Predatory Jerks in Chat

[mayi]

wow

right now i am feeling very blessed in my adventures in lit chat. i to am a tubber and know hat and Boo, but have not met angeline. i have always tried to fell comfortable with a person before giving out personal information. i have also not hidden the fact that i am married and have children. if they get any information from me it will be the first name (that may change soon). are there strange ones out there.......OH YES.......but there are also very nice ones. i have been lucky, but thanks hatara for starting this thread..........hugs

mayi (crystal blue)

 

[Ladybird]

Like Mayi, I've been very lucky.

I've chatted in Syd's Tub quite a lot, and have only ever come in contact with really lovely people.

In fact I have some very good real life friends among them now.

I've always been careful about the information that I give out. I'm not afraid to give my first name.. after all, there are thousands of women by that name where I live.

But I have taken the precaution of a different email address, which has no reference to me on it, and my telephone no. is silent, although I just won't give it out in any case.

If I really want to speak to someone, I would rather bear the cost of the call than reveal my ph. no.

Very few people have a pic of my face, those that do live thousands of miles away, and are trusted friends.

Hatara.. once again thanks hon for starting a very valuable and worthwhile thread.

 

[Blue Dolphin]

hhhmmmmmmm

So, this is jsut a male thing is it.
You mean there are n ladies with multiple identities in lit.
who change them to suit the occasion or location, and lie.
guess not !!!

 

[Ladybird]

There doesn't seem to have been much input by men here Pleasureu.

Have you had instances where women have multiple identites for unhealthy reasons??

 

[QuickDuck]

Re: hhhmmmmmmm

So, this is jsut a male thing is it.
You mean there are n ladies with multiple identities in lit.
who change them to suit the occasion or location, and lie.
guess not !!!

definately not exclusive to men, but i think you will find the majority are.

i guess when teenage guys get bored, they do stuff like that.... i think it is just a case of they usually think with their dicks, not their head.

/wave
QuickDuck

 

[omahaman2]

i just cant understand why someone would do these things,ive chatted in the tub a few times lol and have met many wonderful people,many like ladybird has said have become rl friends.especially one certain one. i am glad that i was not included on anyones list here because ive akways been truthful to all i talk to, in all areas..these people ,wether they be men or women as pleasureu suggested are missing out on something wonderful,as i have found out the old saying applies you get back twice what you give. i want to thank those who over the last months have trusted me to share of themselves,i have really loved getting to know some wonderful people.

 

[Blue Dolphin]

women as well

I know of at least two ladies, tub regulars, one is gone noww, who were both in "exclusives".
\\\Yet, they would happily come into lit, in another name,and go in private room for cyber with another person.
I know it happened, I saw it, and was even offered it,but declined.
I know a few ladies with multiple ID`s.
Dont bother asking who they were
My lips are sealed
P
P

 

[QuickDuck]

Re: women as well

I know of at least two ladies, tub regulars, one is gone noww, who were both in "exclusives".
\\\Yet, they would happily come into lit, in another name,and go in private room for cyber with another person.
I know it happened, I saw it, and was even offered it,but declined.
I know a few ladies with multiple ID`s.
Dont bother asking who they were
My lips are sealed
P
P

Heya P,

The multipul IDs are not the problem... where it becomes a problem is when it turns malicious, both online, or worse, in real life.

 

[BooMerengue]

When Hatara started this thread she stated clearly that it was men and women both. It just so happens that it's a typically male game, tho no one has said that women don't play it, too. And we're not necessarily talking about people who use 2 names- we're talking about people who set out to do harm deliberately. Let's keep to the subject here, and not turn this into a 'bashing' thing. If you think these women are trying to harm someone, P, then you are doing a disservice by not informing a CM. It won't stop if we all just zip our lips. We need to try and stop it.

 

[Blue Dolphin]

ok

ok Boo
got the message
will shut it
goodbye

 

[Dragonette]

Hi

Many of you that have posted in this thread know me

I will add a site to have a look at, it's more about IRC, but the rules are the same

Stop Net Abusers

Information and Tools

 

[hatara]

Angeline *sigh* you really do not know much about chat let me give you an example. A friend of mine had made a habit of guarding women in the tub usually one in particular but I was having a particularly bad night with pm'rs.

While keeping his identity that was in there and chatting in the tub with the woman "sitting" on his lap he then logged in under another name and had me sit in his lap also. All he had to do was click back and forth between 2 wondows and he was more than able to keep up the conversations as both people. He then also logged in using a woman's name!!! He did this to go after nasty pm'rs so that he had 3 identities logged in at once. No they are not suppose to do it but they do.

The person you are defending had his IP addy tracked as both names and they had the same IP addy!! Since it is not possible for 2 people to have the same exact IP addy you figure it out.

Pleasureu sweetheart!!
I have just had the world's biggest demonstration of how bad some women on here can be. Lying was only the beginning the poor soul I was talking about needs serious psychological help and has recently devastated and rocked the world of a very nice man with all of her deceits. Not to mention having the entire tub go nuts with worry. For his sake I will not go into it put if you message me I will talk to you.

This thread is not for just women. Men are also the victims at times and everyone needs to just take a little caution while playing.

 

[BooMerengue]

I deleted this post cuz the righr(?) people didn't read it and the shit is happening again... can't give away all my tricks!!

 

[hatara]

OK let's talk pics

I was not sure about posting this but Pleaureu's post changed my mind. Thanks Pleasureu!!

Now I am sure it has happened to women but I have just not been told about it by women. I do however have a few male friend's that ran into this problem.

They sent nude pictures and included their face in them to a few women. After a few months and sending them out to a few people they started receiving really sick and harrassing email with threats of blackmail and exposure.

Not only were they told their families would receive the email but in some cases they were threatened with having a web page dedicated to their real or cyber names and having them posted on the web.

These emails were of course sent without a return email addy. But every email states where it comes from it has to by law. If you do not see it under the subject title hit print and see if it comes out there. If that fails your email provider has a way to report harrassing email follow those instructions and report it immediately!!! You may also want to print it out and take it to the local police.

Incidently when you forward the harrassing email to your or the offenders service provide the pics do not come up except to say a pic of that title was there so you are not sending the pics on just the email.

 

[hatara]

Just a little note not everyone with multiple names has bad motives either. I have gone through a few names on chat because of stalkers or trying to lose people that are annoying me when there is no CM on.

Occassionally I will still use a different name and go into chat but usually if I am having problems and then I pm my friends and tell them that it is me.

But it is also the blatant deceit about who you are as a person that can be so devasting. Saying your single and starting a relationship that is exclusive with someone else who is single planning to meet only to have them discover you are married with children. Or just lying about who you are fundamentally.

If all you want to do is play then just say so right from the start. For a long time I told everyone I would not be exclusive with anyone. LOL Love stopped that but when it was true I said it. When it stopped I not only told the men I had cybered that but also put it in my profile.

You don't have to hurt others just to have fun. I had lots of fun on chat and never intentionally hurt people that I cybered. I did once or twice by accident but apologized for it. I have had men hurt me unintentionally and forgiven them for it and become good friends with some.

It's that old do onto others thing. It works everywhere including chat.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

"Confession"

Just a little note not everyone with multiple names has bad motives either. I have gone through a few names on chat because of stalkers or trying to lose people that are annoying me when there is no CM on.
...
It's that old do onto others thing. It works everywhere including chat.

Having been out of the "chat" scene for a while now, I have already admitted that initially when I started at LIT, I cybered under four different names.

However, none of the encounters were anything more than just a one/two-time thing, and I never shared actual information at that time. Only twice through the many "encounters" did I sense that the man was interested in being "sincere", and I promptly informed him that I wasn't interested in anything more serious.

Never did I try to deceive anyone with the intention of hurting or stalking them. Fortunately, I grew tired of the playing around, and decided just to be me as "Jenny" (she reflects my true personality!).

I have witnessed the results of deceit with both male and female victims. I am most fortunate that I met a person after I became "real", and have kept myself as honest and open with him (and he with me!). I never did expect to find a partner in this way, but I have learned it can happen. Not every match will be a "love match", and newcomers should be very aware from the outset. Thanks for the thread, Hat.

 

[windycityman]

Great Thread!!!!!!!!

I have chatted along time on various servers IRC 2.5 msn yahoo ect . You have to be careful how much info you give out and like most have said.. its not worth it ...I made the mistake once of giving out my number wow....what a shock.....i was being called day and night....needless to say I changed the number. Have fun but be carefull you never know whos whos or what they really are.




WCM

 

[hatara]

About Pics again

I am not saying you can't have fun and send out pics just to edit the ones you send.

If you send pics of your face send pics of your face. If you send pics of the rest of you then do not include your face in those shots or crop it out before you send them. That way no one can say hey look at these and there is all of you that people will recognize.

 

[Guest]

ok here goes.i am completely new to this.i never have been in a chatroom before.really.but this is the net and unfortunatelt it is all here to see and experience.and that means we have to take the good with the bad.the same free speech that allows us to post here,meet new people,freinds,etc also let's people in that we may not be so comfortable with.i mean i could be a predator.i am not but the only person who really knows that is me.i would not ask someone where they live.maybe what state or city but not what street address.sometimes in our hurry to make new friends we give a little more info than we really need to.for all of the really good things on the net there is also plenty of bad things.some people would say that lit is bad.but from what i see from my visits it is like one giant counseling session or support group.i do not mean this as a criticism as these things are neccessary for adults.i am kinda nervous.don't trash me too bad.i will call myself enlightened for now.and juicylips you are quite a woman.

 

[hatara]

Unregistered welcome to lit and your right there is good and bad these are just a few tips to try and help along the way.

No one is going to trash you for your opinion hugggggsssss

 

[hatara]

Bump

 

[hatara]

One more little piece of advice if someone is upsetting you or annoying you redline can be truly wonderful!!

 

[eroticfiction]

Hatara sweetie, This is the land of the anonymous. On the net you never know who or what you are dealing with. I suggest you take all with a grain of salt. (I love your avatar by the way). I know it sucks that you really can't trust everyone, but that's the net. Try to just have fun is all I can say.

 

[hatara]

Oh I had lots of fun in my time! I can also say that I have found a man I truly love here. But I made lots of mistakes that I hope others can learn from. Including having to go to the expense of getting an unlisted number.

It disturbed me that when I called the phone company I found out that they now had an entire department to deal with changing numbers and reporting harrassment from the internet. I felt so stupid for having let slip enough info that someone could look up my phone number. If they set up a department to deal with just that obviously I was not alone.

 

[Dragonette]

But warnings are good

Eroticfiction

Hatara sweetie, This is the land of the anonymous. On the net you never know who or what you are dealing with. I suggest you take all with a grain of salt. (I love your avatar by the way). I know it sucks that you really can't trust everyone, but that's the net. Try to just have fun is all I can say.

Very true, BUT...............

There have been many cases of people being stalked, even to the case of having to move.

There was I book I read which was based on fact, including murder!

People joining a chat expect fun, and new people have no idea that there are nasty ones out there!

So this is a great thread as an instruction, it's better to be warned than find out the hard way!