Safeword/signal when gagged and bound

[@}-}rebecca----]

Interesting thread.......it will help me for the upcoming play session with my lovely man.

But what happens if the Dom(me) is deaf or have a hearing loss? How can it be improved with the hand signals?

Miss Cazz your timing is scary, I was just discussing this with a friend earlier in my day, less than 12 hours ago in fact. I really don't know if the following would be suitable but we hypothesised it might be a cool option for someone who didn't desire to rely on sound. Worth considering, you be the judge....

Light Up Bouncy Balls

My son was given one a few years ago, it still works and it's kind of fun. I think I have spent more time playing with it and the cat than anything. You can see it in daylight but an more optimum setting is reduced lighting. Not sure that would work for you or not.

Another thing, infra red switch that is programed to flash overhead lighting perhaps, like the switches used to alert door bells ringing or fire alarms etc. Getting more and more high tech but I bet there are gadgets in Electronic Geek Shops that would be inexpensive and have true pervertable potential. There is so much out 'there' now that doesn't cost the earth and had broader range potential to facilitate all kinds of randomly designated options . I am often fooling around with all kinds of gizmo's to enhance independence and even if not purpose designed customization of the most simplistic designs has become painfully easy in this day and age. Best of luck.

Ohh and the price on that link is for Qty of 100 I noted, the balls I have seen around a just a few dollars.

 

[graceanne]

That's weird. LOL When I made my post, I was thinking of how that works really well with deaf/mutes (which made me think of seri, which is why I posted about her on the roundup thread). Then i was thinking 'i wonder what deaf PYL's do?' LOL

 

[h_i_s]

So I'm about to meet my girlfriend in real life for the first time and we will definately be trying a lot of stuff out (yay for us!). However there's one thing I've been wondering about and still haven't managed to find a solution for:

Her being submissive she ofcourse has a safeword and we'll figure out an appropriate safety signal as well for when she's gagged. However, I'm pretty much stumped about what to do when she's gagged and tied up. This is something we definately want to do and since we're both inexperienced in most of this stuff, I find making sure we have a safety line to be very important. Some object she can easily hold in her hand with a button that is easy to press (yet preferably hard to press accidentially) that emits a sound that is impossible to miss would be ideal. Unfortunately the only thing we have that fits that description is a pen that plays christmas music when pressed, which is just inappropriate really.

So like I mentioned, I haven't been able to figure out any other sort of object we have or could easily acquire for this purpose. Hopefully someone here has an idea, it would be very much appreciated. Any other ideas to help with the whole 'bound and gagged safeword' situation would ofcourse also be appreciated.

I've never yet been introduced to a type of gag that didn't allow me to get the message across when I have REALLY needed to.
I can effectively scream past any in place, to date. The change in tone and look in my eyes (or if blindfolded.. the sudden change of type of tension in my body).

I don't need a ball to drop or hand signal or 'other' method... never have (and whover reads this....... Save it if you have the idea of attempting to harp on me with some dumbass hypothetical example like, "Oh but what if you were tied up in a steam trunk and submerged in a pool of water 10 feet under??.... Becuase that stupid shit doesn't apply here in His world nor mine.).

If it's different for you... good for you. This is what applies to me.

 

[h_i_s]

I stole this idea from one of the most talented pros I knew.

three short sharp LOUD sounds through the nose imitating a buzzer, a really annoying buzzer sound. There's no mistaking it - I use it for an "immediate release" signal with hooding/gagging.

Good one.. great example. I have sounded almost like this a few times.... especially the one time when my ankle felt like it was being cut in two by a cuff that just twisted wrong/oddly.

 

[ShyGuy68]

I've been thinking about that myself, and the idea that came to my mind, is that for pretty cheap money you can get a lamp to put on next to your bed, and if you mount a switch on the cord somewhere, the sub can control it. That would indeed get my attention.

 

[graceanne]

I've been thinking about that myself, and the idea that came to my mind, is that for pretty cheap money you can get a lamp to put on next to your bed, and if you mount a switch on the cord somewhere, the sub can control it. That would indeed get my attention.

That's a great idea. You could get one with one of those cords that have the slidie type switch, and just thread the switch through her hand. The biggest issue is that takes a bit if coordination and I know that when some subs are 'flying' they say that they aren't very coordinated or 'there'.

Oh! Or one of those that you just push on! the biggest issue is that I've not seen one small enough to easily hold. Maybe put it next to the foot, and leave a little slack there so s/he can hit it with their foot if they need to.

 

[pellso27]

A good sub would just wait it out ,take her fucking treatment, then work it out later after her session is complete. Then when she has licked her Masters cock clean as usual crawed up under his chin. Then and only then she could, I suppose she could meekly ask it next maybe I should'nt put my whole foot in her ass or whatever was "a bit too much" Then is she doesnt have my fist down her throat she can say Thank You, Master for understanding.

 

[EmpressFi]

A good sub would just wait it out ,take her fucking treatment, then work it out later after her session is complete. Then when she has licked her Masters cock clean as usual crawed up under his chin. Then and only then she could, I suppose she could meekly ask it next maybe I should'nt put my whole foot in her ass or whatever was "a bit too much" Then is she doesnt have my fist down her throat she can say Thank You, Master for understanding.

I think that line of thinking negates the "Safe" and "Consentual" from Sane, Safe, and Consentual... dont you?

A good Dom doesnt break his toys. A good Dom would want to know if he was about to permantently damage his property

 

[Netzach]

Could you rig a dead man's switch on a flashlight?

 

[Netzach]

A good sub would just wait it out ,take her fucking treatment, then work it out later after her session is complete. Then when she has licked her Masters cock clean as usual crawed up under his chin. Then and only then she could, I suppose she could meekly ask it next maybe I should'nt put my whole foot in her ass or whatever was "a bit too much" Then is she doesnt have my fist down her throat she can say Thank You, Master for understanding.

If only you were funnier.

 

[Caitlynne]

If only you were funnier.

LOL, OK that got the first morning belly laugh out of me. Isn't it true, if only trolls were funnier.

 

[CookiePuss]

A good sub would just wait it out ,take her fucking treatment, then work it out later after her session is complete. Then when she has licked her Masters cock clean as usual crawed up under his chin. Then and only then she could, I suppose she could meekly ask it next maybe I should'nt put my whole foot in her ass or whatever was "a bit too much" Then is she doesnt have my fist down her throat she can say Thank You, Master for understanding.

There you go Orange Devil; I don't know what the rest of us were thinking. This is by far the best advice and I'm sure your girlfriend will be overjoyed with this treatment.

WTF

 

[sexycaz22]

*smile* I was thinking of putting a small flashlight torch in my man's hand so that he can use it if he doesn't like anything I do or wants me to slow it down. But I am more concerned that if he do really enjoy what I am doing, he might drop the flashlight torch. Still, as a PYL I know it's my responsibility to keep an close eye on my man's movements and body language. We will be discussing this before the session begins. The funny thing is, I find it easier to use hand signals (at least when I am not being tied up!) with a hearing Top, as a pyl. It will be a good learning curve for me as a PYL, and I look forward to it!

(as a side note, most deaf people, including myself, (I can't speak for serji) doesn't like to be called mutes...just FYI)

 

[Netzach]

*smile* I was thinking of putting a small flashlight torch in my man's hand so that he can use it if he doesn't like anything I do or wants me to slow it down. But I am more concerned that if he do really enjoy what I am doing, he might drop the flashlight torch. Still, as a PYL I know it's my responsibility to keep an close eye on my man's movements and body language. We will be discussing this before the session begins. The funny thing is, I find it easier to use hand signals (at least when I am not being tied up!) with a hearing Top, as a pyl. It will be a good learning curve for me as a PYL, and I look forward to it!

(as a side note, most deaf people, including myself, (I can't speak for serji) doesn't like to be called mutes...just FYI)

This is why I like the idea of dropping something attention getting as the safe word. Because the worst that happens, assuming it's obvious enough not to miss, is that a scene gets stopped that doesn't have to be. I *still* like the dead mans' swtich idea.

And, let's face it, if someone's told "you'd better hold onto this, because if you drop it I WILL stop and release you no matter what" they're gonna clutch that thing like mad if they're having enough fun.

 

[Etoile]

*smile* I was thinking of putting a small flashlight torch in my man's hand so that he can use it if he doesn't like anything I do or wants me to slow it down. But I am more concerned that if he do really enjoy what I am doing, he might drop the flashlight torch. Still, as a PYL I know it's my responsibility to keep an close eye on my man's movements and body language. We will be discussing this before the session begins. The funny thing is, I find it easier to use hand signals (at least when I am not being tied up!) with a hearing Top, as a pyl. It will be a good learning curve for me as a PYL, and I look forward to it!

(as a side note, most deaf people, including myself, (I can't speak for serji) doesn't like to be called mutes...just FYI)

Who said mute?! *brandishes fists* Anybody who thinks deaf people are mute should be forced to spend an hour in the computer lab in the Gallaudet student union in the middle of the semester. Then they can tell me if deaf people are actually "mute" or not. *laughs insanely*

Caz, I was thinking exactly the same thing, a flashlight in the hand. I would recommend one of the LED ones, that will make sure it is bright enough for you to see it. Sometimes you can even get ones that have a "flash" setting that will make it blink on and off.

For those who are wondering, serijules is pretty good, very busy lately but in good health, and she's saving up to go see her Ma'am again soon.

 

[southernsky]

I know this is somewhere really obvious and I've missed it, but what does PYL stand for? Thanks

 

[Lady_In_Black]

Yea, I have to say I agree with the bell. Tie it to a bracelet or something. Though I agree even more with not immediately jumping into bondage and stuff...

 

[myinnerslut]

I know this is somewhere really obvious and I've missed it, but what does PYL stand for? Thanks

PYL = Pick Your Label (Master, Mistress, Sir, Ma'am, etc)

pyl = pick your label (slave, sub, girl, pet, etc)

 

[sexycaz22]

Who said mute?! *brandishes fists* Anybody who thinks deaf people are mute should be forced to spend an hour in the computer lab in the Gallaudet student union in the middle of the semester. Then they can tell me if deaf people are actually "mute" or not. *laughs insanely*

*laughs* I am sure the person who made this post just made a slip of the tongue, as they often do when they are not sure what to "label" us deaf people!! Just wanted to let people know in generally ...but you are right...sometimes some people can be offensive without realising it!

Caz, I was thinking exactly the same thing, a flashlight in the hand. I would recommend one of the LED ones, that will make sure it is bright enough for you to see it. Sometimes you can even get ones that have a "flash" setting that will make it blink on and off.

I probably won't need the torch for the first session anyway, since he won't be in restricts, I was going to use restraints in the first session, but then I realised that I needed to get to know his body first and his body movements etc before I can put him in restraints. So, I can use hand signals instead. But when it comes to putting him in restraints, then I will have to "worry" and discuss it with him, maybe this idea of using a torch will come in useful? Just have to wait and see!