Ok... tomorrow is my first D/s Day

[SailorC272002]

Sounds awful intense for the first time.

 

[SierraMoon]

Okay.
That was play session #1.
It gets better from here, darlin'.

looking forward to it, cym...

SailorC..... yes, it was intense, as to how he made me feel.... As for the things he did being intense... he only pushed me as far as i wanted to go... as i said, i only had to use the safe word yellow once (meaning slow down)... all the rest of the time, was incredible!!! Thanks for your concern tho... nice to know i have so many friends watching out for my welfare!!!

hugs to you both!! sierra

 

[lilredwolph]

I'm so glad to hear it went well, I am very happy for you. Stand in a cool shower for that tushie, will will make it easier to sit

 

[SailorC272002]

Have most people gone that extreme on their first time?

 

[Shadowsdream]

SierraMoon

Congratulations on your wonderful experience.

Simply by the way you describe it with pride and joy makes it very easy to understand why the Dom was proud of you.

I hope that every experience will live up to this one or surpass it in ways that even your dreams have not prepared you for.

 

[artful]

Sierra

(whew) Now I can uncross my fingers,(been a real bitch for me to type)well,...maybe it WAS a bastard of a challenge anyway.*chuckle*

I almost knew in my heart,...from all that we talked about,...it was going to be a good play for ya, but in reading your post,...seems like it was a GREAT one. Continued success to you Sierra. U go girl!!!

 

[~Dream~]

With Artful's permission,

Sierra ,way to go girl!! ii'm so so happy it went well for you sweety and all i can say is i am sooo jealous ..cant wait to be with my Master as my love for Him grows stronger every minute making it ever increasingly difficult to be apart..again tho sweety..CONGRATS!!! happy to hear He was good to you.
little does he know he's the lucky one .... <<<hugggs>>> dream

 

[SierraMoon]

thanks all....

lilredwolph... thanks for the tip... as i said last night, after we were done, he rubbed ice all over me, to make sure that i was somewhat comfortable... believe you me, it didn't take long for the ice to melt on my body!!!

SailorC...... i didn't really consider it to be extreme.. honest... yes, there were a couple times that i wondered to myself "what am i doing here?" but as soon as he would rub all the pain away, he rubbed the doubts away also....

Shadowsdream... you make me blush with your kind words.. if i did well during our play session, it is directly related to how he treated me... with gentle, kind hands when needed.....

Artful... sorry i made you wait so long to uncross your fingers... i was having too much fun to put a stop to the session, so i could let you know i was ok... maybe next time... hmmm... maybe a finger massage is in the near future for you?? hehe

and Artful's dream..... you will have your day with your Master...soon, i hope... it was one of the best experiences of my life!! I told him afterwards that i feel an inner peace right now, which is pretty funny, if you could see my outside... i'm purple, pink, and red everywhere, but i relish the sight of the marks, because it makes me relive everything that happened yesterday....mmmmmmm. Dream, you are an exceptional lady, with your words and wishes, and Artful is truly lucky to have you!!!
hugs to all... sierra

 

[artful]

Sierra

I am fortunate to have dream and pet both,...but also in having YOU as a dear friend!

 

[SierraMoon]

Re: Sierra

I am fortunate to have dream and pet both,...but also in having YOU as a dear friend! [/QUOTE
yes, of course, Artful, you are very fortunate to have 2 wonderful women with you.
And your dear friend wishes are returned to you 10 fold....... feel the same way about you sweetie!!!!!! hugs and kisses always... sierra

 

[SpectreT]

First off; congratulations! Glad to read you had a good time! Others have said all I can think of for postgame treamants, so I won't bother.

SailorC272002: I don't know about anyone else, but my first time involved a wide, thick plastic ruler as a spanking implement, and the reminders weren't there for too long. But then again, my first time was also her first time; we were just beginning to explore together.

Congrats, again!

 

[cymbidia]

Have most people gone that extreme on their first time?

My first time was a million years ago. (30, actually, when i was 15.) While the details have dimmed with time, i do remember wrist and ankle restraints, a flogger, a slapper, and a bunch of rope tied all over the place (including around my breasts).

Afterwards, i was sore and bruised and immediately in love with everything about the experience.

Yes, SailorC, many people go to "extremes" thier first time out. It all depends on how ready you are and how much knowledge your partner has. Two new-to-this people wouldn't necessarily go to "extremes" because they wouldn't know how to. However in my case, and Sierra's case, too, i think, our partners were already quite proficient with the toys of our lifestlye and the head trip of the play. Consequently we got to take giant steps our first time out. Why take baby steps if you don't have to and don't want to?

 

[SailorC272002]

Going all the way to canes the first time out is very impressive. SierraMoon even described purple breasts. How somebody prepares for all that for the first time is amazing.

 

[SierraMoon]

cym, thank you for your wise words... you always know exactly what to say, and how to say it!!
I didn't think my first time was too extreme... except maybe the cane, but i was given the choice if i wanted to try it or not... i told him i would try it, as long as it was done in moderation, which of course he did... he had 2 different canes, a short one, and longer one, and i think i preferred the short one, as the longer one seems to get too much air, and stings quite a bit more.

cym, thanks for bringing back that wonderful avatar... i think the pinwheel(that's what my Dom called it) is going to definately become one of my favorite things to play with!!
luv and hugs to you all.... sierra

 

[cymbidia]

Going all the way to canes the first time out is very impressive. SierraMoon even described purple breasts. How somebody prepares for all that for the first time is amazing.

Sierra has been around this forum with us for a while. She came to us knowing she wanted this in her life, needed it - but hadn't done it yet. She came to us for more of the background info, the why and how and if and when and what-if stuff that underlies our choices in our kind of sexuality. She came to us for information on the psychology of this kind of love, SailorC.

And she's been attentive. She's listened. She's learned. She asked questions and made a small mistake or two. She learned to rely on her internal voice to gauge her needs and warn her of wrong. She did all that before she played.

When the person she would eventually play with came along, she did everything right: she talked with him openly about her needs and fears and where her head was with regard to this kinda experience. She was truthful. She spent enough time in the talking phase so that trust was established on a human level - and on a D/s level, too. She was ready to play.

They had communicated, her and him, a lot before hand. He knew where she was and where she wanted to go. She knew he could take her there.

They had allowed enough time and contact for trust to grow between them.

The power exchange part of the D/s was already becoming established.

All that before they played.

No wonder her first experience was transcendantly wonderful. No wonder she could play hard her first time out.

You seem disturbed by images of purple breasts. For many of us, SailorC, those kind of things - "marks", as we call them, collectively - are trophies of a sort. We can't pass a mirror without looking, our breath cpoming raggedly as we're transported by that mirrored glimpse back to the hot heated on-fire eroticism of the time we spent with the one who put them there.

To some of us, SailorC, such marks are not matters of "too extreme". Such marks are just exactly what we needed and wanted from our erotic encounter with the one we trust and respect.

That's just the way some of us are.
I'm like that - as i sit here writing these words, my ass and back bear marks that will still be there in a week. I glory in them.

Sierra is like me, too, i think, like so many of us.

No. It was not too extreme for her. She was ready. It's her life. Let her find her joy as she needs to find it, free from censure and naysaying.

Sierra is fine in the middle of all this. Please allow her this immense contentment for the certainty that she's found her place in her sexual life.

 

[SailorC272002]

I am very happy she is happy with the experience. Maybe, I did not say it right, the purple breast I noted was not to imply that it was not right for her, that is certainly not my place to say.

 

[SierraMoon]

cym, all i can say to you, is that you are beautiful..... you are such a great friend, to me and so many others, and you seem to know me so well, even tho we've only talked for a couple of months... maybe that is because i feel so totally at ease expressing myself here, that you guys on Lit may know me better than my best friends that i see everyday. Yes, you are right, with my Dom, i tried to do everything right, and yes, i made some mistakes, and some errors in judgement.. but not during play.... the time leading up to our play date, i was brutally honest with him, as he was with me.
I came right out and told him that i was scared.. i mean, who wouldn't be?lol... looking at all those implements laying in front of me, and having never felt the sting of anything but an open hand. Hell yes, i was scared, but also very anxious, and excited, finally, i was coming home.... i was going to be in the place, and position that i have longed for for months.

SailorC..... in regards to the purple breasts... (they did match my ass well... lol) that was gone by the next morning... not a sign to be seen.... my Dom was very careful with me, and knew exactly how much pressure to give out, to not leave me with marks that may have caused me to second guess my decision to do this... Yes, my ass is still bruised, and marked, but i don't feel a thing.. i have been able to sit normally since that night.... His care and concern for my well being made this whole experience the treasure that i will hold in my heart for the rest of my life. He truly is a terrific Dom, and one who i trust with my life. He has proven himself worthy of my trust. Again, thanks for the concern tho!! It means alot!
hugs... sierra

 

[cymbidia]

One can never really have too much play, can one?

SailorC..... in regards to the purple breasts... (they did match my ass well... lol) that was gone by the next morning... not a sign to be seen.... my Dom was very careful with me, and knew exactly how much pressure to give out, to not leave me with marks that may have caused me to second guess my decision to do this... Yes, my ass is still bruised, and marked, but i don't feel a thing.. i have been able to sit normally since that night....

SailorC?
I still have all my marks.

My play partner came over the next day and manipulated my bruised places to get the blood going again and, so, speed up the healing - but i still have them. Oh yeh. I love them, too. My nipples come to full attention when i pass a mirror and catch a glimpse of them.

And you know what?
We're doing it again next Sunday.
Early, though, very early, since i'll be going from him to my local area munch...and with a big smile on my face, for sure.