punishment?

[Homburg]

Most of the time, I find that the problem was with my delivery. Actually, all of the time. Or with perfectly understandable life obstacles which aren't anyone's fault. Sometimes there's a "come to jesus" moment which amounts to "what were you thinking?"

If I want to beat him up or be mean to him, I just do it.

Exactly. It's probably annoying to the girls to be asked to repeat and reiterate complex instruction, or to be given instruction in purposefully simplified terms, but I've realised far too often that I was obtuse in some way, and this was where the failure began. Those times are met with great lenience from me.

The flip side of this is that when it is clear that due diligence was not offered, and the failure was the result of dereliction, I am less than lenient.

 

[LadyC]

I'm new to the lifestyle and so is my sub. we also happen to be in in a ldr right now. so there is a lot of testing boundaries between the two of us. She enjoys pain quite a lot and i'm trying to think of ways to punish her when she misbehaves with out actually rewarding her with pain. so I'm trying to think of some ideas where i'm not ignoring her, but still punishing her. Any suggestions or ideas for me to think about?

Make sweet, gentle love to her.