Isolated BDSM Blurts: Facehugger Fetish

[seela]

That part isn’t totally uncommon, in my experience. It’s usually from people who are at least a bit older than me.
Like J, I do like to use my deadpan look, served with ice as needed.

Following it up like she did is a bit weird, but bringing it back up again later and with J and talking about ”serviceing other ladies” is definitely crossing into weird territory and a clear case of ”That’s a bit to private for me”.
Any chance it could have been a clumsy, jokeing way of asking him to get her a glass of wine too?
Still weird and rude, but not really in the same way.


It’s a bit difficult when you feel the need to ”defend” your man from other women who are crossing a line. I mean, I found it hard to even find the words for that sentence.

Your story kind of made me remember when I first brought Mr Althea with me to my fathers country, to meet family there.
We were at a party at my aunt’s and one of the ladies went on and on to me about what a catch I made and how goodlooking and tall and blond and on and on…
I felt it was over the top already, but I always liked her and just smiled and let it be.
Later he came to me and was confused about what to do with the boisterous, rather drunk redhead who outrageously flirted with him to the point of actually pinching his ass.
Sadly I have to report that 20 year old Iris had no idea how to help him, beyond sticking to him like glue for the rest of the evening, despite the fact that my teen age years were a veritable boot camp for learning to deal with roving hands and setting boundaries without attracting attention.
I’m still not sure I’d come up with a better solution, because the reversed genders confuse me.

The reversed genders really confused me, too. I have spoken up before when I’ve seen a man act inappropriately towards a woman and once when I saw a woman act inappropriately towards another woman, but never when it’s been a woman acting inappropriately towards a man.

I must not be very good at noticing when it happens with reversed genders, because this was the first encounter I remember, anyways. And I’ve definitely not had to defend J before. Good thing it hasn’t happened more often, because clearly I’m crap at defending him.

I’d guess the woman was in her 50s. I really don’t know if she was just really bad at joking or what, but the whole situation was majorly uncomfortable.

And poor Mr Althea! It must have been extra awkward for you both, considering it was a family member.

You are focusing on a singular event because of the temporal proximity. She sat down next to you on purpose, whether he was going to get wine or not. She was watching your relationship dynamics the second you entered the room. Right cues, wrong interpretation - she interpreted the cues of freedom and control you have as a power dynamic between you two. The wine was a catalyst, not a trigger.

Then again, I can just make up stuff in my mind, who knows.

Hmm. She arrived after we did. What she saw when she entered the room was me sitting next to J doing duolingo and J talking to the host. I don't think there was a whole lot to interpret there.

 

[IrisAlthea]

And poor Mr Althea! It must have been extra awkward for you both, considering it was a family member.

Old family friend, but yeah awkward because I really liked her and her husband and because it wasn’t the place to make a scene.
At a bar or a club it doesn’t phase me one bit to tell someone to keep their hands to themselves.

Extra difficult for Mr Althea because it’s difficult with cultural differences where you don’t quite know the rules and how you are expected to behave.

Good thing it hasn’t happened more often, because clearly I’m crap at defending him.

Well, I don’t know how much you read about our #metoo drama around Jean-Claude ”Klådan” Arnault?
He couldn’t even keep his hands off Princess Victoria, but because he was the partner of the poet Katarina Frostenson and by association connected to The Swedish Academy/Nobel Prize, the solution was to have her Secret Service people make sure they stayed between him and the princess at all times.
If that’s what the court came up with, I think we stumble along ok.

Blurt:
I see zombie threads!

 

[Primalex]

He couldn’t even keep his hands off Princess Victoria

My spirit animal.

 

[IrisAlthea]

She was watching your relationship dynamics the second you entered the room. Right cues, wrong interpretation - she interpreted the cues of freedom and control you have as a power dynamic between you two

I was considering starting a thread about that, but I’m not feeling coherent enough.

That does happen at times - people looking from the outside, interpreting things they pick up and sometimes getting it confused.
It can be both about what you see in a person and about relationship dynamics.

 

[Primalex]

Time as adult: 3 decades
Bodycount: 11*
Of which were single: 2
In love**: 3 times
Women married: 1
Women buried: 1

* including non-PIV encounters
** would have said "yes" to a proposal

 

[IrisAlthea]

I’m not much of a helicopter parent, but damn there are some things I’d really like to shield them from.

 

[Primalex]

Not enough naked Swedish girls celebrating the NATO accession.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Not enough naked Swedish girls celebrating the NATO accession.

Is it cause for celebration?
I find it hard to answer that question myself, so I’m really asking.

For me it feels like more like A Nice Day For a White Wedding:

Hey little sister, what have you done?
Hey little sister, who's the only one?
Hey little sister, who's your Superman?
Hey little sister, who's the one I want?
Hey little sister, shotgun
… Oh, it's a nice day to start again
Come on, nice day for a white wedding day
Ooh yeah, a nice day to start again
… Hey, little sister, what is it you wish?
Hey, little sister, what's your vice or wish?
You see, I've been away for so long (so long)
I let you go for so long (so long)
Hey, little sister, shotgun
… Oh, it's a nice day to start again
Well, a nice day for a white wedding day
Ooh yeah, a nice day to start again
Yaw!
.
.
.
… There ain't nothin' fair in this world
There ain't nothin' sure in this world
There ain't nothin' safe in this world
There ain't nothin' pure in this world
I look for something left in this world
… I said, start again
Come on, it's a nice day for a white wedding, aw!
Ooh yeah, a nice day to start again

 

[Primalex]

Is it cause for celebration?
I find it hard to answer that question myself, so I’m really asking.

Number of NATO-members that had to defend their country from a war of aggression the last 75 years: 0

 

[IrisAlthea]

Number of NATO-members that had to defend their country from a war of aggression the last 75 years: 0

Yup.
There are things to be said for good and strong allies.
And I’ve never bought the argument
”they’ll defend us anyway because of our location” - I mean, congratulations on being a leach I guess?

On the other hand, last time Sweden did fight a war was in 1814 and Sweden was the aggressor.
That is a lot of generations of Swedes who have never had to go to war.
Some have anyway and men around my age and older had to do military service, but those are both different from having to go to war, let alone going to war for a country you have absolutely no say in.

Yes, I know I have trust issues.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Dear Instagram,
I’d like to know why you thought this would be a good content to recommed for me?
Hrmpf!

 

[y=mx+b]

Dear Instagram,
I’d like to know why you thought this would be a good content to recommed for me?
Hrmpf!
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I mean I can't speak for you, but the logic of the statement seems sound. I'd settle for wealthy. Don't really need to be successful.

 

[IrisAlthea]

I mean I can't speak for you, but the logic of the statement seems sound. I'd settle for wealthy. Don't really need to be successful.

It’s absolutely valid, but still a bit ”Hrumph!”.
I mean, I might claim the Rebel Circus label quite volontarily but don’t come and paste it on me just like that, Instagram!

And yeah, wealthy is better insurance against other peoples opinions and meddling.
Poor but respectable and proud, might be heroic and romantic but not nearly as fun as rich, eccentric aunt, I think.

 

[IrisAlthea]

This picture wouldn’t leave me alone and falls somewhere between making me smile and making me sad, so it goes here.

 

[seela]

I’ve solved (or tried to solve) the NYT crossword every day for about 7 years and now I finally googled what the hell cwt is. I only knew it’s some weight thing that sometimes appears in crosswords and I’ve learned to plug in those random letters without ever learning what they really mean.

Well, now I know what those three little letters mean, and all I can do is let out a deep sigh of disappointment and disbelief. Again. Get your units synced, UK and US!!! Ridiculous.

 

[BiBunny]

I’ve solved (or tried to solve) the NYT crossword every day for about 7 years and now I finally googled what the hell cwt is. I only knew it’s some weight thing that sometimes appears in crosswords and I’ve learned to plug in those random letters without ever learning what they really mean.

Well, now I know what those three little letters mean, and all I can do is let out a deep sigh of disappointment and disbelief. Again. Get your units synced, UK and US!!! Ridiculous.

I had to Google it, too, to find out what it is. Boy, is that stupid.

 

[seela]

I had to Google it, too, to find out what it is. Boy, is that stupid.

Yes! I had the same reaction to that that I had when I learned about ounces and fluid ounces. How hard would it be to come up with a different name for one of them? Or at least have them be the as big in UK and US?

Imperial and US units are confusing enough without weird traps like that.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Yes! I had the same reaction to that that I had when I learned about ounces and fluid ounces. How hard would it be to come up with a different name for one of them? Or at least have them be the as big in UK and US?

Imperial and US units are confusing enough without weird traps like that.

Yup, some very weird units in those parts of the world:

 

[Supplyanddemand]

Last year, when I was in charge of two slaves I noticed something interesting. There was sometimes a degree of competition, a fight for attention between the two.
I used to play on this,sometimes. For example when performing oral I used get one to watch and one suck. Then swap over. I used to ask them critique the others technique and then repeat. I would then select a winner and the loser would get punished.
It would be a regular training exercise and a useful tool for controlling them.

 

[y=mx+b]

Are you reading this?

A good crush would be
I like to think of you as a good crush

Sneaking around
Following me

Thinking and hoping that maybe
--just maybe
What I am thinking
--feeling
--writing

Is about you
--and for you

This one is



Just as the others were






I am thinking of you
--and about you

But in spite
I'll never tell you

And in spite of having just said
--I deny this is about you

I don't want to feel the soft flesh of your breast
Against my lips

I don't think about it
--not when we talk
--not when I see the images of you that others see just as well

You are invisible to me
You don't register

You are over there--
--trying


...and I like it


I like how you try


I imagine how you'd look up at me
--if we were to ever meet

I imagine how I'd want you
--and want to fall in love with you

And how I'd take pleasure not telling you
--or showing you

But giving you maybe
--just a little bit

A softening of my eyes
--or a touch of your hand

My fingers
Gliding outside
Along the length
Between your wrist and pinky

Telling you how I want to hold it
As we walked and talked

And pulling away
Once you reached for me


You would be fun


Because you are fun

I imagine feeling myself
Give my orgasm to you
Would cause me to feel myself
Fall in love with you
And find myself wanting you all the more

It would be beautiful
--I would feel whole

With me on you
--in you
We would feel complete
Time would stop
--and I'd write about you forever.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

Are you reading this?

A good crush would be
I like to think of you as a good crush

Sneaking around
Following me

Thinking and hoping that maybe
--just maybe
What I am thinking
--feeling
--writing

Is about you
--and for you

This one is



Just as the others were






I am thinking of you
--and about you

But in spite
I'll never tell you

And in spite of having just said
--I deny this is about you

I don't want to feel the soft flesh of your breast
Against my lips

I don't think about it
--not when we talk
--not when I see the images of you that others see just as well

You are invisible to me
You don't register

You are over there--
--trying


...and I like it


I like how you try


I imagine how you'd look up at me
--if we were to ever meet

I imagine how I'd want you
--and want to fall in love with you

And how I'd take pleasure not telling you
--or showing you

But giving you maybe
--just a little bit

A softening of my eyes
--or a touch of your hand

My fingers
Gliding outside
Along the length
Between your wrist and pinky

Telling you how I want to hold it
As we walked and talked

And pulling away
Once you reached for me


You would be fun


Because you are fun

I imagine feeling myself
Give my orgasm to you
Would cause me to feel myself
Fall in love with you
And find myself wanting you all the more

It would be beautiful
--I would feel whole

With me on you
--in you
We would feel complete
Time would stop
--and I'd write about you forever.

I see you haven't lost your way with words.

 

[seela]

Sometimes I really miss casual sexy talk.

 

[seela]

My favorite duck is dead.

 

[Tallcajun]

My favorite duck is dead.

I’m gonna need more than that…
I gots to know!

 

[seela]

I’m gonna need more than that…
I gots to know!

There was a particular duck I always looked out for when I walked to/from work and now it’s dead, so I can’t do that anymore.

It was a mallard, not a duck, but that’s besides the point.