Please clarify the term : topping of the bottom

[kimuk]

I mostly enjoy a little resistance when someone is submitting to me. Even if it's fake, I like to use a little force to get my way. Some might call that topping from the bottom but not as far as I'm concerned. It's just how some people have fun.

People will always see things from their own point of view. You can't take one person's version of something and call it law. That's partly what makes BDSM so interesting. While there are basic rules in some things, when it comes to our personal relationships, we all tend to make up our own rules as we go along.

Amen to this one!

 

[His_pet_slut]

Hahaha yeah.
I *can* find some fun in brat stomping their feet and demanding some special treatment. It gets really frustrating for them when they see nothing works on you and you even enjoy their trashing around. I do love making manipulative people suffer.
But in long term it gets old and tiring pretty fast. I prefer my peace of mind and relationship with someone a bit more reasonable than having to be on my toes all the time and watch out for a brat acting.

yeah, I learned pretty quick that all I am likely to get is ignored if I pull that type of stunt. It worked once or twice...but I think that was just because he was in the mood anyway. The running joke is what is the best way to torment the masochist? Ignore her...

 

[blonde_duchess]

this is a term that is used by Doms

I have no desire to be really dominated, only roleplay that I am dominated in bed.

online Doms have said I top from the bottom meaning i want to dominate while being the submissive.
So i guess it can be a way for a dom to play submissive while still being Dom.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Miss Duchess, you are a Dominant bottom.
You want what you want on your own terms. Your terms include roleplaying
-- with time limits.

Welcome to the club!

 

[Kojote]

Miss Duchess, you are a Dominant bottom.
You want what you want on your own terms. Your terms include roleplaying
-- with time limits.

Welcome to the club!

One day I'd love to get the explanation what I am from your dictionary.

Apart from being annoying and a nuissance...

 

[Stella_Omega]

One day I'd love to get the explanation what I am from your dictionary.

Apart from being annoying and a nuissance...

Speaking ONLY within the limits of BDSM; What you want kinda defines what you are.

Which is a fascinating paradigm, when you think about it...

 

[Kojote]

Speaking ONLY within the limits of BDSM; What you want kinda defines what you are.

Which is a fascinating paradigm, when you think about it...

Since time is of essence, because one of what I'll try to describe is just right now waiting for my attention...
I want what most people would describe as one of the worse kinds of bitches (with all those bad attitudes like being intelligent, strong, calculating, manipulative and egocentric) which challenges me to force her to submit to me.
To me that feels overly simplified, but maybe it's enough for you?

Regarding the paradox: I appreciate that. Simple things are boring…

 

[Loring2]

Bossy ... hmmm?

"Bossy" is not a character trait?

Are you sure of that Stella? ... or maybe we just define "bossy" with a different condition in mind.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Since time is of essence, because one of what I'll try to describe is just right now waiting for my attention...
I want what most people would describe as one of the worse kinds of bitches (with all those bad attitudes like being intelligent, strong, calculating, manipulative and egocentric) which challenges me to force her to submit to me.
To me that feels overly simplified, but maybe it's enough for you?

Regarding the paradox: I appreciate that. Simple things are boring…

I would say that you are dominant in your mindset. The kind of partner you're attracted to is a preference thing, don't you think? Like preferring happy women to morose ones doesn't make a man any less hetero.

I did say "paradigm" not "paradox," by the way. I was struck by the notion of, in a sense, "wishing makes it so" that my thoughts conjured up.

 

[StrayKat]

I want what most people would describe as one of the worse kinds of bitches (with all those bad attitudes like being intelligent, strong, calculating, manipulative and egocentric) which challenges me to force her to submit to me.

I love me that kind too. It brings out the sadist in me to wallow in.
And I dont even have any moral dilemmas I sometimes get from being really mean to someone "nice" for no reason. With the "bitches" I have a reason and justification to be my worst. What is there not to like?

I just dont make much difference between male and female. The wannabe MasterSirDom kind I really like, too bad they always scamper away before I can even start to play.

 

[Kojote]

I would say that you are dominant in your mindset. The kind of partner you're attracted to is a preference thing, don't you think? Like preferring happy women to morose ones doesn't make a man any less hetero.

Well I'm sure it is. It took years to discover that preference and accept it. In fact it took a while to define it, since it wasn't exactly what other prefered and most people didn't even understand the fascination I felt.
So basically I understand, what you are saying.
But then again I'm confused...

If the kind of woman I'm attracted to and her mindset don't have to do much with the... uh... direction of my bdsm-ish tendencies... Then I don't understand the paradigm from your post.
Maybe I gotta think about that since yesterday I was in a hurry and I did not yet have my coffee...

I did say "paradigm" not "paradox," by the way. I was struck by the notion of, in a sense, "wishing makes it so" that my thoughts conjured up.

Yeah... Shame on me. Sometimes I can't even read...
I'll come up with a spontaneous explanation why it can be also a paradox in 4 to 6 weeks...

 

[Mjlonir97]

it is okay Kojote , I have trouble reading and keeping up with the posting in this thread , I am rather new and have learned alot from reading and sent pm's to people to explain .
I just wanted to post in here and say thank you for having so many different explinations and good writing skills. Yall are able to have opinions backed with good reason and are able to post them in a matter so others can actually understand.