Chris_Xavier said:
She's told me (and a few others) that she wouldn't mind finding a guy to top.
She's got an ad up.. here
(now let's see if she finds out I've been pimping her)
gingermango said:It's okay. This place is full of kinky people who love to talk about themselves.
The temper thing, though . . . that's something to be careful of at all times, but especially during kinky D/s play, when someone's safety is in your hands, or yours in theirs. It's good that you are aware of it.
One factor that gets overlooked a lot in D/S discussions, especially when talking with new people, is communication between partners. If you are open about your desires and limits, it's a lot more likely that you'll be satisfied by your play times, and things which might tend to trigger that anger are less likely to occur.
gingermango said:I've found that while I crave a certain kind of humiliation and being "put in my place," if it's done the wrong way it can lead to a very bad situation.
As a beginner, I'd recommend you do a search on the topics of "scene space" or "sub space" - it's that kind of "place" or state of mind a submissive/bottom gets to when things are going really well. It's almost like being hypnotized, or an athlete "being in the zone."
When a sub is in that space, they may act or speak without really realizing the full implications of what they're doing or saying. At the same time, they are likely to be pretty emotionally vulnerable - if you are topping someone who's in their scene space, an uncontrolled outburst could be just as devastating to them as anyone, even if they intellectually crave humiliation. The truly skilled dominants are those that humiliate or inflict discomfort (in whatever fashion - physical or emotional) in a controlled, thoughtful manner. The trick is that sub is usually by then so deep into their own mental space that they don't know the difference. A willing suspension of disbelief, as it were.
Anyway, none of this is meant as a criticism, just a point of view.
WriterDom said:
