Say something truthful.

[Alana_]

I'm sometimes sorry I didn't emigrate when I was younger and first out of school like an old boyfriend wanted me to. There's things I missed doing and exploring. But then if I had, I'd not have what I have now, with the man I'm with and the children we have. But it does make me occasionally wonder about the 'what ifs' in life. Though I'm sure there'd be 'what ifs' if I'd gone, about something else.

 

[yeishia]

I am calm

 

[FuckFantasy]

I know, without a doubt, that I am meant for something bigger than this town and the majority of the people in it. Even if it means leaving my family behind, I'm going to chase my dreams.

 

[Alana_]

I by my nature am a nurturer. It affects lots of other areas in my life, and can be lovely, but can also be a draw back when I'm angered, as I tend to back off for peace sake. Some times I just want to tell certain people to get the hell out of my face, and grow the hell up.

 

[Mav Unlimited]

I dug out this thread from the garbage because I'm bored.

 

[FuckFantasy]

I dug out this thread from the garbage because I'm bored.

Nice.

I realized no one on here knows how to be 100% truthful though. All of us are lying, to some extent. Some of us are just better than others at self-delusion.

Maybe that's the way it should be.

 

[Erlind]

I looked at this and genuinely tried to put down something thoughtful. The weird part is that it wasn't an attempt at honesty though. I tend to lie by flooding a person with enough truth they don't know the right questions to ask. Maybe just because this looked interesting and I like seeing what on the hearts and minds of others.

My problem, I've determined is one of not wanting to cause unnecessary concern or other things by posting things that were once true or are still true, but not truly problems. That or I don't want anger or pity that might show up. Encouragement ... anything like that.

As it is this rambling has gone on enough without saying anything.

 

[FuckFantasy]

I tend to lie by flooding a person with enough truth they don't know the right questions to ask.

I want to hear more about this.

 

[Erlind]

I want to hear more about this.

Alright. It only tends to work with things of consequence though, but those are the only things worth lying about anyway, to me at least. I'm going to speak theoretically, just to make it easier on myself.

Let's say we are friends that see each other most days. You notice something has been bothering me. Before you decide to ask me what it is, which if we are good to decent friends you might I would preempt it. Not by telling you about my real problem, an alcoholic father let's say, but by admitting to cheating on my girlfriend or shoplifting or getting caught jerking it in a public restroom.

What I tell you may be true, bad, and troubling me to some degree, but I only told you so you wouldn't piece together everything else wrong with me. If you are always completely honest with people about things that most people would hide or lie about then they'll never question you when you say you're just not feeling well when really drunk daddy made you stay up all night washing his car for unfathomable reasons.

 

[Mav Unlimited]

Nice.

I realized no one on here knows how to be 100% truthful though. All of us are lying, to some extent. Some of us are just better than others at self-delusion.

Maybe that's the way it should be.

Oh they KNOW. They just don't WANT to be truthful, for whatever reason. Selfish or unselfish.

All of us are absolutely lying to some extent. I agree. I lied to some extent when i said why I dug the thread out. Do I need to tell the whole truth? Does it matter? Maybe. Matter to who though?

People believe and do just what they want to, anyway. They do lie for various reasons however.

 

[Firmhanded_Daddy]

The cake is a lie.

 

[Nina327]

truth... you cant handle the truth...

yay.. I just quoted a line from a movie i have never actually watched. Thank you commercials.

but all punny stuff aside...

most people wear masks... its fun to see under them sometimes... but not necessary in forming these connections we do round the Internets.

If it bothers ya.. get of the net.. cause its like a B-rated high school drama... it will only get worse..

My one truth to share is.. i share when I write stories... try to write exactly the reaction i would have.. i drowned myself in my characters... it's a thoroughly fun escape for me.

 

[FuckFantasy]

Alright. It only tends to work with things of consequence though, but those are the only things worth lying about anyway, to me at least. I'm going to speak theoretically, just to make it easier on myself.

Let's say we are friends that see each other most days. You notice something has been bothering me. Before you decide to ask me what it is, which if we are good to decent friends you might I would preempt it. Not by telling you about my real problem, an alcoholic father let's say, but by admitting to cheating on my girlfriend or shoplifting or getting caught jerking it in a public restroom.

What I tell you may be true, bad, and troubling me to some degree, but I only told you so you wouldn't piece together everything else wrong with me. If you are always completely honest with people about things that most people would hide or lie about then they'll never question you when you say you're just not feeling well when really drunk daddy made you stay up all night washing his car for unfathomable reasons.

I understand this completely.

This used to be me. And some days, it still is. I can't always tell my very best friends that my parents are fighting and screaming, or that I'm depressed about things that I feel they cannot relate to. So I make up an excuse. I point to my stress over school, or how I'm still recovering from my car accident in April, or whatever.

It's a safe way of getting some sort of comfort without having to open up about the very truth. It's not right to lie to a friend about what's really going on, but some days you just cannot DEAL. And there's a lot of shame that comes with living in a dysfunctional household. So I get that.

It's not really a great tactic to keep up over time though. Eventually, you will release those emotions, one way or another. You can either release them on your own terms, or you can allow them to explode, unexpectedly, when your back is up against a wall and you've taken too many hits already.

I'm sorry about your father. PM me if you want to take to someone who understands, who won't judge, and who knows a thing or two about therapy.

 

[FuckFantasy]

Oh they KNOW. They just don't WANT to be truthful, for whatever reason. Selfish or unselfish.

All of us are absolutely lying to some extent. I agree. I lied to some extent when i said why I dug the thread out. Do I need to tell the whole truth? Does it matter? Maybe. Matter to who though?

People believe and do just what they want to, anyway. They do lie for various reasons however.

I have this theory that some people who KNOW they're lying are the most blind of all. I think some people (definitely not all, but some) have no idea that the person they're fooling most is themselves.

And as for the whole truth, and whether it matters or not, that's up to you, and it's all about context. It doesn't matter why you dug up this thread, really. It only matters if you think it matters. But if you dug it up as a means of, say, hurting someone or trying to garner sympathy, then maybe that's different. Maybe the truth matters when you're attempting to hurt others. Or maybe it always matters, because lying tends to always hurt someone, even if it winds up being yourself.

 

[FuckFantasy]

but all punny stuff aside...

most people wear masks... its fun to see under them sometimes... but not necessary in forming these connections we do round the Internets.

If it bothers ya.. get of the net.. cause its like a B-rated high school drama... it will only get worse..

My one truth to share is.. i share when I write stories... try to write exactly the reaction i would have.. i drowned myself in my characters... it's a thoroughly fun escape for me.

I agree with everything you've said, and I loved what you shared about drowning yourself in your characters.

 

[Erlind]

I don't have an alcoholic father. Like I said, just an example. Crappy things have happened in my life, but I did not share them here. I just wanted a concrete example to work with to show what I was talking about when I said I lie by flooding people with the truth.

Largely I have dealt with the problems I've had in the past that warranted and allowed that type of lying. I don't plan on dealing with them again here. That being said, thank you for your sympathy. I did not mean to garner it, but I appreciate the sentiment none the less.

I understand this completely.

This used to be me. And some days, it still is. I can't always tell my very best friends that my parents are fighting and screaming, or that I'm depressed about things that I feel they cannot relate to. So I make up an excuse. I point to my stress over school, or how I'm still recovering from my car accident in April, or whatever.

It's a safe way of getting some sort of comfort without having to open up about the very truth. It's not right to lie to a friend about what's really going on, but some days you just cannot DEAL. And there's a lot of shame that comes with living in a dysfunctional household. So I get that.

It's not really a great tactic to keep up over time though. Eventually, you will release those emotions, one way or another. You can either release them on your own terms, or you can allow them to explode, unexpectedly, when your back is up against a wall and you've taken too many hits already.

I'm sorry about your father. PM me if you want to take to someone who understands, who won't judge, and who knows a thing or two about therapy.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

I miss Cherry
Very much
But I'm happy she's not here much because I believe it means she is off having the life she so richly deserves

 

[Mav Unlimited]

I have this theory that some people who KNOW they're lying are the most blind of all. I think some people (definitely not all, but some) have no idea that the person they're fooling most is themselves.

And as for the whole truth, and whether it matters or not, that's up to you, and it's all about context. It doesn't matter why you dug up this thread, really. It only matters if you think it matters. But if you dug it up as a means of, say, hurting someone or trying to garner sympathy, then maybe that's different. Maybe the truth matters when you're attempting to hurt others. Or maybe it always matters, because lying tends to always hurt someone, even if it winds up being yourself.

I'm glad you said "some" people. Because otherwise I would have thought you're not as smart as you seem.

You're right. It only matters if I think it matters. And yes, context. I do not wish or intend to hurt anyone. Not even those who have hurt me, let alone others. In RL and on Lit. Sympathy? Yes I need it sometimes. We all do, even if we keep telling ourselves otherwise. These posts have nothing to do with sympathy though. They have to do with my real life frustrations and me being a horny motherfucker on lit.

The truth hurts sometimes too. It depends on the situation and the people.

 

[Sasha25]

I am always nervous or afraid about something. Always.

How's that for bringing down a thread?

 

[DarkWarrioress]

This is the internet. It's a wide open blank void. We write onto it what we wish to see or to be. We surround ourselves with people that appeal to us. To have any kind of expectation or make a judgement of people we find on it, is just plain stupid. Opinions of people? Of course. We all have them. But no matter how long we may talk with someone on the net and think we know them, we don't. Not really. That kind of knowledge comes from every day, real life, face-to-face interaction and time.

The internet is what it is. You put out as much or as little of yourselves as you want people to know. But why people get upset at others is beyond me. Hit a nerve? Strike a resonance? The shoe fits sort of thing? Don't like it? Walk away. Ignore. It's like TV. Don't like what you see or hear? Change the freaking channel and move on.

 

[Sasha25]

This is the internet. It's a wide open blank void. We write onto it what we wish to see or to be. We surround ourselves with people that appeal to us. To have any kind of expectation or make a judgement of people we find on it, is just plain stupid. Opinions of people? Of course. We all have them. But no matter how long we may talk with someone on the net and think we know them, we don't. Not really. That kind of knowledge comes from every day, real life, face-to-face interaction and time.

Truth to the last word. And wise...

 

[LordLuck]

I am always hungry. All the time.

People might laught at this, but I am getting worried. I find that, even after stuffing myself into some delicious meal, I'm still hungry. Not like, starving enough to ache, but I always thing I could have more. Although I'm sated, I still feel it deep into my stomach.

Always hungry! All the time!

 

[LittleK]

Yahoo voice is pissing me off today. Rarely do I get a chance to talk to him and this morning we could yet yahoo decides to fuck off. fml

 

[Light Ice]

I am always hungry. All the time.

People might laught at this, but I am getting worried. I find that, even after stuffing myself into some delicious meal, I'm still hungry. Not like, starving enough to ache, but I always thing I could have more. Although I'm sated, I still feel it deep into my stomach.

Always hungry! All the time!

Forgive me, but are you heavier than you'd like? Is this something you'd like to change?

 

[LordLuck]

Forgive me, but are you heavier than you'd like? Is this something you'd like to change?

Actually, no. I'm on my perfect weight (for my height, that is). It's just an unconfortable feeling down my guts, really.

Ah, and great work on The Abode of Peace! Great concept!