masturbation vs. sex

[phil97405]

I wrote about this in a different thread today. For me, masturbation is different from sex with another person. It's time for me to be with my own thoughts, my own body, and my own pleasure.

I love my husband, and he is a great lover. I also like being with women. But the year before last, when I had both Hubby and a girlfriend, I still masturbated. It's the ultimate "me" time.

I most agree with this post. I enjoy sex, but I also love to have hot sex with myself (AKA masturbation). probably a bit more than sex with others, even.

 

[womaneater58]

I enjoy pleasuring myself often but absolutely prefer sex and eating pussy.

 

[ArabianNights]

I do love a good mutual masturbation session.

 

[meghan1980]

sometimes I feel like I'm more successful by myself.

 

[Londonguy69]

sometimes I feel like I'm more successful by myself.

Who knows your body better than yourself? It’s only natural

 

[BongoGal]

Although the two can be combined, sex and masturbation are usually separate things. Sex involves someone in particular, but masturbation can involve fantasies about whomever you desire.

 

[willlph]

Although the two can be combined, sex and masturbation are usually separate things. Sex involves someone in particular, but masturbation can involve fantasies about whomever you desire.

Truth

 

[LoveLiving]

I relate to this. Lately sex with my husband has not been that good. I don’t like to talk badly about him but he has stopped trying to give me an orgasm so I just do what I know will get him to finish and end it as soon as I can.
This has lead to me not wanting to bother with sex with him. I know what feels good and am often more fulfilled playing by myself.
It is sad but my reality right now.

I would definitely stay with you and make sure you cum also.
I think getting you to cum first would make my experience and my cum with you so much more pleasureful.

 

[hulmule]

I relate to this. Lately sex with my husband has not been that good. I don’t like to talk badly about him but he has stopped trying to give me an orgasm so I just do what I know will get him to finish and end it as soon as I can.
This has lead to me not wanting to bother with sex with him. I know what feels good and am often more fulfilled playing by myself.
It is sad but my reality right now.

Not sure how long this has been going on .But maybe time for a conversation. Asking him what his needs are and telling him what yours are. Sometimes a quickie is good but not all the time !!

 

[CuriousRick]

Sometimes you just want to be selfish and not worry about anything but your pleasure.

 

[lit_ch3]

I have always loved masturbating from when I first noticed that my cock could get hard. Wrapping my hand around it and squeezing and stroking it and feeling my balls pull up until I would cum on my flat belly has always been a staple of sexual activity for me - and I developed and perfected my own pleasure techniques.

When I got married, I slowed down a lot, but never stopped and soon found myself masturbating regularly again. I would have loved to incorporate masturbation into my sex routine with my wife, but I knew she was just too vanilla to enjoy mutual masturbation even after I helped and encouraged her to masturbate in front of me.

Unfortunately now, for me, it's not Masturbation vs. Sex - it's masturbation or no sex. As such, I enjoy masturbating to porn or when I get involved in a chat with someone of either sex who is doing the same.

Yes, I still crave the joy of sex with another live person, but masturbation is all that I've got at home. It still love masturbating.

I get all of this....

 

[Wonderer67]

I get all of this....

My wife has a good sex drive but we’re both all about controlling my orgasm.

She loves to watch me desperate as I edge for her.

I have not cum in almost 3 weeks. She sez she’s gonna release me on Thursday….

 

[Soccerfanpen21]

Although the two can be combined, sex and masturbation are usually separate things. Sex involves someone in particular, but masturbation can involve fantasies about whomever you desire.

Very true, combined or alone is awesome.

 

[eroticspank]

I do see how masturbation can be a great "me" time. It can be more convenient to do when you are alone and have time when your spouse does not. I have done some meditation just before masturbation and the eventual orgasm is liberating. But, I still enjoy intercourse and oral with my wife. And as mentioned you can do masturbation together and even during intercourse.
ES

 

[PMarky2]

Masturbations saves lives. Given that the wife is not up to it much of the time sex has about evaporated and is usually an exercise in frustration for me I think I would have gone off my nut without the daily wank. It also lets me fantasize about what I really like to do with-and-to SG or GG.

 

[positiveflirt]

Does anyone sometimes prefer masturbation vs. having sex? like some nights, I just want to do it myself. obviously there are nights where the wife isn't in the mood and I am, so then masturbation is the answer. but I definitely have times where I don't even bother my wife with sex because I just want to do it myself.

I get this totally! Always have. To me they're two separate acts; one an incredible** act with another human being, the other a personal solo adventure.

I know of people whose partners get mad at them for watching porn in their alone time, I think it's a misunderstanding. Just because they both end the same amazing way***, doesn't mean they're the same.

**this is not a guarantee
***this is also not a guarantee

 

[J_Bone]

I'd choose sex every day of the week and twice on Sunday. I much prefer it for a variety of reasons, not the least of which is my primary sexual satisfaction is providing intense orgasmic sexual pleasure for my partner.

 

[lit_ch3]

My wife has a good sex drive but we’re both all about controlling my orgasm.

She loves to watch me desperate as I edge for her.

I have not cum in almost 3 weeks. She sez she’s gonna release me on Thursday….

Another 5 days??? I've gone 3 w/out jerking off and starting to get a little cranky!!!

 

[Wonderer67]

Another 5 days??? I've gone 3 w/out jerking off and starting to get a little cranky!!!

I get cranky, and a little little bit sideways. But I really like the long sessions without cumming. The feeling actually sort of gets addictive...

 

[lit_ch3]

I get cranky, and a little little bit sideways. But I really like the long sessions without cumming. The feeling actually sort of gets addictive...

Does she nearly drown when you finally get to cum?!?

 

[BiGuy999]

Most nights what my wife and I enjoy isn't really either. I guess it is best described as foreplay with edging so I'm not really sure if that counts as sex, masturbation or something in-between.

Sadly she's away for a couple of weeks so I've had to edge myself (I guess that counts as masturbation). One week down and one to go. It's getting tough but I'm determined to make it through so I can show her how much I missed her when she gets back.

 

[eroticspank]

I remember I had a lady friend that I had known for many years. We were good friends and never had sex. One day when we were both in between relationships we had sex. We both were very horny and needed release since neither of us had sex in months. We started fucking with me standing and her on the bed face-up. She started rubbing her clit after only a minute of fucking. I was surprised she was masturbating during our sex. It worked and she had a nice orgasm with me inside her but I was disappointed that I was not the one who made her cum.

Fast forward many years and I have found several partners that need a little help from a hand, a vibe, or whatever. It is completely normal and nice for your partner to share their orgasm and what turns them on with you. I love it. Sometimes masturbation can be good during regular sex and when you are alone during "me" time.
ES

 

[amigayorbi]

I pretty much go solo these days and hopefully it changes (I am monogamous and in a sexless marriage at this time).

 

[Bassytian]

I've pretty much never had a choice. Sex with another person has never been easy for me to achieve, and even when I got it, it wasn't really that enjoyable.

But that's fine, I've given myself my own best orgasms anyway.

 

[YourSecretDesires]

Sometimes masturbation is all I want. Less physical movement, more mental exploration (depending). And when it's over, it's quiet. Obviously sex with another (or multiple) person is great but masturbation is more meditating, almost.