masturbation vs. sex
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Easyvirtue
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It’s been difficult to connect with the wife for the past year.
I don’t press the issue because I don’t wanna fight anymore!
SOOOO, I live out my fantasies and am never told no when I just masturbate instead.
I don’t press the issue because I don’t wanna fight anymore!
SOOOO, I live out my fantasies and am never told no when I just masturbate instead.
womaneater58
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My sex life has slowed down a lot so I've been spending most mornings on Lit. I find that when masturbating, I can enjoy it longer and the orgasms are much better. It's a great way to relax before starting my day.
forgotmyantidepressants
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I feel kind of guilty, but I enjoy masturbating alone more than having sex. It's really nice when the only thing I have to focus on is my own pleasure. Sometimes, it seems like I'm the only one who cares about it.
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I’ve never been married. Throughout my many loves, lovers, encounters, opportunities….. I preferred the ones who enjoyed foreplay more or as much as sex. To me being in charge of your partners pleasure and climax like that is much more intimate than sex itself. I think that comes from myself. Before I discovered ejaculation I reveled in my erection. From my earliest memories being the tree that grew in the bath tub and show-n-tell with the girl next door, having an erection and fondling and moving my balls around or straddling something to gently grind them was my secret. I literally thought no one knew but me.
From that first morning waking up and feeling with enough time to see my cum for the first time I’ve been jerking off everyday. It’s an obsession? Sometimes I do skip days or more, but only because the climax may be more intense, more copious. There were times I didn’t need to jerk off because the lover du jour was a master at hand jobs or head. My obsession was filled during those times with feeling her climax by tongue or hand.
Now almost 60 the steady music of lovers has slowed or even stopped like the music in musical chairs. I’m lucky the lover I landed on does like sex, but no foreplay. I’ve tried masturbating in front of her, but it was upsetting. Like I should only cum inside her. Or she acts as if I don’t like her.
I still have a great time with myself. I lover the fantasy that builds to my release. I love to cum. There is evidence that just goes unmentioned. Even though I still cum a lot I can clean up with two tissues. From time to time I treat myself to a massage in hopes to feel someone touch me that way. No matter how much I love relieving my throbbing distraction, I do know it feels better when someone does it for you. Same as when I did it for someone else.
From that first morning waking up and feeling with enough time to see my cum for the first time I’ve been jerking off everyday. It’s an obsession? Sometimes I do skip days or more, but only because the climax may be more intense, more copious. There were times I didn’t need to jerk off because the lover du jour was a master at hand jobs or head. My obsession was filled during those times with feeling her climax by tongue or hand.
Now almost 60 the steady music of lovers has slowed or even stopped like the music in musical chairs. I’m lucky the lover I landed on does like sex, but no foreplay. I’ve tried masturbating in front of her, but it was upsetting. Like I should only cum inside her. Or she acts as if I don’t like her.
I still have a great time with myself. I lover the fantasy that builds to my release. I love to cum. There is evidence that just goes unmentioned. Even though I still cum a lot I can clean up with two tissues. From time to time I treat myself to a massage in hopes to feel someone touch me that way. No matter how much I love relieving my throbbing distraction, I do know it feels better when someone does it for you. Same as when I did it for someone else.
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I am between relationships at the moment but even when I am having sex on a regular basis I still enjoy masturbating... it's a very different experience.
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My wife and I have a fairly active sex life.
But recently, we have been preferring, mutual masturbation, or watching me to intercourse.
I’m kind of enjoying it.
But recently, we have been preferring, mutual masturbation, or watching me to intercourse.
I’m kind of enjoying it.
OnaTangent
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Mutual masturbation is good foreplay
Dnthmn_19
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My wife and I are well into our 60s and we find having sex is getting just too difficult. The rare time she's receptive, we each get leg cramps and often have to stop right when it's getting good. The worst is that the tightness of her vagina has lessened over the years, while my penis requires much more intense stimulation to reach orgasm than it used to. The physical effort of thrusting into her to make either of us come is too much for my back. She's lost interest in other stuff like oral, mutual manual etc. so I just enjoy myself.
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ArseGratiaArtis
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My ex-wife and I had a few rules about this, and one was that cum belonged to her. One time she walked in while I was watching porn and masturbating and after a brief conversation about what I was doing, took off her clothes and sat in my lap, fucking me until I came in her as we watched the video.
Another rule was that sex was never a reward, nor withholding it a punishment. It was just something we did and enjoyed, and we learned to schedule it into our busy lives. It was never, "I don't want to have sex," but "I'll be home by 8. Be waiting." Or "It's going to be a late night. How about a quickie now?"
Another rule was that sex was never a reward, nor withholding it a punishment. It was just something we did and enjoyed, and we learned to schedule it into our busy lives. It was never, "I don't want to have sex," but "I'll be home by 8. Be waiting." Or "It's going to be a late night. How about a quickie now?"
