My wife cheated. I found out. After I got over the initial shock, hurt, and anger, the whole thing became an intense turn-on.

[TonyF862]

I'm in the camp that had no idea it would turn me on. Once I found out she was cheating with a co-worker, my orgasms were unbelievable when we would have sex. It took a while for me, and her, to "recover" from the affair, but the sex was amazing once we started reconnecting in the weeks and months after the affair was revealed.

So where do things stand now? Are you back to being exclusive or did it open up you rmarriage?

 

[Grindallnight]

So where do things stand now? Are you back to being exclusive or did it open up you rmarriage?

We have been exclusive, but she has my encouragement to enjoy another man anytime she would like. She does bring it up during sex, so I know it's on her mind, too.

 

[TonyF862]

We have been exclusive, but she has my encouragement to enjoy another man anytime she would like. She does bring it up during sex, so I know it's on her mind, too.

how old are you all? Still have kids at home?

 

[Grindallnight]

how old are you all? Still have kids at home?

Late 40's, yes we have two in high school.

 

[KinkStevens]

I found out a few years ago that my wife had been getting plowed behind my back for years by a good-looking single stud who works for her company in another part of the country. It started at the company's annual sales meeting in Orlando. They were part of a big group drinking in one of the resort bars on the last night, and were introduced by a mutual friend. He started coming on to her right away, undeterred by her wedding ring and learning that she was a married mom of two. He bought her a Cosmo, then another. He flirted, she flirted back. He was smooth, confident, charming. As the alcohol took hold she became excited, probably quite obviously so. Eventually he suggested they go up to her room for "a nightcap" and without hesitating she agreed. They fucked and sucked all night, until he had to go back to his room and pack up for his flight home. That first night was so good, he was so fit, so hung, so skilled, she came so hard, that she was literally addicted and kept going back for more, over and over for 10 years before I finally found out.

Edit: I'd love to hear from other cheated-on husbands or boyfriends who have experienced this roller coaster ride, and anyone else interested in thoughtful discussion of female infidelity, hypergamy, betrayal and humiliation.

This is ground zero for many cucks

 

[TonyF862]

Late 40's, yes we have two in high school.

That 'splains a lot. Tough w. kids around. Once ours were off to college things really opened up.

 

[vanquished005]

my 61YO catholic wife had been faithful for most of our marriage. she was a virgin when we got married and, until about 4 years or so ago, i believe that she had never even seen or touched another man's cock.

My wife is very involved with our local catholic church and our diocese. She is on the parish's board of trustees and various diocese committees, she gets involved with different church ministries, she teaches religious education to teenagers and the like. She also started a Bible study group.

A few years back, we started to have some issues with our marriage, at the same time that my wife's sex drive started to increase dramatically. this was also the time that she was studying for her masters in theology, so i assume that younger guys were hitting on her at her classes and that triggered her sex drive. my wife told me that she needed counseling to cope with the situation and started going to our parish priest for counseling. she ended up sleeping with the priest behind my back for about 6 months or so.

The guy she is fucking now is a younger stay at home husband in her Bible study group. she has been bending over for him for around 4 years now. She has no idea that i know about either of her affairs. But I jerk off constantly just thinking about her cheating on me.

 

[Tom_Brown]

my 61YO catholic wife had been faithful for most of our marriage. she was a virgin when we got married and, until about 4 years or so ago, i believe that she had never even seen or touched another man's cock.

My wife is very involved with our local catholic church and our diocese. She is on the parish's board of trustees and various diocese committees, she gets involved with different church ministries, she teaches religious education to teenagers and the like. She also started a Bible study group.

A few years back, we started to have some issues with our marriage, at the same time that my wife's sex drive started to increase dramatically. this was also the time that she was studying for her masters in theology, so i assume that younger guys were hitting on her at her classes and that triggered her sex drive. my wife told me that she needed counseling to cope with the situation and started going to our parish priest for counseling. she ended up sleeping with the priest behind my back for about 6 months or so.

The guy she is fucking now is a younger stay at home husband in her Bible study group. she has been bending over for him for around 4 years now. She has no idea that i know about either of her affairs. But I jerk off constantly just thinking about her cheating on me.

How did you find out?

Have you ever seen her fucking either of them?

You should slowly bring up the idea of her experiencing other men, when you and her have sex. Eventually she may believe that you really want it to happen and will fuck another guy in your presence.

I did with my wife and after 15 years of coaxing her into it, she did it. I was treated to watching her have sex with another man.

 

[TonyF862]

How did you find out?

Have you ever seen her fucking either of them?

You should slowly bring up the idea of her experiencing other men, when you and her have sex. Eventually she may believe that you really want it to happen and will fuck another guy in your presence.

I did with my wife and after 15 years of coaxing her into it, she did it. I was treated to watching her have sex with another man.

Did it grow/continue? WHere are you now as a couple? Do you swing/swap/hotwife?

 

[Ed_Sumner]

Do you think (or know) if you had been with her after her recently being with him?

My ultimate fantasy is coming home unexpectedly and finding my wife sleeping naked in bed, (legs spread, and cum oozing from her pussy) after just being fucked by another guy!

She did all her extracurricular fucking when she was traveling on business, so it would always have been the next day (or later) before I would have been with her. After I found out and spent a couple of months extracting every conceivable detail from her she admitted to avoiding sex with me for at least a few days after returning home because her pussy was stretched out and sore from getting pounded by his huge cock.

 

[Ed_Sumner]

my 61YO catholic wife had been faithful for most of our marriage. she was a virgin when we got married and, until about 4 years or so ago, i believe that she had never even seen or touched another man's cock.

My wife is very involved with our local catholic church and our diocese. She is on the parish's board of trustees and various diocese committees, she gets involved with different church ministries, she teaches religious education to teenagers and the like. She also started a Bible study group.

A few years back, we started to have some issues with our marriage, at the same time that my wife's sex drive started to increase dramatically. this was also the time that she was studying for her masters in theology, so i assume that younger guys were hitting on her at her classes and that triggered her sex drive. my wife told me that she needed counseling to cope with the situation and started going to our parish priest for counseling. she ended up sleeping with the priest behind my back for about 6 months or so.

The guy she is fucking now is a younger stay at home husband in her Bible study group. she has been bending over for him for around 4 years now. She has no idea that i know about either of her affairs. But I jerk off constantly just thinking about her cheating on me.

This is incredibly sexy stuff! I'm glad you're enjoying your situation. I wonder if she ever gave in to temptation with one of those young guys in her theology program?

 

[vanquished005]

How did you find out?

Have you ever seen her fucking either of them?

You should slowly bring up the idea of her experiencing other men, when you and her have sex. Eventually she may believe that you really want it to happen and will fuck another guy in your presence.

I did with my wife and after 15 years of coaxing her into it, she did it. I was treated to watching her have sex with another man.

a friend of mine from the parish gave me a heads up about the priest and his reputation for sleeping with some of the catholic wives and single moms in the parish. i then asked another friend of mine to clone my wife's phone, and the text messages confirmed what i had suspected and really what i was hoping to hear.

as to her bible study boyfriend, the wife of another friend of mine is also in my wife’s bible study group. She shared her suspicions with her husband, who then gave me a heads up. again, her text messages confirmed what i needed to know.
Sometimes I jerk off just reading the text messages that they send to each other and that I grab from her phone. I guess I should be ashamed of myself…..

 

[Ed_Sumner]

a friend of mine from the parish gave me a heads up about the priest and his reputation for sleeping with some of the catholic wives and single moms in the parish. i then asked another friend of mine to clone my wife's phone, and the text messages confirmed what i had suspected and really what i was hoping to hear.

as to her bible study boyfriend, the wife of another friend of mine is also in my wife’s bible study group. She shared her suspicions with her husband, who then gave me a heads up. again, her text messages confirmed what i needed to know.
Sometimes I jerk off just reading the text messages that they send to each other and that I grab from her phone. I guess I should be ashamed of myself…..

Nothing to be ashamed of man, just enjoy it as you have been.

 

[TonyF862]

a friend of mine from the parish gave me a heads up about the priest and his reputation for sleeping with some of the catholic wives and single moms in the parish. i then asked another friend of mine to clone my wife's phone, and the text messages confirmed what i had suspected and really what i was hoping to hear.

as to her bible study boyfriend, the wife of another friend of mine is also in my wife’s bible study group. She shared her suspicions with her husband, who then gave me a heads up. again, her text messages confirmed what i needed to know.
Sometimes I jerk off just reading the text messages that they send to each other and that I grab from her phone. I guess I should be ashamed of myself…..

Have you thought about how to approach her and let her know you know, and that you're ok with it, and it turns you on?

Seems it could open an incredible door of "ethical non-monogamy" and most importantly honesty and openness. Doing so w my wife has led to an INCREDIBLE level of closeness and honesty in our relationship and has brought us closer than we've ever been.

 

[Tom_Brown]

a friend of mine from the parish gave me a heads up about the priest and his reputation for sleeping with some of the catholic wives and single moms in the parish. i then asked another friend of mine to clone my wife's phone, and the text messages confirmed what i had suspected and really what i was hoping to hear.

as to her bible study boyfriend, the wife of another friend of mine is also in my wife’s bible study group. She shared her suspicions with her husband, who then gave me a heads up. again, her text messages confirmed what i needed to know.
Sometimes I jerk off just reading the text messages that they send to each other and that I grab from her phone. I guess I should be ashamed of myself…..

There’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s perfectly normal for some men to have that kink. I for one, craved watching (or knowing that) my wife fuck another guy.

You really should ease into it while having sex with your wife. I started by saying things like “God, your pussy feels so good.” Then as she gives you head say “sorry that I can’t satisfy your pussy right now. You probably wish that my cock was in you. Too bad someone wasn’t here to satisfy your needs while you suck my cock.”

If she moans or gets more into the blow job, whisper to her that you’re gonna find someone to fuck her while she gives you head or that you’re gonna fuck her while she gives him head. If her arousal continues, tell her that you’d love to see it happen and ask her if she wants that too.

You may be surprised with the results.

 

[JR284]

Cheating is exactly how my wife and I got started in the lifestyle. For the first couple years of our relationship, I thought my wife was this sweet and innocent woman but she had been cheating on me all along. Like so many others on this thread, I found it to be a massive turn on. To this day, cheating is a core part of the dynamic that we have. Obviously it's not the same as when she was genuinely doing it behind my back unaware that I would enjoy it, but there are shortly times when she still does things and keeps them to herself for me to find out on my own down the road or her just randomly revealing some fun she had on the side.

 

[Ed_Sumner]

Cheating is exactly how my wife and I got started in the lifestyle. For the first couple years of our relationship, I thought my wife was this sweet and innocent woman but she had been cheating on me all along. Like so many others on this thread, I found it to be a massive turn on. To this day, cheating is a core part of the dynamic that we have. Obviously it's not the same as when she was genuinely doing it behind my back unaware that I would enjoy it, but there are shortly times when she still does things and keeps them to herself for me to find out on my own down the road or her just randomly revealing some fun she had on the side.

I'd like to hear more about your experience, so similar to mine. PM if you want to chat about it.

 

[Ed_Sumner]

Have you thought about how to approach her and let her know you know, and that you're ok with it, and it turns you on?

Seems it could open an incredible door of "ethical non-monogamy" and most importantly honesty and openness. Doing so w my wife has led to an INCREDIBLE level of closeness and honesty in our relationship and has brought us closer than we've ever been.

This has been my exact experience too. It's so worth trying!

 

[Easypeter]

She did all her extracurricular fucking when she was traveling on business, so it would always have been the next day (or later) before I would have been with her. After I found out and spent a couple of months extracting every conceivable detail from her she admitted to avoiding sex with me for at least a few days after returning home because her pussy was stretched out and sore from getting pounded by his huge cock.

That’s how I figured out my wife was cheating on me . She’d come home stretched and as we fucked she’d have her mind other places .

 

[Ed_Sumner]

That’s how I figured out my wife was cheating on me . She’d come home stretched and as we fucked she’d have her mind other places .

Did you eventually confront her?

 

[Easypeter]

Did you eventually confront her?

I have several times and she denies it . I get hard and I notice her nipples get hard . She loves it I think