CharleyH
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Tathagata said:you are assuming that there is a " power struggle' in sex when, in fact, when sex is a spiritual union all things are equal.
the climax is a transcendental experience for both
where both parties go beyond the self
hopefully together
physically you can make the argument that it is the male who initiates the orgasm...but both parties have to be willing to abandon " this" reality, inhibitions etc and " join" in the act to achieve bliss.
to use a cliché' it is yin and yang combining to create the whole
the "whole" being the state of orgasm ie: the small death
where there is no male and female only the joined experience of togetherness , bliss, completeness etc etc.
as for s/m that is a whole different ball of wax where one person is completed by serving another
much like the priesthood or joining a monastery one surrenders ones self to another and in this submission once again abandons the self in order to be complete.
the samurai were bound to think nothing of giving up their life for the good of the master.
and there is the death theme again.
what greater gift can someone give than their life?
whether it be literal or symbolic, to give up ones self, ones desire for another is the ultimate intimacy.
so if the male lets himself be taken in by the female
joined and vulnerable
this is, no matter what, an act of acquiescence
and the female who takes this man in and opens to him
this also is an act of exposure
of vulnerability.
when its done right
no one has power
even in the s/m relationship
the submissive and the dom have equal power
the submissive must please the master
and the master must know what the submissive needs to be fulfilled
its been reduced to whips and chains and spankings
but in reality it is a delicate balance to keep all things equal
to maintain harmony
again
the yin and yang
I could go on about how humans are animals and animals are hierarchal, but I will leave that for now and get straight to your current sig line. Does not fear involve a power struggle, as Anais Nin points out, and quite beautifully that of a mother and child.
I don't necessarily believe a male initiates an orgasm. The female allows it - and this is a huge and general context. Yin and Yang are not yet joined, we can go back to the garden, and discuss Adam and Lilith joined, but warring. There are plenty of parables, analogies and myths, but in them there is always struggle, so where is the resolve of equality? Sex always contains a power dynamic (to qualify that I did not mean struggle) and every example you give points to this?