Is part of a fetish the feeling of shock at your own behavior?

[Wonderer67]

Maybe a bit surprised….

Not a fetish, but more of a kink. BDSM when I first got into it in the 90s, I was like “this is weird” but I didn’t find it shocking. Just a different form of sexual expression. I enjoyed it with a gf I had back then and she taught me many things.

The only thing that maybe bordered on shock was the first time my wife gave me a golden shower. It turned me on intensely. I recall telling her, there’s no way in a million years that I would have thought that:
A) I would do this and
B) That I found it so erotic and arousing.
C) I really enjoyed it

It’s not something that we do every day, but when we do I get CRAZY hard without her stimulating me at all.
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The same goes for orgasm denial. For most of my sexual life cumming was the final act. But when we started having my orgasm controlled by my wife it changed our whole sexual dynamic.

It’s always taken me a long time to cum. Usually a good problem to have, but now I cum every few weeks. We have plenty of sex and it’s wonderful. I just slow down, stop, cool down when I’m close. Sometimes I edge inside her.

We have marathon sex sessions that last up to 1.5 hrs sometimes. We’ve gone longer.

And when she allows me to cum, the ejaculations are always HUGE and INTENSE.

 

[Elle4u2use2]

I have a theory that part of a fetish’s power over us is by engaging in it we experience a feeling of shock at our own behavior.

For example, several posters have recounted how they went through their mother’s or sister’s lingerie drawers. Surely part of the arousal is the shock at one’s own daring behavior, “I can’t believe I’m doing this!”

I think it’s probably like that for other fetishes, acts like sucking a woman’s toes must be shocking to see one’s self doing that.

I was tryna be a good girl and avoid this site but here I am, in the dark, up early, slowly grinding on teddy, reading all these dirty messages that I like..... I cant believe Im doing this AGAIN

 

[ReallyRandyReader]

I was tryna be a good girl and avoid this site but here I am, in the dark, up early, slowly grinding on teddy, reading all these dirty messages that I like..... I cant believe Im doing this AGAIN

But you were missed
Your over-powering lustful needs that you have to fulfil are so arousing to others

 

[Oralexplorer]

I was tryna be a good girl and avoid this site but here I am, in the dark, up early, slowly grinding on teddy, reading all these dirty messages that I like..... I cant believe Im doing this AGAIN

Ohh please just give in to the need of your pleasure, why resist it.