catalina_francisco
Happily insatiable always
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ownedsubgal said:no, the hubby in "Enough" definitely was not a Dominant, he was controlling for sure, but he controlled not out of any sense of Dominance but out of pure, weak insecurity and fear. however that doesn't change the fact that the scenes where he beat j. lo's character up and down and sideways got me hot as all heck.
as to how anyone could be aroused by such a thing, well, i think all of us here on this board are "perverts" (according to webster) to one degree or another, some more than others. we all have our buttons...my own tend to revolve around male aggression/force/strength, and that power being used to either harm a female, or keep a female "in check", simply because she is female, and as such, weaker (physically, in most cases, i'm not trying to generalize), and socially developed throughout the ages to be controlled, used abused and stomped upon. when i see a fictionalized portrayal of a woman suffering physically at the hands of a man, or the hands of many men, yes i become aroused. i cannot help it...all my life, such images/thoughts have aroused me. it's why i can't stand mainstream porn...too often, the females are not only enjoying it, or pretending like they are, they're in control of things as well. they control how far a man's cock goes down their throat, by wrapping their hand around the base. they control how to touch, how to move, everything. even here on this board in the nonconsent stories section, the vast majority of the time the so called rapist is giving the woman what she "really" wants, and she ends up enjoying what's happening to her. that sort of story is not for me. i need to know that there is true discomfort at the least, true suffering at the most, in order to find a porn/story/etc. arousing. so it would fit that in mainstream movies, when they portray a female being abused by a man, my panties will get a bit moist. so sue me.
Don't know about suing as that is not my thing in life, but I do specialise professionally in dealing with domestic violence and abuse to the extreme and understand the dynamics from both sides, both from the professional and personal experience I have. I am also aware of the misconceptions that BDSM equates DV and get tired of the negativity that reflects on the lifestyle from that.
In saying the non-consensuality is what gets you off is a little confusing. If you don't want, and as such never enjoy, how does it get you off as that to me is feeling pleasure. And if you truly are not consenting and he does what he wants it is abuse, but from my understanding you yourself have asked your Master to be more brutal which once again is not non consensual as you have told him you want and need it.
In my relationship I know I both love and hate the pain, but in the end I know AI need it and enjoy it from all those reasons, and above all elese I know Master can be trusted with my life and does it out of love not his own inadequacies. If I did not enjoy it, he could find no joy in giving me pain. That is where the difference lies between BDSM and abuse, and unfortunately I can never find pleasure in seeing another human or animal suffer.
But as I always say, everyone has their own quirks in life and they know best why and what is best for them. I have no problem as llong as they never push another into a situation they do not wish to be a part of as that is abuse and a crime.
Catalina
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