Resolutions

[GiveawayGirl]

Like so many others, I try not to make resolutions because I always buckle from the pressure of setting my expectations too high. I live my life trying to be the best person I can each day so for me it's more like having day-to-day resolutions. There is less pressure that way.

Instead, at the start of each year I like to take stock and make a wish list of accomplishments. It never includes anything too deep or thought provoking. It's more a list of things that will contribute to my happiness. For example, my list this year includes learning to read a green properly because I am tired of frustrating myself every time I pick up a damn putter, and to study poetry because I suspect there is much to enjoy beyond the little I know.

 

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[crazybbwgirl]

I swear to the gods I'm going to vacuum under that couch this spring. Oh - and do my kegels!

 

[Bob Briton]

Happy New Year all.

This year I want to hug more and perhaps cry because I seem to be like a sponge and find it very hard to let go of things.

I keep wondering whether this will be the year when the caterpillar turns into a butterfly?

 

[My Own Way]

Generally I hesitate to make resolutions because like at least 90% of humans, I don't ever keep them....but this year I did....

This year I want to make at least two new friends, exercise more, and spend less time online....

I hope everyone had and continues to have a very happy new year!!

 

[someplace]

Sometimes making resolutions this time of year seems like setting oneself up for failure. Over the last couple of years I'd learned to be easier on myself. I'm still a work in progress, but at least the direction is forward.

 

[SweetErika]

Sometimes making resolutions this time of year seems like setting oneself up for failure. Over the last couple of years I'd learned to be easier on myself. I'm still a work in progress, but at least the direction is forward.

I like those ideas a lot! I think people go wrong making broad and unrealistic resolutions or doing it just because they feel they should.

 

[londonaberdeen]

Never usually give resolutions a thought.

This year I have though.
I gaveself two both for self improvement I guess.

I will stop biting my finger nails. A habit when bored, typically when driving long distance. However it's a daily thing I do.

I will stop swearing.
I don't use bad language normally but occasionally four letter words slip into my common speach. Normally for no reason, just laziness on my part. Not polite, not smart and immediately I am annoyed with myself.

 

[tigerjen]

my new year's resolutions are usually the same......lose
weight, improve myself, etc. etc. etc.

but I fall off the "lose weight" wagon......its difficult because
of my wacked work schedule etc. and need a routine
where i can fit in exercise w/ no problem.


tigerjen

 

[warrior queen]

i started making and keeping resolutions in 2000.

00 - gave up denigrating myself... still doing ok on that one.
01 - gave up coloured contact lenses... happy with my natural eyecolour again.
02 - gave up capital letters... as you can see, still happily going strong on that one too!
03 - decided to use fountain pens again for letters, much more civilised.
04 - gave up resisting my feelings for another man... very hard to be on this end, knowing i can't be with him, but at the same time, very empowering to allow myself to 'feel' so completely.
and 05 - this time round, i have given up licking stamps and envelopes. always hated the taste so now i buy more expensive self-stick ones.

the trick is to make resulutions you can keep

already planning next years - i am giving up my surname.
why should i be defined by a name i got from someone else?
so i shall put in my deed to change it, and hopefully i will have it all legal in time for the next new year.

 

[Cakegirl]

I hate new year's resolutions for the same reason I hate Christmas cards...

I feel that if I know I need to change something about myself, I should change it once I realise it's there, or when it's "logical" to. (e.g. not a good idea to decide to lose weight two weeks before surgery - you wait till you've recovered from the surgery and can exercise, etc).

I think that deciding to wait until 1 January is bad for 2 reasons - 1 because you're postponing something that can only be good (an improvement) - and 2 because failing your new year's resolution is a widespread cultural phenomenon, so you are giving yourself permission to fail before you even begin.

And how this relates to christmas cards is that if I want you in my life, I will call you NOW, or arrange to play tennis with you next weekend, or come to your daughter's wedding next month, and you will do the same. Waiting till christmas to send cards to people you feel obliged to keep in contact with but have no actual relationship with seems to me to just be stuffing your life with filler, not actual content.

 

[TNRkitect2b]

I tend to not make resolutions, but in this case, I have that I think is warranted.

This year I want to succeed at Freeing the boobies!

For WickedWoman

 

[Lynxie]

I hate new year's resolutions for the same reason I hate Christmas cards...

I feel that if I know I need to change something about myself, I should change it once I realise it's there, or when it's "logical" to. (e.g. not a good idea to decide to lose weight two weeks before surgery - you wait till you've recovered from the surgery and can exercise, etc).

I think that deciding to wait until 1 January is bad for 2 reasons - 1 because you're postponing something that can only be good (an improvement) - and 2 because failing your new year's resolution is a widespread cultural phenomenon, so you are giving yourself permission to fail before you even begin.

And how this relates to christmas cards is that if I want you in my life, I will call you NOW, or arrange to play tennis with you next weekend, or come to your daughter's wedding next month, and you will do the same. Waiting till christmas to send cards to people you feel obliged to keep in contact with but have no actual relationship with seems to me to just be stuffing your life with filler, not actual content.

This is typically my philosophy towards New Year's resolutions as well. If something needs fixing, why wait? Likewise, I don't believe it's possible to promise to make some sort of change when you're not ready to do it.

However, I lucked out this year. The New Year found me at a point where I was emotionally and mentally ready to make some changes in my life. I've got a list of things I'd like to accomplish this year, and for a change I'm in the right mindframe to start doing them.

1. I'm going to lose weight. I've joined a program and I'm entering my 2nd week of my new diet. I've never been this optimistic about a diet before - I'm kind of scaring myself, but in a good way.

2. Losing weight should, in turn, help me feel better about myself. By this I mean not only feeling better about appearance, but also getting my overall physical and emotional health back on track. This part of my 'resolution' also involves me seeing my doctor and getting referrals for a psychiatrist. It's long overdue...but I've got to work myself up to this.

3. Once I get myself back together again, I can find myself a career. I've been out of work since the beginning of last summer, and desperately need to build myself up to finding something meaningful to do with my life.

In summary, it's my mission for 2005 to give myself a complete overhaul. I'm newly married and feel I owe it to myself and my husband to get my life back on track. And thank goodness I have him for support - I know I couldn't do it alone. As long as I can keep myself in this mindset, I know I'll be able to look back on New Year's Day, 2006 and feel good about '05

 

[SweetErika]

This is typically my philosophy towards New Year's resolutions as well. If something needs fixing, why wait? Likewise, I don't believe it's possible to promise to make some sort of change when you're not ready to do it.

However, I lucked out this year. The New Year found me at a point where I was emotionally and mentally ready to make some changes in my life. I've got a list of things I'd like to accomplish this year, and for a change I'm in the right mindframe to start doing them.

1. I'm going to lose weight. I've joined a program and I'm entering my 2nd week of my new diet. I've never been this optimistic about a diet before - I'm kind of scaring myself, but in a good way.

2. Losing weight should, in turn, help me feel better about myself. By this I mean not only feeling better about appearance, but also getting my overall physical and emotional health back on track. This part of my 'resolution' also involves me seeing my doctor and getting referrals for a psychiatrist. It's long overdue...but I've got to work myself up to this.

3. Once I get myself back together again, I can find myself a career. I've been out of work since the beginning of last summer, and desperately need to build myself up to finding something meaningful to do with my life.

In summary, it's my mission for 2005 to give myself a complete overhaul. I'm newly married and feel I owe it to myself and my husband to get my life back on track. And thank goodness I have him for support - I know I couldn't do it alone. As long as I can keep myself in this mindset, I know I'll be able to look back on New Year's Day, 2006 and feel good about '05

That's great, Lynxie! It sounds like you're setting yourself up for much success with a well thought-out plan and a positive attitude.

 

[Lynxie]

That's great, Lynxie! It sounds like you're setting yourself up for much success with a well thought-out plan and a positive attitude.

I'm certainly trying my best

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by TNRkitect2b
I tend to not make resolutions, but in this case, I have that I think is warranted.

This year I want to succeed at Freeing the boobies!

For WickedWoman

hhmmm now that's certainly a worthwhile resolution to make. Nothing too simple to accomplish...I can see you're definitely motivated though. Will certainly improve your life in a meaningful way. But honestly....if you actually managed to free the boobies...which one of us would be more surprised?


Thanks babe...you're persistent, I'll give you that

 

[SomeHotKCGuy]

I will stop biting my finger nails. A habit when bored, typically when driving long distance. However it's a daily thing I do.

I used to have this issue very badly. At times, it creeps back in.

I 'beat' it in the past by doing the following:

- use 3 normal sized Band-Aids

- place the bandage part on the tip o' your finger and run it down the side.

- do the same, criss-crossing the 2nd band-aid the other way

- wrap the 3rd around your finger, so the first 2 can't fall off.

- Exist


It will take some number of days or weeks for this to really help...but it worked for me.

*bow*

 

[Cakegirl]

My sister's method was to be proud of her fingernails, instead of being ashamed of how they looked. So, she'd paint them beautifully, and show everyone and say how proud she was. As soon as there was even the hint of a chip on the nailpolish, she'd take it all off and immediately paint them again, repeating the cycle of being proud of how beautiful they were.

And this system worked! She's now gone about 6 months without biting them at all!

 

[Raimondin]

I usually don't make resolutions per se. This year I think I'm going to make an exception.

I'm going to be nicer to myself.

Every year it seems I give and give of myself beyond at the expense of my own self. I like helping others and am always ready to lend a helping hand. The problem is that whenever I'm in a jam or in need of some assistance, or maybe just a little push nobody is ever around, or suddenly there's a lot of "deaf ears." Sound familiar?
Well, that's going to stop! I hate being this way, as it's not in my nature, but "they" wouldn't think twice doing it to me. It's time for me to stop being "taken for granted" and start looking out for numero uno...