Ladies Define the perfect Dom/daddy

[Netzach]

I can be, but I find it highly tiring.

Ah - good Daddy Dom = Not Netzach.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I can be, but I find it highly tiring.

Ah - good Daddy Dom = Not Netzach.

Bad Daddy sounds kind of hot, really. But then I am not looking for relationship.

 

[BiBunny]

Can I please have an Auntie or Uncle Stella and Netzach?

Pleaseandthankyou.

 

[sweepthefloor]

If he doesn't stress my neurons with talk of politics- he is perfect for me.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Can I please have an Auntie or Uncle Stella and Netzach?

Pleaseandthankyou.

Ahahaha, like this uncle
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFhO7EU08Tg

 

[BiBunny]

Ahahaha, like this uncle
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFhO7EU08Tg

...

 

[Licia]

Then what would be your ideal daddy/dom?

Only three men were given my submission, and all of them fall into the non sexy realm. My wiring would not tolerate any other sort of domination as it would be interpreted as condescending, presumptuous, and boring. As such, I fully realize I cannot function as a submissive, but I do understand the relationship.

One of the greatest things I was taught by the men whom I'd given my submission: emotions and concerns for those in your charge will naturally move you to seek out advice from those you respect and trust. Anyone who refuses is foolish and unworthy of their position, so fuck 'em. And... fuck 'em into sarcasm and ridicule because they actually believe they're perfect.

 

[Kajira Callista]

What is with all these girls with two daddies lately?

This I do not understand.

I'm just lucky I guess. They are both friends and I am their secret for reasons I can not discuss without killing you when I'm done.
The three of us lead very fast paced hectic lives and this thing we do seems to work perfectly.... that and of course KC is way too much for one Dom to handle! *Bats lashes*

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I enjoy these posts because they tell you little about Doms/Daddies and much about the respondents.

And perfect Doms/Daddies state the obvious.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

I enjoy these posts because they tell you little about Doms/Daddies and much about the respondents.

And perfect Doms/Daddies state the obvious.

Well I guess I might add to mine that someone who looks like that av pic would be quite perfect for me as well.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Well I guess I might add to mine that someone who looks like that av pic would be quite perfect for me as well.

Cool. I have a pulse, too. So I satisfy all your major requirements.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

Cool. I have a pulse, too. So I satisfy all your major requirements.

It really doesn't take much to keep me happy

 

[Kajira Callista]

I can be, but I find it highly tiring.

Ah - good Daddy Dom = Not Netzach.

I think you would be a wonderful Daddy

 

[Wannabe2012]

To me, personally, a Dom who is patient, kind, gentle, understanding, without unrealistic demands, supportive and encouraging.

 

[desertslave]

I have a Master, if that counts. Rather, he has me.

We are friends, lovers, husband and wife (kicking and screaming on my part LOL). He is good, genuine, honorable, competent, patient and has a wonderful sense of humor. He also throws a mean flogger, is romantic even if he won't admit it, knows how to push me just a little (or more) beyond where I think I can go. I trust him with my body and with my heart.

He might not be "perfect" in the all-encompassing sense, but he's perfect for me.

 

[Netzach]

I think you would be a wonderful Daddy

My "no more wire hangers" Mommy is so much better.

OK, staying on topic, I think "good" Daddies are consistent, relaxed, wicked, bring out and relish the playful side of their b/g/whomever and generally are not super uptight. I think they may sometimes fall down on it, but they're the kind of person you always know generally will call when they say they're going to call, do what they say they're going to do, show up when they say they're going to show. In short, everything a sperm donor asshole dad ain't.

This kind of thing is "good boyfriend material" in vanilla settings, but in Daddy/daddyfan relationships, I think there's an inner child element that really needs this.

I am neither consistent nor relaxed enough. Though my patience is an amazing thing to behold once I'm won over...hm.

 

[LadyVamp138]

I had the perfect Daddy once, he was:

-A little bit country (southern accent)
-Caring
-Dominating when need be
-Possessive yet attentive
-Mentally and physically attractive

Not perfect but he was damn near close.

 

[Kojote]

I kinda think of people and their traits as a list of ingredients. When you get together you both get dumped into a big pot & apply some heat and it makes a unique sort of soup. It is either pleasing to your palate or it is not. But each pairing is unique, that is what makes it such a wonder of discovery.

Are you doing that deliberately? Or is it just your way of thinking up metahpors, that happens to... blow my mind?

Can I please have an Auntie or Uncle Stella and Netzach?

Pleaseandthankyou.

Make that two!

I wanna hear the irrelevance...

And that four.

And count me as widely grinning here

1. Always has a ready supply of dark chocolate.
2. Knows how to mix the perfect martini.
3. Looks shockingly like Clive Owen.


There's probably more but those are the ones that came to mind first.

here

A rich one.

and here

A pulse is a great start and anything else is just a bonus

 

[rexhame317]

The perfect Dom/Daddy?

Patient.

I agree with this completely.

 

[Salenku]

A confidence that makes me want to watch them, listen to them. This could be innate, a part of the person, but sometimes I have been wrong.

The way they look at me. I need to see desire.

I want to feel the desire to be controlled. To be forced to submit or restrained if need be. SOME punishment, possibly, depending on the details.

To be looked after, held, and made to feel safe with caresses and kisses afterwards.

BUT in ANY relationship with me, of any kind, the following are essential: No really does mean no. I WILL make this clear. Mutual respect. This includes career, friends, hobbies. I will never try to restrict yours, you must not try to restrict mine, ever.

 

[KoPilot]

He's kind, smart, funny, and Canadian.

 

[rexhame317]

To me, personally, a Dom who is patient, kind, gentle, understanding, without unrealistic demands, supportive and encouraging.

Being new to this, I have to say this fits my requirements.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Back in the days when I might have been looking for a Dom, I would have wanted; someone playful and imaginative, who could tease me out of my pomposity-- Who had a sex drive just a little bit lower than mine, but not by much; who didn't try to pretend he was perfect.

And if I had met that guy, I hope he would have shared his topping skills with me, and been ready to let me move on once I became less interested in submission and more interested in asserting myself.

That's the kind of person I try to be.

 

[jewelz_diamondz]

Maybe not perfect...as I don't believe in perfect anything...but .... He is understanding, patient, kind, loving...a little devilish but it keeps me where I am at.

 

[hunnyblonde]

I haven't found myself active in the BDSM or D/s world in a long while, but I think that has given me a new perspective on my past Daddy/little girl relationship.

The distinction for me, which was not met in the past:

1. He loves me enough to never truly cause harm

and equally as important...

2. He isn't so desperately in love with me that he can't be hard, cold or cruel


The first requires a great deal of restraint on the part of the Daddy Dom, because leaving lasting marks (physical and emotional) is what drives many many men who find themselves in the D/s world. It can be a difficult and perilous line to walk, between inflicting the right kind of pain, and doing permanent damage.

The second is tricky, and a very different experience for every man. It's a "struggling with an inner-beast" kind of thing for many, I think. He loves her, he wants to care for her, spoil her, give her pleasure. And somewhere down inside him, there also is this growing monster that starts out as a quiet voice, but gradually grows to a loud roar, demanding her subjection and obedience and - to some extent - her suffering.

I maintain that being a Dom of any kind is a tough gig, and I wouldn't want it. But maybe that's because the compensation of a submissive girl's adoration isn't adequate for me. I can completely see how it would be for many though.