Lame girls of lit

[lindi_85]

Ghosting is rude. That is why I don't like to do it. But after I've said "no thank you" a couple of times, what's the point in saying it again?

You’re not ghosting as far as I know. You’re further enforcing boundaries that aren’t being respected. When I first joined I’d respond to every single message and compliment and it became exhausting so I learned to respond only to names I knew and already interacted with (if I wanted to). I also looked at follows and followers if they had them and their profile.
You don’t owe anyone a response

 

[lindi_85]

Why girls on lit are very less responding?

1. The ratio of women to men on this site is massively disproportionate.
2. Many women who I interact with prefer making friends on the threads first (how people respond to banter and pictures can be very telling)
3. Most of us who are mums (I’m making an assumption and if I’m wrong ladies please correct me) really would prefer not to be in mum mode on here.
4. I smash that iggy button so fast when I see profiles like yours.
hope that helps

 

[LeaHaven]

You’re not ghosting as far as I know. You’re further enforcing boundaries that aren’t being respected. When I first joined I’d respond to every single message and compliment and it became exhausting so I learned to respond only to names I knew and already interacted with (if I wanted to). I also looked at follows and followers if they had them and their profile.
You don’t owe anyone a response

tbh, it is a only a very small percentage that are persistent, and no one has been rude. 95% are nice about it when I say I am not interested.

I never mind receiving messages, and I respond to every one, with the exception of those discussed. Sometimes I miss responding to messages, bc they come in big flurries and I lose track of them. (I lose track of which threads I have commented in, too!) I have ongoing chats on here, but none of them are "sex chats." They are discussions about sex, but they are not online sex. I have never done online sex before, but when guys try to go there, it feels really weird.