Psychology of cumming in partner / partner cumming in you?

[DarkPrimalRose]

I'm trying to avoid the answer from guys that yes, physically it feels better to cum inside someone than not.

This is more of a psychological question of why. Women, if you like your partner cumming inside you, why? Is it a thrill of the risk of pregnancy? Is it feeling like a woman? The sense of completing naturally? A feeling of attachment? Is it mostly because your partner wants it? Something else?

For men, is it the feeling of power or control? Or is it mostly a physical feeling rather than emotional?

I absolutely love it. It's primal for me, and it feels right. Having him cum inside--especially if we are both bare--makes it completely instinctual and complete. It feels good, especially if he cums in me as deep as possible. I become his and he becomes mine.

And as a submissive bottom with a preference to bareback and a slight breeding kink, there is that element of being claimed in such a way, but even if I'm not in a D/s relationship, I want my partner to cum inside.

 

[Escierto]

I absolutely love it. It's primal for me, and it feels right. Having him cum inside--especially if we are both bare--makes it completely instinctual and complete. It feels good, especially if he cums in me as deep as possible. I become his and he becomes mine.

And as a submissive bottom with a preference to bareback and a slight breeding kink, there is that element of being claimed in such a way, but even if I'm not in a D/s relationship, I want my partner to cum inside.

Yes! When my girlfriend cums inside me I truly feel like she owns me completely. In less than a week she is going to be breeding me every night!

 

[peekingone]

I want my man cumming inside me. It’s a need to have him fill me, to feel him ‘claim’ my body, my cunt, in that way. To make me his own. To feel his cock swell and unload inside me, as he presses into me again and again. If he slides his fingers inside me and scoops some out and puts them in my mouth even better. Then to have him leak out of me as the day moves on. To spill into my knickers, so I can feel him there. Reminding me I am his. He is mine.

Wow!!! Love it.

 

[Supersammy]

love it

 

[UtilityCurve]

We didn't talk about it much, but my (late) wife said cummy panties at work were worth being late (to work!).

 

[UtilityCurve]

It certainly is primal and probably pretty much hardwired into women. Not sure about the claiming or owning but when I start toward my orgasm and I feel him moving toward his, I have trouble with rational thought. I just want to take him deep in me and feel him release. This desire certainly has led to some anxious moments over the years but it was always so hard to resist.

It's hardwired into guys too.

I don't feel like I possess her or whatever. I feel like I'm just getting her to the place she was always meant to be: A mother.

I never fucked any girl never was afraid to be with as a parent partner (okay, maybe one in hindsight--she was a genuine headcase). That may be sexist, retro, a caveman, whatever, but when she's beneath you saying "fill me," it's there, and it's real.

 

[UtilityCurve]

For me? I feel fulfilled, that I have done to/for a woman what she feels fulfilled by (being a mother). Of course, I enjoy the sensation, but it is  nothing compared to the emotional (pay)load.

Selfishly, I think of her be becoming more dependent on me, even to the point of extreme discomfort (super hot scenes, in porn or even Showtime) when she needs her breasts emptied of milk and I am her only recourse. (I have always roughly likened that somewhat painful condition for a woman to me--all men--desperate for ejaculation. Up until that experience, I don't know that girls/women/females "get" male need--my wife actually told me she thought "blue balls" was bullshit guys told girls to guilt them into jerking/blowing them.)

 

[Louiseisatease]

I love the feeling I get as the guy loses control of himself and simply has to go with it, humping and pumping and then our sensation of complete relaxation once he is spent. Plus, if I plan to spring a sexy surprise, he is so off guard and his cock so sensitive at that moment.

 

[Ramone45]

My wife has lovers and I know that being inseminated makes her happy. From my perspective, I view it as her man claiming and possessing a part of her forever. Her lovers are within our social circle. I observe their interactions in non-sexual settings. She is always very warm and loving toward these men.There is a lot of psychological stuff going on.

 

[canopy]

I get lot of flak for my saying things like this but here it goes... When a man cums in my pussy it feels like I'm fulfilling my purpose

 

[Katch123]

Feels very natural to me. There is some of what you said there sprinkled in. The risk, the connection, being seeded...

I guess it just feels right to me.

The risk, the connection, the seeding , I can relate.

 

[DrHappy]

As a guy, I think that a large part of it is from the rush of oxytocin that we get as part of the orgasm. I think that this chemical manifests itself in multiple ways:

It gives an instantaneous intense appreciation and craving for connection, with both physical and emotional bonding. The rest of the world disappears for a moment.

There is a strong urge to press our cock as deeply inside as possible during the ejaculation. This is almost an evolutionary trait that improves fertility. I know that I want the entire length of my shaft inside her. I also want my groin area at the base of my penis pressed against her labia and I want to hold it there. The desire to cum inside isn’t just about pleasure at the tip.

For me, it has zero to do with control. It’s a blend of physical and emotional.

 

[UtilityCurve]

I get lot of flak for my saying things like this but here it goes... When a man cums in my pussy it feels like I'm fulfilling my purpose

I can imagine you taking flak for that, but hold on to your convictions: The vast majority of women feel EXACTLY like that (and equivalently, males who are actually adults, not "bros").

Personally, when a partner tells me that, it makes the memory so, so sweet. Truth be told, it's not just when she tells me about taking my cum, but whenever a woman tells me I have made her feel feminine in a good way, whether it is (frankly) drooling over her wearing a sun dress or an appreciative look from her when I have opened the pickle jar she couldn't.

 

[Katch123]

I get lot of flak for my saying things like this but here it goes... When a man cums in my pussy it feels like I'm fulfilling my purpose

I love this woman !

 

[UtilityCurve]

I love this woman !

You and me both. It's not a one-night-stand kind of thing, but when the sex turns into honesty-talk afterward, 100% every girl/woman/female has said the same.

It's honestly disgusting that women (and men) feel awkward about admitting that this feels right to then. Why the fuck has it become political? I never made love to my wife politically.

 

[Islander55]

You and me both. It's not a one-night-stand kind of thing, but when the sex turns into honesty-talk afterward, 100% every girl/woman/female has said the same.

It's honestly disgusting that women (and men) feel awkward about admitting that this feels right to then. Why the fuck has it become political? I never made love to my wife politically.

To me it just feels like the right way to do it. I had one child and the pregnancy was difficult so my husband got snipped so I never got to do any of the "I should be safe, we can skip the condom" and get that little thrill of maybe. In mt 40's I did stray a couple of times and I found that I had no will power to make him wear a condom or pull out. The orgasms were so intense that I would just encourage him to do it.

 

[canopy]

Why the fuck has it become political?

They just want to make noise on the internet. Just let me be the woman I want to be and feel like one and make him feel like a man. I've learned to ignore their cries both online and in rl

 

[canopy]

The orgasms were so intense that I would just encourage him to do it.

I know exactly how you feel. If the position allows I always wrap my leg around him cause deep inside me I'm afraid he'd pull out

 

[Islander55]

I know exactly how you feel. If the position allows I always wrap my leg around him cause deep inside me I'm afraid he'd pull out

From my experience once they are close, they are not likely to pull out but you legs hooking his legs and your hands holding onto his butt. That is the way to enjoy him breeding you. I still think of it as breeding even if I can't get pregnant.

 

[Islander55]

Wife is the same way. I'd be surprised if she's ever used a condom and I'm sure she's never asked anyone to pull out. Fortunately the risks are wildly exaggerated and she chooses well, so there's never been a problem.

Assuming you are choosing people you trust and limit the STD risk, knowing that he is bare and going to cum inside of you just makes things so much more intense. I have not used a condom in years but stopping to put on the condom can affect the mood. At least for me. Pulling out is a waste of time. If he is in there bare, you already have sperm swimming around in there. Maybe not as many but it only takes one.

 

[Handydan]

Cuming in a woman especially not my wife is a very powerful act of claiming them.

 

[Escierto]

From my experience once they are close, they are not likely to pull out but you legs hooking his legs and your hands holding onto his butt. That is the way to enjoy him breeding you. I still think of it as breeding even if I can't get pregnant.

Yes. My girlfriend and I both fantasize that she is breeding me even though it’s kind of an absurd idea. It’s the one time we switch gender roles and we both like it.

 

[Islander55]

Agreed. It's also a good idea to be aware of the real STD statistics and probabilities. They're nowhere near what our culture of "fear farming" has people imagining.

I tend to stick with people I know pretty well or at least are known to the group.

 

[canopy]

Assuming you are choosing people you trust and limit the STD risk, knowing that he is bare and going to cum inside of you just makes things so much more intense. I have not used a condom in years but stopping to put on the condom can affect the mood. At least for me. Pulling out is a waste of time. If he is in there bare, you already have sperm swimming around in there. Maybe not as many but it only takes one.

Agreed. It's also a good idea to be aware of the real STD statistics and probabilities. They're nowhere near what our culture of "fear farming" has people imagining.

Std is one of my two checkbox for deciding whether I'm sleeping with someone. It's something to consider only if I'm having a one nigter with someone new. These days all my sex are with someone I do it on the regular

 

[Islander55]

Std is one of my two checkbox for deciding whether I'm sleeping with someone. It's something to consider only if I'm having a one nigter with someone new. These days all my sex are with someone I do it on the regular

While doing a stranger is a nice fantasy, sticking with people you know is much safer. One of the advantages of being a woman is that it is not hard to find men who want to have sex with you. Even as we get older.