poll: talking dirty?

[vanelane]

yeah. at least you have someone to play with... i'm playin' with myself.

not fun, per se... it's work. in 4 hours i've made 90 bucks... not bad even if i do say so myself.

You're being paid to play with yourself? Cool!

 

[eudaemonia]

So far, I'm the lone vote in the "I don't like it" category, but lemme qualify that.

I don't like the phrase "dirty talk" in the first place because it's a weird euphemism for a "turn-on." Unless a particular turn-on becomes sociopathic, how is it a piori bad and, thus, necessarily an act not to be taken? I mean, if it's a turn on, how does it entail being a forbidden act? This absolutely bamboozles me.

Please know, I'm not passing any judgment here. It's just something with me about the phrase "dirty talk." What others call dirty talk is simply something I generally don't like to hear because it's crude, imprecise, inelegant, etc., and not because it's allegedly forbidden. In my mind, no words that occur to one unuttered or thoughts of such are forbidden; only actions are.

Okay, back to my odd little world.

 

[eudaemonia]

You're being paid to play with yourself? Cool!

Damn straight! Application link, please?

 

[Recidiva]

I don't get turned on by it and haven't had a partner that expressed an interest.

I'd probably be really good at it if I wanted it to be, but most of my effort would go toward not laughing.

 

[silverwhisper]

eudaemonia quoth
i mean, if it's a turn on, how does it entail being a forbidden act? this absolutely bamboozles me.

surely you understand that people's upbringing can instill in them very clear ideas of "right"/"wrong" WRT sex? in that context, the "forbidden" can possess a tremendous power on the imagination of a given person. it's dependent upon a person's guilt to add that spice.

i agree that the expression "dirty talk" or "talking dirty" do possess a certain baggage, but for some, that baggage is part of the appeal.

ed

 

[eudaemonia]

surely you understand that people's upbringing can instill in them very clear ideas of "right"/"wrong" WRT sex?

Of course! My analytic side "gets" that, but my emotive side doesn't.

And just because I don't get it doesn't mean others shouldn't capitalize on their ability to comprehend it. It's *me* who's missing out.

 

[sunandshadow]

Of course! My analytic side "gets" that, but my emotive side doesn't.

And just because I don't get it doesn't mean others shouldn't capitalize on their ability to comprehend it. It's *me* who's missing out.

I'm the same way - don't feel shame, don't really get the concept of something being forbidden, don't really understand what talking dirty is or how to do it. But, I can imagine if I was roleplaying being a whore and talking like a whore would, or being an egotistical bully and talking like they would - would those constitute 'talking dirty'?

 

[rosebud5446]

i am just this tiny little redhead, i act sweet to everyone all the time, and am pretty reserved... but inside the bedroom, i am wild and kinky and you wouldn't believe the stuff that comes out of my mouth. no one would believe it if i told them. except for our neighbors. apparantly we get pretty loud sometimes, and half the complex knows how kinky we are

 

[Adakgirl]

Well I have to say I get really turned on when someone talks to me dirty.I like to answer them dirty too.Like say"Your my fucking little whore now come over here and let me fuck your pretty mouth"That kind of thing turns me on.

 

[silverwhisper]

eudademonia: look at it this way, you have one less sexual hangup than many of us. :>

ed

 

[rosebud5446]

Well I have to say I get really turned on when someone talks to me dirty.I like to answer them dirty too.Like say"Your my fucking little whore now come over here and let me fuck your pretty mouth"That kind of thing turns me on.

that is HOT!

 

[M's girl]

So far, I'm the lone vote in the "I don't like it" category, but lemme qualify that.

I don't like the phrase "dirty talk" in the first place because it's a weird euphemism for a "turn-on." Unless a particular turn-on becomes sociopathic, how is it a piori bad and, thus, necessarily an act not to be taken? I mean, if it's a turn on, how does it entail being a forbidden act? This absolutely bamboozles me.

Please know, I'm not passing any judgment here. It's just something with me about the phrase "dirty talk." What others call dirty talk is simply something I generally don't like to hear because it's crude, imprecise, inelegant, etc., and not because it's allegedly forbidden. In my mind, no words that occur to one unuttered or thoughts of such are forbidden; only actions are.

Okay, back to my odd little world.

I'm with you here. For the most part that is. I like the so called "dirty talk"; it turns me on. But it's very important to me what is being said and how it's being said. Maybe it's the difference between dirty and rude or so, I don't know. I like for M to be in control but in a way that it is aimed at my pleasure and leaves room for concent. I don't like to be called a "bitch" or "slut" because I'm not. But if he is talking about bodyparts and the way he likes them (the touch, the look, the smell) it's all good. Or him telling me how I turn him on or him telling me how much he likes it when I'm soaking wet down there...

I'm still working on getting better (and feeling more comfortable) at returning the favour... because I know he likes it too. I feel though, that I make up for it in a way by being more sensual and initiating sex in a sometimes bold way, which is a huge turn on for him I think. I'm not so much a talker there maybe but I show him with actions. There is a certain balance I think. Just imagine where we could go if we both learn how to do each other's stuff better

 

[bisexplicit]

I /need/ dirty talk with my sex, it's a requirement.

 

[Quoll]

I'm with you here. For the most part that is. I like the so called "dirty talk"; it turns me on. But it's very important to me what is being said and how it's being said. Maybe it's the difference between dirty and rude or so, I don't know. I like for M to be in control but in a way that it is aimed at my pleasure and leaves room for concent. I don't like to be called a "bitch" or "slut" because I'm not. But if he is talking about bodyparts and the way he likes them (the touch, the look, the smell) it's all good. Or him telling me how I turn him on or him telling me how much he likes it when I'm soaking wet down there...

I'm still working on getting better (and feeling more comfortable) at returning the favour... because I know he likes it too. I feel though, that I make up for it in a way by being more sensual and initiating sex in a sometimes bold way, which is a huge turn on for him I think. I'm not so much a talker there maybe but I show him with actions. There is a certain balance I think. Just imagine where we could go if we both learn how to do each other's stuff better

Bingo! That's the stuff I'm talking about, perhaps it should be called descriptive talk rather than dirty.
The bitch or slut stuff I just find is either degrading or part of roleplaying, neither of which comes naturally to me.

 

[sunandshadow]

I /need/ dirty talk with my sex, it's a requirement.

What's the psychology behind that?

 

[eudaemonia]

Bingo! That's the stuff I'm talking about, perhaps it should be called descriptive talk rather than dirty.
The bitch or slut stuff I just find is either degrading or part of roleplaying, neither of which comes naturally to me.

Bingo! and bingo! *This* I get. Dirty to me means "degrading, humiliating, deprecatory, shaming" words and actions. Telling a man what I want to do to him or hearing what he wants to do to me, in the heat of passion and lust ... that isn't dirty. It's mutually respectful desire.

 

[bisexplicit]

What's the psychology behind that?

I wish I knew.

I probably should get a sex therapist, I'm beginning to think I'm that fucked up.

 

[bisexplicit]

Dirty to me means "degrading, humiliating, deprecatory, shaming" words and actions.

But, um, thats the best part, right?

 

[Xectxny19X]

it depends on the company for me.

 

[English Lady]

I love dirty talk, talking it and hearing it. I love all aspects from the noises and the "oh yeah, right there" to the whole bitch, slut, whore name calling thing. I think it's all a turn on. Now i do have to be in th right frame of mind, sometimes it doesn't hit the right spot (then i kiss him so he can't talk ) but 99% of the time I'm all for a bit of dirty talk -the dirtier the better