cat, I think that was a very well-put post.
shy, I'm sorry for anything I said in a flippant moment that may have antagonized you. My perspective is that if those in a relationship see an act or experience as "BDSM," then to them it is. There have been several here who have expressed necrophilia not in an abstract, "I want to fuck dead people" sort of way (not BDSM in and of itself, which I think we all agree on) but in a "if my Master told me it was his desire to fuck me after I died" or "if my Master told me it was his desire that I fuck him after he died" context, which to me DOES put it back into the realm of BDSM, albeit on the far end. Orgasm denial isn't BDSM if the partner doing the denying isn't consciously doing it--e.g. they just aren't getting their partner off. It takes intent and context, I believe. (That might be worth its own thread if it hasn't been done.) The context here is that this is an action contiguous with the relationship, past the "death do us part" line. I think that's where we've been coming from.
Again, I am sorry if any of my words seemed careless or hurtful. Such was not my intent.
shy, I'm sorry for anything I said in a flippant moment that may have antagonized you. My perspective is that if those in a relationship see an act or experience as "BDSM," then to them it is. There have been several here who have expressed necrophilia not in an abstract, "I want to fuck dead people" sort of way (not BDSM in and of itself, which I think we all agree on) but in a "if my Master told me it was his desire to fuck me after I died" or "if my Master told me it was his desire that I fuck him after he died" context, which to me DOES put it back into the realm of BDSM, albeit on the far end. Orgasm denial isn't BDSM if the partner doing the denying isn't consciously doing it--e.g. they just aren't getting their partner off. It takes intent and context, I believe. (That might be worth its own thread if it hasn't been done.) The context here is that this is an action contiguous with the relationship, past the "death do us part" line. I think that's where we've been coming from.
Again, I am sorry if any of my words seemed careless or hurtful. Such was not my intent.
