cellis
Saucy
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Des, this is a great thread. Thank you for starting it.
It seems to me than in the time that I have been on line and looking for one person or another, I have run across all kinds of people.
From the person who tells you to take a lit cigarette and burn yourself with it ( he was a real jewel) to the ones who want to truss you up in a corset and 6 inch heels... to the ones who want to beat you black and blue, well you get the idea there are all kinds of them out there. I find that these fall into your basic predator group. There were some that I had a little more contact with, that after exchanging an email or two demanded my phone number and address... I find this type a little scarier myself.
Because I tended to stay away from chat rooms for the most part, and because I was not interested in an on-line D/s relationship, I never learned the lingo and I never saw some of the things discussed here regarding chat room behavior. I did read horror stories of women who were horribly abused in the name of D/s. I think this is not because that doesn't happend to men as well, it is just that women tend to be more vocal about this kind of thing... at least afterwards.
Later after I had met Himself and we began this long journey into finding the right person to compliment our lives, I found a variety of women who for the most part just did not get it. Himself and I were very clear in our preferences from the beginning. We did searches and talked to a lot of women. And out of probably twenty five women that we had some kind of contact with, only four were acceptable to both of us, and one of those is still up in the air.
I have found that to some extent, that this lifestyle is exciting and titillating to many people (translated here to mean women, because that is my frame of reference). Yet many want to cyber, have an on-line thing or whatever. The ones we have encountered don't want to make that move beyond the computer to real life or are too scared to.
When it comes to meeting face to face, and let me just say that all of our meetings take place on public places, resturants, coffee shops and the like, so there is never any danger for the one meeting us. This is not necessarily something that they demand, but something that Himself and I insist on. We want whoever we are meeting to feel a degree of safety.
We have made dates to meet people and have been stood up more than you can imagine. Some of the ones who stood us up had a great deal of experience in real life and were active in the BDSM community here.
I don't know if we are too picky... but we do know what we want. It is hard though when you have someone telling you, yes, yes this is really what I want... when they really mean, I think I might like to try this sometime in the future.
It seems to me than in the time that I have been on line and looking for one person or another, I have run across all kinds of people.
From the person who tells you to take a lit cigarette and burn yourself with it ( he was a real jewel) to the ones who want to truss you up in a corset and 6 inch heels... to the ones who want to beat you black and blue, well you get the idea there are all kinds of them out there. I find that these fall into your basic predator group. There were some that I had a little more contact with, that after exchanging an email or two demanded my phone number and address... I find this type a little scarier myself.
Because I tended to stay away from chat rooms for the most part, and because I was not interested in an on-line D/s relationship, I never learned the lingo and I never saw some of the things discussed here regarding chat room behavior. I did read horror stories of women who were horribly abused in the name of D/s. I think this is not because that doesn't happend to men as well, it is just that women tend to be more vocal about this kind of thing... at least afterwards.
Later after I had met Himself and we began this long journey into finding the right person to compliment our lives, I found a variety of women who for the most part just did not get it. Himself and I were very clear in our preferences from the beginning. We did searches and talked to a lot of women. And out of probably twenty five women that we had some kind of contact with, only four were acceptable to both of us, and one of those is still up in the air.
I have found that to some extent, that this lifestyle is exciting and titillating to many people (translated here to mean women, because that is my frame of reference). Yet many want to cyber, have an on-line thing or whatever. The ones we have encountered don't want to make that move beyond the computer to real life or are too scared to.
When it comes to meeting face to face, and let me just say that all of our meetings take place on public places, resturants, coffee shops and the like, so there is never any danger for the one meeting us. This is not necessarily something that they demand, but something that Himself and I insist on. We want whoever we are meeting to feel a degree of safety.
We have made dates to meet people and have been stood up more than you can imagine. Some of the ones who stood us up had a great deal of experience in real life and were active in the BDSM community here.
I don't know if we are too picky... but we do know what we want. It is hard though when you have someone telling you, yes, yes this is really what I want... when they really mean, I think I might like to try this sometime in the future.
