long distance relationships?

[someplace]

I would try to schedule face-to-face meetings as close together as feasible. They are your lifeblood in sustaining a long distance relationship.

 

[SunnyGirl]

I've been in a long distance relationship for six months now. He's in Australia, I'm in Canada, and it's incredibly difficult. We have a routine and try to stick to it, as much as our schedules allow us to.

Skype has already been mentioned, but I'll mention it again, just because the voice quality is better than the phone quality that we sometimes get with pre-paid calling cards.

He and I always plan at least one night a week where we'll play scrabble or pool or literati. Just something to keep us together and sane. Phone calls (or Skype calls) every couple of days, emails every single day.

Wishing you lots of luck,
-Sunny

 

[littlebus]

I will have to look into Skype.

We last saw each other in September, but that was as friends, not cyber-lovers. Won't see him again until Easter, and after that not again until September again. Unless one of us wins the lottery.

Sent him a bunch of pictures last week, which he really enjoyed. He sent me a long story that got me hot and bothered at work when I read it.

We're starting to plan what we want to do together this spring.

 

[tisluvbull]

Text messages. The key to long distance relationships. I met my girlfriend in August of 2003 here in the U.S. She went back to Poland in October. We became very, very close over the course of 8 months while she was back in Poland finishing school. She came back to the U.S in July on a J-1 trainee visa, staying till december 13th 2004. I have a one month trip planned to Poland in Late feb, and she should be back in the states on a fiancee visa by July.

I would say that Text messages have kept us closer than any other form of communication. Its great to have a telephone conversation whenever possible ( we usually speak once per day), but those times are usually preselected. Its been so nice to be able to type a few words into your phone and get a response right away. Having the ability to keep in constant communication is one of the keys in having a healthy long distance relationship that you will both feel good in. Waking up to a nice message or sending one before you sleep essentially acts as your daily hug or kiss while apart. You then have her/his responses to look at throughout the entire day if you so need.

I am the LDR master. I true success story.

Thankyou Tmobile
Thankyou GSM
Thankyou SMS

 

[mac_crazy]

Hey, great stuff, folks... I'm in Detroit, and there's a woman in Dallas that I used to work with, that I'm very interested in. I have kids that live with me here, and she's has a solid job with family roots in the Southwest, so the chances of us living in the same state anytime soon are remote. But all this talk is somewhat encouraging!

(Now I just need 2 more things to happen: For her to dump her treats-her-like-crap-hardly-ever-even-kisses-her loser of a boyfriend, and for me to get up the courage to tell her how I feel!)

Good luck to all you LDR-ers!

 

[jacuzzigal]

Hey, great stuff, folks... I'm in Detroit, and there's a woman in Dallas that I used to work with, that I'm very interested in. I have kids that live with me here, and she's has a solid job with family roots in the Southwest, so the chances of us living in the same state anytime soon are remote. But all this talk is somewhat encouraging!

(Now I just need 2 more things to happen: For her to dump her treats-her-like-crap-hardly-ever-even-kisses-her loser of a boyfriend, and for me to get up the courage to tell her how I feel!)

Good luck to all you LDR-ers!

Good luck to you too, mac_crazy. I know what it's like to face the very poor likelihood of being in the same area as someone you care about... *sigh* it's discouraging. Hang in there.

 

[mac_crazy]

Thanks, j-gal... it's probably easier for me than these guys who actually are IN a LDR, or you, if you have a SO that's far away... since this girl doesn't even know I like her, it's not the same thing as actually having someone to miss, and who misses you...

but I appreciate the sentiments anyway! Never know how things will work out...

 

[Bandit58]

It can be extremely difficult to sustain an LDR, especially if there's a long wait to see each other, or a limited possibility of even meeting. I was in one which lasted almost a year, with a married man who I hoped would one day leave his wife for me. We lived 5 hours drive apart, and due to work and family commitments there was no way either of us could meet except during school holidays (every 10 weeks). Of course it was me who had to do all the travelling - I'd stay in a motel and he'd visit me during the day. I'd say in that entire year or so we spent 21 days together. In the end he met someone else in his town to have a relationship with (and he's still married ) Yeah I know in hindsight it was a very big mistake but he did help me get my life together and gave me an inkling of what real love is, so I'll always think fondly of him (we do still exchange emails occasionally).

When I started getting closer to Gil, this was an even longer distance - a different country We would email, PM and chat on Yahoo every day. The 4 months we had to wait to meet (and we knew we would) was spent getting to know each other and developing our relationship. We knew it was right within 3 days of meeting and we decided I would move to Australia. It was 6 more weeks of emails, chat and phone calls before I finally got there, and we will celebrate our first anniversary on Jan 24th.

We are apart at the moment because I have had to fly back to New Zealand because my father is ill. We have emailed every day and I am at a friend's place now which has MSN on the computer so we managed a chat today. Temptation is always there for either of us but we have absolute trust that we will be faithful to each other. I have permission to play with any ladies if the opportunity arises (but that's going to be a little difficult seeing I am sleeping on my friend's couch right now )

Good luck to those in LDRs.....it is such a hard thing to be involved in but very rewarding if they work out

 

[Brav0tm]

Hello all. I am in a LDR myself. I have known my girlfriend her entire life and we dated when we were teenagers for awhile. Then we went are own ways and lead the same life pretty much. Well after many years we have gotten back together and pretty much picked up where we left off. The only thing is in order to be able to move near her I had to make some money. So I took a job in Iraq making good money. I have to be here a year and we are going to try and make this work.

Some of the things I have found is that you can't get jealous because if you do that you will just drive them away. It is hard here for me because there is nothing to keep you busy. So your mind wonders. That brings me to my second point try and stay as busy as possiable because if you don't then your mind will wonder and that is no good.

We use webcams and telephones and talk about everyday. You are going to have your good days and bad days. There are days she calls crying and begs me to come home. She understands I can't . Just make sure you go out of your way to do special things for them. I know every month I will send her some small gift. Something personal. I also send flowers. Anyways I can ramble on and on about this. Good luck and if it is meant to be it is meant to be!

 

[LastTangoinCT]

Same Situation...

I had to comment on this one because I am in the same situation. I am in Connecticut (and I too am a virgin and 21) and he is an editor for a popular book publisher in London. He is 35 and divorced with a three year old daughter, and at first when he emailed me out of the blue on a forum about a film I was looking for, it didn't seem like anything. Then, I started to see we had a lot in common and persued him a bit. Well, we chat as often as possible on MSN, send packages to eachother, and he is planning a visit to CT really soon! I am very, very excited and very dedicated to making this work, I really am. I may be young, but I certainly have my heart in the right place when it comes to love and building a relationship.
I know for a fact he is the real person that he says he is and I find myself falling for him more every day. I have many pictures of him and find he is really never off my mind. His personality really brings out his features and I melt when I think of him. He has had a horrible past year (oddly enough his ex-wife is from CT), however, I kind of take that as a good sign. I kind of feel like I am the CT woman that will erase the bad stigma that the other left. (Laugh) He has been through much pain this past year and we know we will have to take it slow, but slow is the best way. Usually, the most wonderful and strongest things come from humble beginnings. I feel that this man and I met for a reason and we really seem to be for eachother. Of course, being in the flesh will be the final deciding factor...
Good luck with your man! I wish you all of the best and remember, love has no boundaries. It can be found anywhere, even if it is on another continent and needs a lot of work and dedication. Hey, makes it all the more worthy!

 

[Yoni]

I've been in a long distance relationship for six months now. He's in Australia, I'm in Canada, and it's incredibly difficult. We have a routine and try to stick to it, as much as our schedules allow us to.

Skype has already been mentioned, but I'll mention it again, just because the voice quality is better than the phone quality that we sometimes get with pre-paid calling cards.

He and I always plan at least one night a week where we'll play scrabble or pool or literati. Just something to keep us together and sane. Phone calls (or Skype calls) every couple of days, emails every single day.

Wishing you lots of luck,
-Sunny

Hi there Sunnygoil!!

just a question regarding SKYPE- is the voice clarity as effective on a dial up connection or does one need a dsl?

 

[lisasmurf]

move on

i been there,,move on,, find a guy near you,, you end up sad and a broken heart