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jizzonmytits

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I'm not sure what this would be categorized so I put it here. You know I have a love hate relationship with lit. I come here because on lit I'm this curvy luscious desirable woman.

In real life I'm just considered fat, introverted and useless. Sometimes I just need an escape when the feelings of self loathing and sadness take over. At the same time after spending hours on lit I feel like I wasted the day being lazy and doing nothing just generally feeling ashamed of myself.

I'm not sure where this is headed but I just wanted anyone who feels the same to know you're not alone.
 
I'm not sure what this would be categorized so I put it here. You know I have a love hate relationship with lit. I come here because on lit I'm this curvy luscious desirable woman.

In real life I'm just considered fat, introverted and useless. Sometimes I just need an escape when the feelings of self loathing and sadness take over. At the same time after spending hours on lit I feel like I wasted the day being lazy and doing nothing just generally feeling ashamed of myself.

I'm not sure where this is headed but I just wanted anyone who feels the same to know you're not alone.

I think a lot of us have been there. :rose:
 
Lit is about escapism. Here we can express our sexuality in a guilt free environment.
 
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Don't be so hard on yourself. Your post makes me sad. :( I have a love/bored relationship with Lit. When I am bored in rl, I am all over this.

In real life I am often told about all of my short comings by many who feel the need to share unsolicited opinions. Apparently I am cold, distant, unemotional, unreachable.. with a severe case of Bitchy Resting Face. In my mind...I am always concerned with my clothes, makeup, hair and body being perfect while trying to be respected for being smart, rather than being wanted for my outward appearance. Catch 22?

Love Lit because I can be more outgoing here. No one tells me how much I suck.

Anyway, TMI. You just keep just being your curvy luscious desirable self!!!!!:kiss::kiss:


I'm not sure what this would be categorized so I put it here. You know I have a love hate relationship with lit. I come here because on lit I'm this curvy luscious desirable woman.

In real life I'm just considered fat, introverted and useless. Sometimes I just need an escape when the feelings of self loathing and sadness take over. At the same time after spending hours on lit I feel like I wasted the day being lazy and doing nothing just generally feeling ashamed of myself.

I'm not sure where this is headed but I just wanted anyone who feels the same to know you're not alone.
 
I'm not sure what this would be categorized so I put it here. You know I have a love hate relationship with lit. I come here because on lit I'm this curvy luscious desirable woman.

In real life I'm just considered fat, introverted and useless. Sometimes I just need an escape when the feelings of self loathing and sadness take over. At the same time after spending hours on lit I feel like I wasted the day being lazy and doing nothing just generally feeling ashamed of myself.

I'm not sure where this is headed but I just wanted anyone who feels the same to know you're not alone.

A lot of the reasons why people do the things they do are to feel better about themselves. I think that's why many people : you, me, many others come here.

Sadly another thing people do to make themselves feel better about themselves in real life is to put others down - those will be the people making you feel the negatives you stated above.

You're the better person for this, and I hope you get the strength to see that from posting here. Yeah it's addictive here, but if it's how you choose to fill your free time, so be it. Just try and get a good balance in your life and don't let it take over.

I don't think you should feel ashamed, you sound like a good person and no one has the right to judge you in the way you've spoke about yourself above :rose:
 
Exactly RidingHood!! :kiss::kiss:

A lot of the reasons why people do the things they do are to feel better about themselves. I think that's why many people : you, me, many others come here.

Sadly another thing people do to make themselves feel better about themselves in real life is to put others down - those will be the people making you feel the negatives you stated above.

You're the better person for this, and I hope you get the strength to see that from posting here. Yeah it's addictive here, but if it's how you choose to fill your free time, so be it. Just try and get a good balance in your life and don't let it take over.

I don't think you should feel ashamed, you sound like a good person and no one has the right to judge you in the way you've spoke about yourself above :rose:
 
I feel its the same for many ppl who come here.

I get complimented on being good-looking if i post some photos here and there but i just don't feel it.

and every day life i never get that kind of response from a woman and I always get overlooked/ignored etc.

hang in there unfortunately it happens to the best of us.
 
I'm not sure what this would be categorized so I put it here. You know I have a love hate relationship with lit. I come here because on lit I'm this curvy luscious desirable woman.

In real life I'm just considered fat, introverted and useless. Sometimes I just need an escape when the feelings of self loathing and sadness take over. At the same time after spending hours on lit I feel like I wasted the day being lazy and doing nothing just generally feeling ashamed of myself.

I'm not sure where this is headed but I just wanted anyone who feels the same to know you're not alone.
You're so not alone there with feeling that way!
 
Here we can hide and be any one we want to be, sexy, desirable etc. but then we realize we are the same person we were before. That can be depressing looking in the mirror knowing that I am the fat guy that will be lucky to be loved at all.
 
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Here we can hide and be any one we want to be, sexy, desirable etc. but then we realize we are the same person we were before. That can be depressing looking in the mirror knowing that I am the fat guy that will be lucky to be loved at all.

But we can also be more than that too. We may be the fat guy seemingly unloved in life, but loved emensely here.
 
I struggle with this too. I've gained quite a bit of sexual confidence during my time on Lit, confidence I never thought Id have. But I'm constantly plagued by the idea that somehow it's all smoke and mirrors. In real life I'm just not noticed by men. I have dated very few men, etc. And I'm not fishing for compliments. I just don't know how to reconcile the image of SweetSam with my real life person. Sometimes I can embrace it, but other times it just eludes me.
 
I struggle with this too. I've gained quite a bit of sexual confidence during my time on Lit, confidence I never thought Id have. But I'm constantly plagued by the idea that somehow it's all smoke and mirrors. In real life I'm just not noticed by men. I have dated very few men, etc. And I'm not fishing for compliments. I just don't know how to reconcile the image of SweetSam with my real life person. Sometimes I can embrace it, but other times it just eludes me.

A lot of us feel this way, As one friend told me. "Are you crazy? You get the attention, you just don't notice."
 
A lot of us feel this way, As one friend told me. "Are you crazy? You get the attention, you just don't notice."

I second that. My husband says I get checked out a lot, I just dont see it. I suspect Sweet Sam gets a whole lot of male attention! :heart:
 
But we can also be more than that too. We may be the fat guy seemingly unloved in life, but loved emensely here.

But on here it's not real, neither is what I see in the mirror. What other people see and what my kids see is something better than I could ever imagine.
 
sweetSam42, Lovely2222 and Asian Flower

All of you get more looks than you can ever imagine, no matter what your size dress for it and then let your personality take over. Outgoing ladies get attention no matter their dimensions. Smile and laugh, say hi, make eye contact. Any good relationship starts with a conversation unless that's not what you are looking for. If you are just looking for someone to tell you have a great rack or want to f*** you are in the right place.
 
I'm not sure what this would be categorized so I put it here. You know I have a love hate relationship with lit. I come here because on lit I'm this curvy luscious desirable woman.

In real life I'm just considered fat, introverted and useless. Sometimes I just need an escape when the feelings of self loathing and sadness take over. At the same time after spending hours on lit I feel like I wasted the day being lazy and doing nothing just generally feeling ashamed of myself.

I'm not sure where this is headed but I just wanted anyone who feels the same to know you're not alone.

I think a lot of us have been there. :rose:


Ain't that the truth :)
 
I'm not sure what this would be categorized so I put it here. You know I have a love hate relationship with lit. I come here because on lit I'm this curvy luscious desirable woman.

In real life I'm just considered fat, introverted and useless. Sometimes I just need an escape when the feelings of self loathing and sadness take over. At the same time after spending hours on lit I feel like I wasted the day being lazy and doing nothing just generally feeling ashamed of myself.

I'm not sure where this is headed but I just wanted anyone who feels the same to know you're not alone.

I came to lit for the stories. Some are so well written. I've come to love the bulletin board because this is the most accepting encouraging folks I've ever encountered online. The pressure today from society on women to conform to a certain size, style and fashion is nothing short of brainwashing. It's impossible to meet this standard. It is designed so every woman fails. It is not real. This site, though somewhat virtual, is full of real people passing heart felt complements about 99.9% of the time. Let the complements wash over you. They are real and meant to give you joy. That's an awesome thing. Grab on to the positive and embrace it. There are hundreds of folks here you not only think you're beautiful, but also truly want you (I guess that can be scary too :D). Anyhow post away. Embrace these friends. They got your 6! Some want your 6!:heart:
 
Great thread Jizz !!

I read your post and can see it for what it says and how you feel and also relate nto it to a degree - we all find ways to amuse ourselves (for want of better words).

The bizarre thing of it all - is we say 'escapism' then the next word we say 'realism' - so although the meanings are opposed to a degree the actuality of it is neither here nor there

ie I am on lit now it 2 minutes I may be working away in the 'real' world and then back to lit 30 minutes later.

From my viewpoint I have learnt a lot form lit and the people who I have corresponded with - the stories and some of the chat has had me ............. fill in the blanks

...and like any other place there are characters that makes me smile in good ways and bad ways.

Happy to talk it through and keep well.

G
 
I hate to see people beating themselves up like this. These fantasies and stories and the constant image the media gives create an unrealistic expectation of what happens to attractive people. We're told that there is some kind of mystical group of people who are cooler than us, better-looking than us and having more sex than us, whose lives are a long rollercoaster of social and sexual adventures. It's important to remember that while coming on Lit might make you feel like you're desperately scrounging for validation, that's only what everyone really wants, deep down. You're no less of a worthy person because your body is a different shape from the ideal fed to us by television, porn and fussy men.

And if people say you're hot on Lit, I guarantee they would be clambering over each other to sleep with you in real life. Just because it's on the internet doesn't mean all this attention you're getting isn't real! Honestly, you're doing okay.
 
All I can say is, I appreciate the ladies on here who post their pics. Judging from all the compliments they receive, the other guys appreciate them to. It's one of the reasons I comment, so they know their appreciated.
 
I'm not sure what this would be categorized so I put it here. You know I have a love hate relationship with lit. I come here because on lit I'm this curvy luscious desirable woman.

In real life I'm just considered fat, introverted and useless. Sometimes I just need an escape when the feelings of self loathing and sadness take over. At the same time after spending hours on lit I feel like I wasted the day being lazy and doing nothing just generally feeling ashamed of myself.

I'm not sure where this is headed but I just wanted anyone who feels the same to know you're not alone.

Pictural comment: http://static4.suedkurier.de/storage/scl/news/einzelbilder/10787923_w720h480q75v9560_201508283833.jpg?version=1464932472

In my mind she's so lovely. She's like my wife.
 
I hate to see people beating themselves up like this. These fantasies and stories and the constant image the media gives create an unrealistic expectation of what happens to attractive people. We're told that there is some kind of mystical group of people who are cooler than us, better-looking than us and having more sex than us, whose lives are a long rollercoaster of social and sexual adventures. It's important to remember that while coming on Lit might make you feel like you're desperately scrounging for validation, that's only what everyone really wants, deep down. You're no less of a worthy person because your body is a different shape from the ideal fed to us by television, porn and fussy men.

And if people say you're hot on Lit, I guarantee they would be clambering over each other to sleep with you in real life. Just because it's on the internet doesn't mean all this attention you're getting isn't real! Honestly, you're doing okay.

Here, here I think that says it all, about all of us
 
I'm not sure what this would be categorized so I put it here. You know I have a love hate relationship with lit. I come here because on lit I'm this curvy luscious desirable woman.

In real life I'm just considered fat, introverted and useless. Sometimes I just need an escape when the feelings of self loathing and sadness take over. At the same time after spending hours on lit I feel like I wasted the day being lazy and doing nothing just generally feeling ashamed of myself.

I'm not sure where this is headed but I just wanted anyone who feels the same to know you're not alone.

Lady.. Don't be concerned about other peoples thoughts or your own perceptions
of Yourself .. being over weight or not .. Really Beauty comes from the inside !!
 
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