Men who would suck cock question

[bidaddy]

First things first.

If my beloved half said to me that it was something she would like to try because it had her curious about it, yes I would happily suck another man for her pleasure. But I had to be sure this was a fantasy for her and not a fetish. The word fetish is usually misused on this site; a fetish is something that without it, the person who has it can not get pleasure of sexual encounters where a fantasy is just thrown in to had a little extra zing to the thrill.

And now...

I am heterosexual. I have no doubt about it. But nonetheless I can take pleasure from having sex with another man although I am not sexually nor physically or emotionally attracted to men.

Due special circumstances in my life, I discovered that pleasure and attraction are two very different things. I wouldn't spend my life with another man but I won't mind fuck or get fucked by another man if I'm in the mood for it.

Sexual pleasure is presently locked by social standards of hetero and homosexual attraction, which are basically wrong, as these roles have only been established very recently in human history. Before these "standards" were established virility and femininity were defined by if the subject was active (virile) or passive (feminine) - how about that concept? And to add some more to the pile, no individual can claim to be 100% heterosexual because if this was true, two men crossing paths in the street would immediately lock in a death match and the same is true for women; friendship and respect relations have some degree of sexual attraction to it, even if extremely faint.

And to finish this already to long and boring reply: a statement can only be perceived as being true taking in consideration all that is behind us in our life as it can be very quickly proven false by future circumstances.

I agree that one does not need to stick a gerbil up his behind to know it does like it but is extremely risky to state that it will never become exciting.

Ahhh someone who gets what i was tring to say thank you and well stated

 

[ADIDAS00]

I could see myself pleasuring a man especially if it turned my girl on. I would play it up big time too. I'd be looking at her while my tongue swirled around the tip....grabbing his shaft and rubbing the tip on my lips. And finally telling him to cum for me, cum all over me. All the while knowing it was turning her on!!! Mmmm

 

[CurvAppeal]

Yes you are...........

my dear.

 

[CurvAppeal]

I could see myself pleasuring a man especially if it turned my girl on. I would play it up big time too. I'd be looking at her while my tongue swirled around the tip....grabbing his shaft and rubbing the tip on my lips. And finally telling him to cum for me, cum all over me. All the while knowing it was turning her on!!! Mmmm

Umm, lets hook up? LOL.

god thats soooo hot. omgosmhojsipojysipodjh

 

[shark968]

I actually had a chance to do this back in the 90's. A girl wanted a threesome with me and another guy. She wanted the guys to fool around a bit. I just wasn't ready for something like that at the time.

I think I'm ready to try something like that now. But I have my doubts I'll ever get the chance. married and the wife would NEVER go for something like that.

 

[KinkStevens]

Ha

this is oh soo hilarious. Ive already given my response, but to read all these guys saying theyll do it for their wife and theyre hetero is ridiculous!. If u suck dick, would suck dick, or have in the past.....(drumroll please) u are not hetero...I won't be follish enough to define u, but straight men won't suck cock regardless to who asked them to.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

this is oh soo hilarious. Ive already given my response, but to read all these guys saying theyll do it for their wife and theyre hetero is ridiculous!. If u suck dick, would suck dick, or have in the past.....(drumroll please) u are not hetero...I won't be follish enough to define u, but straight men won't suck cock regardless to who asked them to.

I disagree! If a man changed a flat tire on his car, that would not make him a mechanic, it would just mean that he did something he did under a unique circumstance. Just because a man does something under a unique circumstance, doesn’t mean that he has to be irrevocably labeled for the rest of his life.

 

[coolpapabell22]

Meh. It's all a matter of definitions. I consider myself straight, but have messed around with guys from time to time. I'd be interested in trying it some more in certain situations, but it would have to be in a situation where I felt safe.

So if my GF wanted to bring in another guy, I would enjoy going down on him for her. (I've enjoyed it some on my own, so why not?) Part of me really wants to have a big cock to play with, and to suck a guy off 'til he cums (probably with a condom).... If it got my partner even more ready to play afterwards, all the better.

 

[gagginforit]

Yes I think so. I have gay fantasies and at one point I was seriously finding someone to suck off but I decided it was best to remain a fantasy.

But if I was with a woman who wanted me to do it because it really got her off then I probably would. I would not let him cum in my mouth only because of the risk of infection, otherwise I'd be all for that. Girlfriend licking the guy's cum off my face after I'd blown him is pretty fucking hot.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

By strict definition, if a man is with another man sexually, then he can’t be considered completely straight, rather would be labeled as gay or bisexual. However in the real world of today, lifestyles and relationships do not always have strict definitions. Granted, if a man is sexually attracted to other men, and enjoys sex only with other men, he would be considered gay. And if a man is sexually attracted to both men and woman, and enjoys sex with both men and woman, he would be considered bisexual.

However, there seems to be another group emerging that has not yet been defined: men who have sex with other men for the sole purpose of sexually exciting their women. There will always be people who are inflexible and can only see life in black and white; people who can only see a man is either gay or straight; however, I think we have to consider the emotional dynamics involved.

If a man sucks another man’s cock primarily to sexually excite his wife or girlfriend, (without having any sexual attraction to the man he is sucking), then under the broad definitions of today’s lifestyles and relationships, then I don’t see how this man could be considered truly gay or bisexual. Perhaps we need to reconsider how we look at our sexuality, and consider that not in every circumstance; a man who may suck a cock is gay or bisexual. Perhaps we should define people by their overall lifestyle rather than one specific occurrence.

Does anyone else have an opinion?

 

[Karen5519]

By strict definition, if a man is with another man sexually, then he can’t be considered completely straight, rather would be labeled as gay or bisexual. However in the real world of today, lifestyles and relationships do not always have strict definitions. Granted, if a man is sexually attracted to other men, and enjoys sex only with other men, he would be considered gay. And if a man is sexually attracted to both men and woman, and enjoys sex with both men and woman, he would be considered bisexual.

However, there seems to be another group emerging that has not yet been defined: men who have sex with other men for the sole purpose of sexually exciting their women. There will always be people who are inflexible and can only see life in black and white; people who can only see a man is either gay or straight; however, I think we have to consider the emotional dynamics involved.

If a man sucks another man’s cock primarily to sexually excite his wife or girlfriend, (without having any sexual attraction to the man he is sucking), then under the broad definitions of today’s lifestyles and relationships, then I don’t see how this man could be considered truly gay or bisexual. Perhaps we need to reconsider how we look at our sexuality, and consider that not in every circumstance; a man who may suck a cock is gay or bisexual. Perhaps we should define people by their overall lifestyle rather than one specific occurrence.

Does anyone else have an opinion?

I would agree with the above and add that defining whether a man is gay or bi-sexual because he would do this for his wife/gf has nothing to do with the original post. It would be better suited in a separate post.

Having said that, I agree that technically it could be considered a 'homosexual act' but doesn't mean it makes the person homosexual, especially when done for the pleasure of a wife/gf.

I'm sure the fellow, like a lot of guys, would like to see their woman with another woman. My question to you would be, why would you want to be in a relationship with a 'lesbian'?

Lets move on and stick to the question of the original post, please?

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

I would agree with the above and add that defining whether a man is gay or bi-sexual because he would do this for his wife/gf has nothing to do with the original post. It would be better suited in a separate post.

Having said that, I agree that technically it could be considered a 'homosexual act' but doesn't mean it makes the person homosexual, especially when done for the pleasure of a wife/gf.

I'm sure the fellow, like a lot of guys, would like to see their woman with another woman. My question to you would be, why would you want to be in a relationship with a 'lesbian'?

Lets move on and stick to the question of the original post, please?

You do have a good point; this would probably make a good thread of its own, and when I have time, I might start a new thread with this topic. As far as it being relevant to the to the current topic, I think you have been on Lit long enough to realize that threads often wander around through a number of related subjects. I think if you read through this thread, you will find others who have brought up the subject of definitions and labels.

As far as myself being in a relationship with a lesbian, I think few lesbians would want to be in a sexual relationship with any man, straight or gay.

And as far as your point, “Lets move on and stick to the question of the original post, please”, this is no more you thread than it is mine, and if you personally find something I post offensive, you have my permission to ignore it.

 

[gagginforit]

By strict definition, if a man is with another man sexually, then he can’t be considered completely straight, rather would be labeled as gay or bisexual. However in the real world of today, lifestyles and relationships do not always have strict definitions. Granted, if a man is sexually attracted to other men, and enjoys sex only with other men, he would be considered gay. And if a man is sexually attracted to both men and woman, and enjoys sex with both men and woman, he would be considered bisexual.

However, there seems to be another group emerging that has not yet been defined: men who have sex with other men for the sole purpose of sexually exciting their women. There will always be people who are inflexible and can only see life in black and white; people who can only see a man is either gay or straight; however, I think we have to consider the emotional dynamics involved.

If a man sucks another man’s cock primarily to sexually excite his wife or girlfriend, (without having any sexual attraction to the man he is sucking), then under the broad definitions of today’s lifestyles and relationships, then I don’t see how this man could be considered truly gay or bisexual. Perhaps we need to reconsider how we look at our sexuality, and consider that not in every circumstance; a man who may suck a cock is gay or bisexual. Perhaps we should define people by their overall lifestyle rather than one specific occurrence.

Does anyone else have an opinion?

I agree with you, except for the first sentence. I don't think if a man has sex with other men that necessarily makes him not quite straight. "Gay" or "straight" refers to sexual orientation, not sexual practices or activities. If a 100% straight man had sex with another man, he wouldn't be less straight, he'd just be a straight man who had sex with another man. You might ask well why the hell would he if he wasn't a bit gay, but that's not the point. He might have lots of reasons. You get straight men who work in gay porn, they do it for the money, it doesn't make them gay.

But I agree wholeheartedly that there are more shades of sexuality than we have labels for, or that society has understanding of. The way I see it gay and straight are two extremes of a very wide spectrum and a lot of people fall somewhere in the gray area between them. You might have the straight guy who sucks off other men for the benefit of his wife but who enjoys it also, so presumably he's not 100% but that doesn't make him bi or gay, but those are the only labels we've got.

What's sad is the lack of understanding about that. I've seen posts from women who are devastated to find their husband looking at gay or tranny porn because they are convinced this means he's actually gay and his marriage to her is a sham. I've seen a post on a forum from a woman who replied to someone with those concerns and she said "He's gay. It may be a chick that the cock is attached to, but if he likes the cock then he's gay and that's that." That's a really stupefying level of ignorance.

 

[partsecond]

If I post this in the GLBT section I assume I'd get plenty of Yes answers, but I'd like to get responses from men who consider themselves hetero...

I'll ask the question and in a follow-on post I'll tell you what my experience was. The question is this...

In order to please your woman, would you suck another man's cock? If so, how far would you go? Would you let him cum in your mouth? Would you let him cum on you?

OH, yeah. I'd suck, fuck, and be fucked if she would ask.

 

[iluvsex2]

As a woman I find this thread interesting, both from the men's as well as the women's responses. You normally hear about men wanting to see two women together, but not too many women seem interested in seeing two men together. For one, men are more visually aroused than women.

I however have been curious, not so much visually as intellectually, to see two hetero men together for their first same sex experience and to hear how they felt about it afterwards. I'm not interested in seeing gay men or even in porn movies. I'm not into porn movies anyway.

Both my hubby and I have talked about same sex experiences but never acted on it. It would be interesting to see my hubby experience this, but like most women, don't think I could handle seeing my partner derive sexual pleasure from someone other than me. Even if I could get over that hurdle, I don't think I could ask him to do that just to please me. It would have to be because he wanted to as well.

In the meantime, we'll just enjoy the sex talk and play.

Boom...that's me and wifey...we talk about it, watch videos and fantasized about it but that was it though she had gotten with another girl on several occasions but never did we try with another man...

 

[KinkStevens]

I disagree! If a man changed a flat tire on his car, that would not make him a mechanic, it would just mean that he did something he did under a unique circumstance. Just because a man does something under a unique circumstance, doesn’t mean that he has to be irrevocably labeled for the rest of his life.

Your analogy is close but doesnt work here. but carry on.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

Your analogy is close but doesnt work here. but carry on.

Well, let me rephrase the analogy. Many gay men, (if not most), have had sex with at least one woman at some point in their life, yet no one says he is straight or bisexual simply because he has had sex with a woman. Gay men define themselves by their overall life style, not by each individual sexual encounter. Why would it be different for straight men? Straight men should be defined by their overall lifestyle rather than a unique sexual encounter.

 

[LilyPru]

All this talk about labels seems kinda silly. If we can't define and label ourselves the way we want to, what CAN we do?

But anyway, on to the smut: I absolutely want my husband to do this... he sadly isn't into in real life. He does however sometimes talk about doing it at key moments cause he knows it makes me crazy. (Uh oh! Does that making him "talking gay"??... what kind of straight man would TALK about sucking cock?? ha ha j/k) Anyway. Yes, a girl can dream...

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

All this talk about labels seems kinda silly. If we can't define and label ourselves the way we want to, what CAN we do?

But anyway, on to the smut: I absolutely want my husband to do this... he sadly isn't into in real life. He does however sometimes talk about doing it at key moments cause he knows it makes me crazy. (Uh oh! Does that making him "talking gay"??... what kind of straight man would TALK about sucking cock?? ha ha j/k) Anyway. Yes, a girl can dream...

Your post makes my point, straight men are not allowed to label themselves. The fear of being called gay is been so ingrained in straight men since childhood, most straight males won't even consider sucking a cock as a fetish for their wife, even if they might want to. In my opinion, the fear of being labeled inhibits this fantasy for many couples.

 

[LilyPru]

Your post makes my point, straight men are not allowed to label themselves. The fear of being called gay is been so ingrained in straight men since childhood, most straight males won't even consider sucking a cock as a fetish for their wife, even if they might want to. In my opinion, the fear of being labeled inhibits this fantasy for many couples.

Yeah. You're probably right. Though I think in our case, he's just not really turned on by the idea. I guess all we can do is make our bedrooms a safe place for our partner (or partners ) to get off without judgment. I will continue to do my part!

 

[NoMoreNoMore]

Curious so yeah

At this point, if my wife asked and it meant even having sex after none for two years, hell yeah. The truth is that there has always been that lingering question. I had a breakdown about twelve years ago and one of the things that the psych wanted to do was visit my sexuality. It was at this time that the repressed memory of being molested by a neighbor came back. After the emotional turmoil cleared, we found that while I was scared and it traumatized me, a part of me wanted it again. Yet, I am always attracted to women. However, if I am watching a porn and a woman is going down on a guy, I get to wondering.
So I guess, in the end, it would do two things, it would please my wife, that is if she ever wanted sex again. And two, it would resolve the lingering question about whether I want men too. My psych had suggested I try to meet a man and find out, but I was dating my wife at the time and didn't want to ruin it. Plus, I always have that fear that even with protection, I might get something. I guess, I just get to remain hung up, and without any at all.

Oh, and if we are applying labels, my psych called it bi-curious.

 

[tonethebone]

Your post makes my point, straight men are not allowed to label themselves. The fear of being called gay is been so ingrained in straight men since childhood, most straight males won't even consider sucking a cock as a fetish for their wife, even if they might want to. In my opinion, the fear of being labeled inhibits this fantasy for many couples.

Very much my feelings when I was a teen and into my 20's and 30's. But now that I'm in my 50's, I could care less what others think. None of their business anyway.

I've done it without my wife. And would jump at the chance to do it in front of her.

 

[CounterBalance]

Absolutely! Not only would I do it to please my wife, but I would certainly get a lot of enjoyment out of it myself. Like a lot of the men posting here, I have often fantasized about it.

Now, would I want to do it without my wife present? Probably not, as her watching and getting aroused would be a big part of it for me - but that doesn't mean I wouldn't enjoy the act for the sake of itself.

As for him cumming in my mouth - that would definitely depend on what state of arousal I was in at the time.

 

[jackstud]

Yeah. You're probably right. Though I think in our case, he's just not really turned on by the idea. I guess all we can do is make our bedrooms a safe place for our partner (or partners ) to get off without judgment. I will continue to do my part!

What a beautiful Women you are and wife

 

[BRedshift]

No, never, would not do it. But I respect those willing to admit they would. But I do think it would be cool to have a guy help me take care of my wife and clean her up after I shoot my load in her.