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From a purely visual perspective, I would rather see her on her knees, ass up, legs slighlty spread.
Just saying.......
Oral Servitude
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From a purely visual perspective, I would rather see her on her knees, ass up, legs slighlty spread.
Just saying.......
slavebitch
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Would this be a good place to ask for advice/help on how to please my Master orally? I long to and some of the devotion I have read hear makes me jealous. I have reasons, but I have never been able to have my Master finish when I was giving Him oral, nor have I been able to last more than two or three minutes. Can y'all give any suggestions?
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Let me get more info....why is it hard to last more than 3 minutes? Is it the gagging? If it is that....I suggest slowly working the get through the gag reflex. Spend a lot of time focusing on sucking the head of his cock until you can relax....that's where most of his nerve endings are anyway. Then slowly take it deeper until you start to gag. I bet this is where you usually pull away....but try to stay there for 20 seconds...15 if 20 is to much. Then pull back some...BUT NEVER LET HIS COCK OUT OF YOUR MOUTH. Then when you've relaxed again, try again....this time hold 5 seconds longer after you start to gag...
The idea is to get over your brain's hardwired reaction that gagging means you are dying. This will teach your brain that gagging is just gagging...and you can eventually keep pleasing your man even while you gag.
My other suggestion is ALWAYS maintain eye contact. Guys love a girl on her kneew, looking up at him while she takes his cock down her throat.
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The reason I cannot last is because I was sexually assaulted (but kept going back to him) and one of the things he would was make me give him oral and yell if I stopped and then shove my head down to the point where I could not breath at all and he would keep it there. Now every time I want to please my Master I have panic attacks. I also have an irrational fear of cum which makes it hard to keep going.Let me get more info....why is it hard to last more than 3 minutes? Is it the gagging? If it is that....I suggest slowly working the get through the gag reflex. Spend a lot of time focusing on sucking the head of his cock until you can relax....that's where most of his nerve endings are anyway. Then slowly take it deeper until you start to gag. I bet this is where you usually pull away....but try to stay there for 20 seconds...15 if 20 is to much. Then pull back some...BUT NEVER LET HIS COCK OUT OF YOUR MOUTH. Then when you've relaxed again, try again....this time hold 5 seconds longer after you start to gag...
The idea is to get over your brain's hardwired reaction that gagging means you are dying. This will teach your brain that gagging is just gagging...and you can eventually keep pleasing your man even while you gag.
My other suggestion is ALWAYS maintain eye contact. Guys love a girl on her kneew, looking up at him while she takes his cock down her throat.
Its interesting that you said to never let it out of my mouth because it is always after I've stopped for a second to try and breath and calm down that I really freak out and I cannot ever get it back in my mouth. Hopefully not taking it out might help.
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Oh wow...that totally makes sense. Kudos to you for keeping on trying. Maybe your Master can agree, for a limited time, to let you have all control over how deep you take his cock. Maybe even keep his hands away from your head until you work some things through. You, in return, would agree to keep trying, and to take his cock deeper each time.
Feel free to PM me anytime if I can help in any way.
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Thanks. [: I will suggest your idea to Him, as I honestly prefer it to His idea (which is to do exactly what my abuser did and make me finish Him, but instead of just leaving me alone to cry afterwards to stay and hold me and take care of me.)
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i just want to say that i'm no expert on the subject. i am not a licensed counselor. if a certain sexual practice is causing you to relive the trauma of a previous sexual assault, you probably want to seek the help and advice of a victims center. most areas have free, local services available to sexual assault survivors. chances are, if you call the local hotline, someone can direct you to the best services to meet your personal needs.
i also confess that i have a little stockholm syndrome fetish. so please take that with a grain of salt.
how do i please my master orally? first you have to ask, what is his perception and vision of servitude. everyone is different. what does he need? what does his Cock need? oral servitude is all about making the Cock happy. in order to do that, you need to learn your Cock. i would recommend sessions of very relaxed, intimate, getting to know you time. put on a record. cd. ipod. whatever. set the mood to relaxing and calm. think of it not as a blow job, cumfest. it's peaceful. relax your mouth and explore. you have lots of time. take deep breaths. this is your time to reclaim yourself. allow yourself space. savor it. trace the bumps and ridges and veins. remember them. this is your Cock. he is safe. you love him. you want him to feel good. take his head into your mouth and breathe deeply around his head. almost meditating. feeling your lips throb. pulsating under you. lick the slit and gather the precum. this is good for you. release your negative connotations. relax and breathe if you begin to get flustered. slow down. if a panic attack begins to set in, just allow yourself the space to react the way you need to. give yourself the time you need. this is where the slow relaxing music may help. you are at the altar. it's okay. you are going to be okay. you can let it go. you are allowed to reclaim this part of your life. of your sexuality. enjoy it. slowly work through it as you run your lips up and down. you don't have to go all the way to your throat. give it the time you need. you are learning your Cock. practice is needed. dedication. during the day do things to associate his cum and Cock with positive experiences. vanilla yogurt sitting on the tongue for thirty seconds before swallowing can be quite delightful.
i really liked CuteBrat's advice. work through the attack while calming your breathing around his Cock may help. try to associate your Master's Cock with something that helps you relax. refocus. wipe any drool, make sure you're not gagging on saliva or precum. the lack of oxygen could also trigger a panic attack. your can learn ways, if you work at it, so he hits your throat at an angle that pleases him, but also gives you the space to breathe or at least not choke. that's just slow patient practice. or fast and hard, depending on what the Cock needs.
the other part is the mental part. you have had traumatic experiences. it takes time and work to allow yourself to heal from those. while you are healing, you will have mood changes. your body will react. buttons will be pushed, and emotions will be triggered. it is completely normal. if it causes you pain or continued trauma, you should really talk with someone who is a professional. it's okay to give yourself space and time to work through this.
you may even begin to feel better, and something can come along out of nowhere and trigger another attack. that's okay. it gets easier. you can even train yourself to do breathing exercises. i've had panic attacks before, and know that they can be a complete bitch. i've also started to learned how to recognize them for what they are. i do breathing exercises. if i'm driving, i relax and pull over. safety first. i am allowed to break down, but i need to be able to assess my safety. normally they pass. i may be shook up afterwords, but as long as i stay quiet and give myself space, it's okay. removing unnecessary noises and sounds is nice.
i really think that you can work through the cum anxiety with time and practice. positive associations. research cum. become a fan. it's His cum. not just any cum. His. a gift. you have to work for it, but the rewards are sweet. enjoy them. savor them. yeah. just, do something that works for you to make you feel happy about cum. then drink it up.
make sure your Master is very careful and considerate of your emotional state, when recreating the trauma you experienced. at that moment in time, you are completely open and vulnerable. know the one you are with. you both need to be doing research on this. search some of the threads. it may be in the library. read through the older threads on sexual assault and BDSM. i think it can be helpful to see that you are not alone. lots of people out there, male and female, are able to work through past issues, and enjoy everything life has to offer. enjoy your journey. remember that you are healing. you are on the path. allow yourself to enjoy your sexuality. if that be service to someone else disfrutalo.
i also confess that i have a little stockholm syndrome fetish. so please take that with a grain of salt.
how do i please my master orally? first you have to ask, what is his perception and vision of servitude. everyone is different. what does he need? what does his Cock need? oral servitude is all about making the Cock happy. in order to do that, you need to learn your Cock. i would recommend sessions of very relaxed, intimate, getting to know you time. put on a record. cd. ipod. whatever. set the mood to relaxing and calm. think of it not as a blow job, cumfest. it's peaceful. relax your mouth and explore. you have lots of time. take deep breaths. this is your time to reclaim yourself. allow yourself space. savor it. trace the bumps and ridges and veins. remember them. this is your Cock. he is safe. you love him. you want him to feel good. take his head into your mouth and breathe deeply around his head. almost meditating. feeling your lips throb. pulsating under you. lick the slit and gather the precum. this is good for you. release your negative connotations. relax and breathe if you begin to get flustered. slow down. if a panic attack begins to set in, just allow yourself the space to react the way you need to. give yourself the time you need. this is where the slow relaxing music may help. you are at the altar. it's okay. you are going to be okay. you can let it go. you are allowed to reclaim this part of your life. of your sexuality. enjoy it. slowly work through it as you run your lips up and down. you don't have to go all the way to your throat. give it the time you need. you are learning your Cock. practice is needed. dedication. during the day do things to associate his cum and Cock with positive experiences. vanilla yogurt sitting on the tongue for thirty seconds before swallowing can be quite delightful.
i really liked CuteBrat's advice. work through the attack while calming your breathing around his Cock may help. try to associate your Master's Cock with something that helps you relax. refocus. wipe any drool, make sure you're not gagging on saliva or precum. the lack of oxygen could also trigger a panic attack. your can learn ways, if you work at it, so he hits your throat at an angle that pleases him, but also gives you the space to breathe or at least not choke. that's just slow patient practice. or fast and hard, depending on what the Cock needs.
the other part is the mental part. you have had traumatic experiences. it takes time and work to allow yourself to heal from those. while you are healing, you will have mood changes. your body will react. buttons will be pushed, and emotions will be triggered. it is completely normal. if it causes you pain or continued trauma, you should really talk with someone who is a professional. it's okay to give yourself space and time to work through this.
you may even begin to feel better, and something can come along out of nowhere and trigger another attack. that's okay. it gets easier. you can even train yourself to do breathing exercises. i've had panic attacks before, and know that they can be a complete bitch. i've also started to learned how to recognize them for what they are. i do breathing exercises. if i'm driving, i relax and pull over. safety first. i am allowed to break down, but i need to be able to assess my safety. normally they pass. i may be shook up afterwords, but as long as i stay quiet and give myself space, it's okay. removing unnecessary noises and sounds is nice.
i really think that you can work through the cum anxiety with time and practice. positive associations. research cum. become a fan. it's His cum. not just any cum. His. a gift. you have to work for it, but the rewards are sweet. enjoy them. savor them. yeah. just, do something that works for you to make you feel happy about cum. then drink it up.
make sure your Master is very careful and considerate of your emotional state, when recreating the trauma you experienced. at that moment in time, you are completely open and vulnerable. know the one you are with. you both need to be doing research on this. search some of the threads. it may be in the library. read through the older threads on sexual assault and BDSM. i think it can be helpful to see that you are not alone. lots of people out there, male and female, are able to work through past issues, and enjoy everything life has to offer. enjoy your journey. remember that you are healing. you are on the path. allow yourself to enjoy your sexuality. if that be service to someone else disfrutalo.
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Thank you so much for the advice. <3 I am very excited (for the first time ever) to try some of the things you've said and hopefully move past what happened to me and be able to pleasure Him.i just want to say that i'm no expert on the subject. i am not a licensed counselor. if a certain sexual practice is causing you to relive the trauma of a previous sexual assault, you probably want to seek the help and advice of a victims center. most areas have free, local services available to sexual assault survivors. chances are, if you call the local hotline, someone can direct you to the best services to meet your personal needs.
i also confess that i have a little stockholm syndrome fetish. so please take that with a grain of salt.
how do i please my master orally? first you have to ask, what is his perception and vision of servitude. everyone is different. what does he need? what does his Cock need? oral servitude is all about making the Cock happy. in order to do that, you need to learn your Cock. i would recommend sessions of very relaxed, intimate, getting to know you time. put on a record. cd. ipod. whatever. set the mood to relaxing and calm. think of it not as a blow job, cumfest. it's peaceful. relax your mouth and explore. you have lots of time. take deep breaths. this is your time to reclaim yourself. allow yourself space. savor it. trace the bumps and ridges and veins. remember them. this is your Cock. he is safe. you love him. you want him to feel good. take his head into your mouth and breathe deeply around his head. almost meditating. feeling your lips throb. pulsating under you. lick the slit and gather the precum. this is good for you. release your negative connotations. relax and breathe if you begin to get flustered. slow down. if a panic attack begins to set in, just allow yourself the space to react the way you need to. give yourself the time you need. this is where the slow relaxing music may help. you are at the altar. it's okay. you are going to be okay. you can let it go. you are allowed to reclaim this part of your life. of your sexuality. enjoy it. slowly work through it as you run your lips up and down. you don't have to go all the way to your throat. give it the time you need. you are learning your Cock. practice is needed. dedication. during the day do things to associate his cum and Cock with positive experiences. vanilla yogurt sitting on the tongue for thirty seconds before swallowing can be quite delightful.
i really liked CuteBrat's advice. work through the attack while calming your breathing around his Cock may help. try to associate your Master's Cock with something that helps you relax. refocus. wipe any drool, make sure you're not gagging on saliva or precum. the lack of oxygen could also trigger a panic attack. your can learn ways, if you work at it, so he hits your throat at an angle that pleases him, but also gives you the space to breathe or at least not choke. that's just slow patient practice. or fast and hard, depending on what the Cock needs.
the other part is the mental part. you have had traumatic experiences. it takes time and work to allow yourself to heal from those. while you are healing, you will have mood changes. your body will react. buttons will be pushed, and emotions will be triggered. it is completely normal. if it causes you pain or continued trauma, you should really talk with someone who is a professional. it's okay to give yourself space and time to work through this.
you may even begin to feel better, and something can come along out of nowhere and trigger another attack. that's okay. it gets easier. you can even train yourself to do breathing exercises. i've had panic attacks before, and know that they can be a complete bitch. i've also started to learned how to recognize them for what they are. i do breathing exercises. if i'm driving, i relax and pull over. safety first. i am allowed to break down, but i need to be able to assess my safety. normally they pass. i may be shook up afterwords, but as long as i stay quiet and give myself space, it's okay. removing unnecessary noises and sounds is nice.
i really think that you can work through the cum anxiety with time and practice. positive associations. research cum. become a fan. it's His cum. not just any cum. His. a gift. you have to work for it, but the rewards are sweet. enjoy them. savor them. yeah. just, do something that works for you to make you feel happy about cum. then drink it up.
make sure your Master is very careful and considerate of your emotional state, when recreating the trauma you experienced. at that moment in time, you are completely open and vulnerable. know the one you are with. you both need to be doing research on this. search some of the threads. it may be in the library. read through the older threads on sexual assault and BDSM. i think it can be helpful to see that you are not alone. lots of people out there, male and female, are able to work through past issues, and enjoy everything life has to offer. enjoy your journey. remember that you are healing. you are on the path. allow yourself to enjoy your sexuality. if that be service to someone else disfrutalo.
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Definitely this.
And don't be afraid to ask questions, no matter how silly.
And lots of touching, not just with your mouth. Use your fingers and hands as well, explore.
That's what I did. It helped a lot, given that I'd only had a handful of sexual experiences before I met Mr, and had never before paid *that* much attention to a cock.
Now. Well, now I love it.
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Thank you!! I really hope I can also learn to love it.
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He was playing with his cock on cam for me last night. I forgot myself and licked the screen.
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Newbie appreciation
I am Louisa-Love. The best way to know who I am is to read my modest smattering of stories..but I guess all the girls say that!
I have long been fascinated in the darker side of sexual experience, abuse, humiliation, submission and the whole spectum between. I have just turned 50, and I'm finally, gingerly exploring. Late starter!
I am intruiged, naw, admit it, hugely turned on, by these postings; have I just happened on a group of people who I can explore these murky dungeons with???
Eager to hear from someone..."Is there anybody out there?"
Louisa
I am Louisa-Love. The best way to know who I am is to read my modest smattering of stories..but I guess all the girls say that!
I have long been fascinated in the darker side of sexual experience, abuse, humiliation, submission and the whole spectum between. I have just turned 50, and I'm finally, gingerly exploring. Late starter!
I am intruiged, naw, admit it, hugely turned on, by these postings; have I just happened on a group of people who I can explore these murky dungeons with???
Eager to hear from someone..."Is there anybody out there?"
Louisa
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Don't get electrocuted, we'd hate to lose an oralist with your level of commitment to satisfying men with her mouth.
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Last summer I was in a naturists’ recreation area. I had to piss, so I strolled a little in the woods and I began my golden shower. Then I heard something coming out the bushes. It was a naked woman who most probably had to do the same what I was doing. I turned my head and concentrated on my own thing, but I didn’t hear the woman walking; so I looked at her, still busy, and I saw that her eyes were fixed on my shooting golden stream, as if she was in a hypnotic trance. When I was finished, I stood looking at her dreamy eyes. It didn’t take too long before she was on her knees in front of me…
http://www.google.nl/imgres?imgurl=...ndsp=16&ved=1t:429,r:14,s:17&biw=1024&bih=582
http://www.google.nl/imgres?imgurl=...ndsp=16&ved=1t:429,r:14,s:17&biw=1024&bih=582
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erotic...
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Ahh now that I've finally had a chance to get caught back up on my favorite Lit thread ... here are some payback pics for the delights I always find here.
Also I came across this quote the other day and I have a feeling there are a few people other than myself 
who will appreciate the feeling behind it.
"Cum: I crave it 24/7! Even before I’m done sucking it from the source, I’m eager for more. And whichever part of me receives the cum, is envied by all my other parts."
... here are some payback pics for the delights I always find here.Also I came across this quote the other day and I have a feeling there are a few
people other than myself who will appreciate the feeling behind it. "Cum: I crave it 24/7! Even before I’m done sucking it from the source, I’m eager for more. And whichever part of me receives the cum, is envied by all my other parts."
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Lovely cock raising photos, Darcy... you are a golden girl.. would love to meet you sometime..
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Ahh now that I've finally had a chance to get caught back up on my favorite Lit thread
Also I came across this quote the other day and I have a feeling there are a few
"Cum: I crave it 24/7! Even before I’m done sucking it from the source, I’m eager for more. And whichever part of me receives the cum, is envied by all my other parts."
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