Let's hear your Voice! Part 2

I was thinking that after the recording but still went with the answer...they are connected I am considering it one unit

eva and most of us have two armpits...I am going to guess she would wash them both
LOOPHOLES!!!

You have to at least applaud the sharpness of the answer. And I can't argue, if we say body part, but you have two of them, I think it gets grandfathered in that yes, you can wash both.
 
What is your hypothetical prerequisite to meeting up with someone from Lit?

https://voca.ro/1nL21yBcxjnD

Well, I've been catfished on here. But I spotted it within a day, so she didn't get my money. So some of it has to do with really getting to know the person.

I would want very much to get to know the person in a manner that allows me to think of them as someone I know, as opposed to, person I am aware exists.

Like, we've been talking for a long while. Share interests, have discussed things, had lots of conversations, at minimum they think of me as a trusted friend. Someone we would want to meet and also, have a good time with, even if you meet them and the romantic or sexual chemistry isn't there, but you still end up having really good hang out sessions, or "dates", if you want to call them that after you've decided not to go there.

Voice and then video to verify this person exists, later, before meeting, not up front, not needed, just.... people can be very convincing actors and actresses, and a still image, you can get one of a pretty person anywhere.

It's different to have a voice call. It's different to briefly appear on camera with your face and say hi, and see, this is me I'm a real person and who I claim to be. Because flights are expensive and I want to know this person I'm talking to is the same person they've been representing themself to be.

"Trust, but verify", one of the actual phrases of wisdom from the 1980s, few that there were.

So in summary that's a friendship, a mutual desire to meet, like it shouldn't be a one way interest. The possibility of romance helps but this is a lonely world, it's not a requirement. I have had friends I would have traveled to meet and get to know in person, before. Minor verification this person is who they claim to be, and also, it helps to see their face and be okay with it. Because otherwise, you get there at the airport, have no clue what they look like, and then you meet and go..... oh. Instantly no attraction whatsoever, and possibly, no interest in being their friend now either (no judgments, I'm just saying... I've been treated that way before). And then it's a sad disappointing trip that could have been avoided and the money and time better spent elsewhere. And also no catfishing.

So it's a lot of prerequisites, actually, but. A really decent person and a potential friendship/relationship with that person, is always worth the effort.

But I applaud your approach. Anyone who turns that down is probably not worth getting to know, plus it helps people. A win-win.
 
What is your hypothetical prerequisite to meeting up with someone from Lit?

https://voca.ro/1nL21yBcxjnD
https://voca.ro/18hBukLSRjEV

To answer the question, since the voice recording did not answer it, my "hypothetical" prerequisite would be:
First, a sound clip or video clip to verify that the person is actually a woman. Low bar, but important.
Second, that we would know what the other looks like, recently, because I don't want them to imagine the wrong thing, and vice versa. Attraction is a personal thing. I'm not George Clooney. Women have found me attractive, but I don't expect everyone to. The last thing I want is for you to feel disappointment the first time you lay eyes on me because I showed you a 10 year old photo, or somehow misrepresented myself.
Third, that we have a phone or video call to establish that we have some "verbal chemistry." Even if it is just a meeting for casual fun, I want to know that the conversation will flow ok, and there won't be a lot of awkwardness.
Fourth, mutually assured safety. Neither of us should give up so much info that the other could steal our identity, but there are ways to keep it safe. Meet first in a public place. Maybe decide the first meeting won't be followed by sex. As a man, I am not worried about my physical safety, at least not in the way most women would be, and I trust my radar, but there is some risk. For example, I read in the news about some guys in Buckhead, Atlanta a few years ago that were getting drugged during pick-up situations in bars, then having their passwords, pins, etc taken and their bank accounts drained. So, I'm always going to have my radar up, checking for signs of things that don't line up or feel off.
 
Oh, I know… if I were living alone and bought my own peanut butter, I’d get theirs. But I live with my sister & her daughters and they’ll only eat Skippy. And we don’t have room for multiple peanut butters 😂
Seeing this post reminded me of when I was much younger living abroad and had hmm… relations with an American guy. The country didn’t have the stellar PB selection the guy was used to.

So he (in his early 40s) would have her mother send him four jars of smooth Skippy every other month. When I talked about him with my friends, I’d always call him Skippy instead of using his real name. 😂
 
Seeing this post reminded me of when I was much younger living abroad and had hmm… relations with an American guy. The country didn’t have the stellar PB selection the guy was used to.

So he (in his early 40s) would have her mother send him four jars of smooth Skippy every other month. When I talked about him with my friends, I’d always call him Skippy instead of using his real name. 😂
But was he chunky or smooth? That’s very important.
 
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