Real Life Meet ups

[SassySheDevil]

Yes, I've meet up with one Litster and it was a very nice couple of days. We did some touristy things and played a lot. The clothes didn't stay on long when we first reached our hotel room! No regrets at all!

and curious if you still talk even now? are you both still active here on lit (I know you are)

 

[Horus_rules]

and curious if you still talk even now? are you both still active here on lit (I know you are)

We've talked a few times, but not on a regular bases. That is more a result of changes in our lives than a falling out. I took a hiatus from here for awhile and I think she is doing the same now. Our relationship was an important catalyst in both of our lives and I still love her for that. Life just took us in different directions.

 

[followmenow6969]

I met my husband here 7 years go... It was hot as we played online and phone for months...

And hubby met a few others from Lit one we still have contact with ....

 

[followmenow6969]

And here where. Few "Lit" get togethers in CT a few years back...

 

[voyfun]

was it just not a good match? or did something happen? did you go there intending to hook up with her?

Nothing happened i did not go intending to hookup she had fallen in love with some one and she was not some one who would have casual multiple fun relationships.

we still talk, just not hook up i tell her i do fantasize and she is not bothered as long as she doesnt hookup but she teases me sending pictures and such

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

its a cool idea and i wish something like that would happen.


but i don't even meet women outside of the site.

 

[followmenow6969]

Bump...

 

[Sensualdreamer]

I've met 7 litsters
Postits
Sw4fun
IHateclowns
Chaingun
Gatorgirl7
Starrynightin64
Fungatorgurl

Each meeting was platonic and most are awesome people.

 

[StaciRay79]

thanks for all the responses and PMs!! you guys are so awesome with advice and everything!! I knew I could count on my Lit friends to help me out with this!!

as I mentioned before, hubby did give his approval and I've since talked to my guy as well. NO! I will not tell you who he is! we are planning to meet up and we are planning a very nice time together.

most people who know me, know I like to share. so rest assured I'll be back to let everyone know how it went

 

[In Anticipation]

Has anyone ever met in real life someone they first met here on Lit? I'm sure some people have, but am more interested in how common it is.

How did you get to that point? Did you travel far? Was it awkward? Was it awesome? Did it develop into something more than a simple "hook up"?

I'm interested in hearing about anyone's experiences with this and any concerns or lessons you learned after doing it.

Thanks!

I've met a few from both here and other internet places. Mostly they are pretty much like people I meet in more conventional ways except for the fact that they are interested in matters erotic.

Almost all I'd happily meet again.

 

[Jaime_H]

thanks for all the responses and PMs!! you guys are so awesome with advice and everything!! I knew I could count on my Lit friends to help me out with this!!

as I mentioned before, hubby did give his approval and I've since talked to my guy as well. NO! I will not tell you who he is! we are planning to meet up and we are planning a very nice time together.

most people who know me, know I like to share. so rest assured I'll be back to let everyone know how it went

Hope everything works out well.

 

[Xerxes82]

Yeah, I've met a couple of Litsters over the years. Made some good friendships along the way, though almost all of them seem to have fallen by the by now. That said, I met my two very best friends in the whole world here on Lit. I don't think either one of them still posts here, but we still communicate, and get together when we can. It helps that they're both local.

I've also met a lady or two from the boards with different, non-platonic expectations. One of them was a good friend (married, but playing with hubby's permission) who was a regular sexual hookup for a while. That ended when her family situation changed and she kind of disappeared from around here. One was kind of a train wreck, both from a personal and sexual stand point, and best left forgotten (lol). And the last one... well, that was a case where we'd flirted for a while before hand, got together to have sex (which was a bit of a letdown, for both of us I think), and then things got a little off kilter. I had developed something of a crush on the young lady, and she clearly didn't share the feeling. No harm done though!

 

[StaciRay79]

I had developed something of a crush on the young lady, and she clearly didn't share the feeling. No harm done though!

Xerxes, did you tell her you had a crush on her? if so, how did she respond? do you still talk to her?

 

[Xerxes82]

Xerxes, did you tell her you had a crush on her? if so, how did she respond? do you still talk to her?

I'm not sure I ever came out and told her directly, no. We'd been flirting and talking a lot online in the weeks leading up to our meeting, and I really liked her. I never actually expected that we'd get together, as she lived about 90 minutes from me. But when she floated the idea I was totally ok with it. and honestly, I thought our first meeting was awesome on the whole. We really seemed to connect as people.

So when we were talking about a second meeting, I did make clear that I'd like to date her, as opposed to just being sex partners. She seemed to be into the idea, so we arranged to get together a second time, similar to the first. During the evening, she said she was feeling ill, and asked me if I'd be cool with a raincheck. Then I never heard from her again. So her response was basically to run screaming in the other direction, metaphorically speaking. Lol.

I'm sure that's not at all reassuring to you, but I suspect it had a lot more to do with differing expectations going in. In retrospect, it seems like she had a very specific idea of what she wanted, and I had a very different idea. I can take umbrage with the way she made that apparent, but I certainly can't hold it against her if she just wasn't into me. Just from what you describe, it sounds like you're in a completely different circumstance, where expectations are much clearer from the outset. So don't let my freakish experiences discourage you!

 

[Rowan00]

Has anyone ever met in real life someone they first met here on Lit? I'm sure some people have, but am more interested in how common it is.

How did you get to that point? Did you travel far? Was it awkward? Was it awesome? Did it develop into something more than a simple "hook up"?

I'm interested in hearing about anyone's experiences with this and any concerns or lessons you learned after doing it.

Thanks!

Yes, a little over a year ago. It was someone whose thread I had followed for a while and we started talking on here and flirting right around the time she was separating from her husband. So the flirting increased and led to us exchanging phone numbers and texting each other dirty photos and videos. We only lived a little over an hour apart, so we arranged our first meeting at a local beach; however, she brought along a friend and her friend's son because I think she was still a little leery about how it might turn out. But for the most part they stayed on the beach and we sat in the bar off the beach and had drinks and flirted and did a little bit of light groping.

That led to a second meet-up, again in public, where we had dinner and then we took a walk down in a local park, found a somewhat secluded area and there was more groping. Even though other people were on park benches fairly close to ours, she managed to unzip the fly of my pants, reach in and start stroking the head of my cock. I got my hand somewhat down her shirt to tweak her nipples. Eventually we made our way back to my car and she gave me an amazing blowjob to end the night.

I think we were probably heading toward an all-out night of hot sex, except I also happened to be doing a dating site at the time and came home from this second date to find a message from someone I had interest in proposing we go out. Now, with this fellow Literotica person, I saw it as more of a casual fling, not something that was going to lead to a long-term relationship for various reasons. Ultimately what I wanted was to find a LTR and get married, so in the end I never pursued the Lit thing any further (and she was very understanding about it and admitted she saw us as kind of a fling as well and a way to blow off some steam after things ended with her husband). So it ended very amicably and I don't regret it at all. I'm in a good relationship now, but if I wasn't I'd definitely consider doing it again.

 

[sillytheclown]

I always say your first meeting should be in public so that if you feel wrong you can leave with out anything going on.
I haven't met any lit people, but i have met about 50 people from the net at various times. (dating from 1997ish).

Always remember to trust your instincts.

 

[pfflyerhot]

Wait

I met up with a Lady from Lit and we've been together ever since (2 1/2 yrs)

THIS is romantic...

 

[In Anticipation]

My other advice is to make the first meeting coffee, and during the day. Much easier for either side to feel comfortable and not committed to anything further in terms of expectations. Mid morning coffee then you can always go for lunch if you want to.

 

[Nigel]

I met several ladies from Lit in person, back when I first joined. A couple lived in the same area as I, so it was reasonably convenient for us to meet. There was kissing and a bit of groping...and that was about it. I was recovering from a very bad LTR, and was a bit of a mess. 'Nuff said about that.

A year or so after that, I met another lady here on Lit. We exchanged repartee on the boards, then moved to PMs, emails, then instant messages and phone calls. I flew her out to visit a couple of times (she lived two states away) and I went to visit her a couple of times. She moved to CA and lived with me for five years before we got married. We separated a month short of our 4th anniversary, and divorced a year later.

Would I meet another Litster? Why not? Would I ever engage in another long distance relationship? I don't think so.

 

[switchbitch]

I have met many and made some wonderful friends,lovers,play partners and some that will be part of my life forever.

 

[Sensualdreamer]

thanks for all the responses and PMs!! you guys are so awesome with advice and everything!! I knew I could count on my Lit friends to help me out with this!!

as I mentioned before, hubby did give his approval and I've since talked to my guy as well. NO! I will not tell you who he is! we are planning to meet up and we are planning a very nice time together.

most people who know me, know I like to share. so rest assured I'll be back to let everyone know how it went

Wow...your husband is deployed and is okay w/ you meeting another guy?! You're brave.

 

[Kinkster101]

Wow...your husband is deployed and is okay w/ you meeting another guy?! You're brave.

You are quite brave having met so many people yourself. But I agree it's an intriguing topic of conversation after you get to know someone pretty well...

 

[TheLM]

3 from lit.

All three were great experiences, and special in their own way. At least two of them contacted me later and wished that I had been a little less gentlemanly with them... But I wasn't raised to try to grope women on the first date! Lol

if paths cross again, however....

 

[Asian_Flower]

I havent but I wouldnt be opposed to it........under certain circumstances!

 

[followmenow6969]

I havent but I wouldnt be opposed to it........under certain circumstances!

Hummmmmm where are you AF