Losing one's virginity

[foxxxyred]

I'm 20 and proud of being a virgin.

I remember i used to feel quite embarrassed about it. But thankfully i got over that! I'm waiting for someone who loves me, someone i love and someone who treats me the way i deserve to be treated. Hey maybe i'm asking for alot but why shouldn't i?!

I'm proud i've stuck to my decision this long so what's another few weeks, months, or years? lol

Someone very special is going to get something very special from me one day

 

[Mayra]

This is an interesting thread!

By the way, I'm new to the board, so HI EVERYONE!

I lost my virginity about a month ago (I'm 23) with my current boyfriend of two months. We had had oral sex and everything before (and it was great might I add) so eventually we just went for it. I must say the experience hurt like hell at first, but emotionally, it was simply fabulous! The thing is, I was actually embarrassed about being a virgin at 23 (people tend to think of it as a virus nowadays ) and I would never talk about it with anyone (my friends all had lost their virginities before me). But now, I'm glad I waited! I think that when you're older, you can be more comfortable with some things and personally, I had done quite the reading on the subject before going at it, so it helped a lot as I actually knew what I was doing. He also thought of me as special for having waited so long and this made me feel better too.

So anyway, I would like to agree with all of the above who said that it's OK to wait until you're sure you've found someone special. I'm speaking through personal experience here! POWER TO VIRGINS! (although I sure am happy I'm not one of them any more, LOL)

 

[rexfelis]

Foxxxy

I wish there were more people (specifically women) who had your mindset on this. I very much respect you for it. It shows self esteem and pride in yourself for who you are. It inspires in me admiration for you, and any man who would not be willing to wait for a woman like you to be ready is a fool, at best.

My respect and admiration for you grows yet still.

I'm 20 and proud of being a virgin.

I remember i used to feel quite embarrassed about it. But thankfully i got over that! I'm waiting for someone who loves me, someone i love and someone who treats me the way i deserve to be treated. Hey maybe i'm asking for alot but why shouldn't i?!

I'm proud i've stuck to my decision this long so what's another few weeks, months, or years? lol

Someone very special is going to get something very special from me one day

 

[Wiggles]

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[Melon]

I'm 23 and still a virgin. Because of some health problems I don't go out much and haven't had much experience with guys.

I went through a phase where being a virgin bothered me and I didn't feel normal. Now, I don't care...I guess it'll happen when it happens.

 

[Moridin187]

I'm still a virgin, and in a way, I'm glad. My ex and I just never went that far, and after we broke up I was happy that we didn't, because for me sex is the ultimate expression of love, and if she didn't love me (which I'm starting to think she didn't, I was more of a pet than a boyfriend..), I'm glad I didn't waste the energy on her.

 

[rexfelis]

That was unexpected!

I'm still a virgin, and in a way, I'm glad. My ex and I just never went that far, and after we broke up I was happy that we didn't, because for me sex is the ultimate expression of love, and if she didn't love me (which I'm starting to think she didn't, I was more of a pet than a boyfriend..), I'm glad I didn't waste the energy on her.

I used to think of sex as the ultimate epression of love, until I realized through experience that the ultimate expression of love (for me) isn't sex, it's lovemaking - something that includes sex as a means of expression. Or rather, *can* include sex. (For a real nice surprise, try making love to a woman sometime without having sex with her. ) But lovemaking is much more than sex. And there's no more intimate contact than to lose yourself inside a woman, wondering where your body ends and hers begins.

If you're the kind caring type like me, and it sounds like you are, then giving your virginity to the right girl will be worth the wait.

Sex by itself, without some emotion involved, leaves me feeling emotionally empty in a way that hurts and leaves me with less self respect. I wonder if other people are affected that way too, and they just don't recognize what's causing it sometimes.

 

[maninmi]

Still a virgin and not in a rush.

 

[Lance Hardrock]

some of these made me cry

Some posts in this thread are heartbreaking. Sex should be one of the most enjoyable and happiest things people can share. But of course, for many it is not; it's rape or molestation. It brings tears to my eyes that so many people (boys as well as girls) have had such evil things done to them. I commend all who can talk about such things. It does help to get it out in the open.

Okay, before I totally break down, on with the question.

I was just shy of 21. I lived in DC and was friends with a woman (my age) and her daughter. Her husband had told me to "take" her and the kid. He didn't want them. So I told her about this.
I just wanted to help her. I cherished this lady and thought she know what a slimeball her husband was.

Her husband had beaten her and that brought the whole thing to a crisis. That's when he told me again to take her right in front of her. He was "giving" her to me. I wanted to kill him, but my friend wouldn't let me. She didn't want me to end up in jail. I still don't know how we got out of there without someone ending up dead.

How can some people be so blind? She was so marvelous, so good, so fine a lady, and her daughter was just the cutest baby in the world.

So we moved to LA and got an apartment together. I mean one of those one room, murphy bed places with a tiny bath and kitchen, but it was our home. About a week later, we shared the ultimate gift. The act itself was unremarkable. I came in about 5 strokes. go figure, all those years of wondering what it was like and wham bam it was over. But of course, there were many more times later. The point is that sex wasn't what it was all about, it was enjoying this remarkable woman and the honor she bestowed upon me.

Sad stories often become sadder. We had moved apart, found other friends, stayed in touch, didn't have sex, but dated. After a couple of years of this, she decided there was no way she could keep her daughter and have "the good life" that she seemed to crave here in LA. Neither of us had money, or even good jobs. Those were hard days for both of us.

One day she asked me if I would once again "take" her so she could keep her child. I said, only if she would marry me. I couldn't have it any other way at this point. She opted for adoption and both of them walked out of my life forever.

I don't know what ever happened to my "first" but I sure wish that someday, I could see her again and her fine daughter.

 

[rexfelis]

Hmmm

Parts of that sound eerily similar to something that happened in my life. People can me so damned stupid sometimes.

 

[Pechorin]

I remember as an adolescent dreaming about losing my virginity only about 10 times a day! Despite being pretty naive and clumsy around females, in my dreams I was always so in control. Came as a bit of a shock the first time then when I peaked almost as soon as my partner touched my penis to guide it inside. I was 21, embarrassed and confused.

Still, I ended up marrying my partner from that day. She must have seen some potential in that 1st encounter. Thank goodness she didn't blink!

 

[Guest]

I lost my virginity at the age of 12 to five lovely ladies..

Mother Thumb and her four lovely daughters..

So far they are still the best piece of ass I've ever had...

The Wanker...........

 

[Guest]

I was a virgin when i first met my gf, we enjoy a healthy sex life now and both enjoy ourselves. Like any guy i wanted to impress her at first, so when we first started playing around with sex she asked me if i was a virgin and i said no.

She is still under the impression that she was not my first and that i was more experianced when we first met. I want to tell her because i feel bad for having lied to her. But im afraid she will get upset that i lied to her or something.

I dont know if i should tell her or not, i could get away with it, but i dont know if i want to. What should i do?

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I dont know if i should tell her or not, i could get away with it, but i dont know if i want to. What should i do?

if you are feeling guilty about it, then you should tell her. was she experienced at all before you started seeing each other? if she was, then chances are she already knows that you werent. even if she wasnt, there is still that possibility. if i were you, i would say something, especially if its bothering you now.

 

[StLBob]

I was 15, as was my g/f... I was terribly apprehensive, but she was the pursuasive one. << Role reversal, eh? >>

The first time, and for several attempts thereafter, it was quite embarassing... Every time I would prepare/attempt to enter her, I would ejaculate. It wasn't until the third or fourth time that we had success... So to speak...

We were young 'n dumb! She bacame pregnant, and we soon wed. Yes; At a ripe age of 15.5!!! We were happy for a time, but soon grew apart, seperated, and eventually divorced before 18.

The saddest part is what my daughter endured over the next two decades. << Until she got on her own two feet. >> Even though I have gone on to pull myself up by my bootstraps, to this day I feel Marsha's << The g/f & first wife >> life was ruined by this course of events...

 

[SEX_SLAVE]

I was 15 when i lost mine. it wasnt good at all and it occured in a car.

 

[marduk]

I was 15 and she was 17..it was a great experiance for me and i dont think we stopped for about six months ..then she moved away and i never saw her again but i will never forget her

 

[Mystical]

I was 12 and it was the most hurtful thng to ever happen to me. And when i say hurtful I do not mean by physical pain I mean by emotional and mentally. It was taken by someone I trusted with my love and my well being and should never have happened.

 

[Aaron26]

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[SkAoUt]

Lost it to a more experienced girl

It was the summer after I graduated from highschool. I was in love with this beautiful vison of a girl. We hung out all summer, hiking and camping with not much happening physically (should have been a clue). So the night it happened we grabbed a bottle of wine and went to the river to drink it under the moonlight. The night was pretty intoxicating, her beauty, the moonlight, the strong powerful Fraser silently moving like a silver ribbon past us to the Pacific. We ended up doing it on a large flat bolder under the moon. The setting was far more romantic than the event. I was pretty inept and it showed. I think she was just happy that it was over. All in all a confusing experience.

 

[Guest]

I was 14, very bad experience, im a guy, but I didnt know my sexual orientation, I liked girls alot! but there were some guys too that were kind of cute, anyways met another guy,
We liiked eachother, we had a relationship and all, he kept pressuring me into sex, I was kind of apprehensive but eventually gave in.
it was the strangest experience ive ever had, I felt so dirty afterwards, didnt want to speak to anyone for a week, 18 now, hope I find a girl soon. I think I would have been much more comfortable with someone of the opposite sex.

 

[La Principessa]

being a good Catholic girl....

I waited for my weddidng night. And let me tell you, it couldn't come soon enough!!! My husband and I met in college and dated throughout, but neither one of us could justify "going all the way" without marriage. So we married. Amazingly the church didn't crumble......first time in awhile that two virgins had been married in there I bet! We were both 22.

I had my doubts about his being a virgin for the longest time, though. We did alot of "heavy petting" while in school and I just couldn't believe that with all he knew, he could still be a virgin. After we had been married for a few weeks, I asked him again about his being a virgin. He finally just smiled at me and took my hand and led me to his study. He then showed me a very dog-eared and worn out paperback copy of the book "Everything You Wanted To Know About Sex......*But Were Afraid To Ask". Typical of my husband, he wanted to know everything that he could get his hands on about sex and the body's reactions from it, and how to go about doing things. Being that it was in the 70's and the internet wasn't available (to the masses) and that he was too embarassed to ask anyone about it......he did the only thing a college boy could do...he studied up on it!

I just started to laugh and then looked at him and realized that I truly loved this man! And I also realized in that moment how much he loved me!! He wanted our wedding night and the rest of our marriage to be so special that he went and "studied up" on the subject at hand. For quite a while we would joking refer to certain acts as "pg xx or chapter X" when saying what we would like to do later. ("want to give pg 37 a try again??") Then we would just smile and blush at each other. Ah to be so young and innocent again. *sigh

Of course now after 23 years together, we will still make reference to various pages or chapters, but the book is now the Kama Sutra. I guess growing up does have it's advantages as well!

 

[sweetlittleass]

This is a thread that belongs back at the top!

This is the best poll! I love it!

I lost mine at 14 to the most wonderful guy on the planet... we are still in touch, 16 years later. He was the most caring guy during the whole thing, and we did it like bunnies for a month while we lived with me and my mom over the summer. We were both virgins at the time and it didn't take long, but it was still great. I know I'm repeating myself, but he was the most caring guy - he kept asking me how I was feeling, if I was OK...

Unfortunately we were both 14 and didn't use protection... I ended up pregnant - OOPS! We ended up loosing the baby - I guess mother nature knew that we weren't ready for parenthood.

 

[Belilica]

I personally was 17, and I wish I had waited a bit longer. My younger sisters were both young. One was 14, the other was 15.

Bel

 

[sugardaddy]

I was on the old side of young. 20 years old. College sophmore who waited for the right girl to seduce me. It was a great one. She roade me and made me cum so much. And then i got to make her cum just as much. We went all night long. It was a lot of fun. Since then, i have loved sex so much, that i just can't stop doing it. lol.

sugardaddy