Remote Control

[Oscuridad]

Blast...

I need someone to assign something to.

 

[zipman]

Blast...

I need someone to assign something to.

Perhaps one of the subs on the site would like to explore this topic with you and try it out.

A little "remote" fun is better than no fun at all.

 

[Oscuridad]

Perhaps one of the subs on the site would like to explore this topic with you and try it out.

A little "remote" fun is better than no fun at all.

 

[SexyChele]

You know, it is so easy around here to judge people without getting further clarification, isn't it? I never said that I made up something on everything I was assigned, did I? Nor was I even asked what the nature of the relationship was for when I received assignments, did I? All assumptions.

If I'm speaking to my Dom and I tell him I have to give a presentation at work the next day and he tells me to have a butt plug inserted while I do it, and if I don't then the relationship is "off", do I take him seriously? Hell no. Giving a presentation at work is may seem small to him, but not to me. It is not respecting who I am as a person. (By the way, this actually did happen) Did the relationship continue? No. But I knew it wouldn't, and I believe he knew it as well.

Now, on the other hand, I do have an assignment for today that involves semi-public masturbation. Will I do it? Hell, yes! Why? Because I respect the man who gave the assignment, and I know that if I talk to him at the end of the day and told him I couldn't complete the assignment and why, he wouldn't get sore or upset or tell me I was being purposely "rebellious".

It all comes down to how a Dom and sub relate to each other to engage in this type of activity, IMO.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Chele, I'm sorry if I sounded judgmental. I was simply speaking from where I'm at right now. I figured that you were speaking to different levels of intimacy, although you didn't clarify that in your original post.

I would suggest however, that lying to someone, no matter where you think the relationship is going, does more harm to your own self-respect than anything.

 

[Oscuridad]

*wants to assign Ruby*

 

[zipman]

You know, it is so easy around here to judge people without getting further clarification, isn't it? I never said that I made up something on everything I was assigned, did I? Nor was I even asked what the nature of the relationship was for when I received assignments, did I? All assumptions.

If I'm speaking to my Dom and I tell him I have to give a presentation at work the next day and he tells me to have a butt plug inserted while I do it, and if I don't then the relationship is "off", do I take him seriously? Hell no. Giving a presentation at work is may seem small to him, but not to me. It is not respecting who I am as a person. (By the way, this actually did happen) Did the relationship continue? No. But I knew it wouldn't, and I believe he knew it as well.

Now, on the other hand, I do have an assignment for today that involves semi-public masturbation. Will I do it? Hell, yes! Why? Because I respect the man who gave the assignment, and I know that if I talk to him at the end of the day and told him I couldn't complete the assignment and why, he wouldn't get sore or upset or tell me I was being purposely "rebellious".

It all comes down to how a Dom and sub relate to each other to engage in this type of activity, IMO.

In all honesty Chele, the situation you presented here is much different from your original post. In that post, you made it seem that it was just "easier" to write a fictional account than to actually do it when you are "too busy."

In the situation you presented above, I would still say that honestly giving your reasons why you couldn't do it would be better than writing a piece of fiction about it.

 

[Rubyfruit]

*wants to assign Ruby*

How about an essay on Balsa wood?

 

[Lancecastor]

I'm new here but I've been reading quite a bit of the threads and this one caught my eye as my Dom and I share in remote control all the time.

Thanks for your post, buttercup, and welcome to the BDSM Forum.

We look foward to hearing more of your experiences and views.

Lance

 

[Oscuridad]

<snip>

Okay, but can you write me an essay on balsa wood? I've always wanted to know more about Balsa wood.

 

[Lancecastor]

It all comes down to how a Dom and sub relate to each other to engage in this type of activity, IMO.

Yes, that's a point I think we all share in common.

As you're in the middle of an assignment, I'll let you get back to it.

Please feel free to let us know more...


Lance

 

[A Desert Rose]

Interesting thread, interesting posts.

I like remote assignments. I like that I have a digital camera, a tripod and a webcam. Many, but not all assignments can be varified, if need be with that equipment.

What it all comes down to is two things: communication and trust. Both parties understand the boundries and agree to abide by them and both parties trust that the assignments will be carried out.

It's been said a million times and a million ways here but if those two elements do not exist in the relationship, there is NO relationship.

 

[zipman]

Interesting thread, interesting posts.

I like remote assignments. I like that I have a digital camera, a tripod and a webcam. Many, but not all assignments can be varified, if need be with that equipment.

What it all comes down to is two things: communication and trust. Both parties understand the boundries and agree to abide by them and both parties trust that the assignments will be carried out.

It's been said a million times and a million ways here but if those two elements do not exist in the relationship, there is NO relationship.

Well said and good to see you posting here Rose!

 

[A Desert Rose]

Well said and good to see you posting here Rose!

Thanks Mr.Zip. It's always nice to see you and read your words.

 

[Butter_cup]

I would suggest however, that lying to someone, no matter where you think the relationship is going, does more harm to your own self-respect than anything.

Quite true. Very well said.

Thank you for the welcome, Lance.

The points I've finally seen made are that communication is important. It is important in everyday relationships why shouldn't it be in this? So your Dom has given you an assignment you haven't or are unable to carry out, you tell him.


My question, that I haven't yet seen addressed, is how do the Doms feel when they are confronted with this honesty?

 

[SexyChele]

Ruby and Zipman

Sorry to you and all the board if I came off a little testy. Chalk it up to a frustrating morning and misreading intentions behind posts.

Lance, my assignment went very well. I know I enjoyed it, though I can't speak for the lady in the next stall.....

 

[lark sparrow]

I will share one from awhile back.

The assignment, along with getting a couple of toys and a video, was to go a leather/fetish store and be measured for a pair of leather pants. (No, I didn't have to buy a pair of $600 leather pants, just tell them I was interested in a fitting.) The instructions were to wear a short skirt, and preferrably no panties, though it was not a requirement, knowing that inseam and such would need to be measured for a tight fitting pair of pants. And then of course to return home and write up a detailed report of the experience - the facts, my feelings and findings.

There was an understanding that there would be no shame and I would not be thought less of if I decided not to take and/or complete the assignment but, that I would be off the hook entirely - end of D/s relationship. She also made it clear it should be at a place where I felt safe. We agreed upon a set period of time in which I had to complete it and I drove myself half-crazed in anticipation/worry/excitement, waiting until the next to last day to get it done - extremely nervous, feeling the pressure - I was sure they would know I wasn't there for pants and was a perv in a "do or die" situation. (Yes, I chose to wear panties... perhaps if I hadn't been alone I would have been braver.)

It was my very first out of the house "remote control" and I remember it vividly (and fondly, eroticly) to this day. This was an assignment given online from a Domme I had been getting to know, and found great interest in. And she was true to her words/deeds as well, once passing this "acid test" she continued on as a Mentor/lotsofotherthings for nearly 4 1/2 years. I had also been given plenty of instruction with very casual "playmates" indoors, some followed, many not, because they were thoughtless and unrealistic - but I was honest about whether or not I would do the instructions, even if the other person was a lame jerk. I agree that there is honor in honesty, not simply because you respect the other person/Dominant, but because no matter who you are dealing with it's a reflection of/on you, and your submission.

my current Mistess trusts me implicitly, and needs no proof other than my words, and were I to lie and were She to find out, it would be considered a large offense no matter how small the lie (I tend to tell on myself at the first thought of a lie anyhow ) - but I was curious if anyone was into the aspect of proof/complete accountability, or if the "honor system" was part of the appeal generally speaking. And it sounds as though it is.

Anyone have any feelings on the "do this or else it's over" aspect?

My initial response with no context is one of "screw you too!", but I have to say in the above situation it became a big step forward in my growth as a submissive. The harmlessness and safe setting made it a very realistic goal, it also pushed me into real environments I had dreamed about but not explored (leather community), and it placed me in a situation with her where I could choose to submit or not to my own desire to be under tutelage (on HER terms, though she had obviously considered my situation). She was a marvel of thoughtful, personal, erotic, D/s assignments!

 

[zipman]

Re: Ruby and Zipman

Sorry to you and all the board if I came off a little testy. Chalk it up to a frustrating morning and misreading intentions behind posts.

Lance, my assignment went very well. I know I enjoyed it, though I can't speak for the lady in the next stall.....

No sweat Chele. And I for one wish I was the one in the next stall! Glad you enjoyed it!

 

[Rubyfruit]

Re: Ruby and Zipman

...though I can't speak for the lady in the next stall.....

Are you kidding? I loved it.

;-)

I think I need to stop coming to this thread. I am so horny that I think I'd come with one touch right now.

 

[P. B. Walker]

One thing I am dying to try is to buy one of those remote controlled eggs (cordless, of course), instruct my sub to put it in and go to a busy bar. Then I would stand nearby in disguise and turn it on and off and watch the look on her face. I think making her keep her composure as it goes off would be a real turn-on.

As PBW said, making up the assignments can be a lot of work, but it can also be a lot of fun.

Exactly!! This is a perfect example. She's not doing anything indecent in public, but she is 100% conscience of her Dom/me.

I've always wanted one of these devices that works off a cell phone. So everytime you call a number it starts buzzing... the intensity is controlled by the number the person presses. "9" would he hard and fast... "1" slow and soft. You can be miles away and reach out and "touch" her.

PBW

 

[zipman]

Exactly!! This is a perfect example. She's not doing anything indecent in public, but she is 100% conscience of her Dom/me.

I've always wanted one of these devices that works off a cell phone. So everytime you call a number it starts buzzing... the intensity is controlled by the number the person presses. "9" would he hard and fast... "1" slow and soft. You can be miles away and reach out and "touch" her.

PBW

Quick, someone find PBW a job at Nokia in their Research and Product Development department!

 

[P. B. Walker]

Quick, someone find PBW a job at Nokia in their Research and Product Development department!

Hehe... you haven't heard the half of it...

my next invention: Rabbit Dildo controlled wirelessly via a computer/palm pilot/cell&pilot combo <weg>. Oh the variations...


I always remember a scene from "Friends" when Chandler asks the girls to show him how to pleasure a woman. The girls write down numbers for areas of the body. For example, lips are 1, neck is 2, cleavage is 3, and so on...I think 7 was pussy cus they didn't show the diagram. Then they say how he should start touching them. So there's Monica doing this "So start of with a 1, then 2, then 3, back to 1, then 4, down to 6, back to 1, then etc... near the end she's all breathless and she's screaming 7! 7! 7! 7!...ohhh yeasssssss. LOL.

I can just imagine me on my cell pressing numbers to give her pleasure... then near the end... jamming them really hard... as if it mattered how hard I pressed the number.

PBW "The Gentleman Techno-Pervert"

 

[P. B. Walker]

Re: Re: Ruby and Zipman

Are you kidding? I loved it.

;-)

I think I need to stop coming to this thread. I am so horny that I think I'd come with one touch right now.

Me thinks Ruby would be a blast to give assignments to. I get the feeling that her after action reports would be 10 times more exciting than thinking them up.

I think you'd also get alot of these type comments: "You remember that resturant you like so much? Well, we've been banned from there... long story... I'll tell you later."

PBW "The Professor"

 

[Rubyfruit]

Hello Professor.....long time, how are you these days?

I'm not up to an assignment, but I wouldn't turn down a little game of truth or dare right now.

 

[lovetoread]

I can just imagine me on my cell pressing numbers to give her pleasure... then near the end... jamming them really hard... as if it mattered how hard I pressed the number.

PBW "The Gentleman Techno-Pervert"

You have a very good imagination.