Predatory Jerks in Chat

[hatara]

A cm named Heat that is in lit chat has also started a thread. Believe it or not he has had posts that try and convince people to forget it and just do whatever. Or at least that is what they appear to do to me. So for the good of the newbies I am going to keep this thread alive so that people can read and learn a little.

Have fun everyone!!

 

[reelme]

Masks

Hi Hatara....kisses baby

well Hat you know I have two names and I do use them and reasons for two names is because of people not being in a right frame of mind. I now have someone calling my house and being abit threatning. I am not afraid but I am concerned about others well being there.

I originally had two names because it gave me a resaon to but on a new person a mascarade if you will but in either case I have never been mallichious with it. (forgive the spelling) It is kindof becoming the ideal person you might be wishing you were only to find that being that person is not who you are. so then the real you comes out or you loose interest.

How ever to all of you I do detest the use of any name to Take advantage of people. there are alot of nice people there and for what ever reason they are there they deserve respect.

Huggers hatara.

 

[vylette]

wow

wow i am just sooooo blown away and honestly a bit scared...i just dont even know what to say...i am wondering now if i have ever given out too much personal information...i cant imagine someone threatening me...that would scare me to death....i know they have mean people in the world..but it really freaks me out that some of them may be here at lit and i could be talking with them....it is just so unsettling....thanks for the info....i havent been chatting too long maybe a little over 6 months....but i think i will reevaluate and definitely be a bit more guarded....i am really bothered...really just bothered by this

 

[hatara]

vylette you can still have a lot of fun and most people you meet here are wonderful. It's just smart to be aware and a little cuatious. Have lots of fun and take care!

 

[Dragonette]

Re: wow

wow i am just sooooo blown away and honestly a bit scared...i just dont even know what to say...i am wondering now if i have ever given out too much personal information...i cant imagine someone threatening me...that would scare me to death....i know they have mean people in the world..but it really freaks me out that some of them may be here at lit and i could be talking with them....it is just so unsettling....thanks for the info....i havent been chatting too long maybe a little over 6 months....but i think i will reevaluate and definitely be a bit more guarded....i am really bothered...really just bothered by this

Have fun, the majority are good people, just check any profiles you have!

Make sure nothing has your real name or address.
Other than that, a touch or caution!

But do enjoy!

 

[lovemetender]

good thread...

shame really that there has to be such weirdos that try to ruin it for folks who are just out trying to meet like minded people & get away from the pressures & stress of everyday life to steal away some fun light moments....

 

[knightstalker]

I have often thought of going to the chat hear just to sorta get a feel for it ..I have always been shy around women but the boards have helped teach me that just being yourself works best..Anyway i figured why not go to the chat and maybe meet some nice people ..Now i am having second thoughts about this after having read this thread..I guess i will just stay on the boards for now..

 

[JennyOmanHill]

I have often thought of going to the chat hear just to sorta get a feel for it ..I have always been shy around women but the boards have helped teach me that just being yourself works best..Anyway i figured why not go to the chat and maybe meet some nice people ..Now i am having second thoughts about this after having read this thread..I guess i will just stay on the boards for now..

Hi Knight!

I had been to the chat area before ever knowing the boards were here! I would give things a try there, especially if you recognize a group and begin to "chat" openly in the area (most preferably, for me, is Syd's hot tub). It is overwhelming at times since that dang scroll can get rolling quite quickly, but it's a fun way to interact with your LIT friends. Just "beware" of the private conversations; that's when you begin to interact with one individual, and where a lot of these internet "dangers" can be a problem.

Good luck!

 

[knightstalker]

Thanks Jenny I will give it some serious thought since i have come to respect your advice..I dont think I would get into any private chats anytime soon since my last online affair ended in disaster..If you read this lets say i have someone who wants a private and i say no of course i would tell her no in the nicest way..Will they get offended and say things about me to people?Or are most people pretty cool in the tubs

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Thanks Jenny I will give it some serious thought since i have come to respect your advice..I dont think I would get into any private chats anytime soon since my last online affair ended in disaster..If you read this lets say i have someone who wants a private and i say no of course i would tell her no in the nicest way..Will they get offended and say things about me to people?Or are most people pretty cool in the tubs

I think the tub is "cool"!! You already know a lot of the folks that hang there: Oman, Dragonette, Hatara, LadyBird (just to mention a few!), and it's a good group to follow and keep conversation going in the general "tub" area.

I don't believe telling someone "no" in a NICE way regarding any private messaging would be a problem at all! As this thread points out, most of the "idiots" ARE recognized long before they are singled out. Many of the tub chatters just go there to "hang" in general. Don't be concerned (like some others here) that people will "talk" about you badly! Your personality is what affects the mood there, so if you're not a heartless jerk, you shouldn't have any troubles!

I don't hang in the tub much anymore. The boards have kept me very busy, and Oman and I have other ways to "connect". Every once in a while it's fun though, so maybe I'll "see" you there sometime! Just hang loose and go with the flow! I'm sure you don't want to rush into anything, and chat will just offer you another medium for community right now.

The tub is where Oman and I met, and I sure wasn't looking to be involved with anyone! Good luck and enjoy!

 

[Suni]

Love what Woodmeister said: One, I went into chat for my personal enjoyment, for fun. Two, nobody fucks with my fun.

That is a great attitude.

Don't often comment here, but had to when I saw Crown listed as a virgin. MMMMM me too sweetie, we are virgins together, wanna lose your virginity with me? lol. Somehow that just boggles the imagination.

Hat, you do have to take care. however, you can't live your life scared either. I refuse to let fear control what I do or how I do it. There are always those that will prey on the unwary, both in chat, on the boards, and in what we call real life. You have to be cautious, yes, but you also have to open your mind and heart to others. That is what truly separates us from other animals, the ability to give and receive love. And yes, there are those that are less than honest, but on the other hand, how many times have things that we see been misinterpreted? I often chat with people in pm, does that mean i am cybering with them? Of course not. Yet, sometimes, others think that. I have been in private rooms, when the only thing occurring was some serious chat, about many things like life in general, families, war, the state of the world. What do others assume? Well, I for one am not concerned about others perceptions. One thing I do find disturbing is the assumptions people make in chat. And we all know how assume is spelled. Let's be careful, yes, but let's have fun, or why else be here? OK, off my soapbox.

 

[hatara]

Oh Suni you are so right. I am often found in chat in pm just talking to others. LOL had someone the other day that thought I was cybering and cheating on my bf, in reality we were talking about his gf and long distance relationships!

I have met some truly wonderful people in chat. I have had the wonderful opportunity of meeting a few of them real too. Most people are wonderful and as long as you take a few precautions in the beginning it's great. No one should ever be afraid to go into chat. It's a lot of fun and it's great to meet people from all over and talk. I currently have someone from Australia that emails me recipes and yes it is a guy! LOL

I go in with the assumption that most people are honest. I have been burned a few times but I still believe that most people are honest and sincere.

 

[HeavyStick]

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[Blue Dolphin]

Fantasy

problem is that this is a fantasy world
and reality always comes second
and there are no winners here.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: Fantasy

problem is that this is a fantasy world
and reality always comes second
and there are no winners here.

Speaking of fantasy: have you changed your whole persona, or just your name?

Interesting pictures though! Enjoy the "new" you.

 

[captjack]

Love what Woodmeister said: One, I went into chat for my personal enjoyment, for fun. Two, nobody fucks with my fun.

That is a great attitude.

Don't often comment here, but had to when I saw Crown listed as a virgin. MMMMM me too sweetie, we are virgins together, wanna lose your virginity with me? lol. Somehow that just boggles the imagination.

Hat, you do have to take care. however, you can't live your life scared either. I refuse to let fear control what I do or how I do it. There are always those that will prey on the unwary, both in chat, on the boards, and in what we call real life. You have to be cautious, yes, but you also have to open your mind and heart to others. That is what truly separates us from other animals, the ability to give and receive love. And yes, there are those that are less than honest, but on the other hand, how many times have things that we see been misinterpreted? I often chat with people in pm, does that mean i am cybering with them? Of course not. Yet, sometimes, others think that. I have been in private rooms, when the only thing occurring was some serious chat, about many things like life in general, families, war, the state of the world. What do others assume? Well, I for one am not concerned about others perceptions. One thing I do find disturbing is the assumptions people make in chat. And we all know how assume is spelled. Let's be careful, yes, but let's have fun, or why else be here? OK, off my soapbox.

If you'll pardon me bumping into your thread Suni. I've been in chat room for a lotta years, a lot more than I care to bore you with. We know the world has hurtful, deceiving, and yes violent people in it. No different in chat. But I've met some truly wonderful people. Knowing them makes me richer and broadens my horizons. And I've met some of the slime that amass in the drain. Some of the slime appear to be sooo charming, and totally wonderful people. It is a game to them, they need to conquer, not a lot unlike a rapist. On the other side I've met some women who steal you heart and delight in crushing it to. I've hardened over time and that possible makes me poorer. But I'm the defination of the practical optimist. Assuming everyone is who they say they are, but withholding trust until it is earned. Trust and respect are to commodities that are priceless and can never be purchased, only earned over time. I'll now return you to your regularly scheduled forum.

 

[hatara]

captjack you are a very wise man!

Leaving yourself open to meeting and talking to new people is a wonderful thing. But it's just like real life you wouldn't let someone you just met somewhere know every detail of your life and it's the same here. It takes time and getting to know someone and building trust.

 

[Suni]

Glad you bumped in Capt, always happy to see the insight you bring to any topic.

 

[HeavyStick]

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[mayi]

Love what Woodmeister said: One, I went into chat for my personal enjoyment, for fun. Two, nobody fucks with my fun.

That is a great attitude.

Don't often comment here, but had to when I saw Crown listed as a virgin. MMMMM me too sweetie, we are virgins together, wanna lose your virginity with me? lol. Somehow that just boggles the imagination.

Hat, you do have to take care. however, you can't live your life scared either. I refuse to let fear control what I do or how I do it. There are always those that will prey on the unwary, both in chat, on the boards, and in what we call real life. You have to be cautious, yes, but you also have to open your mind and heart to others. That is what truly separates us from other animals, the ability to give and receive love. And yes, there are those that are less than honest, but on the other hand, how many times have things that we see been misinterpreted? I often chat with people in pm, does that mean i am cybering with them? Of course not. Yet, sometimes, others think that. I have been in private rooms, when the only thing occurring was some serious chat, about many things like life in general, families, war, the state of the world. What do others assume? Well, I for one am not concerned about others perceptions. One thing I do find disturbing is the assumptions people make in chat. And we all know how assume is spelled. Let's be careful, yes, but let's have fun, or why else be here? OK, off my soapbox.

Thank you suni......you are a very wise woman

huggles

mayi

 

[hatara]

Bumping because I read a post this morning that a newbie signed with his first and last name and stated his location!

 

[Dragonette]

Life is a risk

Nothing is safe or certain
Lightning, trucks, disease, anything can happen!

Be aware, be sensible.......

Protect Yourself Thread

Go into chat, there are many chats available, but don't give out your information readily, be aware, cautious, but have fun!

If you prefer, use another nickname in chat, be polite always, and of course you can refuse a private chat.

99% are nice!

Smiles

Bumping because I read a post this morning that a newbie signed with his first and last name and stated his location!

DOH!

 

[aim2pleaseu]

TV special

I am new so dont think im changing my name...In any case there was a special on tv. About 1 year ago. The special showed a lady who meets people online. She has there background checked before she meets them. I guess there are places online oyu can call. While some think this is an envasion of privacy i don't, you shuldnt have anything to hide. Also, Id like to commnent that on this show one ladys online friend ended up almost killing here when they met. How bazarr, interesting his profile when ran through the computer came back with no flags meaning that he was acceptable. I guess this is an indication that you cant totally rely on investigation reports as well. Whoever started this thread should take the time to list the names of the person so others could be warned. This would only make sence, too bad some people have to spoil things. Anyhow, Im new so hi all ... cya around

 

[Suni]

Dragonette, you are right. Most are fine, good people here just as everywhere, and like everywhere, to coin a cliche, it only takes one bad apple to ruin the bunch.

The words to live by are cautious, but open, for me anyway. I too have run into those less than honorable, and have been hurt. However, I would not trade the friends i have made here for anything, so I will continue to meet, greet, and get acquainted with those here that strike my fancy. And will be cautious about too much information. But I will not live in a shell, protected, but isolated.

And, as woodmeister said, don't anyone fuck with my fun. <grins>

 

[Suni]

mmmm thinking of bumping into Heavy. Chuckling, your ducky has you well in hand babe, and i applaud her for it.