Is B and D just a sex thing, or is it a relationship thing too?

[mistyone]

Hello there. I'm not in the scene, although I'm curious, and I do have fantasies that lean that way. Sometimes I have fantasies of being dominated in sex, but would bristle at the idea of anyone pushing me around in a relationship or day to day life. So I was just wondering if people are subs in all aspects of their relationships, or is it just in the bedroom? Do people even have bf/gf relationships or is it commonly just a sex thing? And if it is do you have "normal" relationships with other people?

Just curious,

Thanks.

That title's wrong. I meant Dom/Sub not Bondage and Discipline.

im a sub from birth..but found i have a% that is Domme which is a conflict for sure

 

[s_red830]

So I was just wondering if people are subs in all aspects of their relationships, or is it just in the bedroom? Do people even have bf/gf relationships or is it commonly just a sex thing? And if it is do you have "normal" relationships with other people?

It's both, of course, depending on who you talk to. But you've heard that already.

I have to say, though, I bristled a bit when you asked if we have "normal" relationships with other people... but the rest of your post sounded perfectly polite, and I trust that you didn't mean to offend. But for the record, I think I have average relationships with people... I'm quite obviously a more dominant person. But I don't think that it's especially clear that I'm into BDSM, especially because I don't mind being submissive every so often in front of my superiors and my friends.

And is it mostly women that are subs to men? Why is that?

In my experience (which, mind you, is quite limited), this is true. I'm not sure why, really, but I do know that there is a very large submissive male population out there, as Netzach said. I have my own theories on this, but given that I don't have much experience, they aren't very valid.

~Red.

 

[Etoile]

professional Dominatrices

You spelled the plural of "dominatrix" correctly. I am madly, wildly in love with you. Please tell me there's room in your life for a femme sub grrl.

 

[myinnerslut]

You spelled the plural of "dominatrix" correctly. I am madly, wildly in love with you. Please tell me there's room in your life for a femme sub grrl.

LOL

(damn minumun character requirement wouldnt let me post just "lol")

 

[Nightjak]

It's very interesting the level of the D\s relationships can take, especially if you have more than one sub. Some require a total domination of their lives, such as in "The Secretary". Most Dom\Dommes that I know don't want make EVERY decision in a persons life. I had one sub that I took under my care that needed constant tending and it can be very trying; controling every aspect of their world, but I digress. Others are just in it for a bit of rough sex and couple of bite marks
If you do find that you may want to try this lifestyle you must figure out where you fit in, Dom, sub, total control, kink, and how much of your life are you willing to dedicate to it.

 

[human_male]

I have to say, though, I bristled a bit when you asked if we have "normal" relationships with other people...

That's why I put it in quotes.

 

[s_red830]

That's why I put it in quotes.

Ah, gotcha.

 

[Zinfandel]

I can't figure out how to quote text, and I'm sorry for posting on something that is somewhat off-topic, but this:

"I also find being in charge of people professionally a nightmare. I hate taking orders and I *hate* giving them more."

is something I understand COMPLETELY. Why is it that a promotion always seems to mean being put in charge of more and more people? I am great at project management, and great at casually directing people that are working on my projects by directing the work itself... but I *hate* people management, and I suck at it, royally.

 

[FurryFury]

I can't figure out how to quote text, and I'm sorry for posting on something that is somewhat off-topic, but this:

"I also find being in charge of people professionally a nightmare. I hate taking orders and I *hate* giving them more."

is something I understand COMPLETELY. Why is it that a promotion always seems to mean being put in charge of more and more people? I am great at project management, and great at casually directing people that are working on my projects by directing the work itself... but I *hate* people management, and I suck at it, royally.

I hate being in charge of people but even as a stay home mom, hell even as a child I always have been.

Now for quoting, see the blue quote button in the bottom right hand of each post? Click on it and you have quotes which you can actually edit if you wish to. Hehehe. You can also use [] and put the word Quote= with a name (let's say ballsshesaid) inside it before some words and [/] with quote behind the slash and before the ]. Below is a test to see if I am talking out of my ass or not.

"Balls, balls," said the Queen, "if I had them I'd be King!"

Fury

 

[Zinfandel]

Thanks Fury!