Rituals and positions

[JMohegan]

A good bump indeed. I have read through this thread before and enjoyed the peek into the rituals of others. From my perspective, rituals give me boundaries and expectations. I guess I never thought much about the level of control involved in rituals. But you're right, it is an extensive level of control when looking at some of the rituals discussed here. For myself, I crave that level of expectations - but then that also makes my discussion of micromanagement seem contradictory, doesn't it? And maybe it is contradictory. There are things I want to do myself, decide for myself. But I see them as simple things like what I'll wear and what I'll eat, whether I'll talk to a friend on the phone or play on the internet. So to me it's not contradictory. Oh, what do I know, anyway. I'm beginning to think I don't know much.

I do not see your remarks as contradictory, BeachGurl. There are different levels of control, that's true, but there are different types as well.

Compare the hypothetical example involving meal preparation given by Geoff on the other thread to Shadowsdream's discussion in post 34 here. Both tight levels of control, but very different kinds.

As for what you "know"..... I'd say you nailed it on the other thread, when you wrote: "Only those within the relationship can define that point, that level, that is comfortable for them."

 

[JMohegan]

Ah yes, this post made long ago...and yes I used this online back in the days I was into gorean roleplay(umm yeah)...though after rereading it myself it seems like I am looking at an old picture of myself and saying...omg I never looked like that did I?

Rereading that post, honestly I doubt that I could personally practice what I wrote there in RL as it just doesn't seem to fit me and where I have grown.

I have seen people here mentioning online D/s, but frankly I've never given much thought to what might go on in such a dynamic.

However, I suppose it is logical for control over posture, position, etc. to be tighter over webcam than in an RL environment, to help compensate for what is being missed in comparison to the opportunities for control in the physical world.

 

[cati]

RJ you seem a little embarrassed by your stint in online Gor...poke.
I did the same thing for quite awhile. For me the time spent in Gor was very enlightening and alot of work for a Kajira, but it taught me alot about discipline and structure. Performing a sexy sweet Gorean serve or dance creatively took effort and was rewarded as you well know....and the online sex was good too...nothing like being the town slut/slave to put a girl in her place...chuckles.

 

[RJMasters]

RJ you seem a little embarrassed by your stint in online Gor...poke.
I did the same thing for quite awhile. For me the time spent in Gor was very enlightening and alot of work for a Kajira, but it taught me alot about discipline and structure. Performing a sexy sweet Gorean serve or dance creatively took effort and was rewarded as you well know....and the online sex was good too...nothing like being the town slut/slave to put a girl in her place...chuckles.

Chuckles

Gor was an interesting time...and yes I learned alot through the experience. Yes I enjoyed the many serves. Yes I enjoyed the hard effort that the slaves put into them to prepare them and present them for nothing but the pleasure of myself or others.

My favorite was the whip and fire dance, which was quite erotic and the only time a slave was permitted to touch a weapon of any kind.

Putting it into perspective for me now...Gor is kind of like the shakespeare of D/s. The Romeo and Juilet and conan the barbarian all rolled into one.

I guess when i say I have grown, it is more along the lines of wanting something more than just roleplay, something in RL. There might be some cool activities in Gor like the serves or dances that could be interesting in real life as scenes...but the whole mindset is really different and just would not interest me in RL as my thoughts just wouldn't line up very good.

 

[shy slave]

Looking back to this thread, and after letting some time pass, I have found out that there are some things that are fundamental to how I live my life as a dominant.

Shadowsdream wrote:

"Rituals are a fundamental necessity in the 24/7 lifestyle that is My passion.
They reinforce control and obedience.
They accentuate respect and caring.
Rituals give consistency throughout the day."

I have found this to be absolutely true especially when you and your submissive or slave do not live in the same place and /or you have been apart for a some times. When you are together things are more apt to fall into place if there are rituals in effect. And you can watch the performance of these rituals to make sure they are performed correctly!

SD wrote:

"A re-affirmation to both partners, that a Total Power Exchange is in effect.

They confirm that both the Dominant and the submissive are totally dedicated to each other.

In My eyes these daily repetitions of devotion add an intensity to My desire to be continually Dominant. Performed with humility and love they reinforce the need My partner has to submit. "

I agree absolutely! I said Ditto when this was first written, and I say double ditto today! I believe rituals are necessary to the success and growth of relationships with my submissives.

Eb

This post really resonates with me and explains so much

Thank you

 

[cati]

I quite agree RJ. Gorean roleplay works well online or maybe fun to do on a wet rainy weekend. I don't mean this as a slap in the face to any RT Goreans who do take this lifestyle seriously.