Possible she can't remember a thing?

[phoenix1105]

I think this leaves you in a potentialy dangerous situation. I am not sure from your last post if her seperation/divorce is directly related to what happened? Either way you havee some big and important things to think about. How is your marriage? Do you want to be with your co-worker is a one on one relationship, or do you want to stay married and have her on the side? Or, do you have strong enough feelings for your coworker that you are willing to split up with you current wife. It seems this situation has a lot of potential ramifications... I think you need to do some serious thinking.

 

[Tyr51]

"I don't remember" = I regret the event, but would like to maintain a nice, friendly and professional relationship with you. I would also like to never talk about this again, and don't want to embaress you.

Seriously.


This happened to me once as well (though we were both single). The guy was (and still is) a fantastic friend, but we were coworkers. Next day at work, I went over to his cubical with the... "Yeah... so..... um. Akward. I'm a little fuzzy on the details." He caught on and replied with "Seriously. We probably shouldn't drink so much. Want some gatoraid? I brought extra." It was dropped, we never mentioned it again, and our friendship (and our dignity) was saved.

If she wants to drop it, that's probably the best course of action.

 

[literal]

"I don't remember" = I regret the event, but would like to maintain a nice, friendly and professional relationship with you. I would also like to never talk about this again, and don't want to embaress you.

Seriously.


This happened to me once as well (though we were both single). The guy was (and still is) a fantastic friend, but we were coworkers. Next day at work, I went over to his cubical with the... "Yeah... so..... um. Akward. I'm a little fuzzy on the details." He caught on and replied with "Seriously. We probably shouldn't drink so much. Want some gatoraid? I brought extra." It was dropped, we never mentioned it again, and our friendship (and our dignity) was saved.

If she wants to drop it, that's probably the best course of action.

thanks for the insight. im glad it is coming from someone who went thru this.