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I’ve used it a few times and feel like it’s gotten easier. For me it’s a combination of relaxing, breathing and fantasizing.
Once worked up the orgasms are really intense but not located in my penis. In fact my penis isn’t always erect when it’s happening until I’m ready to add additional stimulation and cum.
The orgasm are very abdominal and generally all over level orgasms. Like involuntary toe curl muscle clenching deep guttural moaning. They also happen in waves. So it wasn’t a one and done like ejaculation penile orgasms. After a few waves I’m so worked up I can’t keep my hands off anymore and I cave for the biggest orgasms I’ve ever had.
So unless you can let yourself go in this way you may not be relaxed enough. If you’re concerned about time, noise or being interrupted or may not happen.
Thanks for this post.. a lot of the time personally, I'm too cock focused and also conscious of time. I'll certainly see if I can move my focus to the right places in future.