Kissing and affection in scene

[intothewoods]

For subs:

When is it most necessary?

Do you enjoy it?



I love kissing, always.

I'm not sure it's ever necessary, but I like my kissing mostly on the rough and passionate side. I don't like a ton of kissing. Sweet, romantic kissing is nice in small doses.

I have no complaints re: my PYL on this score, which is amazing since I admit I am very finicky about kissing.

 

[Wolfspet]

In most cases, I find kissing to be distracting during sceneplay. I get non-reactive when I'm in deep subspace, but if I'm headed there, anyone who gets too close to my face can snap me out of it.

My owner likes to see me glaze over, so she avoids touching my face when we do a scene. There are plenty of other times to kiss.

 

[ecstaticsub]

When my Daddy and I are together there is no being in scene or out. It is all one continuous flow of activity that combines kissing and affection with humiliation and degration and tenderness and caresses with spankings and floggings and lots of sex both hard, forceful sex and slow sweet compassionate sex. Kisses are part of it all.

 

[rida]

For subs:

When is it most necessary?

Do you enjoy it?

When it comes to a D/s scene, I love them but are not necessary. Not before and not during. Perhaps a bit more after, during aftercare ... but even than I can do without.

I love kissing thou.

Been suddenly kissed rough in the middle of a scream it just blows me away.

Having my trembling lips kissed teasingly is maddening.

Been allowed to kiss him, his lips, his chest, his feet, his back, his everything, once the scene is over, is the best reward I can get.

 

[the captians wench]

It all depends on my partner for me.

There are two extreams I tend to lean towards, those who are absolutely "I am dom hear me roar" non emotional attachment non affectionate types, and those who are just as lovey dovey touchy feely as I am. I've never had any one in the middle ground.

For type A. kissing would not only distroy the scene, but distroy the relationship. These are guys that i only use for scenes and want no emotional connection to. I need to feel used and like I don't matter to them. Kissing kinda kills that.

Type B I'll kiss evey chance I get. With this type there is some sort of emotional connection whether it be romantic or just deep friendship. These men are important in my life, and so I need the affection to know that I'm important in their's.

 

[lilylicious]

How do you use it?

Do you?

In what circumstances?

Although in vanilla/romantic situations I LIVE for kissing, when I'm in Domme mode, I generally save it for after care. It just seems appropriate then.

I'm not in a romantic D/s relationship and I think that may have some impact on how and when I use kissing. In fact, in my very first scene I'll never forget him ASKING if he could kiss me and thinking, "Damn. I can't believe we haven't kissed." BTW - Him asking politely and earnestly was SO HOT!

 

[rida]

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I'm not in a romantic D/s relationship and I think that may have some impact on how and when I use kissing. In fact, in my very first scene I'll never forget him ASKING if he could kiss me and thinking, "Damn. I can't believe we haven't kissed." BTW - Him asking politely and earnestly was SO HOT!

I had a first play like that. No kissing. Not even much aftercare. And once we were all dressed I just had to ask permission to kiss him. My mind was blown away by the fact that I just had a scene, I had being naked, belted and fucked and not even kissed.

After that I've accepted that kissing is at his discretion. But he kiss me goodbye when he sends me home.

Interestingly, even when playing with Hubby, kissing rarely enter the scene, unless it is him taking it from me, a very rough and hard type of kissing. After the play thou, there is a lot of cuddling and kissing.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I've been thinking about this some more...I am in my fisr D/s relationship and it is a romantic, loving relationship. The thought of bottoming without sex, love and kissing is totally beyond my comprehension for me (I can understand why other get into it though)

Kissing during play is a way of communication. After ATM, or piss play or something humiliating having him kiss me reassures me that even though I am doing something so nasty he still respects and loves me. The kiss keeps me on the sane side of that tightrope during humiliation play that without it I might tip over to a crying, defeated, zero self esteem, horrid mess. It is what make humiliation play hot, intense exciting play instead of abuse..for me.

 

[Wolfspet]

My mind was blown away by the fact that I just had a scene, I had being naked, belted and fucked and not even kissed.

Now, see, that's hot.

I love kissing, would like to do more of it. I love biting, too. I am bitten far more than I am kissed. I think, to her, the bite IS a kiss.

 

[Homburg]

When my Daddy and I are together there is no being in scene or out. It is all one continuous flow of activity that combines kissing and affection with humiliation and degration and tenderness and caresses with spankings and floggings and lots of sex both hard, forceful sex and slow sweet compassionate sex. Kisses are part of it all.

This is a good description of how I tend to operate. I'm not one for defined scenes. I'm just as likely to grab the back of her neck, bend her over something handy, and just start.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Kissing and affection are very much a part of our scenes. Master really enjoys kissing, and so do I. I can't imagine as others have already said leaving that out.


dixi

And here I am 6 years later and I still stand by these words even though I call Him Daddy these days instead of Master at His suggestion. In scene or out we still love to kiss.

 

[ataxia.girl]

i like it in a scene more than out usually but i don't think i would notice if there was none. i might now as Daddy tends to kiss my face a lot while He is take me and likes me to kiss Him a lot so its becoming more central in my mind.

i don't usually like a lot of mouth on mouth, tongue kissing. Sometimes i get in the mood but not that often.

 

[Chiisai_Neko]

As I sub, I don't ever decide when anything is "necessary." I leave that up to my master to decide.

But, I can say that I do enjoy it a great deal. Luckily for me, my master does as well, so he includes it quite often in our activities.

 

[castagnus]

kissing

Love kissing - especially after mutual piss play, or during and after giving or receiving tongue baths.

 

[myinnerslut]

a kiss is not a kiss is not a kiss. on one end there is the soft and gentle "you've been a good girl and i am proud of you for doing all that" kiss. on the other end of the spectrum there is the harsh, powerful, claiming "this is my body, my mouth, and i will do to it what i want kiss". the one that is so powerful you almost cant breathe past it. and of course, there is everything in between. i think they all have their place somewhere.

 

[spndrft]

How do you use it?
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For subs:

When is it most necessary?

Do you enjoy it?

I love kissing, always.

with my PYL i do LOVE it... sometimes they are sweet, tender kisses, sometimes they are aggressive and biting, other times something else entirely... and, of course, sometimes they are not there at all.

partly the tender kisses are so sweet because of the intimacy and comfort of it, but they are sweetest in the middle of the roughest and most painful moments - the sudden contrast is priceless.

however, it is not necessary. it is not for reassurance. W/we both know what is between U/us... that is part of the beauty of it all.