Not really BDSM but...

[Evil_Geoff]

Quick question:

Who's the Dominant in this relationship?

If HE is, quit trying to top from the bottom, it's his body, his fur and his decision.

If you are, TELL him to do it and be done with it.

*dusts his hands off...* Now that that's settled, what's the next problem?

 

[myinnerslut]

*dusts his hands off...* Now that that's settled, what's the next problem?

but they arnt in a D/s relationship.....

 

[rachy91]

Quick question:

Who's the Dominant in this relationship?

If HE is, quit trying to top from the bottom, it's his body, his fur and his decision.

If you are, TELL him to do it and be done with it.

*dusts his hands off...* Now that that's settled, what's the next problem?

read earlier posts

 

[Netzach]

im sorry but EW dont you shave your legs or arms? D: i coudnt stand not shaving my legs, they get so black and dirty (the hairs )

But whatever floats your boat!!

I have these little fuzzy blonde things. I worry that if I do they're gonna come up more coarse and stubbly. You have to hunt for my leg hair, so...I don't fix what's not broke. I do if I'm really worried about it, but most days no.

 

[rachy91]

I have these little fuzzy blonde things. I worry that if I do they're gonna come up more coarse and stubbly. You have to hunt for my leg hair, so...I don't fix what's not broke. I do if I'm really worried about it, but most days no.

Sounds good, your a lucky one with blode ones lol

 

[Evil_Geoff]

but they arnt in a D/s relationship.....

WHAT???

Oh the horror of it all! Vanilla alert! Vanilla alert! WHOOOP-WHOOOP-WHOOOP!

*WEG*

If it it isn't a D/s relationship, rachy's asking the wrong crowd for answers. *LOL*

read earlier posts

I did. Thus my previous answer. I was trying a very tongue in cheek way of saying "Make a choice and settle the matter."

Either submit to his desire or make him submit to yours. This trying to find ways to manipulate him into doing what you want is just that... manipulation. At this point in his life he's an adult, and he's either willing to try it or not, based on you having asked him. If he's not willing to try, no amount of suggestions, supposed benefits, pleading or wheedling will change his mind.

And continued attempts to get him to shave are more than likely going to irritate, then annoy, then anger him.

It's like janey asking me if I would eat liver. "No I don't like liver. Yes I've tried liver before. No, I'm not willing to try it again. I don't care if you think the way you fix it is divine. I don't care if it's got lots of vitamin A, so do carrots and spinach and I LIKE those. Babe... I've already told you, no, don't make liver for me. You can have it when I'm working nights and you're on your own, and yes you CAN learn to cook liver for one... janey... Do NOT ask me that again, or I will simply ban you from buying it and bringing it in my home..."

You've asked him to shave. He's said no. You said it is NOT a deal breaker. So let it go. If it IS a deal-breaker, then y'all have some more negotiation to do, but he needs to know it's that important to you.

I do things for janey frequently because it pleases me to do so. But some things are simply not open for negotiation. Eating liver is one of them. So is shaving my crotch. It isn't going to happen unless a doctor needs to harvest veins from my leg or run a catheter to my heart to put shunts in. janey and anyone else who is that intimate with me gets me au natural, hair and all. I suspect your fellow probably feels the same way, or he would have already said "sure, we can try it."

*shrugs* Sometimes I can be a very black and white fellow, sometimes I'm very grey. When it comes to manipulating a partner, I tend to get very black and white. But it's your relationship, you know him, I don't, so please use whatever will work in your situation, and feel free to discard what won't.

The advice I give is free, and it's worth every penny!

Just one more viewpoint to consider...

 

[rachy91]

Thanks Geoff for the advice, lol

*gives penny*

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I have these little fuzzy blonde things. I worry that if I do they're gonna come up more coarse and stubbly. You have to hunt for my leg hair, so...I don't fix what's not broke. I do if I'm really worried about it, but most days no.

Why do I suddenly have this incredible urge to get a bowl of hot water, some shaving cream, and a straight razor... and go find Netz ? ? ?

 

[incubus'_sub]

Netz, I''m a true blonde with little blonde fuzzies on my legs too, but I've been shaving them for years & they've never become coarse or dark. Luckily I'm genetically unhairy too, but I still shave all of me every day, on my Master's orders. Have never had an itch or a problem from doing it either. I have an epilator too but my hair has never gotten long or thick enough for it to work well. I did have a great time with the shop boy though, when I went to buy it & told him I wanted to remove all my pubic hair. LOL LOL.

Seriously, to the OP. This man is not your boyfriend. You've spoken to him on the phone & internet. You say you love him, but you're still a actively looking for a Dom. You're put off by his hairness just from a picture & you still haven't answered the question of did you ask him to send you a pic of his dick. If you didn't, & I'm guessing not, he's an internet horny who'll fuck anything he can get hold of, fat or not, & say anything to do it.

If you are serious, then keep looking for what you really want. If you are just desperate for a love life then go for this, but realise that if you require him to accept your body size without question then you owe it to him not to question his attributes either, it goes both ways.

 

[rachy91]

Unfortunately this is the hard decision i have to make, ive known this guy for close to a year, and for those who dont net date and such they wont really understand but if i break up with him, his whole world will crash, he has toldme as much, and im not sure how i would go without him

But, in saying that, i need to be dominated(thats just saying that broadly btw), and hes not giving me that, i need it,

So im kinda stuck with what to do but ill work through it i spose, i always do, everyone always works through their problems in the end

Edit** I have answered that question, you just need to look back

 

[rachy91]

Forgot to mention

-thanks for the input and
- im not "Desperate" fora love life, but their are obviously somethings i havent shared with the thread

This thread i started mainly to see if guys and girls could give me some good points on being shaved so i could tell him, and see what he says, even if he will only trim, thats better then nothing

 

[incubus'_sub]

Ok, he offered you a pic of his dick, how lovely (not) & how common amongst the internet players.

Believe me his world won't come crashing down in any way, shape or form. It's a great line to feed to the lonely, but it's not true.

Please, save yourself a lot of hurt & heartbreak. You don't find him attractive already, but you're still planning to have sex with him, if only you can talk him into getting rid of the hair. He has little, if any interest in being a Dom, which is what you say you really want. It's going nowhere.

 

[rachy91]

Thank You For Your Input.

 

[Homburg]

Oh dear, now that I re-read it....

well you got what I meant.

Whew. *wipes the back of his hand across his forehead*

I'm glad you clarified that. I woke up this morning with an itch and immediately thought of that post. Then I started wondering half-awake if I hadn't read it right the first time and....

That itch became FAR more real =P

Fuck, my imagination is an evil bitch.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I have found that men much more then woman are black and white on the shaving issue. The men who shave love it, and the men who don't shave down there would never consider it. My husband tried it once just to see how it would feel. Didn't make any difference to me. But I absolutely HATE stubble. Yuck. That hurts.


Now for me -I used to be natural then hubby asked to trim me. I agreed and then started trying out all shaved, a landing strip, even tried a full wax for when he returned from a deployment. He likes me tightly trimmed the best. Then I met my Dom and he insists that I never shave anywhere near my pussy. So now I am furry. My husband wasn't too happy at first but now he has gotten used to it and is fine with it. I like it better too. Much easier to maintain. I use conditioner on it and it is always soft and silky.

 

[Netzach]

Netz, I''m a true blonde with little blonde fuzzies on my legs too, but I've been shaving them for years & they've never become coarse or dark. Luckily I'm genetically unhairy too, but I still shave all of me every day, on my Master's orders. Have never had an itch or a problem from doing it either. I have an epilator too but my hair has never gotten long or thick enough for it to work well. I did have a great time with the shop boy though, when I went to buy it & told him I wanted to remove all my pubic hair. LOL LOL.

Seriously, to the OP. This man is not your boyfriend. You've spoken to him on the phone & internet. You say you love him, but you're still a actively looking for a Dom. You're put off by his hairness just from a picture & you still haven't answered the question of did you ask him to send you a pic of his dick. If you didn't, & I'm guessing not, he's an internet horny who'll fuck anything he can get hold of, fat or not, & say anything to do it.

If you are serious, then keep looking for what you really want. If you are just desperate for a love life then go for this, but realise that if you require him to accept your body size without question then you owe it to him not to question his attributes either, it goes both ways.

I've shaved, I've unshaved. If my Bull has a preference, it's for the parts of my pussy he's going to mouth the most to be clear of hair, but not the whole thing and to still use my pits and legs to horrify the kind of guys and women who'd "make me shave" - he's like that.

The only thing I've learned is that not shaving on me = totally nonmilitant and unremarkable as it is. If I was super furry I totally would.