Need help...

[shy slave]

Let me tell you, it's hard, but you can learn to trust again.

Sounds to me like everything was a break down in comunication. The real key is getting that comunication back on track. It's hard, and takes a lot of work, but if you are both commited to it, it can happen.

But the most important part is listening to that voice inside you, it usually knows best.

I am sorry that you are going through such a confusing, complicated time.

Lots of people have given really thoughts on this subject but only you can decide what to do.

I think the capians wench is right, it is hard but it is possible to get the trust back.

It won't be the same relationship you had before, but may become a stronger relationship for having come through a difficult time.


On the other hand I also agree with papillion, if that voice inside is saying to leave then you follow your inner voice.

Originally Posted by papilllon
Whatever anyone of us says, whatever anybody from any background says, follow that little voice inside you. If it feels wrongs to you than it is wrong, whatever kind of commitment you made to this man.

Somehow, you probably know deep inside if you should stay in this relationship or go away. And even if you have made a commitment to be someone's slave, the reality of living in our world is that nobody can force you to remain in any kind of relationship if you're unhappy. So, my advice to you is forget what you should or should not do and do what you feel is the best course of action for your own well being. Life is too short to stay in any relationship if it makes you unhappy...

Sometimes it is hard to work out what is for the best. Don't rush this decision, if you really don't know, do nothing.
There will come a point when you know exactly what is the right thing to do

 

[Daddyslilpet]

What worries me now is how to move forward. The trust is definetly broken and, in such a lifestyle, i'm still questioning whether or not to continue in this relationship if W/we can't trust each other. Not being in such a situation before, i'm not sure if i can learn to trust Him again, and that's a bit intimidating.

Then, on the reverse, maybe having such a scare is something W/we needed. W/we did both realize that W/we have to learn to communicate and saw what was wrong before W/we just split. If this situation allows U/us to grow as a couple, is it worth it to stay?

Thank you all for the advice and hugs, though. **mass hug back**

O/our one year anniversary is on December 7th and i've agreed to stay until then. Pissed as hell but still love Him...ooof...

Let me just tell you that I know from experience that trusts can be rebuilt. Communication is definately the key to making it work in this lifestyle. The two of you must be totally open and honest with one another, no matter what is going on, or you will fail again.

Also you must both seriously work together to overcome this. It can not be a one sided effort. You have to let go of your anger as soon as you can, and begin to heal this relationship.

Otherwise, you might as well walk out the door. Those are your choices. I wish you the best of luck!

 

[Marquis]

Trust can be rebuilt.

Whether it's worth your time is up to you and him.

 

[lne_iii]

Trust can be rebuilt.

Whether it's worth your time is up to you and him.

Any insight on this?

I've never been able to do it, but I'm very curious.