Masterbating in bed next to your partner while they are asleep

[FriskyInPA]

I LOVE doing this!!! Obviously ide rather be fucking my wife, but sometimes the mood hits after some cuddling and her as is against me, and she falls asleep.

What I find hot is how slow I have to go. I usually have some old socks, I know I sound like a teenager. But it's the cleanest way. I go slow, and the best part is when I'm cumming, instead of moving fast I just hold my cock and feel it pulse. If it's quiet in the room I can hear the spurts. That plus the pulsing usually results in an amazing orgasm.

 

[cdstefi]

The title says it all - who does this / has done it and how does it make you feel ?

Did it just this morning, although she was more snoozing than fast asleep. She's well aware that I always wake up horny and often have to sort myself out early, and doesn't mind it, sometimes sleeps through it and sometimes joins in. This morning she offered me her ass and reached up to tweak my nipples to get me over the edge, and got cum-soaked panties for her troubles.

Out of respect, I only cum on her if she's conscious. If she's completely out of it, I'll just jack and cum on myself.

 

[strokinnoff1]

I LOVE doing this!!! Obviously ide rather be fucking my wife, but sometimes the mood hits after some cuddling and her as is against me, and she falls asleep.

What I find hot is how slow I have to go. I usually have some old socks, I know I sound like a teenager. But it's the cleanest way. I go slow, and the best part is when I'm cumming, instead of moving fast I just hold my cock and feel it pulse. If it's quiet in the room I can hear the spurts. That plus the pulsing usually results in an amazing orgasm.

I did a variation of this many years ago. And since she was accustomed to my caressing her legs & hips while she slept, I could do that while I jerked off as well, and I always turned onto my side and shot my cum load onto her pantie covered ass.

 

[ADIDAS00]

I used to do this when we were first married. Now she wants sex all the time so I never have to. I think her libido is stronger than mine now, lol

 

[Hardguy6]

Almost a nightly experience

 

[Greytruck]

Have done this many a time.. flat on my back and rubbing my dick.
I stay silent and try not to move much.. wife dosent wake

 

[aliencardigan]

Me masturbating beside my sleeping wife is the only sex our bed sees! I keep a couple small towels on my nightstand that I'll cum into to keep wet spots out of the bed. We both sleep naked and I enjoy just my leg touching her while I cum. She's a very sound sleeper and the bed shaking doesn't wake her up. My erotic and stimulating thoughts while jerking off sometimes include her but often my mind goes down some kinky rabbit hole. Sometimes it feels more erotic coming when thinking about others but still touching her.

 

[Icekiller56]

When I would do this next to my wife, I worked third shift so she was asleep when I got home, she would tell that it felt like an earthquake in the bed

 

[mortis]

I did it the other morning woke up around 5 am with a huge hard on. Started stroking under the covers. A few minutes later took the cover off and shot all over my stomach. She then asked if I was done.

Very satisfied licked my fingers and went back to sleep.

 

[WitchyWoman262]

The title says it all - who does this / has done it and how does it make you feel ?

I do it all the time.

 

[Dhfranklin94]

I used to do this when we were first married. Now she wants sex all the time so I never have to. I think her libido is stronger than mine now, lol

Lucky guy.

 

[jasexy28]

I do this a lot. Once or twice, I've accidentally come on her, but she's never woken up from it.

I jerk off in bed next to my wife sometimes, but have a similar problem when I near orgasm. I always turn towards her as I cum, sometimes on the sheets if she is covered or my cum hits her belly or legs if she is not covered up.

 

[Deleted member 6789170]

The title says it all - who does this / has done it and how does it make you feel ?

I think its desperate..... and desperate is so hot to me

 

[conquen]

When my wife and I were first married there were a couple of nights where she thought I was sleeping and she rubbed one out. I was hard as hell listening and feeling the bed shake but didn’t want to embarrass her so continued to pretend I was sleeping.
Fast forward many years and now I’m the one waking up early, one hand on her ass and one on my cock.

 

[SilentSometimes]

I’ve been the sleeping person who wakes up to their partner jerking off in bed. Since we never had those discussions, it was jarring and uncomfortable. I also have a friend who broke up with her boyfriend because he sexually assaulted her and she said he also used to jerk off in bed when she was sleeping and before he came, he’d grab her ass and that would wake her up.

I hope people are discussing these sexual kinks with their partners. An unconscious and inconsenting person that you are exposing to your kink borders on criminal activity. You can’t lean up against someone on the subway and jerkoff under your trench coat without their knowledge. Don’t do it to your sleeping spouse. Literally go into any other room of your house.

 

[vibes]

The worst part was trying not to moan or make other noises

Perhaps that instead would have helped balancing the libidos

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I have in the past, but not in many years. It happened when I woke up horny at night and unable to get back to sleep without cumming. A few times I succeeded without waking her, but a few times she woke up, very annoyed. Her displeasure was 10% due to me masturbating without her, and 90% due to waking her up. At that time we had small children and sleep was precious.

 

[sexymanfun]

Typically a few times a week. I've even done voice calls

PS: I'd be remiss to not mention that the spelling issue of this thread title is driving my OCD nuts

 

[Peppadance]

I’ve been the sleeping person who wakes up to their partner jerking off in bed. Since we never had those discussions, it was jarring and uncomfortable. I also have a friend who broke up with her boyfriend because he sexually assaulted her and she said he also used to jerk off in bed when she was sleeping and before he came, he’d grab her ass and that would wake her up.

I hope people are discussing these sexual kinks with their partners. An unconscious and inconsenting person that you are exposing to your kink borders on criminal activity. You can’t lean up against someone on the subway and jerkoff under your trench coat without their knowledge. Don’t do it to your sleeping spouse. Literally go into any other room of your house.

Sorry to hear that.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I’ve been the sleeping person who wakes up to their partner jerking off in bed. Since we never had those discussions, it was jarring and uncomfortable. I also have a friend who broke up with her boyfriend because he sexually assaulted her and she said he also used to jerk off in bed when she was sleeping and before he came, he’d grab her ass and that would wake her up.

I hope people are discussing these sexual kinks with their partners. An unconscious and inconsenting person that you are exposing to your kink borders on criminal activity. You can’t lean up against someone on the subway and jerkoff under your trench coat without their knowledge. Don’t do it to your sleeping spouse. Literally go into any other room of your house.

First, waking up to your partner jerking off in bed, and being "uncomfortable" with it, indicates that you are both uninformed (as is my wife and most older women) and sexually immature. Most guys, naturally, have stronger libido than women.

I understand your position, BUT, in my opinion, your "partner" grabbing/touching your ass when he cums while "masturbating" isn't sexually assaulting you. You accepted the premise of being intimate together when you accepted him as your sexual "partner". This is entirely different than "the person in the subway". They are NOT the same.

I'm sure that "cuddling" occurs when "he and she" (i.e., you) are both in bed, and, as sexual beings, proximity of a sexual partner elicits sexual response. Obviously, a hard cock needs attention. When we males (hard cocks) need to release that sexual tension while we are in bed with our partners, we either "jerk off" or "sexually assault" our un(in)consenting person by attempting to "enter" her.

When I was hoping to have sex with my wife I would touch her ass and/or cuddle with her which sometimes caused her to wake her up. Sometimes I was successful, and sometimes not. My loss. I have also (in later life) mastubated in bed with my wife sleeping next to me. I did not wake her up by grabbing her ass or cuddling, because I knew that she wouldn't want to watch or participate. So, I usually do go to another room in my house. I usually am in my "home office", and chatting with people who have a similar end game. We often cum together. My wife is still sleeping and oblivious that I have satisfied my sexual urges.


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[SilentSometimes]

I understand your position, BUT, in my opinion, your "partner" grabbing/touching your ass when he cums while "masturbating" isn't sexually assaulting you. You accepted the premise of being intimate together when you accepted him as your sexual "partner". This is entirely different than "the person in the subway". They are NOT the same.

Obviously, a hard cock needs attention. When we males (hard cocks) need to release that sexual tension while we are in bed with our partners, we either "jerk off" or "sexually assault" our un(in)consenting person by attempting to "enter" her.

I said that people shouldn’t do these things without conversations. If you’re prone to jerking off in bed when horny and your partner is cool with it, then fine. But you should have that communication and consent. Honestly, your post sounds like a lot of misogynistic bullshit and is coming off a bit rape-y. You might want to reflect on what consent means.

I’m saying that agreeing to some sexual acts is not a blanket approval of all sexual acts. Check in with your partners to see if they’re okay with it.

 

[YourSecretDesires]

Like Lester Burnham in American Beauty?

Well I did this in a dorm room once but it was my roommate who was asleep.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I said that people shouldn’t do these things without conversations. If you’re prone to jerking off in bed when horny and your partner is cool with it, then fine. But you should have that communication and consent. Honestly, your post sounds like a lot of misogynistic bullshit and is coming off a bit rape-y. You might want to reflect on what consent means.

I’m saying that agreeing to some sexual acts is not a blanket approval of all sexual acts. Check in with your partners to see if they’re okay with it.

So, are you saying that any touching of your partner, such as rolling over and cuddling (which many times results in sexual arousal), while they are sleeping, without having discussed it and agreed to it prior to them going to sleep, is sexual assault?

Actually, your original post sounds a bit "bait-y".

 

[SilentSometimes]

So, are you saying that any touching of your partner, such as rolling over and cuddling (which many times results in sexual arousal), while they are sleeping, without having discussed it and agreed to it prior to them going to sleep, is sexual assault?

Actually, your original post sounds a bit "bait-y".

- Is that what I said? Nope.
- Is that remotely close to what I said? Nope.
- Do you like putting words in my mouth because of your own misunderstandings and rage from my post about consent? Yep.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

You said: "I’ve been the sleeping person who wakes up to their partner jerking off in bed. Since we never had those discussions, it was jarring and uncomfortable". So, it was multiple times? Did you tell him not to do it?

I'm all about consent, in sexual touching, but it’s his bed too, so, is the difference that you woke up when he was doing it? Even though he didn't even touch you (grab your ass).

You said: "I also have a friend who broke up with her boyfriend because he sexually assaulted her and she said he also used to jerk off in bed when she was sleeping and before he came, he’d grab her ass and that would wake her up."

You said "he used to", which sounds like multiple times. Did she tell him not to do it?

You said: "You can’t lean up against someone on the subway and jerkoff under your trench coat without their knowledge".

That's valid. You have not been intimate with that person on the subway, so there's absolutely no expectation of consent; however, if you've been intimate with your partner, there's an expectation that you would be open to unexpected sexual advances.

Yes, women must consent to sexual acts, even from their partners. Unfortunately, most men are disappointed with how their partners turn on and off their sexuality. So, just as your girlfriend did, you, and those women who are disturbed with their partners attempts at initiating sexual contact, by waking them up, should leave the relationship.

You said: "Don’t do it to your sleeping spouse. Literally go into any other room of your house".

Thanks for your PSA.

You said: "Do you like putting words in my mouth because of your own misunderstandings and rage from my post about consent? Yep."

I don't misunderstand "consent" and I do not rage. We both expressed opinions that were actually unsolicited by the original post. Mine, because I responded to your outrage regarding what happened to you and your friend.

This site is, and the original post, was placed to solicit responses that appeal to the prudent interests of those of us who visit it and read this drivel. It's mostly because our sexual lives do not live up to our expectations.

I apologize for picking out your post to respond to.

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