no switch thread??? guess i gotta do it

[tinylittlegnat]

about the critisism, it definitely has its place, and is an excellent tool for controlling me. I'd certainly not suggest that a dominant be all lovey dovey all the time (ick)but its those few moments of approval and bliss that had me hooked.

thats one thing i havnt done yet. i use words not always in an endearing way but never in a negative way. i wouldnt want anyone to have sex with me and make me feel bad at the same time.

 

[BiBunny]

i like being a sub because their isnt anything that is hard about it.

*Blink*

What?

 

[Puman]

*Blink*

What?

LOL. Not too sure about that either..

 

[vampirecircus]

both switch

hi
my partner and I both switch... depending on mood.. as it were...
lately we have been thinking about getting a 3rd person involved, we both like the idear of being sub to them. anyone out there have any thoughts?

 

[vampirecircus]

oh sure your right and I have but I liked the thread about switching so thought like minded people would be reading this post....
no offence taken at all .

 

[unfoundiamond]

Nice Thread

who else is a switch. i go about 60/40 dom/sub. i enjoy both roles. although lately i have been a dom in a big way and really gotten into it. that is more thanks to lady ray than anyone else though.

so i want to know what everyone thinks of switch's. do you hate them? love them? think they should pick a role and stick to it?

most doms ive met dont care for them much or either dont bother. most subs ive met dont have much of an opinion. so what is your take?

okay, So...

People to me, seem like they are comfortable in a role and stick with it.... some people are sexually and socially D/S and gravitate to one side of the spectrum...

Then theres these other ppl, be it D/s, that say they are one thing that clearly display characteristics of the other role,

many "Doms" I have met get so threatened by the fact that i am a switch they jump to warning/threatening me I had better not try and top them...

to which i say, wait, just because i enjoy X thing, doesnt mean i want it with you!

...people seem to forget that tho a switch is or can be either or, people choose how to present themselves and what role they will play... I mean, just because the person is a Switch doesn't mean they are going to force something on another person...

It just trips me out...

oh and another thing.

Ever seen someone who achieves some title, like cop, that kind of hides behind it, like you can tell they are just scared inside so they want to belong to something, something that gives them, or gives them the illusion of being tough, because they need it.

I see Doms like this a lot, and these are often the ones who would crack on bottom and are so diametrically opposed to the idea they could be anything but dominant because they are afraid that if they aren't on top they are showing or admitting they are inferior, because they don't have a grasp of what it means to be bottom. These are the same people who think sub or bottom is synonymous with less, or weaker.

I think that alot of people who cannot admit they are dual have other underlying issues...

or maybe of course, They just dont know how, or dont like the idea

The idea you have to be one or the other or can never be be both is very closed minded and foolish... Along with the idea anyone can do either, some people like one or the other.... or both... but its when I cant say what Iam, because they are afraid if I am what I say i am they have to admit to themselves what they are... or are so afraid to they tell me I am not who I am,

or act like i am a preditor....

 

[unfoundiamond]

*Waves*

i too have encountered what you are talking about.

It hasnt cropped up for me rescently though, thankfully.

Lucky Man.

Its so bad, my current boyfriend wont go to any social events or any clubs....

We do what we do at home as He doesnt like being classified, and to be honest, switch is cool for me...

But all this naming and switch stuff has sent some ppl running.

 

[tinylittlegnat]

anyone else want to chime in?

 

[ladycrow]

I will. I would not call myself a switch. I am mentally dominant but as more masochistic than sadistic. -chuckles- Whatever that makes me..

 

[chauderlos]

.... that and i like becoming what my lover needs me to be. i am a naturally giving person....

... so i became what she needed me to be. she wanted more kinky so i let my kinky side out without restricting it. she likes it and i get to do all the things that have crossed my mind since i was 14

communication makes everything better

I couldn't have said it better... I like when I can sense what she wants/needs, and fulfill her wants/needs.
What makes our relationship great (among other things) is that we both want to please each other, that we're both open and we talk a lot... Communication, communication...
It just feel wonderful when I realize that both she and me can switch so smoothly from one role to an other...

 

[unpredictablebijou]

i like being a sub because their isnt anything that is hard about it. you just get to enjoy it kinda. .

*Blink*

What?

LOL. Not too sure about that either..

I had to wonder why I knew what he meant, but actually there's a way that that makes sense. Not that I want to put words in your mouth, tlg, but I think it's just that when you're a sub you don't have to be in charge of the experience. that's the appeal for me when I go there (which is rarely) is a sense of being 'off duty;' someone else gets to be in charge for a while, and I don't have to make decisions about what is supposed to happen next. Surrender in that sense is easier than being the one who must stay conscious and consider details like rope and safety and suchlike.

At least, that's how I took it.

As for me, I'm a little switchy, but it's about 25% sub these days. I'm rarely in the mood and there are really only two people who have both the skills and enough of my trust to be able to take me places.

fun thread!

bj

 

[BlueEyesEternal]

I've got a question. Would you say, as a switch, you are less likely to be monogamus? I can see how your needs could be met if you were with another switch, but if you were with a partner that is only D or s, is it important to get your switch time with someone else, or can you put the desire aside?

 

[borborite]

I'm a switch, and have proudly declared so in my local community for the past 12 years.

There is a lot of prejudice against male switches (just as there is against male bisexuals), but for me it's the best of both worlds.

- Jesse

 

[tinylittlegnat]

There is a lot of prejudice against male switches (just as there is against male bisexuals), but for me it's the best of both worlds.

not a very big community for it where i live but why the prejudice? seems to me the more versitile and flexible you are the better?

 

[tinylittlegnat]

had a wonderul experience wih ladyray last night being a complete dom. it was fantastic. first time she was totally in control.

shes the love of my life and she knows it