Pegging

Back in the day, when I was the other guy in cuckold scenarios, and even one or two threesomes with a husband & wife, I was surprised at how many wives wanted to see their husband on his knees, sucking cock. However, on the few that asked me to fuck her husband, she had already been pegging him and giving him anal orgasms, and felt it was time for him to have the real thing. I always told them afterwards that it didn't make them either bi or gay, but just closer to the spouse, as he did it for her
 
Back in the day, when I was the other guy in cuckold scenarios, and even one or two threesomes with a husband & wife, I was surprised at how many wives wanted to see their husband on his knees, sucking cock. However, on the few that asked me to fuck her husband, she had already been pegging him and giving him anal orgasms, and felt it was time for him to have the real thing. I always told them afterwards that it didn't make them either bi or gay, but just closer to the spouse, as he did it for her
Unfortunately, mine has zero interest in any of that. Can't have it all I guess.
 
Put me in the same situation. I'd love to be pegged, but there is no way I could ask for it out of the blue. My wife is very conservative except for when she gets really turned on. At those moments, it's hard to bring up something like that. I've asked her about toys and she said no. Anything anal with her is a no. I've thought about buying a small dildo/vibe and just pulling it out at the 'right time', but I think if she sees it as 'going too far' I'll lose some of her wilder moments that I enjoy now after many years of very vanilla sex.
 
Put me in the same situation. I'd love to be pegged, but there is no way I could ask for it out of the blue. My wife is very conservative except for when she gets really turned on. At those moments, it's hard to bring up something like that. I've asked her about toys and she said no. Anything anal with her is a no. I've thought about buying a small dildo/vibe and just pulling it out at the 'right time', but I think if she sees it as 'going too far' I'll lose some of her wilder moments that I enjoy now after many years of very vanilla sex.
It's a shame you can't be more honest with her. What if you showed her a Sex/ Relationship Advice column on the subject? ..Where the expert is asked "My husband like's being pegged - is that normal?" The answer is always the same. "Yes, it's a normal thing to enjoy..." and, "No, it doesn't mean your husband is gay or bi-sexual." Would that help?
 
I think for some there is this persistent notion that butts are for one thing and one thing only... And sometimes it's supported by the silly argument that it's "an exit only" or "it doesn't lubricate - so nature didn't intend it for that!" and therefore desiring anything involving the anus is warped and perverse.

I strongly reject that. By the same argument:
  • No grown man should EVER put his mouth on a woman's nipple. "Those are for feeding babies, you sicko!"
  • No one's dick should ever enter a mouth. "Gross! Men pee from that and mouth's are for eating food, gross!!!"
  • No ones mouth should ever kiss a vagina. "Double gross! ..Babies come out of there and women menstruate from there! How could you!?”
  • Feet would never be touched in a sexual way. "Ewwww... Those are FEET, blechhh!!!"
...the list could go on and on.

If nature meant to discourage the use of anuses for sex then please explain why it feels good to do so - at least for many of us?

As for those who moralize it on religious grounds... The idea that our heavenly maker - if there is indeed one - gives a rip about how consenting adults enjoy intimacy seems fucking ridiculous to me.
 
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I think PW nailed it. You need to directly tell her you want it instead of hinting at it in the hopes SHE'LL suggest it.

"Honey... after years of penetrating you with a part of me, I want to feel YOU penetrate ME. Pegging me isn't exactly the same of course, but it will give me an idea of how it feels - and I WANT to feel that. And if you think wanting that makes me gay, you need to do some research on your own - you'll find it's a normal desire for a great many people, including some heterosexual men."

See what she says...

As an added note. ..Before agreeing to peg me, my had wife used a finger. ..then a butt plug, then a dildo. THEN, finally, pegging me with the dildo mounted in a strap on harness.... all over the course of a few weeks. I'm not sure we would have been very successful or enjoyed it if we went right to the Pegging. Maybe approach it that way. ..Ask for a finger (wearing a surgical glove, if she prefers) first. Tell her you like it, then move on to a 2nd finger, a butt-plug, etc... Going right to a full size dildo mounted to a clumsy harness (they are) from nothing is pretty gutsy. ...I think most women who receive anal AND enjoy it probably worked up to it from a finger, then two.. etc..

These days, when my wife pegs me, it always starts with a finger, then two, then three.... then the dildo in the harness. And LOTS of high quality lube from the first finger on.
My wife has pegged in the past though and he ex completely destroyed a lot of her curiosity back then.
 
Fellow Kinksters, I discovered at an early age, how good it feels to take things in my ass. I used household items at first, until I bought my first dildo. I remember it fondly, a Doc Johnson super cock with balls. I bought it because it was the closest one I could find that was about the same size of my cock. About 7" and moderate thickness. That dildo gave me so much pleasure. I still have it, have owned it over 50 years. Have bought many others over the years some smaller, some bigger. Wife does not peg me anymore. Today I was looking on Amazon for fuck machines. I am wanting to buy one, I am afraid of starting a relationship outside of marriage, all the pitfalls that can happen. I have hired prostitutes to peg me, both TS, CD, and women, seems a safer route to me.
 
Put me in the same situation. I'd love to be pegged, but there is no way I could ask for it out of the blue. My wife is very conservative except for when she gets really turned on. At those moments, it's hard to bring up something like that. I've asked her about toys and she said no. Anything anal with her is a no. I've thought about buying a small dildo/vibe and just pulling it out at the 'right time', but I think if she sees it as 'going too far' I'll lose some of her wilder moments that I enjoy now after many years of very vanilla sex.
I thought the same about my wife. Our background is different in that my wife introduced anal play to me in a big way. We even held off vaginal so anal on both of us as was big deal for quite a while. Once vaginal took over she wanted less anal even with DP bring her the best of both orgasms (anal was to time consuming). For any anal with me I had to be well prepared and ready whenever it hit her which also declined the longer we were married. She hit a spell of no interest in sex at all with me being the ever hopeful husband praying it would work itself out. In the mean time I was trying to figure out what to do. It felt weird to push sex since her mind was elsewhere but again I would not be married if it were not for sex. No way Jose. So past wife into it all, YAH! Same wife but having issues ( :( ) so I decided to continue on but without her (NOT my favorite thing to do but it is what is was). 2 years or so later she snaps out of it and I am chicken of the year about telling her. We are back to making love, everything is very conservative, as people here put it, "vanilla," but I am so thankful to have my best friend wife back. That thankfulness is still here and I still had a hard time opening up to her about the past 2 years, for almost a year. Finally wrote her a letter telling her all about the past three years letting her clearly know I empathized with her during her time away mentally (disconnect), love her unconditionally, and carried on RPing that we had an intimate relationship. "OOOOOHHHHH," was her response reading the last portion of the letter, after many tears from the earlier portions. Putting down the letter, "Show me," she requested. Took me until very recently to have no more fear of completely letting go when needed. She does not always need to participate, she does not always need to be there, she does always want to be a part of in in some form or fashion, there are times when she is traveling and she will request it while gone, there are times she will ask about it when she gets homes, there are times when all she wants to know is, "Did you have a good time?" My point is, if there is something you wish to do, do it, you're not only married, you are your own person. My wife appreciates that I am able to continue what she introduced, "her thing," and has come full circle back to now even better than ever before. She credits me for continuing, not giving up, growing, and sharing it all with her. She speaks of the 2 years plus saying, "I am so glad you choose me as your focus and I love how creative & thoughtful of me you have become when getting wild, letting go, and getting crazy." My wife became very conservative after coming out of her phase, she personally was not into toys whatsoever, yet she was totally fine with me using them. I was on my on for a little longer and over time she joined back in. I am now thankful for having my wife back plus +++ !!!
It's a shame you can't be more honest with her. What if you showed her a Sex/ Relationship Advice column on the subject? ..Where the expert is asked "My husband like's being pegged - is that normal?" The answer is always the same. "Yes, it's a normal thing to enjoy..." and, "No, it doesn't mean your husband is gay or bi-sexual." Would that help?
I agree! And as I mentioned, you are allowed to do whatever you wish with yourself, she can choose to be a part of it or not, or at what level. My wife loves that I did and thanks me now for being so open which give her the freedom to let go even more. She loves that I lead in all things sexual that is considered nonvanilla. We are doing more than ever a couple and it would have never happened or taken a lot longer time to get to had I not moved forward on my own. I am very glad it is with her instead of by myself these day.
 
I have broached the subject with three different women in much the same way. We were discussing anal. Two of them loved it, then wanted to return the favor. My first time, it hurt a lot upon entry. There was almost no warm up. But, I really liked it. The second didn't like it in the ass and said, "How would you like it?"
I simply said, "Ill try anything once". She pegged me somewhat regularly for over a year. I have done anal with the third woman and now my steady mistress. Then she simply told me that it should go both ways. I told her I would. I bought a dildo and harness. She's been pegging me for 16 years now every chance she wants to.
 
I think all things "anal" boil down to attitude about it at the outset. If the feeling is, "I'd like to try anal sex (incl. pegging) because I like the idea of adding a whole new playground and set of activities to my sex life." Then there's NO REASON why some version of anal sex can't be enjoyed by any man or woman - provided they just take their time and use plenty of lube.

However, if the attitude is, "Anuses are only for pooping, so I find the idea of any sex involving the butt rather revolting - but I'll try it to appease my partner." Well, it's hard imagining that your first few attempts will be so overwhelmingly and surprisingly wonderful that your strong opinions of it will be reversed.

To enjoy anal sex of any sort one needs to first disabuse themself of outdated ideas like, "It's immoral, gross, one-way traffic only, it means I'm gay, etc.." Unless they can do this first, the prospects of enjoying it are bleak.. But if they can shed such silly notions, there's a near 100% they will enjoy some version of it. It really is about attitude.
 
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I have broached the subject with three different women in much the same way. We were discussing anal. Two of them loved it, then wanted to return the favor. My first time, it hurt a lot upon entry. There was almost no warm up. But, I really liked it. The second didn't like it in the ass and said, "How would you like it?"
I simply said, "Ill try anything once". She pegged me somewhat regularly for over a year. I have done anal with the third woman and now my steady mistress. Then she simply told me that it should go both ways. I told her I would. I bought a dildo and harness. She's been pegging me for 16 years now every chance she wants to.
Love it, very sexy.
 
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