet I've never as much given another guy a HJ.

I write both as Dominant and Submissive. I write more about being a sub since I have more fantasies on that side. However, it is fun to write as a Dom because it is challenging.
ES

 

[CWinWI]

I write both as Dominant and Submissive. I write more about being a sub since I have more fantasies on that side. However, it is fun to write as a Dom because it is challenging.
ES

Send me an example and I'll do the same.

 

[TaraTraynor]

Lots of people write war novels without ever picking up a gun

Agreed, and lots of people write about gay sex without ever participating.

 

[TaraTraynor]

I write both as Dominant and Submissive. I write more about being a sub since I have more fantasies on that side. However, it is fun to write as a Dom because it is challenging.
ES

I write about being a willing participant, and always from my own perspective.

 

[AG31]

Sorry, this may be wordy as I feel some background is needed. The goal is to get peoples input on why writing graphic, detailed gay erotica turns me on so much but I’m not attracted to men.

Interesting. I've often reflected on the extreme disconnect between me in real life and my fantasies. My fantasies have always been masochistic, but a few years ago they switched to the mail POV, and a couple of recent ones are straight (sic) out gay... or straight to gay. I'm a 79 year old female with an exceedingly (and happily) vanilla sex life and don't have a submissive streak anywhere in my personality except my fantasy life. Go figure. I'll watch this thread for theories.

 

[TaraTraynor]

Is this fact or fantasy?

When I was doing my degree in accountancy at LSE I got a job in the kitchen of a restaurant owned by a well known female-chef patron-bitch.

She was a total cow and everybody hated her. I worked in the prep area and also helped with staff meals.

One day after getting a rasping from her tongue, I said to one of the commis chefs “if I was a guy I would wank off into her breakfast and serve it to her” with a smile on his face he said “well if you are prepared to do the wanking I will provide the ingredients”

A few days later, he said “well are you up for it”? I was watching some porn last night have big load built up and need to deposit it somewhere”.
The bitch used to come in about 1030 in the morning and demand breakfast, I said ok and we went into the cool store and very soon I was wanking him off, he was very keen and quite quickly he said he was ready to cum. I held a plastic beaker in front of him and he delivered his load into it.

We went back into the kitchen and when the bitch came in she demanded scrambled eggs, it was a pleasure to make her breakfast for her that day and for once in her life she complemented me on the presentation and taste of my dish.
Well our little storeroom meetings became a regular event and with a little coercion from him he developed it into me sucking him off and me spitting his cum into the beaker.


We continued to enjoy our regular prep meetings and making breakfast for the bitch until my graduation

 

[CuckedbyBBC]

Is this fact or fantasy?

When I was doing my degree in accountancy at LSE I got a job in the kitchen of a restaurant owned by a well known female-chef patron-bitch.

She was a total cow and everybody hated her. I worked in the prep area and also helped with staff meals.

One day after getting a rasping from her tongue, I said to one of the commis chefs “if I was a guy I would wank off into her breakfast and serve it to her” with a smile on his face he said “well if you are prepared to do the wanking I will provide the ingredients”

A few days later, he said “well are you up for it”? I was watching some porn last night have big load built up and need to deposit it somewhere”.
The bitch used to come in about 1030 in the morning and demand breakfast, I said ok and we went into the cool store and very soon I was wanking him off, he was very keen and quite quickly he said he was ready to cum. I held a plastic beaker in front of him and he delivered his load into it.

We went back into the kitchen and when the bitch came in she demanded scrambled eggs, it was a pleasure to make her breakfast for her that day and for once in her life she complemented me on the presentation and taste of my dish.
Well our little storeroom meetings became a regular event and with a little coercion from him he developed it into me sucking him off and me spitting his cum into the beaker.


We continued to enjoy our regular prep meetings and making breakfast for the bitch until my graduation

Maybe it’s cause I want it to be, but I’ll go fact.

 

[eroticspank]

Is this fact or fantasy?

When I was doing my degree in accountancy at LSE I got a job in the kitchen of a restaurant owned by a well known female-chef patron-bitch.

She was a total cow and everybody hated her. I worked in the prep area and also helped with staff meals.

One day after getting a rasping from her tongue, I said to one of the commis chefs “if I was a guy I would wank off into her breakfast and serve it to her” with a smile on his face he said “well if you are prepared to do the wanking I will provide the ingredients”

A few days later, he said “well are you up for it”? I was watching some porn last night have big load built up and need to deposit it somewhere”.
The bitch used to come in about 1030 in the morning and demand breakfast, I said ok and we went into the cool store and very soon I was wanking him off, he was very keen and quite quickly he said he was ready to cum. I held a plastic beaker in front of him and he delivered his load into it.

We went back into the kitchen and when the bitch came in she demanded scrambled eggs, it was a pleasure to make her breakfast for her that day and for once in her life she complemented me on the presentation and taste of my dish.
Well our little storeroom meetings became a regular event and with a little coercion from him he developed it into me sucking him off and me spitting his cum into the beaker.


We continued to enjoy our regular prep meetings and making breakfast for the bitch until my graduation

Does it matter? It is a good story and that is all that matters to me.
ES

 

[Abdelkaoolomocro]

Just try to enjoy it. You are you and you’re finding out some things you like. Oesn’t change who you are.

 

[GirlFur]

That seems natural to me. I often write first person from a male perspective and get deep into the sexual scene. I see men writing here in female voice all the time. Not sure it's exactly the same thing, but I think writing is about stretching your imagination and creating stories outside of your own box.

Of course, anyone could speculate about deeper psychological issues, like if you have homosexual desires that deeply repressed. But that's just speculation. The important thing is you enjoy doing it, so...you go boy!

 

[bcgabba6913]

Sorry, this may be wordy as I feel some background is needed. The goal is to get peoples input on why writing graphic, detailed gay erotica turns me on so much but I’m not attracted to men. I am a very oversexed person and I would say all of my fantasies and fetishes are quite far from vanilla. I would think one would wodely group them as ‘submissive’, and I write in other categories. That said, here’s some background…

I’m a very happily married 47 year old white guy. I’m quite alpha and extroverted, outwardly the typical ‘man’s man’ and would fit a lot of the New Yorker stereotypes. I work in finance, do well, like sports, comfortable in groups and can get a whole room laughing. One thing I am that may not be obvious to people right away is that I’m an Uber-liberal.

My wife and I are best friends and have mainly the same common interests. Every aspect of our relationship is a 10 except sex, which Id say is a 7-ish. I’m very attracted to her and I get very hard, the sex is just a little vanilla. I love my wife so much and like I said, sex feels good and she knows I watch a lot of porn and gives me that space. My other outlet os writing erotica - she doesn’t know that because the content would be so embarrassing! Although I don’t think she’d mind. I also have to say that I’m so happy in my marriage, I don’t feel sexual attraction towards others very much at all, if that makes sense. I jerk off a lot to porn, love a chat room, erotica, but not only would I not cheat, I’m really only interested in fucking my wife.

So with that background, my question is, what are people’s thoughts on my sexuality and fantasies/fetishes? Face to face, to this day, I never felt a sexual attraction to a man. When I was about 21 though, I discovered transsexuals and was obsessed for about 10 years. I primarily had sex with women and girlfriends, but I had a ton of closet encounters with transsexuals, mainly from the web or the NYC street walking areas (always safe by the way). Right from the start, I loved fondling and sucking their cocks, and I loved grinding our dicks together. Within a year, I got fucked and from that point on, I much preferred to bottom when I was with a special girl. All told, I would say about 12 girls fucked me 20 or so times (the number of transsexuals that bottomed for me is about the same). I sucked numerous cocks, well over 50 girls. I did love getting sucked as much as sucking, but oddly I would say with an only few exceptions, I much preferred to get anal than give. This was also the rise of internet porn and transsexual porn was my go to. So that establishes I love dicks. Very much, bigger the better, but I like them on women.

During this time I remained really attracted to women and their pussies. I love to eat and finger and please. I had girlfriends and more straight sex than transsexual encounters. When I was really horny, and couldn’t find a woman or transsexual, I did hook up with a guy or two. The thought was hot, but when they’d get there, I really wasn’t into it. I definitely didn’t want to kiss and certainly didn’t want anal either way. As I recall, we would grind and cum and maybe they would suck me. I would look for feminine looking guys, particularly Asian (Asian was my preference for cross-dressers to as they struck me as more feminine looking).

If a different fetish came into play, it was a little hotter. I remember in the mid-2000’s, I specifically looked for an Asian man to shave my genitals. He began to suck me in the shower while he groomed me and I remember us grinding to orgasm in bed afterwards. It was a little hot, but again no kissing, I was into the shaving, but not totally into the guy. I also went to a massage parlor to get massaged and shaved by an Asian man. I played with his dick through his pants, but again, I wasn’t excited like when I was with a woman or transsexual, and when I came, in all of the situations with men I just discussed, I was really done. No attraction at all and I wanted to get out of there.

This fetish morphed. I met a woman in-line through an ad where I told her I wanted to be submissive and was open to going really far. She pegged me and we found two guys for threesomes. One guy had a huge dick, and the situation was hot, but I had no desire to suck it when given the opportunity, even though in my head I yearned for forced-bi and for a woman to know (and even hotter) watch me suck a dick. This is the only person that was in my life for more than a hook up (let’s say who met my family) that knew my sub tendencies.

My main obsession today is black man- white female porn. When I fuck my wife, I picture me readying her for a black man with a huge cock and then him fucking her. Cuckolding and small penis humiliation excites me to no end. My published stories mostly revolve around these topics. Another funny thing is I have a big dick. Very thick and nearly seven inches, but when it is soft it can be pretty small and I love taking pictures of it when it is really shriveled. I’m basically into everything submissive except pain. I love big cock (especially black)/ small comparisons. Many of my gay stories involve bbc, closet cases, etc. and the protagonist is always the bottom. I also haven’t published them yet, but work in incest stories as well. Cosplay is another big fetish - hot cosplay chicks. I like curvy women and milky white skin and light hair. I don’t know, maybe I’m rambling, but it all seems like important info to get to the bottom of why I like what I like.

So that’s a good start on the background if people would be so kind to give their thoughts and input. I guess I’m asking for a free shrink. I have my own theories, but I don’t want to taint Frye responses, if I get any. But I think it’s an interesting conversation. Let me end by expressing just how fucking turned on and hard I get when I get my gay story ideas. When I’m writing them, outlining them in my head in bed or the car. I’m so fucking turned on! But I really have no attraction to men in real life. What is up with that! I hope this isn’t too rambling…but very open to constructive feedback and answering questions.

i can relate to a certain extent. i feel your story falls under facination fantasy. if that makes sense. now on to myself. i have no attraction to a man/male. but im attracted to the sexual aspect to being with a man. now myself being fuly attracted to women in every aspect. since childhood i have desired for an experience with a sexual encounter with a male but not in a attraction wayor relationship way. im interseted in this to happen but i would feel more comfortable if it was in a bi setting involving a woman. having to be fully consentual on all parties. my problem has become to where i can find like minded individuals that share the same full discretion. i dont live in a big city so i feel it would be risky and considering where i live is considered a religious area. im only 53 so i feel still have time. all responses are very welcome.

 

[StrongMaster7]

Long ago, I found a very hot woman online. She shared a few very, very hot pics of herself and I wanted more. She would send me more pics, but she wanted me to roleplay with her as if I was bisexual. I am not bi. I am straight. But she was so sexy and I wanted to see more of her, so I roleplayed with her as if I was bi.

I write a lot of fantasies and such, so it wasn't hard to do. She got off on it and I got to see more of her pics.

Everybody wins.

 

[DaddyP2B]

I am straight but.....
No, I get you bro. I feel the same in a lot of ways. I have never been with a man but I don't think I would have any problem taking a submissive trans woman. It's the feeling of being dominant but also something deep inside, a primal urge to protect, love and be adored by someone feminine and submissive regardless of gender that turns me on. Also.....pegging is just hot, I don't know what else to say.

 

[CuckedbyBBC]

That seems natural to me. I often write first person from a male perspective and get deep into the sexual scene. I see men writing here in female voice all the time. Not sure it's exactly the same thing, but I think writing is about stretching your imagination and creating stories outside of your own box.

Of course, anyone could speculate about deeper psychological issues, like if you have homosexual desires that deeply repressed. But that's just speculation. The important thing is you enjoy doing it, so...you go boy!

I like this response. I think I’m aware of the psychological issues. I love transsexual women. I love the thought of sucking their cocks and getting fucked by them. I’ve sucked a ton and been fucked by them! I love cocks - thought of a glory hole with a huge cock sticking out of it! Paradise! I’d suck and probably try to bend over for it! I’d love to have a bag thrown over my head and three or ten guys fuck me til my cum! But indont want to have passionate intercourse and kissing with a man. No turn on there. At least not when faced with it, as in there’s a guy that would fuck right now and we are face to face - no desire. But I also love writing about gay sex and my protagonists are always not only bottoms, but cum-dumpster whores! That’s what I always found confusing. The getting fucked by transsexuals - that’s clearly the attraction to women and cocks, the need to take a break from my alpha daily life and submit, and of course a cock in the ass feels amazing! Really tingles the nerve endings!

 

[eroticspank]

That seems natural to me. I often write first person from a male perspective and get deep into the sexual scene. I see men writing here in female voice all the time. Not sure it's exactly the same thing, but I think writing is about stretching your imagination and creating stories outside of your own box.

Of course, anyone could speculate about deeper psychological issues, like if you have homosexual desires that deeply repressed. But that's just speculation. The important thing is you enjoy doing it, so...you go boy!

I like this response too. Well said. I have read several male-on-male and Bisexual stories that got me very turned on. I think that is a great compliment to the person who wrote it because that is the goal to make the story erotic. If you turn on straight males too even better. Since I am not bisexual and not attracted to men, I don't find myself going out to recreate what I read. I just enjoy the arousal and masturbate or have great sex with my wife.

Imagine reading a Science Fiction story that has a very hot sex scene. It turns you on because of the elements in the scene, nonconsent, D/s, forced orgasms, etc. It doesn't mean that you should seek out an alien with tentacles for your bedroom.
ES

 

[Mike130]

From the peanut gallery here, who has no experience whatsoever with what you posted, what came to mind was a bit by Ron White.

Personally, I don't think you're going to find out why you're like this. You simply are. It's part of the reason that Lady Gaga's song, Born this Way, is so popular. And the issue isn't why you're like this, it's why society is like this. In the US, it's become more and more difficult to disclose interest found in the grey area between black and white. Are you interested in women (good) or are you interested in men (bad)? Personally, I haven't figured out why so much of 'Murica can't live and let live. Truly, so much is keyed into this idea of conservative christianity where M/M is bad. Think about how nuts people currently are about trans? Painting people as pedofiles? Thus making it okay for them to they pass judgement because of what the Bible says, totally dismissing and forgetting that the Bible also says the only God gets to judge. The idea that 'God' made you this way and thus you're perfect, doesn't fit into the version of society that they've been sold and bought into.
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And then best I can figure out is that as long as 'we' as a society are fighting each other, then we can't band together to fight other common enemies - I think this is a real end game. This all works because I suspect that there are many other supposed Alpha males out there that are also struggling with why they are the way they are, but no where near as in touch with their feelings or accepting of them. So Bravo to you!
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It seems the phrase you're looking to describe your sexual life is 'on the down low'. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Down-low_(sexual_slang)
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This is the great thing about Lit. We have an anonymity here that allows us to vomit our deepest emotions that create the most anxiety. And then, amazingly, we find that we aren't alone. And we find acceptance. And then we find that there is a long history of people who were like we were. Many south east Asian countries recognize more than one gender, which may be why you are able to find partners that fit your bill. Native Americans also recognized anywhere from two to five genders - and truly, did they expect those genders to be celebit? In ancient Greece, there was the concept of eromenos - specifically love between two men. Yet, we change that in our translations today. Patroculus becomes Achilles' cousin instead of his companion.
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As a very strong woman, who is the buck in her life that has to stop everything in her family's life, it's damn tiring to always be on top. I totally get wanting to have someone else drive, even if it is just for a little while. I find that I crave it sexually as well (which is a topic for another thread!)
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Hope this helps

Very well said!

 

[Mike130]

There really are so many awesome responses on this thread and the whole board. This really is some site. Maybe there’s trolls but the interesting people out number them in droves - unlike most other places.

All of these responses have me thinking another way…why did I write this and some of the other threads I started (and why did I write the responses to other people’s threads). I have my own theories and I really do just do me! As I said, I love my wife so I’m totally not interested in sex with anyone else but I’ll start there:

1) It’s clearly a sexual outlet without cheating
2) It’s such a thrill to confess - like total cock tingling thrill to tell other humans that I’ve sucked cock and been fucked
3) I definitely want to explore and hear other’s thoughts on what turns me on, from a psychological and just general perspective. I particularly like to hear people’s take on whether an attraction to transsexuals and dicks but not to men is homosexual, Hetero or in-between. I also like to hear their take on if it’s related to my IR and cuck obsession and other submissive fantasies, and how this relates to my alpha personality and man’s man face I show to the world. I particularly want to hear from women, even more of a thrill!
4) I thought I would and succeeded in finding others with similar thoughts and have some good chats. Maybe find erotic pen pals, especially women that want to humiliate me over email.
5) like I said, I succumb to societal pressure and don’t talk about this with anyone I know, but I don’t regret it. So I guess I just like to rail in society’s ridiculous judgement of who others like to fuck and/or how!

I never thought much about cock until reading some stories on Lit myself. I’ve never had an experience with another man. Would I? I’m not really attracted to men sexually but I think cocks are sexy. Maybe as a disembodied sex organ to suck on. Maybe covered with a wife’s juices. That seems pretty hot. Maybe a beautiful trans girl? Also hot.

Like someone mentioned already on this thread, there are many different forms of sexuality, not just homo or heterosexual behavior. The old adage applies: If it feels good, do it!