Sex and regret

[Leviluv]

It's been done to death, I'm sure, but I haven't seen any recent threads on this topic.

When it comes to all things sex, do you regret some of the things you've done?

Do you regret some of the things you haven't done?

Do tell.

I have many sexual related regrets from the past now that I think about it, but I know I don't dwell on them. One being - I married the wrong man. Ew, to think he touched me! Now divorced, and happy to be single, and I have lots I wanna do.

 

[Kpooh]

I wont say that I regret anything I have done sexually....I will say that I regret some of the ones I've done them with!

I guess maybe I do regret being a little bit on the 'easy' side in my younger years.....If I woulda knew then what men will do for sex.....Well, no sense in crying over spilled cum I guess!

 

[CorsetLvr]

I wont say that I regret anything I have done sexually....I will say that I regret some of the ones I've done them with!

I think a lot of us are in that category. We all make bad decisions at some point in our lives. On the other side, I file some of those encounters under the category of lessons learned.

 

[Endeavor]

Is there a trend here?

First my response to the original question. Like many responders, I find that I do not have any regrets about the things I have done sexually but I do have regrets about the opportunities that I had and failed to act upon. Many of these opportunities involved things that I fantasize about to this day.

Now the trend possibility. Many years ago, about 20 in fact, I was dating a woman who was taking a graduate level psychology course. One of her assignments for the course was to interview people about what they regretted about their lives and write a paper describing the results. These interviews were not specifically concerned with sexual matters, as in this thread, but included all aspects of a person’s lifetime experiences. One of the results of her admittedly limited survey was that women had significantly more regrets about events in their lives than men did.

I was reminded of her findings as I read through the responses to this thread. Although I did not keep a count as I read, I had the distinct feeling that the responses here bear out her findings of many years ago. I may be wrong, of course, but I found that interesting.

 

[karndav]

The only thing I regret is not getting out of an abusive relationship sooner! Other than that i have no regrets sexually.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Regret of something you didn't do? How about finding out years after the fact that a group of cheerleaders had a bet going to see who could take your virginity first, but you were to shy to even acknowledge their advances? I didn't know whether to laugh or cry.

 

[HoneyGirl69]

I regret a very drunken encounter with a friend - and the horrible thing is that i dont even remember undressing or getting into bed, the only thing i remember is him on top of me and that he was big cause it was hurting?? Me and the friend are still speaking although the relationship is strained somewhat.

My other regret is a bit different, I have been with my man for 3 years and I am so in love with him, he is the man i want to marry and have kids with, yet there is one thing that i always ponder on....i want to have full sex with another woman, and i know that this is something he wouldnt feel comfy with letting me do. I would never want to hurt him, yet i feel that maybe i havent got this desire out of my head yet and if i was single i would deffo be sleeping with women and experimenting! The desire to sleep with women is not as strong as the desire i have to be with my man though so i can live with it.....i think!! Maybe one day he will allow me to do it just once????? (I have messed about with women before an i loved it, although im not generally attracted to women so im not a closet lesbian!)

I also regret being in a long term relationship in my early 20s - dont regret the relationship as such just that i didnt go out an sleep about and try different things!! OH well i dont spend my time regretting too much as it will drive me insane!!

 

[Melesse]

I don't regret any of the people I've slept with or hooked up with. I consider each experience an opportunity to learn something new, no matter what they may look like or the reasons I'm having sex with them.

However, I can think of 7-8 times I've turned sex down, and I regret each and every one of those. I can't help but think about what it might have been like. :-/

Melesse

 

[sassy_girl1963]

Mmmmm interesting thread. I can honestly say that as I read through it, several of the answers could be mine too.

But the very top two regreats that I have are how I lost my virginity (not pleasant at all!) and also that I did allowed my shyness to hinder me for so long.

 

[f-cynyr]

regret

yes there are thing that i regret doing, and thing i regret not doing. i truly regret some of my manipulative sex. that is taking advantage of some one when they are emotionally vulnerable. that's just not nice. also i regret some of the golden opportunities that literally fell in my lap, and turned down because, i was in a relationship

 

[ewopper]

It's been done to death, I'm sure, but I haven't seen any recent threads on this topic.

When it comes to all things sex, do you regret some of the things you've done?

Do you regret some of the things you haven't done?

Do tell.

Yes I regret that I haven't done anyone in quite awhile

 

[Iron_Horseman]

Regrets

Sure there are a few things I have done along the way I regret for various reasons. Most of them seem to involve hurting others (causing them emotional pain). I can honestly say it was never deliberate. It was mostly just me learning what I want and need from life, and not having sorted out my feelings.

 

[~Sweets~]

I agree with Iron Horseman. My regrets have to do with hurts. I also regret not communicating well in my earlier sexual experiences. I could have been a better lover and have a better experience with one particular man, two actually.

 

[midwestyankee]

Like others here, I regret having missed out of various opportunities to get to know someone (several people, actually) because I was too shy and lacked the confidence to ask them out even though I recognized the signals of interest.

As for regretting anything I have done sexually, there is only one. I wish that I had ignored this one chance for a one-night stand as it looked scary from the beginning and got more so as the night progressed. And the damned crabs afterward.....

 

[KrisGallagher]

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