Married Cocksuckers, Have you confessed to your wife?

My wife knows I love cock and she and I have both looked to find willing accomplices. She’s met some, some I have met with alone. But she knows I love it and is happy to see me connect with others. I’d love a regular connection but they’re damn hard to find.
 
Wife knows I am not cock-phobic,
For some odd reason she brought up the dick issue while watching TV. There was a transwoman in the show who looked real cute but still had her cock. Told wife as long as cock is attached to a woman I could be interested, just not interested in a guy.
Never fully told wife how curious I am about cocks. In mean time I use dildos, She's aware I play with anal toys, just does not want to see or be a part of it. She's old school, cocks are for women.
 
My ex-wife knew I was bi before we got married. I told her a few weeks before I proposed to her. She said she wasn't all that surprised and had actually once thought that I was gay. She even asked me once early in our relationship if I was gay, although I can't recall why she thought that I might be.

All of my subsequent partners have known soon after we got involved. Only one decided she didn't want anything to do with me after I told her. Her reason was she would never be able to have sex with me again knowing I might be thinking about some guys big dick while I was fucking her. We have actually become very close friends since splitting up, and she frequently wants to know details about my sexual experiences with other males. We have a mutual attraction to very large cocks.
 
I have had a repetitive dream where I am on my knees sucking a hard cock and a nude woman fingering herself is encouraging me. 25% of the time it is my wife the other times it is a shorthaired woman that I don’t recognize. I have had this dream many more than 20 times and a year ago I told her about it…. She said no to the idea but did not get upset with me.

My therapist says it is a cry out for acceptance to being bi, or as she calls it gender fluid. I also told my wife after that the couple we hang out with is the man I want to suck with her watching and masturbating. Fingers crossed!
 
Mine isn't similar in that did I suck cock and crave it in my younger years, yes absolutely, however my wife has never nor will ever know about it as I think it might be very devastating for her to find out. I wish I felt I could tell her but alas I couldn't imagine her taking it well, her not knowing for over 40 years, have I been faithful to her absolutely, would I suck cock and more if she knew and ok'd it you bet your ass.
Same here!
 
My Fiance is bi but claims he never has bc dudes have poor hygiene. I wish he would and let me watch but he's weird about sharing. We have a couple friends we'd have orgies with. He helped the friend put a butt plug in and we watched but that was it. The guy is obsessed with him, has a fat cock, and down for whatever but idk. I often wonder if he's afraid to be truthful about his desires, he's catholic and Latino.
 
midway into dating my future wife of 23 yrs. I told her that during college I was involved with Men sexually.. she wasn't surprised and chalked it up to experimenting. I had closely gauged her reaction. Her big concern was the era that I was with men... late 80s and early 90s. She's never had any issues with m/m sex...except. She wasn't really keen about her man with other men. ironically she liked it when I would go down on her after filling her full of my cum. she would quip "you're getting your fill". For a while, from time to time she would ask about my m/m. Usually after she arrived home from a conference in Texas.
 
I’ve been bi since before college, and my wife knew all about it when we started dating. She found the concept to be quite arousing. Fast forward to some serious marriage trauma 5 years ago, and I became a full cuckold. Then fast forward to the past weekend when she and another wife had arranged for the 4 of us to have some “playtime”, but the girls wanted me to cross dress and play the role of a she male. I confess, I have met other guys that crossdressed but it was new to me. The girls put a lot of work into getting me passable (sort of) and I have to admit that the experience was wonderful. Any other guys being led down this trail by their wife of significant other?
 
There's nothing to confess really. My wife and her friends thought I was gay when we first met at university so the real surprise for her was not how much I love sucking cock but that I love eating pussy every bit as much.

Her favourite porn is gay male so I guess for her it was a win win.
 
Great thread...Some interesting stories on here.

My cocksucking compulsion caused great consternation as I truly wanted a normal hetero relationship with honesty and trust.


Once I realized it wasn't going away, as much as I wanted it to, I always tried to explain my wiring to the woman I was dating, once I felt she was trustworthy.


I certainly didn't navigate it well at times early on, As I didn't understand it that much myself, So how do you explain it to someone If it doesn't make sense to you.


It's probably one of the reasons I never married until older, didn't want to live a lie or waste someone's time or be with someone that wouldn't support me the way I hoped.


With my now partner it was a process explaining it to her that had some tribulation, but she actually helped me understand it better and to approach it in a more healthy manner, Which for me was converting the shame and guilt and confusion into acceptance, enjoyment and self love.


We're monogamous, and it been quite some time since I delved into my cocksucker side in reality, but even the roleplay she's done with me and a toy has been more exciting than most experiences I previously had sucking real dick...but not all. Haha 😊
 
Some of us are in denial but most of us know eventually our men are going to go down this road. Here's a hint, the next time your playing together with her dildo, put it in your mouth. Chances are she's going to encourage this behavior
My wife was shocked the first time she noticed I was sucking a big dildo while I fucked her from behind. Was not ok with it. But over time, she realized that it’s really no different than her using a vibe and she’s chilled out, even gets off on it in the right mood.
 
My Fiance is bi but claims he never has bc dudes have poor hygiene. I wish he would and let me watch but he's weird about sharing. We have a couple friends we'd have orgies with. He helped the friend put a butt plug in and we watched but that was it. The guy is obsessed with him, has a fat cock, and down for whatever but idk. I often wonder if he's afraid to be truthful about his desires, he's catholic and Latino.
I had that situation as well. I had a partner that knew about my interests with guys and was supportive, wanting to hear about it etc., But I would clam up and was insecure about doing so.

I think it was somewhat that it's one thing to tell someone something generally, but to explain details or for them to watch, that's another level of "exposure". There's that old male wiring that the woman might not see you the same or see you as a real "man".

That actually is the case at times with some women, so it's understandable guys might be cautious.

I am very alpha and dominant otherwise, and so too allow someone to see that side of you can be very challenged.
 
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