Lame girls of lit

[Nicenashguy615]

I met a super nice lady my age in here on my other profile. It’s online only but she’s turned out to be amazing. And she found me rather than the other way around. We’ve been having a lot of fun exchanging photos and fantasizing over what might happen someday. Even if I never actually meet her, she’s become the bright spot in my days.

In the past, I’ve been successful on Ashley Madison when guys complain there aren’t enough ladies. You get what you put into something and most guys go for quantity of communication over quality. Women seem to prefer quality.

I created this profile hoping to explore a Bi curiosity of mine. What I’ve found is that my inbox gets slammed with pushy guys. And while I clearly state what I’m searching for, I get lots of over the top messages from guys. So much that’s it’s made me wary to explore that curiosity.

It hit me immediately that what women go through here in Lit has to be hundred times worse. Calling them lame isn’t going to win them over.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Don't think there's that much difference with most guys. If they're online with dick in hand it's only going one way

You have clearly been jaded
I haven't reached that stage yet.
May get there, but not yet

 

[cdstefi]

Why girls on lit are very less responding?

My advice to you, @Fcker8620 is to change your mindset (and probably username, it's not helping) and treat Lit as a site where people like to talk about their sexy selves without necessarily wanting to hook up with randoms who put no effort in

 

[cdstefi]

You have clearly been jaded
I haven't reached that stage yet.
May get there, but not yet

After the first few "hru?" and "wanna fuck?" attempts (particularly when you've written a profile explicitly stating that one-liner come-ons are of zero interest) jaded is a normal state.

I'm actually not jaded really though. I remain optimistic when people put the effort in and the meets I've had, when they get past my dumbass filter, have been really nice and positive.

 

[Older_Pervert]

Maybe or maybenot

So how many messages did you get? It’s not the girls who are lame

 

[Britva415]

I am kind of new to all of this, so some of the more experienced might see things differently, but when I am posting, I get a lot of dm's from guys who want to chat. Their profile is usually empty, and if a guy's says anything in his message, it's like, "laid-back, 42yo, mwm." So at the end of the day it's just a lot of rando guys asking me to chat. There is not enough time in the day to chat with all of them, and there is no reason for me to pick one over the other. Many of them are very persistent, and it gets tiring and time-consuming constantly responding to so many messages. I do not like to be rude, but sometimes I have no choice but to ghost them.

Heh.

Not to say "lame guys of Lit" amirite

 

[LeaHaven]

Well imo it's better to be rude than to ghost.

Oh and saying something like "I don't have time today nor in the near future to pm with you" is not rude at all.

Ghosting is rude. That is why I don't like to do it. But after I've said "no thank you" a couple of times, what's the point in saying it again?

 

[LeaHaven]

Heh.

Not to say "lame guys of Lit" amirite

I am not saying they are lame, and seeing them that way would not be fair of me. I don't know the guys messaging me, and that is my point. They are probably wonderful people, but in a dm, they are just random guys. There is nothing for me to know why I might want to chat with any of them.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Ghosting is rude. That is why I don't like to do it. But after I've said "no thank you" a couple of times, what's the point in saying it again?

Well at that point it is best to put them on ignore.

Not sure but if a person is on ignore they shouldn't be able to message you any more

 

[FreckledSprite]

I thought this was going to be a picture thread of sexy girls in wheel chairs

Unfortunately, I was wrong.

I thought it would be calling out those of us who aren’t very friendly, specifically, by name. Sometimes I just want to be acknowledged for being rude to creeps who slide into my DMs.

 

[Britva415]

Well at that point it is best to put them on ignore.

Not sure but if a person is on ignore they shouldn't be able to message you any more

Did you mean to make this sound like an alternative to "ghosting?"

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Did you mean to make this sound like an alternative to "ghosting?"

Yes.
But with the added benefit of not seeing a notification popping up with that username attached ever again thus no guilt experienced from being "rude"

 

[Neeraj123djjhgg]

Maybe because you’re calling us lame? Just a thought

Omg babes

 

[cdstefi]

I am not saying they are lame, and seeing them that way would not be fair of me. I don't know the guys messaging me, and that is my point. They are probably wonderful people, but in a dm, they are just random guys. There is nothing for me to know why I might want to chat with any of them.

That's giving them maybe more credit than deserved. It reflects very well on you as a kind and thoughtful person, but IMHO if people can't even be bothered to establish some kind of faint connection e.g. in forum posts and replies before hitting the sexy DM button, are they really likely to be wonderful people?

 

[Hornymwtxn]

That's giving them maybe more credit than deserved. It reflects very well on you as a kind and thoughtful person, but IMHO if people can't even be bothered to establish some kind of faint connection e.g. in forum posts and replies before hitting the sexy DM button, are they really likely to be wonderful people?

Yes!

I prefer one on one banter.
I have a properly filled out profile.
I have met many a fine person and maintain those friendships even though all our interactions began as pm.

Plus I think I am kinda wonderful in my own way.

 

[LeaHaven]

Well at that point it is best to put them on ignore.

Not sure but if a person is on ignore they shouldn't be able to message you any more

I don't want to ignore them if that means I can't see their posts. I might actually be interested in what he has to say, but I don't know that when I get a random dm with no context. Plus, I can't blame a guy for trying. I guess bc I am new to all this, I can see that they do not know what it is like to get so many messages, and all of them are asking for the same thing. It's like having 100 people asking me to buy their product when I don't even know what their product is.

 

[LeaHaven]

That's giving them maybe more credit than deserved. It reflects very well on you as a kind and thoughtful person, but IMHO if people can't even be bothered to establish some kind of faint connection e.g. in forum posts and replies before hitting the sexy DM button, are they really likely to be wonderful people?

Thank you. Please see my response above to hornymwtxn

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I don't want to ignore them if that means I can't see their posts. I might actually be interested in what he has to say, but I don't know that when I get a random dm with no context. Plus, I can't blame a guy for trying. I guess bc I am new to all this, I can see that they do not know what it is like to get so many messages, and all of them are asking for the same thing. It's like having 100 people asking me to buy their product when I don't even know what their product is.

Yes.
BUT. If you are at the point of wanting to ghost them because of their persistence what are you really missing by placing on ignore?

And btw it it is really easy to reveal their individual posts without unignoring them.

See, I am a solutions guy

 

[Bi4Older84]

I created this profile hoping to explore a Bi curiosity of mine. What I’ve found is that my inbox gets slammed with pushy guys. And while I clearly state what I’m searching for, I get lots of over the top messages from guys. So much that’s it’s made me wary to explore that curiosity.

It hit me immediately that what women go through here in Lit has to be hundred times worse. Calling them lame isn’t going to win them over.

Being bi/exploring my bisexuality online has made me SO much more sympathetic to what women have to deal with online-and you're right, given the size of the pool of bi/curious guys, I can only imagine that it's a small fraction of the desperate, aggressive, misogynistic nonsense that women put up with.

 

[Broken_paladin]

I thought this was going to be a picture thread of sexy girls in wheel chairs

Unfortunately, I was wrong.

and I thought my kinks were weird

 

[LeaHaven]

I want to make sure people understand that I am talking about random chat in this thread, bc I have received a lot of dm's with unsolicited advice. But I just wrote the following response to a dm about that, and I want to share that reply out here.

"The unsolicited advice I have gotten on this website has been invaluable. If it had not been for the unsolicited advice, my marriage would still be in the awkward zone, I still would not know what an orgasm is, and our sex life would still be following a path to a slow, painful death. I now know from experience that a couple's sex life can affect their entire relationship."

Most, if not all of you, have legit experience in everything "relationship," especially sex, and your willingness to share that experience has turned my marriage around in a good way. Much of what I have been told are ideas I have never even heard of and I never would have thought of. At first, I thought most of you were totally weird, but out of desperation and curiousity, I gave some of that advice a try. It worked. I could tell in an instant. From then on, everything changed.

I am writing too much again. Sorry.

I have gotten a lot of help through these threads and dm's. I can't thank you enough for your advice.

 

[FataMorgana]

Why girls on lit are very less responding?

Cos you're a bit of a cunt?

 

[TwinkleStars]

Why girls on lit are very less responding?

You are on a literary site. Proper grammar, punctuation and spelling are key. The sentence you have posted here should have been, "Why are the girls on Lit not responding?"

The main reason they don't respond back is that none of us have to. There is no requirement for any of us, male or female, to respond to a private message. Calm down and try not to take this site so seriously. If you're looking for a hookup or phone sex there are plenty of others sites to please your desires. Good luck on here.

By the way, do not PM me.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I thought this was going to be a picture thread of sexy girls in wheel chairs

Unfortunately, I was wrong.

I thought the same thing.

 

[HollyS]

Why girls on lit are very less responding?

Because, if your thread title and post are representative, you're kind of an ass. Might have something to do with it.