Is there a Sex Act, Fetish, and/or Kink that turns you off? Or you just don't get? (This will exclude any discussion related to Minors or Violence)

One issue for me is pain; receiving it is not a turn on for me and causing it (even something as simple as spanking) is a struggle for me.

Another is being peed on, the hygiene aspect as well as the clean up afterwards is not something that excites me. However, watching a woman do that outside, such as in the backyard or out for a hike, can be arousing for me.

Nonconsensual in a fictional sense (aka a movie, tv show, book, scripted porn, hentai, etc) I am ok with and can be turned on by it but not an act of real nonconsensual sex.
I personally I don’t care for…
Scat (shit)
Snuff, Torture, Inflicting extreme pain
Piss
Degradation

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Question 1:
Feet fetish doesn’t necessarily turn me off. If a woman asked me to suck on her toes, I’d do it to make her happy. I just don’t get the aggressive arousal to feet. It’s so bad many women have to pixilate images of their feet, to avoid being put on some site list.

Baby talk creeps me out. Adults either talking like they’re very young or talking as if they are talking to the young makes my skill crawl. Such as hearing a grown woman say pee-pee when they mean dick. So much cringe.

Pee/scat really turn me off. Intensely bad smells make me feel physically ill.

Racial fetishization makes me uncomfortable. Nothing against interracial. Just don’t like hearing racial/bigoted slurs or implying anyone is superior or inferior to one another.

Cuckolding is a real mixed bag. The problem with the fetish is it’s normally based on someone’s unwitting humiliation and treats women like animals. Such as the son’s bully stories. That a woman would be a willing participant in their child’s abuse just because the bully fucks her. It’s deeply misogynistic.
Only time I’ve enjoy the theme was when it was more a woman getting revenge on a cheating, neglectful, or abusive husband. In that sense, the woman is in control and there is a sense of justice behind the action.

Question 2:
Anal is one of those things some people live by. I’m mainly just alright with it. It’s something I’ll do it if asked, but I’ll always choose pussy, oral, titty fuck, and handjobs before that. Maybe more into anal if a woman had a very sexy ass like Violet Myers or Bella Bellz.

Question 3:
Family play excites me as a fantasy but not something I tell a partner early on in a relationship. Always worried they might think it’s a real world fetish. It’s pure fantasy and no attraction to real family. I’m turned on by the fantasy of crossing forbidden lines.

Rough sex is erotic but should only be done with someone you seriously trust. You have to also talk about hard lines and safe words. It requires aftercare when the sex is over. A gentle massage and kissing.
Never treat your partner roughly outside of the sex.
 
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Everything about pee turns me on lately. And pee with bondage and playful spanking… I’m close to cumming just thinking about it. Pee in my ass and I’ll love you forever.
I really don’t know if I could relax enough to pee while giving anal, maybe I’d have to be really desperate to pee…. I’d be willing to try.

A scene I’ve always wanted to play with is having a woman naked, reclined and sores while desperate to pee and holding while I tap her clit and open lips with a crop, imagine the splashing when she fails to hold….
 
I really don’t know if I could relax enough to pee while giving anal, maybe I’d have to be really desperate to pee…. I’d be willing to try.

A scene I’ve always wanted to play with is having a woman naked, reclined and sores while desperate to pee and holding while I tap her clit and open lips with a crop, imagine the splashing when she fails to hold….
See, all of this sounds like fun to me... Especially opening up just before failure... But then... Lately, I keep wondering if I'd want to have pee play IRL. It's always been a really controlled thing. When it happened to me the first time, we were in the shower (and I was NOT into it), but literally decades later its emerged as this thing I crave, probably because of the taboo. But still controlled and almost entirely solo where I've extra diluted (drinking 48oz of water diluted), or in the shower... wherever I can feel clean and tidy. I feel like it's the LAST thing I'd want to try in a new relationship, and only if the other person was super into it.

IDK. Just a reality check on my fantasy seems in order.
 
See, all of this sounds like fun to me... Especially opening up just before failure... But then... Lately, I keep wondering if I'd want to have pee play IRL. It's always been a really controlled thing. When it happened to me the first time, we were in the shower (and I was NOT into it), but literally decades later its emerged as this thing I crave, probably because of the taboo. But still controlled and almost entirely solo where I've extra diluted (drinking 48oz of water diluted), or in the shower... wherever I can feel clean and tidy. I feel like it's the LAST thing I'd want to try in a new relationship, and only if the other person was super into it.

IDK. Just a reality check on my fantasy seems in order.
Cleanup definitely becomes a consideration IRL , but I’d play through anyone’s fantasy as long as cleanup wasn’t too difficult
 
AS I age , i find some restriction i used to have has pass-by my objections . I tend now to follow the lead and comment of my partner and have noticed their enjoyment if different thing has expanded. I still am not a fan of bestialities in general. Anything that has the potential of body injury and permanent scaring . to other things it would fall under the safe word for me as will as her
 
What I find fascinating about Sex Acts, Fetishes, and/or Kinks is how one person will find something to be a complete turn on. While the same Sex Act, Fetish, and/or Kink will be a complete turn off to someone else. This thread relates to what turns you off.

I have three questions related to what turns you off.
(These question will exclude Anything associated with minors or unwanted violence to another. I'm not a person who flags things, but I will flag anything associated with these two topics.)

Question One:
What is a Sex Act, Fetish, and/or a Kink that turns you off? That you don't understand or it just doesn't do a thing for you?
(This isn't just singular it is plural. It could include a list of turn offs)

Question Two: Is there a Sex Act, Fetish, and/or Kink that didn't turn you on but you participated in it because your partner liked it?
(I'm assuming it didn't go against your morals or values. You just didn't like it but you did it for your partner. Even after engaging in this act, fetish, or Kink you still didn't understand why it was a turn on for your partner)

Question Three: Do you enjoy a Sex Act, Fetish, and/or Kink that most people would cringe at or bluntly dislike?

What I mean by Sex Act-Any sexual activity that isn't a Fetish or a Kink

Definition of a Fetish-a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs.

Definition of a Kink-unconventional sexual taste or behavior
I'm not into pain or bondage. Also, feet don't jazz me at all.
Nipple play with another man. Did it once because he got off, but I don't get it.
Most probably will find this. disgusting but I love watching a woman shit. Not into scat eating or smearing but watch an asshole open up and make a mess gets me so horny. Also I like to be watched and love receiving an enema from a woman who likes it also. Any sex has to be totally consensual or it not for me
 
Question One: What is a Sex Act, Fetish, and/or a Kink that turns you off? That you don't understand or it just doesn't do a thing for you?
(This isn't just singular it is plural. It could include a list of turn offs)
I don’t get the dom/sub, slave, adult baby, goddess, etc. stuff. Role playing is one thing, but this kind of stuff seems to bleed over into the rest of one’s life.

I also don’t get the appeal of scat or pee play.
Question Two: Is there a Sex Act, Fetish, and/or Kink that didn't turn you on but you participated in it because your partner liked it?
That has not happened yet.
Question Three: Do you enjoy a Sex Act, Fetish, and/or Kink that most people would cringe at or bluntly dislike?
I’m sure a lot of them would… even aside from FFM and mmf, there’s CFNM, I’m open to being with trans women, and I am willing to admit that if the right circumstance happened and it felt right at the time, in an Mmf I might engage with the other male too. Im trying to keep an open mind these days and realize that in the heat of the moment I might try something I’d never considered before.
 
Question One: What is a Sex Act, Fetish, and/or a Kink that turns you off? That you don't understand or it just doesn't do a thing for you?

Not into any kind of piss or scat. Had an ex who brought up the whole golden shower thing. Not happening.
Also, foot fetish I don't get it.


Question Two: Is there a Sex Act, Fetish, and/or Kink that didn't turn you on but you participated in it because your partner liked it?

I'm rather well endowed, and I had a different ex that liked to fuck my breasts. I don't mind doing it, but it doesn't really do anything for me. My enjoyment is a function of pleasing him not of anything I like.

Question Three: Do you enjoy a Sex Act, Fetish, and/or Kink that most people would cringe at or bluntly dislike?

This is probably kind of selfish, and maybe contradictory with the first question, but rimming. I love to receive, but won't give. The ex mentioned in question 2 and I had just taken a nice naughty shower. I was standing by the bed drying off when he bent me over from behind. I thought he was going for my pussy, but he started rimming me and I came so fast I wouldn't have thought it possible. We sort of settled into an unspoken agreement. He got a nice, wet soapy tittyfuck in the shower and I got his tongue in my ass afterwards. Everybody is a winner. ;)
 
Humiliation. While I get that it's a thing that some people need, it just isn't for me (giving or especially receiving). Seems to me that if it's genuinely part of a meaningful relationship then it can only be play acting, because who would want to degrade and humiliate somebody they genuinely cared for? Maybe I'm not as kinky as I think I am but I kinda think sex should be empowering and liberating for both partners. I feel there are ways to talk dirty without using degrading terms and ways to fuck dirty without it feeling like rape.

Other than that. Poop, no thanks.
 
Humiliation. While I get that it's a thing that some people need, it just isn't for me (giving or especially receiving). Seems to me that if it's genuinely part of a meaningful relationship then it can only be play acting, because who would want to degrade and humiliate somebody they genuinely cared for? Maybe I'm not as kinky as I think I am but I kinda think sex should be empowering and liberating for both partners.
I agree 100%. It’s a huge turnoff for me if someone is into that. I don’t get the whole dom/sub thing either, for much of the same reasons you list above.
 
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If you mean the balloons have at it, the pictures are all typical porn just with lots of colorful balloons around and maybe in the air and stuff it’s tame and fine but arouses no emotion in me at all.

If you mean sounding, please spare yourself. I still get queasy when it randomly shows up in whatever shitty little porn video I’m watching.
 
1 - Scat, humiliation, spit (swapping spit as a by product when kissing is fine, spitting as in porn is gross), feet, violence (some BDSM is fine), cross dressing men, ladyboys and probably trans women (I'm cool with trans people - my ex wife and I were very happy to pay for our daughter's transition and we have been the first people that others have come out to, but one of our other kids is non-binary and I've spent too much time with their friends who are endlessly obsessing about gender identity), unhealthy body types, eating your own cum, racism (the way many people approach "BBC" is gross IMHO), and moronic sexist men who think of women merely as something to "pound".

2- Nope, because so far nothing on List 1 has come up, so if they enjoy it I enjoy it because I love their pleasure.

3- I haven't done much with guys but I'd like to do more, especially if my wife was involved, and we have an open relationship. The average person may cringe at that (although many would secretly want to try them). I'm also open to watersports and really enjoyed the only time I got pegged.
 
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“Sounding”, Feces are ones that turn me off - one I don’t get is the balloon fetish.
Thanks for the reminder, same here. I get a visceral "ick, NO" whenever I see it.

Now I'm on it, I also don't get CBT or SPH and if I see somebody's into either it's an instant ignore. I like penises undamaged and proudly erect.
 
Off the top of my head: Feces, urine, pain, dirty “insert clothing item”, cruelty, smoking, Nazi costumes/anything, whipping/caning/anything that leaves damage, anything not done from a position of consensual love or respect (love not required to have sex).
 
🤔 I like a lot of kinks but I don’t feel I get extreme about most of them.

I don’t like pain, except for spanking.
I don’t like pee unless we’re in the shower.
I’m squicked out by poop but so love anal.
I’m not into degradation, but I love being used hard as a fuck toy.
I don’t like vanilla gender role expectations, but I’ll play either side earnestly.
 
A couple that I just don't understand , but to each their own!
!. Men wearing dippers acting like babies.. Do they poop also ? Who changes the dipper?
2. running around dressed as a horse with harness hooked up on him. Do they act like cows also?

I respect your right to do this but ??????????????????????/
 
🤔 I like a lot of kinks but I don’t feel I get extreme about most of them.

I don’t like pain, except for spanking.
I don’t like pee unless we’re in the shower.
I’m squicked out by poop but so love anal.
I’m not into degradation, but I love being used hard as a fuck toy.
I don’t like vanilla gender role expectations, but I’ll play either side earnestly.
great frame of mind !!! Well Done
 
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