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SweetAngel36
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Hello
I'm SweetAngel36, I am very curious about the bsdm lifestyle. I think i am submissive by nature, and this is something I need to explore. To do this, I need your advice and experince if you don't mind.
A brief history is that I am a divorced woman, who had a very abusive marriage. I understand how I let this happen to me, and I am learning to establish boundaries in my life to eliminate this in the future. I haven't been with anyone since I split from my husband due to this. I want to make the right decisions this time around.
There are aspects to me that I do recognize that have to be taken into consideration for future relationships. I am submissive in bed to the point of being a doormat sometimes. I will do what my partner requests even if it causes me discomfort or pain. This is something I am working on to make the changes needed to happily live my life. I want a satisfying relationship, one that involves respect as well as my need to please who I am with, because that need can be very overwhelming at times. I derive my pleasure from how much I can give. I do like pleasure pain, but not the extent that my ex would dish out. I have no desire to be left bruised and bleeding again. I feel the need to take care of all of my partners needs, all of them, to ensure that they are happy with me and thrive on praise from doing well.
I need someone stoner then me, I cannot deny the urge I have to be dominated. The question I have is that is it possible to have a truly loving relationship and be dominated at the same time? How do I incorporate this into my life so that I can be truly happy? And how do I find the right person for me willing to except me for who i am?
I wouldn't have posted, but I'm really hoping to find the answers I seek and to not feel like I am damaged or a freak because of my experience with my ex. Please help me figure this out? Thanks for any help you can provide.
I'm SweetAngel36, I am very curious about the bsdm lifestyle. I think i am submissive by nature, and this is something I need to explore. To do this, I need your advice and experince if you don't mind.
A brief history is that I am a divorced woman, who had a very abusive marriage. I understand how I let this happen to me, and I am learning to establish boundaries in my life to eliminate this in the future. I haven't been with anyone since I split from my husband due to this. I want to make the right decisions this time around.
There are aspects to me that I do recognize that have to be taken into consideration for future relationships. I am submissive in bed to the point of being a doormat sometimes. I will do what my partner requests even if it causes me discomfort or pain. This is something I am working on to make the changes needed to happily live my life. I want a satisfying relationship, one that involves respect as well as my need to please who I am with, because that need can be very overwhelming at times. I derive my pleasure from how much I can give. I do like pleasure pain, but not the extent that my ex would dish out. I have no desire to be left bruised and bleeding again. I feel the need to take care of all of my partners needs, all of them, to ensure that they are happy with me and thrive on praise from doing well.
I need someone stoner then me, I cannot deny the urge I have to be dominated. The question I have is that is it possible to have a truly loving relationship and be dominated at the same time? How do I incorporate this into my life so that I can be truly happy? And how do I find the right person for me willing to except me for who i am?
I wouldn't have posted, but I'm really hoping to find the answers I seek and to not feel like I am damaged or a freak because of my experience with my ex. Please help me figure this out? Thanks for any help you can provide.
SweetAngel36
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Welcome SweetAngel
My advice to is read a great deal and explore as you are willing and able in real time at local kink meetings.
FF
Where would I find a local meeting? How would they be listed and where?
FurryFury
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A good internet search will turn up something for you.
I don't know where you are but there is always something in most areas.
FF
seela
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Try fetlife.com. Many people seem to have found local people through it.
SweetAngel36
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Welcome SweetAngel
My advice to is read a great deal and explore as you are willing and able in real time at local kink meetings.
FF
Thank you
Ken65B
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canes
we have not used canes. I am a dom not a sadist. We have used hogslaps and floggers to sting and stimulate the clit and labia not hurt them. My wife says that the after warmth is arrousing.
we have not used canes. I am a dom not a sadist. We have used hogslaps and floggers to sting and stimulate the clit and labia not hurt them. My wife says that the after warmth is arrousing.
Hello everyone; thought I'd introduce myself here. I've read some stories and the forums a bit, but never joined in on any of the fun until now. I'm an observer by nature, so it's pretty natural for me to watch for a bit before I get myself involved 
I'm a male college student. I'm an intellectual, a philosopher, and a tad bit crazy. My train of thought can be hard to follow at times, so don't worry if you ever get lost when having a conversation with me; it happens a lot.
I've always been morbidly curious about almost everything, so I started to explore sex rather early on. I'm always open to new things, which is partly why I like this site; so many wonderful ideas. So long as it sounds fun, I'll give it a try. My kinks and fetishes are many and widely varied, but just a short list should suffice for now: Domination (Technically I'm a switch, but I'm usually on the dominant side) Lingerie and Risque clothing (On women, not myself easily one of my greatest turn-on's is finding the perfect set of lingerie for a woman. Photography is also a hobby of mine and I love doing Risque shoots. ) Touching (I have very sensitive hands. One thing I never forget is the way something feels when I run my fingertips across it. Needless to say, I'm quite partial to using my hands; touching, caressing, giving massages and more) And I'm sure there are more, but I think I've taken up enough space for now.
Just thought an introduction was in order, thanks to anyone taking the time to read about me.
~CW
I'm a male college student. I'm an intellectual, a philosopher, and a tad bit crazy. My train of thought can be hard to follow at times, so don't worry if you ever get lost when having a conversation with me; it happens a lot.I've always been morbidly curious about almost everything, so I started to explore sex rather early on. I'm always open to new things, which is partly why I like this site; so many wonderful ideas. So long as it sounds fun, I'll give it a try. My kinks and fetishes are many and widely varied, but just a short list should suffice for now: Domination (Technically I'm a switch, but I'm usually on the dominant side) Lingerie and Risque clothing (On women, not myself
easily one of my greatest turn-on's is finding the perfect set of lingerie for a woman. Photography is also a hobby of mine and I love doing Risque shoots. ) Touching (I have very sensitive hands. One thing I never forget is the way something feels when I run my fingertips across it. Needless to say, I'm quite partial to using my hands; touching, caressing, giving massages and more) And I'm sure there are more, but I think I've taken up enough space for now.Just thought an introduction was in order, thanks to anyone taking the time to read about me.
~CW
Ken65B
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Damn, Sarah, you are my wifes' clone. When some lucky guy snaps you up he is going to have one happy and eventful life.
Hi, I am Stephanie. I am fairly new to Lit, and new to sex in general. I am naturally submissive and am trying to find a Dom to claim me. I just recently began exploring my sexuality and can't wait for more. I am a very sexual person; I masturbate 4-5 times a week. I recently tries cybersex and had a great time. Any Doms out there looking for a new sub, let me know. I want you to control me.
Welcome Steph
FF
Thanks Furry! I'm looking forward to talking with you all.
Hornylilgurl
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Okkie dokkie sooo....im brand new to this site I fell in love with the storys and fell in love so I started to look around and here I am and now thanks to this place im kinda maybe sorta becomin obsessed with bdsm and I so in signed up so I could learn alittle bit more of wat is all about ...OH yah im bree and im 21 yup thats it for now I guess <3
skittybelle
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Hello! I'm skittybelle, but please feel free to just call me skitty.
I've been lurking on the forum (but mostly the library) for a few years now, and finally registered because of my new love, Beau. But first, I would like to share a little about why I'm in this specific part of the forum introducing myself
A few years ago, when I was 15, I was a very shy person having trouble dealing with the other kids calling me a frigid bitch, etc. My grades were suffering, my mother couldn't understand what I was going through (I have aspergers, so I can understand why now, but at that age I didn't give a flying fuck), and I ended up spending most of my time playing an mmorpg.
Now, in-game, I was who I wanted to be in RL: successful, popular, not shy. I had many friends, some of whom I still keep in touch with. It was during this time that I met J. He was playing for the same reason I was - to escape RL (he was divorced and in the middle of a custody battle). He was 30, twice my age. At first we talked about game things, then our interests, then our personal relationships and mental states. Our relationship evolved gradually. It was a purely platonic, internet-based relationship (we never met offline, and he never asked to). He was a friend and confidante, father figure and mentor. And unrelentingly honest - didn't sugarcoat anything. He even helped me with my homework. Suffice to say, he did more for me than therapy ever did.
There was only one time I upset him, and it was after I asked a, ah, rather risky question. It was a question about sex. A very specific question. That day at school I had overheard the boy I was crushing on talking about how his girlfriend (grrr) loved to be tied up and spanked etc. I was confused. To me it sounded wrong. Sick, even. But exciting. So I asked J about it. After a firm lecture, and a meek apology from me, he finally told me it was called BDSM. He explained the concept of safe and sane and consenting, and not to ask anyone else about it because of my age - lots of creeps online and whatnot. Blah blah blah another lecture on internet safety, then he had to go to bed because he had to be up early. That's when I googled for more info and soon emailed a list of questions to him. Later I received answers, and asked another round of questions. It was the start of my infatuation with BDSM. Eventually I asked how he knew so much and found out he was a Dom.
I would like to reiterate here that this was a PLATONiC relationship; we were ONLY friends, and nothing inappropriate occurred. Well, nothing inappropriate beyond my pestering him with questions about BDSM.
Yadda yadda , years passed, then lo and behold! my laptop had to have it's system restored - and I not only forgot to write down the password to my IM account, but forgot how to spell J's username. Still can't remember.
Anyways. After my 18th bday I had a boyfriend who was delightfully aggressive, shared some of the same fantasies, and more then happy to play with me. I'm grinning like a fool just remembering it... Mmmmm... Unfortunately I was subjected to another move to another school because of my mother's gypsy blood. Blah blah blah insert depressing stuff here. Anyways. After graduating high school, I got a job, moved in with a new bf, and mother moved to another state. Yippee! Freedom! Start Impersonal Short Summary: bf killed himself in september. Moved in with coworker. Had light BDSM fun with coworker. Then met amazing guy. Was forced to quite job and move back in with mother. End Impersonal Short Summary.
This amazing guy is why I finally decided to register on the forum. He's the only man I've met who, well, gets me, and has all of the qualities my ideal has. Stable job (he's military), is very tall (over 6'! I'm just 5'5"!), in great shape (thank you, military), wears a uniform (mmm military), is sweet and kind and intelligent and knows how to handle all of my moods. He's also very aggressive. Refused to take no for an answer even though I was moving to another state. And is a very good kisser. And well-endowed. He also tricked me the night before he had to catch a flight back to base, just 3 weeks before my scheduled move.Well, okay, he didn't trick me. He just didn't think to tell me. But I mean, what the fuck was I supposed to think after he pinned me against a wall and growled and and and spanked me and omg made me feel amazing...? I had been with men who had tons of experience. And he was blowing them out of the water! I was so floored when I found out that I kinda just zombie walked myself into bed. And we snuggled. And the next morning, under the influence of many yummy dreams, I took his virginity and almost made him late for his plane.
(I swear, none of you would have suspected anything either!)
Annnnyways, that was late january. Since then we've been doing a lot of talking - sharing fantasies and swapping favorite erotic stories etc - and I find myself with a dilemma. He's interested in being my Dom, but terrified of hurting me. And I really have no clue how to explain it to him. I mean, he's aggressive, deliciously aggressive, but very caring, doesn't want to disrespect me (I haven't told him yet some of the things I like to imagine him saying to me), and can't understand how he can be a Dom and still be nice. Again, I have no clue how to explain it to him. I really only asked J sub questions, not Dom ones.
So, I was hoping by registering if Beau asks a question I don't know how to answer or am not sure how to, I'll have a friendly community to fall back on for support
(quick warning: I'm a little bit dense sometimes.... please have patience with me!)
I've been lurking on the forum (but mostly the library) for a few years now, and finally registered because of my new love, Beau. But first, I would like to share a little about why I'm in this specific part of the forum introducing myself
A few years ago, when I was 15, I was a very shy person having trouble dealing with the other kids calling me a frigid bitch, etc. My grades were suffering, my mother couldn't understand what I was going through (I have aspergers, so I can understand why now, but at that age I didn't give a flying fuck), and I ended up spending most of my time playing an mmorpg.
Now, in-game, I was who I wanted to be in RL: successful, popular, not shy. I had many friends, some of whom I still keep in touch with. It was during this time that I met J. He was playing for the same reason I was - to escape RL (he was divorced and in the middle of a custody battle). He was 30, twice my age. At first we talked about game things, then our interests, then our personal relationships and mental states. Our relationship evolved gradually. It was a purely platonic, internet-based relationship (we never met offline, and he never asked to). He was a friend and confidante, father figure and mentor. And unrelentingly honest - didn't sugarcoat anything. He even helped me with my homework. Suffice to say, he did more for me than therapy ever did.
There was only one time I upset him, and it was after I asked a, ah, rather risky question. It was a question about sex. A very specific question. That day at school I had overheard the boy I was crushing on talking about how his girlfriend (grrr) loved to be tied up and spanked etc. I was confused. To me it sounded wrong. Sick, even. But exciting. So I asked J about it. After a firm lecture, and a meek apology from me, he finally told me it was called BDSM. He explained the concept of safe and sane and consenting, and not to ask anyone else about it because of my age - lots of creeps online and whatnot. Blah blah blah another lecture on internet safety, then he had to go to bed because he had to be up early. That's when I googled for more info and soon emailed a list of questions to him. Later I received answers, and asked another round of questions. It was the start of my infatuation with BDSM. Eventually I asked how he knew so much and found out he was a Dom.
I would like to reiterate here that this was a PLATONiC relationship; we were ONLY friends, and nothing inappropriate occurred. Well, nothing inappropriate beyond my pestering him with questions about BDSM.
Yadda yadda , years passed, then lo and behold! my laptop had to have it's system restored - and I not only forgot to write down the password to my IM account, but forgot how to spell J's username. Still can't remember.
Anyways. After my 18th bday I had a boyfriend who was delightfully aggressive, shared some of the same fantasies, and more then happy to play with me. I'm grinning like a fool just remembering it... Mmmmm... Unfortunately I was subjected to another move to another school because of my mother's gypsy blood. Blah blah blah insert depressing stuff here. Anyways. After graduating high school, I got a job, moved in with a new bf, and mother moved to another state. Yippee! Freedom! Start Impersonal Short Summary: bf killed himself in september. Moved in with coworker. Had light BDSM fun with coworker. Then met amazing guy. Was forced to quite job and move back in with mother. End Impersonal Short Summary.
This amazing guy is why I finally decided to register on the forum. He's the only man I've met who, well, gets me, and has all of the qualities my ideal has. Stable job (he's military), is very tall (over 6'! I'm just 5'5"!), in great shape (thank you, military), wears a uniform (mmm military), is sweet and kind and intelligent and knows how to handle all of my moods. He's also very aggressive. Refused to take no for an answer even though I was moving to another state. And is a very good kisser. And well-endowed. He also tricked me the night before he had to catch a flight back to base, just 3 weeks before my scheduled move.Well, okay, he didn't trick me. He just didn't think to tell me. But I mean, what the fuck was I supposed to think after he pinned me against a wall and growled and and and spanked me and omg made me feel amazing...? I had been with men who had tons of experience. And he was blowing them out of the water! I was so floored when I found out that I kinda just zombie walked myself into bed. And we snuggled. And the next morning, under the influence of many yummy dreams, I took his virginity and almost made him late for his plane.
(I swear, none of you would have suspected anything either!)
Annnnyways, that was late january. Since then we've been doing a lot of talking - sharing fantasies and swapping favorite erotic stories etc - and I find myself with a dilemma. He's interested in being my Dom, but terrified of hurting me. And I really have no clue how to explain it to him. I mean, he's aggressive, deliciously aggressive, but very caring, doesn't want to disrespect me (I haven't told him yet some of the things I like to imagine him saying to me
), and can't understand how he can be a Dom and still be nice. Again, I have no clue how to explain it to him. I really only asked J sub questions, not Dom ones. So, I was hoping by registering if Beau asks a question I don't know how to answer or am not sure how to, I'll have a friendly community to fall back on for support
(quick warning: I'm a little bit dense sometimes.... please have patience with me!)
skittybelle
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Voiced and non-voiced communication. As in, pay close attention to their body language and what they say.
pantyboy4mistress
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Hi. I'm Kitten. I'm a pantyboy.
I've had a thing for...and in...cute panties since I was eleven.
I also fantasize about a woman taking control of me and feminizing me and making me her little sissy.
I have a recurring fantasy about big black cocks.
I love spanking and school uniforms, first-time gay stories, and petticoat punishment tales.
Nice to be here.
Hey everyone!
I've had a thing for...and in...cute panties since I was eleven.
I also fantasize about a woman taking control of me and feminizing me and making me her little sissy.
I have a recurring fantasy about big black cocks.
I love spanking and school uniforms, first-time gay stories, and petticoat punishment tales.
Nice to be here.
Hey everyone!
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