Physique and Dominance

[catalina_francisco]

I have to wonder in situations where height and size are so important to the submissive in identifying with dominance in a partner, what future such a relationship could have if the Dominant were in an accident or became ill and were to spend the rest of their life in a wheelchair, or similarly incapacitated, and what that says about their view of dominance and their own submission. F and I are so close in height it is often debated who is taller, and he is 9 years younger...what matters for us is who he is as a person, who he is on the inside, not physical factors he has no control over.

Catalina

 

[Ebonyfire]

I have to wonder in situations where height and size are so important to the submissive in identifying with dominance in a partner, what future such a relationship could have if the Dominant were in an accident or became ill and were to spend the rest of their life in a wheelchair, or similarly incapacitated, and what that says about their view of dominance and their own submission. F and I are so close in height it is often debated who is taller, and he is 9 years younger...what matters for us is who he is as a person, who he is on the inside, not physical factors he has no control over.

Catalina

People have their likes and dislikes. I know I have Mine. If a submissive thinks I am too fat or too thin, it makes no difference to Me. I get more than enough attention (albeit well deserved) as it is. I need My rest!

I look at it this way, I can always gain/lose weight, but an ugly man will always be ugly. Now that ugliness is usually manifested inside rather than outside, cause very few of the submissives who contact Me have ever been unattractive. If they are out there they leave me the fuck alone, lol.

Eb [And those who take offense at Eb can make of this what you will]

 

[Netzach]

I have hesitated posting to this thread because I feel the issue is nonexistent with regard to the size of a male.

I look at it this way, the bigger they are, the harder they fall to their knees.

Eb

I prefer a guy I can trample without worry. This is the purpose of pecs and good abs.

 

[Netzach]

And I also have to be attracted.

I'm not an epic lover, I am a lyric lover.

There is fantasticness in just about any woman, few are the women who can't possibly turn me on. Few are the men who can't possibly turn me on - if they aren't especially hot as guys they'll probably make a half decent girl. I've played with many guys I would not fuck for anything, but that didn't stop me from getting off on how HAPPY this one was being tied up, or how that one with the bad skin had such nice hands and was so hung.

 

[Never]

Netzach:
"I'm not an epic lover, I am a lyric lover."

Would a switch be an antithesis lover?

 

[rbijon]

*random thought alert*

... why is it somewhat hotter for a submissive male to be big, tall, strong, buff, etc, and under the control of a feminine little thing, but it appears to be less hot for a submissive female to be taller, larger [pick your adjective], than her dominant?

I'd have no issue with submitting to a Lover with whom I saw eye to eye (literally), for I'm more interested in a man's mind, than his height; however, woe be to the man who expects me to give up my stilettos, just to prevent my towering over him.

I am much "taller and bigger", and have a big time job and do all the tough guys stuff, nonetheless, my Mistress is IN charge in the bedroom. She even likes the fact that she can have rule over such a big strong man....and fuck his brains out!

 

[RJMasters]

woe be to the man who expects me to give up my stilettos, just to prevent my towering over him.

woe or Woah?

I certainly wouldn't deprive a woman of wearing her stilettos, though she might want to invest in a really good pair of knee pads as wearing them and walking or standing on them can be two completely different things.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I prefer a guy I can trample without worry. This is the purpose of pecs and good abs.

Oh yes, a man of substance, not one who looks like a good gust of wind will carry him away! yep.

Eb

 

[SpectreT]

*random thought alert*

... why is it somewhat hotter for a submissive male to be big, tall, strong, buff, etc, and under the control of a feminine little thing, but it appears to be less hot for a submissive female to be taller, larger [pick your adjective], than her dominant?

I'd have no issue with submitting to a Lover with whom I saw eye to eye (literally), for I'm more interested in a man's mind, than his height; however, woe be to the man who expects me to give up my stilettos, just to prevent my towering over him.

Two things, one of which deserves nothing more than a "None of your business", the other a confessional.

The slightly nosey first: How tall are you? I only ask because it's rare that I'll see a woman who's in my height range, whereas the males around here tend to average out at my height, with as many taller than me as are shorter. (As I've said elsewhere, I'm 6' exactly in my bare feet.)

Two: I have a bit of a "valkyrie" fetish. I find tall (My height) muscular females visually appealing.

Three: (I know I said I had two things, but this one just popped into my head.) Smaller female, bigger male is somewhat hotter because you get the impression it's (the Dominance and submission) all coming from their hearts and minds; physical is where they play, but the roles are "obviously genuine". Plus, it's a little bit of a mindfuck.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I only ask because it's rare that I'll see a woman who's in my height range, whereas the males around here tend to average out at my height, with as many taller than me as are shorter. (As I've said elsewhere, I'm 6' exactly in my bare feet.)

Two: I have a bit of a "valkyrie" fetish. I find tall (My height) muscular females visually appealing..

When I read this, I instantly thought of Shadowsdream. Who is not a tall woman, but her persona is reminiscent of "valkrie" - like, if you get what I mean.

Eb

 

[CutieMouse]

Two things, one of which deserves nothing more than a "None of your business", the other a confessional.

The slightly nosey first: How tall are you? I only ask because it's rare that I'll see a woman who's in my height range, whereas the males around here tend to average out at my height, with as many taller than me as are shorter. (As I've said elsewhere, I'm 6' exactly in my bare feet.)

Two: I have a bit of a "valkyrie" fetish. I find tall (My height) muscular females visually appealing.

Three: (I know I said I had two things, but this one just popped into my head.) Smaller female, bigger male is somewhat hotter because you get the impression it's (the Dominance and submission) all coming from their hearts and minds; physical is where they play, but the roles are "obviously genuine". Plus, it's a little bit of a mindfuck.

Oh I understand the mindfuck attitude/etc (notes Rbijon's post), I just had a curious moment of wondering why big strong male sub/dainty Mistress hasn't really cross pollinated with tall strong female sub/shorter Dom.

I'm 5'8"/135# (working on getting down to 120-125#). Which I know isn't all *that* tall, but I've been 5'8" since I was 10. Every freaking class picture from kindergarden on- center back row. I knew a total of THREE guys in high school, who were more than 2 inches taller than me. I stopped wearing heels in high school and college, because I realized all the boys I knew, were dating much shorter women- why make it worse?

I decided this year that I adore heels. I like myself in heels. I have cute Barbie doll legs, and I missed wearing them. So now I'm in 3-4" heels at least 5 days a week, more often 7.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Oh I understand the mindfuck attitude/etc (notes Rbijon's post), I just had a curious moment of wondering why big strong male sub/dainty Mistress hasn't really cross pollinated with tall strong female sub/shorter Dom.

I'm 5'8"/135# (working on getting down to 120-125#). Which I know isn't all *that* tall, but I've been 5'8" since I was 10. Every freaking class picture from kindergarden on- center back row. I knew a total of THREE guys in high school, who were more than 2 inches taller than me. I stopped wearing heels in high school and college, because I realized all the boys I knew, were dating much shorter women- why make it worse?

I decided this year that I adore heels. I like myself in heels. I have cute Barbie doll legs, and I missed wearing them. So now I'm in 3-4" heels at least 5 days a week, more often 7.

Do you have trouble wearing flats? I know that routinely wearing heels over time can shorten the achilles tendon and make it difficult to wear flats.

Do you find this so?

Eb

 

[CutieMouse]

Do you have trouble wearing flats? I know that routinely wearing heels over time can shorten the achilles tendon and make it difficult to wear flats.

Do you find this so?

Eb

Not yet. I've only gone back to heels over the last year or so- prior to that I was a Birkie/Doc Martin wearing/child chasing full time mom; heels, 5 kids, and playgrounds did not mix.

I do wear sneakers and walk a few miles every day, and am usually barefoot while home/working- so I'm probably in heels for 1-8 hours a day, depending on what errands/etc need to be run.

 

[Shankara20]

Oh I understand the mindfuck attitude/etc (notes Rbijon's post), I just had a curious moment of wondering why big strong male sub/dainty Mistress hasn't really cross pollinated with tall strong female sub/shorter Dom.

I'm 5'8"/135# (working on getting down to 120-125#). Which I know isn't all *that* tall, but I've been 5'8" since I was 10. Every freaking class picture from kindergarden on- center back row. I knew a total of THREE guys in high school, who were more than 2 inches taller than me. I stopped wearing heels in high school and college, because I realized all the boys I knew, were dating much shorter women- why make it worse?

I decided this year that I adore heels. I like myself in heels. I have cute Barbie doll legs, and I missed wearing them. So now I'm in 3-4" heels at least 5 days a week, more often 7.

*and my blood pressure starts to increase on this fine Sunday morning before the coffee starts to kick in*

 

[Ebonyfire]

Not yet. I've only gone back to heels over the last year or so- prior to that I was a Birkie/Doc Martin wearing/child chasing full time mom; heels, 5 kids, and playgrounds did not mix.

I do wear sneakers and walk a few miles every day, and am usually barefoot while home/working- so I'm probably in heels for 1-8 hours a day, depending on what errands/etc need to be run.

Cool. I have always had flat feet, so heels have always been problematic for me. Now with better arch supports I can wear the boots I love so much.

I loves boots!

Eb

 

[Shankara20]

I loves boots!
Eb

*coffee may not be needed at all this morning*

 

[Ebonyfire]

I decided this year that I adore heels. I like myself in heels. I have cute Barbie doll legs, and I missed wearing them. So now I'm in 3-4" heels at least 5 days a week, more often 7.

I like the look of heels because they are great on the legs. But with my flat feet I seldom wear them.

I am 5'6" and my daughter is 5'8" (a Domme also). Most of my subs/slaves have been 6' - 6' 4" range. However, my current slave is 5' 9" and he suits me just fine. My ex-slave was 6'.

So in the case of height, size has not mattered (thus far).

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

*coffee may not be needed at all this morning*

I am off coffee and caffeine for a couple of weeks. I hope your need for the leaded stuff gets satisfied. Drink a cup for me.

 

[Shankara20]

I am off coffee and caffeine for a couple of weeks. I hope your need for the leaded stuff gets satisfied. Drink a cup for me.

with all this talk about heels and boots I may not need coffee to get me wide awake

 

[Ebonyfire]

with all this talk about heels and boots I may not need coffee to get me wide awake

And with you in those panties I know I do not need coffee!

 

[Shankara20]

And with you in those panties I know I do not need coffee!

just one of the services I provide with pleasure...

 

[Ebonyfire]

just one of the services I provide with pleasure...

It is a good thing you live far away. I might try to re-turn you over to "dark side". LOL

 

[Shankara20]

It is a good thing you live far away. I might try to re-turn you over to "dark side". LOL

I might not put up much of a fight.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I might not put up much of a fight.

All the more better!

 

[Netzach]

Oh yes, a man of substance, not one who looks like a good gust of wind will carry him away! yep.

Eb

Yeah but those are so pretty in pink. I love it all.